My best friend is a female who loves anime and video games as much as anybody. We talk about issues and we have a lot in common. We known eachother since the end of our high school and begging of our college. At one time I did tell her that I loved her, however she did not reply the same. She said she liked me but not loved me. We agreed not to go any further on that and we continued to be best friends. However I am going into the Navy and will ship out to boot camp in June 27. Time is running out on how we can spend time now and now I am not sure what to do , whether I should risk something or leave it as it is.
What have you got to lose?
On one hand, friendships last forever, and if you solidify and hold on to that, it will always be there for when you come back on leave.
On the other, if you make something like a relationship into it, it could either go well or end up with both of you in pain. Also you may not have anything to come back to.
Talk to her about it, just probe. If she is your best friend than she will understand you.
TO be honest that reply is confusing me even more.
Yeah I realize I kind of jumped around a bit.
Examine the situation and see if it really makes sense to be in a relationship with her. Otherwise keep her as your best friend.
ok now I understand that. Still I guess my geek side is holding me back to investigate. I barley got enough guts to tell her how I feel. I am not sure where we stand besides friends. BUt I guess I should just figure this out and sttle this once and for all.
Just talk her, 6 is right, she is your friend, she will understand you, and if she doesn't, well then you should reevaluate your friendship with her. Besides, why are you afraid, you are in the Navy.
WOW I can't count 2 is right now me who is 6
I am going in the navy. I am not in yet.
oops, well just do it before you leave, its sucks to live with "what might of been"
what might have been. Geez, I can feel the drama all over this. Damn my head hurts.
I'm familiar with the whole "what might have been thing" just looks at the thread "found and lost love of my life"
yeah thats why it's making my head hurt more. I just got a case where my heart says one thing and my head says anthour, and they both have good cases. Which in my world is rare. So I am going threw a personal conflict whether the heart or the head is the thing I should listen too.
thats the problem. They want to go in complety diffrent directions.
You know what, follow your heart. Your head is not always right.
I bought a ticket overseas because I wanted to confirm something. My head tells me that may have been a stupid decision, but my heart knows it is right.
Your head is there to protect you from your heart, but the heart is there to make you happy in the end.
Don't forget that.
thanks for the advice everyone.
there is one thing I want to say before this topic will disper in the mist of the internet. Love is something that other people will tell you to think, but love at the same time is something that youmake for myself. I was lead to love by others. But this , I want to tell her that I love her deeply, no matter how far I am away from her. I love her with all my heart and I will not stop until I let those sacred three letter sentence come out from my mouth to her ear's again.
Thank you again. YOu made me understand, that love is something that is written by the user not the reader. I want to make that love my own even if it is short lived.