i have a legit problem that i'm looking for a solution to, so please don't flame. think what you want about me in your own head.

i have a dilemma here. all my life i've been the chubby geek kid. always copped shit and it killed my self esteem. over the last year or 2 i've lost weight, got a good fulltime job, a car and have moved out once for 6 months. i'm 21 now and this has all helped to pull my esteem out of the dark pit it was in. however i still cant control myself around girls. i never got any attention from them for the obvious reasons but now i'm starting to pursue them and actually get the time of day.

the problem is when i actually like the girl or can tell she likes me, my body freaks out. i feel like i want to shake all over, i control it as best i can but usually cant stop my hands/abdomen from shaking and pulsing wildly. this makes it hard to even talk and i come across as a weirdo. i've never diagnosed a panic attack or knew anyone with that problem, but thats what it feels like. i'm no social retard and i goto clubs, hangout with friends, maintain a normal conversation without having to talk about cars or computers, etc etc.

what i'm looking for is ways to combat the shaking. i can maintain slow steady breathing but it doesn't seem to help. i really need some help here or i'm going to remain single.