A Canadian guy I've been in contact with by email (we're both gay) used to be really nice to me. In his long emails he would say how cool and smart I am: he was impressed that I spoke several languages; when we were chatting, he suddenly started saying how alike we were and how we typed "lol" at the same time (which was not true, now that I think of it) and that we like the same kind of things; another time we were talking about music and decided to send mp3s to each other: all but one of the songs that he sent me had very explicit, sexually suggestive lyrics; once he even sent me an email titled "this is us" that featured two otters playing and cuddling with each other.
All changed about a couple of weeks ago when we decided to exchange pictures of each other. He sent me his first, followed by a message where he said he was nervous about what I would think of him. I told him I thought he looked ok (which he does), after which, in his following email he said directly enough for virtually no one to misunderstand him: what he wanted, what he craved, was a picture of me.
Now, I know I'm not the best-looking guy out there, but I don't think I'm an unattractive person either. If I'd have to compare my and his looks, I'd say he's only a bit handsomer than I am. I sent him a photo of myself, and I also said I was nervous about what he would think of me.
A day later, he sent me a short message, one of the things he said was "Thanks for sending me those photos, it was really courageous of you."
My first thoughts were "Courageous? What do you mean? It was courageous of me to send a photo of myself? Just what are you trying to imply with that?"
After that things settled down a bit. He didn't send me emails that often anymore, and didn't reply to some of the questions I had asked and instead wrote about paranormal/mysticism-related things that honestly gave me a creepy feeling of him. Mind you, he is a huge fan of Sylvia Browne (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvia_Browne) and believes about everything (even the wacky way-out-there stuff) she says. He said he has a main spirit guide (yes, there are others) called "Marcy," to whom he has been talking a lot. He actually had the balls to write this: *"At the moment, I feel
some one (I'm positive its Marcy)standing to my right and with one hand on my desk and another of the top of my chair
looking back and forth at me and the computer screen. Maybe she's reading my email to you, or talking to some one on her
dimensional plain."*
...
...Wow. Just, wow.
Today I received a fresh kick in the nuts. Last night I had the bright idea of sending him more music. I sent an mp3 of Porno Graffitti's "Melissa" which I thought might suit his tastes more, and today he had written "I must say, the two of us have really different tastes in musique lol."
Oh, I thought we were supposed to be so alike in everything...
And yes, he really spelt music "musique."
/Long rant over (longrant is looooooong), I just wanted to get this off of my chest.
Also, sorry if this sounded like bitchy whining, but I don't know what else I could do but whine about him like a damn bitch.
One question: what do you think of this guy?
...And how can I save him from Sylvia Browne?
I'm not sure how to respond to a gay man named Tony asking for advice on an anonymous bbs, however, I'll give it my best shot. You see Anthony, my guess is that you're in need of some spiritual guidance. I suggest that you find a local Christian church and get involved. Ask them how you can overcome your homosexual urges, as they will only lead you down the same path as your friend, witchcraft and evilness. Try watching anime or learning Japanese. Canadians are not to be trusted. Chicken and waffles. Over there. Lazy evaluations and Y. Or instead join a local YMCA swim club. Pedophilia is rampant. My guess is that you're if I'd have to compare my and his looks not funny.Ni what? gg ohh? ers.
慶弔。
Do you really care enough about this guy to be worrying about saving him from Sylvia Brown? It may be too late for him. Especially if he spells music "musique". Then again, it might be a Francophonic habit; I'm guessing he's Quebecan.
There is a "love & romance" section you know...
it's just some guy over the internet dude
Well, I've always thought that 99% of gay men were outrageously vain and gullible. So I'm not that surprised that he turned you down after seeing your picture and believing that paranormal stuff. You actually sound pretty straight for a queer guy...except for the fact that you still want to know this guy. If it were me, I would've ditched him from the moment he started over-exaggerating similarities between us. What a fake and tacky person. Plus he's a freakin' furry. He cannot be saved.
GTFO AIDS FAGGOT
>>4
i hate people who force their religion on others. i mean believe what you want but don't think you ever have the right to force someone else to. their belief are just as good as yours. just as outragious. and don't go talking about gays like they are possessed by the devil. people like that are just so weird... ppl like you are just as bad as hitler!
>>13
Accusing people of being as bad as Hitler is not any better.
it's not like im saying it because of their race or religion.
Hilter believed that the world should only have the blond hair blue eyed people. he believed that jews were filth (which they arent) and tried to force his beliefs onto the whole world. the only difference is that these people are using words, not poison gas. i know they arent as bad as hilter but they should take a long hard look at the similarities between them and him.
>>1
You don't save him.
Give up the hopes of anything more going on between you two. If you want to still be there for him as a friend, then hold on loosely. Stay yourself, offer your views and opinions but never cram them down his throat (even though I'd like to shove the entire Sylvia in there for being that retarded). The only person who can change him is himself. If you want to be there to help him enable easier change, then that's up to you. Just don't get any silly romantic notions of you two hooking up after he's gotten sane. Go on with your life, find someone that's good for you.
>>15
First of all, it was an obvious troll. If you actually took the time to read the whole post before jumping to conclusions, then maybe you'd have noticed too.
Secondly, I'm well aware of what Hitler did. He massacred, tortured, oppressed, experimented with, controlled and destroyed innocent people. Now, as bad as I think religious fanatics are, I still would not compare them to such a malicious figure unless their deeds were of a similar magnitude.
Your intentions are probably in the right place. Just think twice next time before you make such generalisations and comparisons. It makes you look ignorant.
Waiit a second... Why isn't this in /love/ or /personal/ ?
Good point.
unfortunately, due to the rules, now that Hitler has been mentioned, Thread = Over. look them up. IT'S THE RULES.
btw, it's good to get this stuff off your chest, but you can obviously see this guy ain't for you, so just think of it as a lucky break for you that this guy showed you his true colors, so you can move on.
>>11 I agree. I've only gotten on here because two of my friends said good things about it(except that you dudes hate furries for some odd reason) but they NEVER said anything about Christian psychos like Shirley Phelps Roper!http://youtube.com/watch?v=b3PyoUPcobA You can't force your religion on others!
Okay, I'm done.