So, how many we got here?. I'll start with myself.
cough cough...
21.5 years old. But it looks like I may lose it within a year.
right here...sigh....
Can you guarantee you'll lose it within a year? or are you just saying that because now you have a relationship where you see a possibility of the chance?
present
lol, did you hire a prostitute for a certain day and already paid in advance? cuz, i suppose thats the only way to be, ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY sure....hahaha
LOL @ #7
ノシ
working on it.... goddammit.
Been virgin for 20 years now.
>>5
Developing relationship.
While physically lonely, I wouldn't go out and lose my virginity just to lose it. So, I can't guarantee.
Just having a rollcall is kinda boring. Is there anything to discuss here?
24.75 and counting..
Well, I guess we can discuss why we're still virgins.
Is it a choice we made?, were we just not interested in sex during high school?, or have we never been in a relationship where sex was a possibility?.
I wasn't interested, but then, I almost entirely avoided socializing in high school.
Age = years without a girlfriend. I need to get out more.
I have about a thousand reasons, but I'll only list a few...
1) I don't get out a whole lot.
2) When I do get out, I'm too shy to talk to people.
3) When I talk, people always comment on how monotone my voice is, which pisses me off to the point of telling them to fuck off.
4) I'm a very impatient person, which often results in #4.
5) Even though I'm in high school (senior), I don't like high school girls. However, despite the fact that I like older women, older women don't take me seriously.
6) I'm generally 'too whiny' for most women.
7) I still live with my parents.
8) Too cheap for a girlfriend. (Read: no money, no job)
9) I've pretty much just stopped trying.
Umm...on number four, I meant to say "which results in number 3".
yeah, I agree with you on not being interested in High School girls, some of them really need to grow up. I'd work on the monotone thing though I started practicing to up my voice a little bit a day a few months back I think I sound a more confident man now rather than a little shy boy.
>>17
Thanks for numbering. I'm with you on #1, #7, #8, #9. Also #4 is hilarious, it's like a Douglas Hofstadter quote.
My main reasons are
10) Not really interested in the short term
11) Can't relate to most people because I work on my computer all day, have a strongly intuitive personality, don't watch TV, etc.
uhg, I'm with you there #20. Trying to relate to any girl is hard for me. This one I've chatted up seemed to be the right one, both were kinda smart, very sarcastic and easy going, but she's still fucking her EX! and I really don't feel like having sloppy seconds.
Isn't it only sloppy seconds if you're literally seconds after the other guy? :P In any case, you can use >>20 to refer to #20, it makes it easier; you can click on their number in the thread to bring it into the textbox~
>>17, you sound just like a friend of mine.
I'm not interested in having a relationship with a highschool girl, usually; they are just too immature, and in them I see some of the major faults of women-kind. However, having sex with one of them, would surely be ideal! You only get this chance legally for a small period of your lifetime ／(;-_-)
>>22
I imagine that having sex without having a relationship is rather like eating sugar by the spoonful. It may superficially please you, but there's no flavor and you won't feel nourished afterwards.
And that's exactly why we're all here...
>>22
Yeah, trust me, if I had a chance to have sex with a high school girl, I'd do it. Only problem being, they won't give me the fucking time of day.
I have a friend who always bugs me and asks when I'm going to college already, because apparently there I'll get laid like a champ.
College was just three straight years of blue balls for me. Rumours of college girl promiscuity are greatly overrated.
>>26
nothings certain, cant definitely rely that youll POSITIVELY ABSOLUTELY get laid...you cant say that about anything, it all depends on you....
Maybe it's time for enjo-kosai to become popular outside of Japan.
Reporting for duty, sir.
Twenty-one years of nothing.
I look too young for my age (My appearance seem 16-ish), so girls my age don't take me seriously.
Any girl that has been interested in me (or vice versa) was already in a relationship.
I don't get out much, and since I don't really have RL friends after moving, I'm pretty much SOL. （´・ω・｀）
18, no prior experience with girls romantically at all, much less sex. and >>30, I feel your pain, cos I'm babyfaced too. I probably could pass off as 15.
Yeah, I most definitely belong in this thread. About four or so months ago, I met this completely awesome girl, you know, the kind of chick you love to talk to, love to be around, and most definitely love to get close to?
Yeah, so she's already had a boyfriend, even when I first met her... actually, then she was also cheating on her boyfriend, but I didn't really think any less of her for it. I figure that's all because I thought that if she just went ahead on cheated on both of them with me I certainly wouldn't mind at all.
She told me all of her troubles when we hung out, and I tried to give her the best advice a semi-rational, straightforward-ish and pretty much totally in love guy could give without completely betraying her or anything. She tended to say 'I love you' to me a lot, though, so pretty soon I started replying to it instead of just being completely confused. She'd also started saying that she wished she could've met me before she met these other two guys, that I'd be so much more fun to be with, etc, etc... she even kissed me at one point. That's pretty much the best moment of my life, right there.
She broke things off with the other guy, told her boyfriend and everything. I was kinda shocked that she did that all of a sudden and all, but they ended up sticking together and I was at least glad she'd made the right choice and all. But still, damn, she kept saying 'I love you', kept wishing out loud that she could just go out with me and all that... pretty soon I was wishing out loud that she'd go out with me, too. I didn't wanna force her into anything, though, so I still tried to keep a little distance.
Recently, I stayed over at her place, woke up too damn early, and suddenly ended up really depressed for no damn reason at all. While we tried to figure out why the hell I was so down, she mentioned that she'd decided to stay with her boyfriend forever and ever, and that made me feel worse for some reason. Maybe because three or four days before she'd said to a friend of mine that she most definitely wanted out of her relationship?
So yeah, 'sup 4-ch, I'm anonymous and I'm stupid in love with a girl I'll probably never ever be with. I figure you guys would have some horribly perceptive things to say, or at least some mean and/or funny things to say, since both the girl in question and my best friend have no idea how to handle this, or even what's going on in my mind. But... I'd rather they not get that last part, it's annoying as shit to decipher all that.
>>32 It's cool that you like her, but from what you're saying this girl is nothing but trouble. If she's going from wanting out of her relationship to wanting to stay in it forever, she's probably not someone you want to be in a relationship with -- I can smell the potential drama.
Girls are probably going to attack me for saying this, but you should probably distance yourself from her for a while. Not because boo hoo she won't date me so I won't be her friend, but because her saying "I love you" (I dunno about this girl but some girls will say that to anyone) and being so open with you is, correct me if I'm wrong, making you feel like it's more than "friendship"? （´・ω・｀） And it's likely that even though she's decided to "stay with her boyfriend forever", which it she'll probably change her mind about in a week from what I've heard, you'll still be hoping she'll come to you if you stay this close to her. Even if you WANT to just be her "best friend", it's simply not as easy as deciding to not have or ignore those deeper feelings. Usually it takes a really long time for them to go away.
Just take some time off from her, chillax, do some stuff to take your mind off her for AT LEAST a week.
Also, you should probably tell her how indecisive and confusing she's being. Though that would probably be a really hard thing for you to do.
Hmm... My problem is that even if I find a girl that I like. I usually get to overthinking about what possible negatives could come out of the situation, of trying to talk to her... I have some friends who are girls but then im always affraid to try to move anything beyond the friendship stage and possibly make things uncomfrotable between us.
I always try to "live life without regrets" or some other noble example of the same idea. However this part with females is somehow entirely different somehow and i cant seem to take that same mentality toward women that i like, and might possibly want to be more serious with.
I can't really say i want sex out of a relationship. I seek companionship more, but maybe that is another drawback considering im in my early 20's.
I guess there isnt much of a question more than a telling of my own stupidity, but suggestions to help me to talk to various girls or good places to go to talk to them... Sure im going to college but that doesnt seem like a very good place to talk to girls considering my college is mostly a "commuter" college".
and i lament.
Well, I tried to work on the monotone thing...can't do it. So, I'm pretty much stuck with a monotone voice and I'll continue to tell old ladies to fuck off. That's why I'm now a hikikomori. Yup, never leaving my house again. Fucking outside world...
You might want to do something about that, I have a friend who is not very social and has a monotone voice, but he gets around well enough.
You might clean up when you're older. Man, you will have the pick of all the high school girls. :-)
The first few times I got laid, it was pretty bad.
Only the first awesome time really counts, IMHO.
>>40
I second that motion orz I still feel like a virgin myself.
Though had I been more sociable in high school I probably could have gotten laid (oh how stupid I've been, so many opportunities lost) I wouldn't have hesitated. But nowadays, still a virgin at 20, I don't want sex as much as I want a relationship. And I've kinda concluded that I'll save myself for marriage. Sadly, I have lots of girl "friends" but never in my life a true "girl friend". All are taken..and school gets in the way. I know this borders on singles rant but its on topic.
21 years and counting. I've never had a real relationship and don't want to jump into bed with just anybody. Not that I've had that many chances to do that - I've had to turn a girl down only once. It was because even though she was pretty, her personality wasn't the type I can see myself involved with for a long time. Currently I'm not even seriously looking for anyone, but if the right girl happens to walk into my life, who knows what might happen. Until then I have Miss Right. Oh, and her twin sister Left.
so what do you guys consider a virgin? How far do into it do you draw the line and still be considered a virgin?
Virgin is a guy/girl who did not had a proper sex. Petting is not a real sex. Anyway, I was a virgin till I was 19 and in my opinion it was way too long. I did not became less romantic after that...
well as long as blowjobs aren't considered real sex i'm still a virgin
I'm a complete virgin. No BJ's, no petting, hell, not even a kiss on the lips.
I'll love you :P
Does having sex with only one girl, but her being a total bitch who totally used you count?
There's nothing shameful in being a virgin. Just make sure when the time comes (heh, comes), your "bark" (how much you profess to know about sex) is indeed as bad as your "bite" (your sexual abilities)
>>47, that was obvious. >>45 basically asked where you draw the line between petting and sex.
>>51... I think know what you mean. Not about the woman being a total bitch, but only being with one girl ever. I have only been with one girl ever (although many times ;-)) so I feel about as inexperienced as I did while I was a virgin. So I don't see a point in making the distinction, really.
19 years and ongoing. Was more interested in a relationship, but apparently other people weren't. College is more of the same. Not interested in getting hammered and having sex with a last resort sorority girl.
I'm also hideous. I'm the only person who will touch me.
well im a virgin in a way, i had my heart broken years ago and i stop trying to get into relationship, i just go around sampling "escort" from different races.
long story short i fuck lotsa hooker but never been kissed
>>54 lol you sound like a loser. Can't do anything about it if you don't even try... You can either find the love of your life or be a miserable shit... If you'll choose the 2nd option you may as well kill yourself now. I hate people that give up easly.
>>55
love of your life or miserable shit
is a false dichotomy
right there with ya, but add to that a double major and family problems that drag me off for hours on end any day of the week and i'm in a worse boat than you. =^_^=
-sigh- I'm depressed now. I think I'll just smoke a hookah and go to bed...
The only reason I'm still a virgin is because there are no women good enough for me. I am an Elitist. I like Heckler and Koch firearms, Audi and Porsche automobiles, and high end science and mathematics. To me, settling for less is not an option. Plus to all the gentlemen here, do not worry. There are no expiration dates on men. It is the WOMEN who need to worry. It is entirely possibly that the women you will "love" may not have even been born yet and you have another 18 years to go. There are more women in the world than men, so I shouldn't worry were I you.
Besides, if all you wish is recreational sex, wait until you have excellent jobs and can write your own check. Women like security.
Besides, everyone puts too much importance on virginity and the lack thereof. There are more important things in the world to worry about.
Because what if the ONE girl you "lost your virginity to" had a venereal disease? Or you got her pregnant? Hmm? Do you really want a child with a girl you probably didn't even really like, much less love, in the long run? Condoms and contraceptives aren't always effective.
My advice, live your life, do your own thing. If you happen upon a rose, smell it. If you happen upon a clear spring, drink. If you see a day of sunshine, bask and delight. Don't worry about these skewed, "modernized" social mores and qualms about recreational sex. It will always be there and as a male, it is ALWAYS to your advantage. Men don't have menopause.
Indeed. From my experience I can say that having a lover is not so necessary as having a companion. I got a dog a few months after a huge break up, and although I was well over it by then, I don't think I could have fully forgotten about it without this companion of mine.
>>may not have even been born yet and you have another 12 years to go
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Good post >>60!
I'm going back to DQN...
Twenty year old virgin!
I live alone (no parents around), am good looking, have girlfriend (officially of five months/unofficially of about eight), etc etc etc. I guess, though, it seems that I just don't care enough. I love the girl I am with so much but no sex has happened and I don't mind at all. I'd much rather spend quality time with people than bother with sex. People always seem to find this idea rather strange..
And of course, before having a girlfriend.. a mixture of shyness and just not wanting to go to parties or anywhere where I would meet any new people.
Perhaps a bit asexual?
i wish i was a virgin... does that count? im quite embarrased to admit to being desperate enough to date and sleep with my 2 exs. i hate it when my friends bring it up, especially around girls. it makes me feel so pathetic and dirty...
seriously guys, you dont have to wait for marrage, but at least wait for someone who means something to you
>>64
I don't think that's abnormal at all! It's great that you're in a fulfilling relationship, and sex will come in time. My boyfriend and I waited practically two years before moving to the next step, and I never felt like we were intentionally holding things back. You've just got to move at your own pace -- connecting at a physical level can be extremely important in a relationship, but not as much as meeting on a personal and emotional level.
Yeah because inserting a digit into another person's orifice is really important in the broad scheme of things.
If I was a girl, I wouldn't have sex with a man either. And no I wouldn't "lez out". Think about it, some GUY is sticking something into your body that could possibly impregnate you with a parasitic life form that will one day grow large enough to require PAINFUL extrication from aforementioned orifice. Then you gotta feed it, bathe it, clothe it and listen to it scream. THEN it gets older and you still do those things only know it is INTENTIONALLY ungrateful...then fast forward a couple more years and he is now wrecking your car, getting locked up for stupid shit, AND wants to repeat the same damned mistake you made several years ago....
DNA is a virus ladies and gentleman...a communicable disease. Try your best not to spread it.
Not trying to troll or anything, but really whining because you haven't done the deed....go read a book.
I think I am worrying too much about being alone.
But I feel that I would like too have a personal friendship with a girl, but I feel that I make girls unsecure sometimes.
I also really want an intimate sexual relationship with a girl, but sometimes after I orgasm. I feel no need of having a intimate relationship, since I have pr0n. But I realize that's foolish, because I'm just consoleing myself with pr0n.
I feel like a fool for being desperate to have an intimate relationship. But fact is that I really never had a female friend or other kind of relationship with women, except my mother of course.
Yes I know you see me as an immature person. I will let you think such of me.
But I'm not really whining about it. I just feel depressed, and should probably contact a therapist.
But I just feel an urge to have some intimacy.
And it grows stronger the more I think about it.
And I don't know how to come in contact with girls, who have the similar urge.
Any suggestions?
btw I'm 20 y.o. and male.
What's virginty? http://www.scarleteen.com/politics/virginity.html
A very good page that I actually have to agree with.
I lost my virginity mentally years and years before I ever had sex, so physically "losing my virginity" really didn't feel special at all, since it was pretty much exactly what i knew it would be like. A year later though, the first time with second boyfriend, that felt so very special, and he pretty much had me "blushing like a virgin". :-p
>>64
Don't worry about not wanting to rush into sex. Do whatever feels natural to you. You're you, just because you're not like a horny nympho on fire doesn't mean your pace is wrong.
is it normal to be 17 years old and never have had a kiss? tell me, my anonymous friends...
I had my first kiss when I was 17, share with someone you actually care for. It might not be as dramatic as losing your virginity, but all the same, it's who you share the kiss with yanno :) It's great to think back fondly at first anythings.
And in short, no, there's nothing wrong with that.
My first kiss was at age 21.7
>>70
I had my first kiss at 18, almost 19. I then got a girlfriend and we had a superb sexlife and all of a sudden tons of girls started liking me, so there's hope for you too.
>>70
my first kiss was with a guy, ugh, it was at a party, some stupid ass game, ewww ugh, why?!?!!?!?! i really really wouldve wished it to be with a girl. if its on the cheek, does it count?
>>70
i feel bad for you (a guy?)so im going to say it didnt count
Sex is overrated. Children are the poor man's way of reaching "immortality" through passing on his genes, the basis for the carnal sex drive. Others can settle for swapping fluids with other pedestrian humans, give me a weapon to carve my name as a scar in the Earth.
No need to be bitter and jealous that no woman would ever want to have children with you.
>>77
Children are overrated anyway. The world has more than enough population as it is. I'm with 76, give me a weapon and we'll solve two problems at once.
Ah, yes! A thread that appreciates ( or is depreciate ) the value of virginity. Interesting, indeeds. Well, I'm a bit over 27 years of age, and am still a virgin, physically. Mentally, I can be one of the most perverted people here ( currently at work, waiting on work ), but only when in a conversation and when there's a door that was left open by someone else. Fun to get those jabs in, I'll tell you.
Let's see, the reason why I stayed a virgin for this long ( and most likely until my physical form drops dead from age, breathing its last breath ), was really not because virginity is a "virtue". Virginity can easily be quite the opposite. Instead of using the ideal as a way to "save oneself for another", it can be easily turned into "save oneself to die slowly"... of course, add in a dash of "haven't dated at all" or more can make the dish so more deserving to be served cold.
I don't want to stake a claim in this existence, like #76; rather, I would rather be lost in a faceless crowd. I would rather just slowly ebb out of this mortal plane, than to leave a mark that stays for eternity. No children, no wife, no blood line; just end it here and now. Yeah, emo indeed, but that's the way I had rebuilt myself mentally, over all these years ( started when I was 5 ).
I know this had basically turned into a "poor me" kinda post ( never intend it to be turned that way, just a bit of explanation ), but the fact of the matter is, virignity is not always something to be striving for, especially if you turn it against yourself. Just see within yourself, and find out whether virginity is a blessing or a curse.
It's a curse...especially when watching porn...OW! My balls!
virginity can be a blessing if you consider VD a curse
I am 17 and still a virgin...I am starting to become very embarassed by it. I decided that if I do not lose my virginity by the time I turn 18 then I will just wait until marriage. It is just a matter of finding the right moment and the right man.
It is not that I am desperate for sex, I just feel that what I have to offer to a man will be no good if things do not start to hurry along.