Theres this girl I fell in love with. I really love her and I already told her, but our relationship is somewhat weird. She actually thinks Im too good for her... she puts herself in a bad light all the time and speaks as if I would be a prince in a fairy-tale.

Her arguments are: I live very healthy (dont drink alcohol, dont smoke, very much sport...), Im smart and good at school, social engaged, christian, and Im a virgin cause I want to wait for the right girl (I think she is). Im also very romantic in her presence. I bought her flowers, pay the bill all the time, invite her to the theater, make her compliments, drew her pictures... All of this is true, but I don`t see how this is sooo exceptional...

She thinks she is the exact opposite, which ist definately not true. She doesn`t live as healthy and is not social engaged, but she is smarter than me in many points, very romantic herself, christian, musician, independent, beautiful (she claimed she was fat and I was like wtf?) and understanding.

So... what can I do? Is there anything I can tell her to feel more comfortable about the situation? She says I should try to be an asshole sometimes, but I`m not able to do this in her presence.

And another thing: Everytime she introduces me to someone (no matter who, friends or grandparents) she is like: "This is Nick, he is a virgin and wants to study physics!" I dont care if people know Im a virgin (Im 18 btw) but isnt this weird? I think she is feels unconfortable about that thing, because she is sexually experienced. Once we lay on a couch in a bar, just the two of us. We kissed and she said: "If you just werent a virgin..." I joked: "Shall I go out, take the next lady and come back here afterwards?" She answered:"That would be great." This was probably a joke too, but she also said that she doesnt want to bear the responsibility. What kind of responsibility? Shouldnt I be the one that worries? I dont think I can do anything about this, but please tell me if this really is an issue I have to worry about.

Thanks in advance!

It's always one or the other isnt it?! It's either you are not good enough or you are beyond their wildest dreams and they fear they can't match you.
All I can say, even though I'm not that experienced myself, is that keep pushing it, subtly and gently that is. Hopefully sooner or later the girl will come around that you really care for her. Or perhaps I watched too much HK and JP Drama...

OK, I don't get...you're in a relationship with this girl, right?
I think if your virginity is a common topic coming from her mouth, then you should talk to her about it...and not in the joking way you've posted.

Thoughts, anyone?

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I don`t know about the relationship, its pretty weird. We kiss and we talk about sex and we give presents to each other and we phone till late night etc., but she says were not a couple. And the virginity: I only joked this one time about it. Im actually serious about this topic most of the time, as she seems really concerned about it. I told her that she doesnt have to worry about me. In my opinion, she is the perfect girl and I couldnt be happier if I got the opportunity to get intimate with her. She only said, that she feels unconfortable because of said reasons: REsponsibility and me being too good for her. BS imo...

ehh. she has issues. perhaps you really are too good for her. maybe instead of complaining about it all the time, she could actually do stuff for you instead.

ps. weIRD fONts r ANnoyiN TO reAD.

Nick, she's feeling guilt of some sort. Relieve her of that pressure and tell her it's ok. Make sure you express your desire to become a couple (If really that's what you want). Since this is a christian setting, you could help her find repentance and/or atonement for her sin. You could read Psalms 51 to her, which David sang after he lusted for Betseba and sent her husband Urias to die in war. Let it be clear to her that she sinned against God and God alone, and there is no reason for her to take it on against herself or repent to you but repent to God. I guess that's it, she has a sin problem. Who doesn't? If she really repents to God, then she will come and ask for forgiveness to men as well, that means to you. Imho that should restore your relation.

oops, last word typo: relationSHIP.

Or maybe she's just toying with you and has fun that way.

Here's another idea, you go ahead and pray to God that she should turn around, if you are righteous through Christ your wish will be granted(if you are righeous you know what I mean by "pray"), because if so your will is in accordance with Gods. If not, wether or not you two will hook up is anyones guess and if you do it might end badly either way.

It's all about love, faith and hope, and these are in themselves heavenly gifts, so it's not really up to her, it's up to God and those he has blessed with the power and awereness of carrying out his will. If you're down with God, you know his will through yourself, and through prayer it cannot be rejected, because it's also the will of God. This is truth, but I do not know how christian you guys actually are. After all, this is 4chan lol.

Uh, these kind of situations are scary to me. 'cause that means she has this godly image of you and if you step out of it, it'll have a bigger impact than it would normally if she didn't worship you.