How do I reject my "nice and funny guy but not a potential BF" - status? (59)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-23 09:18 ID:eF5HImL1

Because just every female I meet are looking me that way, its driving me crazy, but it seems that I can't do anything about it. Its my personality, and I find it shit to act like someone who you don't want to be and stuff. I know, everyone's saying that "be yourself"-stuff, but what can ya do if your personality just isn't worth shit?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-23 10:32 ID:BNvIUd7c

You don't.

There's nothing like the movies with buying a leather jacket and suddenly talking cool. Sorry, that's just how life is. Once they expect it from you, which they prolly do from your dress, you're fucked.

Sorry to be honest, but that's life.

Find a girl out there who appreciates that, is all you can do.

And they do exist. 本当です。

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-23 12:02 ID:Kkebth2A

Try to take a break from attempting to get a girlfriend...perhaps you're just trying too hard which makes girls think you're desperate. It would also be better if you wrote more details, do you lack self-confidence or do you feel that you don't look good enough?

4 Name: holdincourt : 2006-07-24 04:51 ID:eJveHX4h

Totally know what you are facing there, OP.

5 Name: Haruhi : 2006-07-24 05:22 ID:9VHoYJHv

Maybe you just need to buff up your appearance? Get a new wardrobe, maybe?

See, girls are really shallow. I know this for a fact, considering I'm a girl and girls have this sort of girls only cult where we discuss the types of guys we like...whether we wanna admit it or not.XD See, to catch a girl's interest, you need appeal. To keep a girl's interest, you need a good personality. You already have the latter, but it seems that guys who complain about how they can't attract women because they're always brushed off as "funny and nice, but not boyfriend material" usually lack appeal. You know "love at first sight"? That's not love. That's one of the base instincts of human nature saying "Oooh, pretty human, me mate with human! Ooga!".

Now, by appeal, I mean a lack of charisma, not a lack of looks. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Does your usual attire consist of t-shirts and jeans? Do you tend to fade into the background in classes or at work or whatnot? Maybe your circle of friends is really huge, but do you stick out at least some of the time?

Basically, try to vary up your wardrobe when you go out, and let yourself be known. Actually, sometimes cheesy pick-up lines work if they're funny; use that sense of humor to your advantage.

Hope this helps.^.^;; I'm sure you'll get lucky sooner or later, though.^_^

6 Name: Mireille guy : 2006-07-24 06:48 ID:gCantpaJ

It depends, Haruhi. Girls might be shallow, but what they see in men what they want to perceive.
You know, I once was uninteresting as well, nerdy looking and shy. My current being is now complimented left and right as "hot", although I humbly decline this. I don't consider myself good looking. To come all this way, I had to make a conscious effort to be attractive. Yes, I do watch my appearance, which is part of the first impression, but I also went into deep introspection of how to lure women. All women fall for men that discreetly hints being the one person that woman is waiting for. You learn what she expects from her ideal relationship and then you portrait yourself as being her ideal man without being pretentious or blatant. Be insistent about her liking you without openly giving away that you want her. Sometimes use innuendos, but never openly reveal your feelings. All women eventually melt. My advice is that; make a conscious effort to talk your way into women, and practice in front of the mirror. The more effort and dedication you put into it, the better you get.
There is no man that can't get any woman. Any man can get any woman.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-24 09:05 ID:w0a2BdLU

> There is no man that can't get any woman. Any man can get any woman.

That sounds too idealistic. :P
I have the same problem as the OP. There's this girl. We used to hang out in a group of 4 (her, me and two other guys) but it seems that she prefers to stay only friends with us... or maybe she have a preference on one of the other guys.

Anyway, how do I get charisma and self confidence? A lot of people tells me (girls too) that I'm kind, cute and warm-hearted, but it seems that ther's no one who could actually appreciate it.
Despite that I'm already 23, I still can't just walk to a girl and accost her so I stick with online dating sites, but almost every girl disappears after the first meeting or after we swap photos...
Sure I lack self confidence very badly but how should I overcome it? I rarely get compliment from anyone.
At work, my boss constantly pisses me off, she just ridicules my work. After I get home, my father continues it, I always just get disciplined. No wonder my self confidence is torn...
Some people say that you need to impress girls with your creativity. Well I afraid I can't do that. I can't draw, my hands are clumsy. I can't write good stories or poems, I can't compose music, basically the only way to express my creativity is through AMVs or programming. But no girl would be interested when I say : "look I wrote this program", even for AMVs they say "hmm, not bad" and nothing more.
Am I pathetic?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-24 12:48 ID:whJHhn/n

Learn to stand up for yourself and take the consequences. Women don't want to have a weak wuss as partner.

Sorry to sound harsh, but that's how it is. You should rather lose your current job and break up with your father than getting humiliated and having no self esteem and self respect.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-24 12:51 ID:Heaven

>how do I get charisma and self confidence?

if videogames have taught me anything? grind it.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-24 17:36 ID:Heaven

>>7 You aren't patetic, only a bit geeky. If you like to program and make AMVs simply do it, make the things that make you happy don't what the people tell you.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-24 18:41 ID:Heaven

>>10
Signed.

12 Name: Haruhi : 2006-07-24 20:40 ID:ULFYbZ+0

>>7

I recently got into making AMVs myself, actually. Don't be afraid to show off your skills! Make some kickass program, or make a really awesome AMV, and then show it off to anyone who shows a remote interest. I practically drag people into watching/reading/looking at stuff I've made, with a good amount of success. Sure, there are a lot of girls who wouldn't be interested in that stuff, and those are the girls you've been talking to, it seems. You just need to fish out the right girls to show off to.^_^ I'm personally jealous of anyone who can program...I tried it, and I suck.;.; I nearly broke a computer at my high school at least twice every day a couple years back trying to fix this stupid Java memory game that I was working on for half the school year. Never got the stupid thing to work. (mutters curses under breath)

There are certainly a lot more girls with similar interests as you out there. Otherwise, I wouldn't have nearly as many crazy off-the-wall friends that I have.

13 Name: 電気男 : 2006-07-25 04:07 ID:iZ03H88P

What many of us nerd/geeky folk have going for us is being nice people. The problem is that most women out there are looking for the well balanced men, but can never resist that bad boy jerk complex. This isn't because they like men to be mean to them (although I've found women kind of like it when you poke fun at them), they like how confident these jock/jerk types are. If you can balance being confident and nerdy, then you shouldn't really have a problem and are probably talking to the wrong women.

I'm 20 and I got involved in my first relationship ever about a month ago. I luckily found a girl who was attracted to me both in personality and looks, though I'm not the best looking guy IMO. We share a lot of similar interests, and have similar moral and politcal values. And you know how I met her? At a club devoted to Dance Dance Revolution. In other words, being nerdy isn't a problem at all, if you know where to look.

It sounds to me like the OP and 7 have confidence issues. Its easy for me to say "feel better about yourself and stop moping", and its up to you how you want to accomplish that, but its what you have to do. 8 is absolutely right, women don't like whiners. I used to be exactly like you in that I thought I was pathetic and felt bad about myself, but then I stopped caring as much about what people thought of me. It turned out that I developed a personality of my own that seems to have worked.

Wish you luck. My advice is to keep doing the things that make you happy, plenty of fish in the sea and all that jazz. You'll find the right one eventually.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-25 05:02 ID:UptUfKyl

First of all, you need to be an asshole. So, to that end be yourself. Be rude, use racial epithets, decry and detract for your enemies. If you don't have enemies, then MAKE some. POWERFUL ENEMIES. Dress very antisocially. Don't dress up, SCREW THAT NOISE, JACK! I will never dress up for a girl. I'll dress up if I feel like it. Also piss off some women, openly state that you like the wear their breasts look. Openly show your disgust for most women.

And then, when you see a woman you are attracted to. Simply approach them, and ask them their name. Don't EVER give your name. NEVER. I'm serious about this shit. If they ask, be vague.

Enter into a limited conversation with them. This is to see if you would actually want to stand being with them for more than 20 minutes. If you like what you got, ask them out somewhere basic. I like the shooting range. I have this awesome Green Steyr AUG and it makes girls wetter than Hell. If not that, McDonalds. Here's where it happens. LET THEM RAMBLE ON AND ON. Don't interrogate and don't question. Just let them talk. If you STILL like what you hear, offer to pick up the check and ask to see them later. Then casually hang out with them and let them ramble. DO NOT DISCLOSE PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF AND DO NOT LET THEM KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE. Keep the mystery. Eventually it will progress and get more physical.

What have you done? Basically you have let them play right into your little web. Know you know essentially everything about them and they know nothing about you. THIS gives you the power to make sure you like what you have. If she's still interesting and attractive you may proceed and SLOOOWLY open up. If you find out she's a Class A cunt, then you can cut bait and separate and she can't track you down and do crazy shit and embarrass you.

If some girl rejects you. Let her know that she was never really good enough for you and you were just being nice. You can always do better. Me I don't really like women. I just go out with them occasionally just because. I mean I have an 8,000 dollar Hotaru doll at home. I really don't need a girlfriend. But sometimes women can do things for you besides just sex. They can be free meals and they can do you favors and even though I love my Hotaru to death sometimes I need variety.

Eventually it gets harder to maintain my mask of feigned interest and I have to drop them. I really only go out with them for food, money, and on occasion physical affection. It still feels good to kiss a living human female on the lips. But then the utter disdain and disgust I have for other people gets the better of me and I need to be Isolated once more.

Oh yeah it helps if you aren't fat assed and when this shit works DO NOT BE NEEDY OR OVERPOSSESSIVE LIKE THAT NERDY KID ON DEGRASSI THE NEXT GENERATION WAS WITH THAT KOREAN GIRL. That's just fail right there man.

15 Name: Haruhi : 2006-07-25 05:22 ID:ULFYbZ+0

>>14

You scare me.o.o;; I could say a lot of things, but...well, I'll start with this...I don't mind a cheap resturaunt, but McDonald's hardly counts as fine dining...or dining at all. Just a mere sniff of that place'll give you cancer for life.

Perhaps it's a personal preference, but I like nerdy guys better than those "manly man" types. Actually, I use "manly man" types as a source of amusement. Dance, puppets, dance.<3

I'm hoping you were being sarcastic or something with that post, though, 13. You were...right?^.^;; (is somewhat disturbed)

>>13

That's what I'm talking about!^_^ Speaking as a girl, it's true that whiners are a turn-off. It's good to express grievances once in a while, but there's only so much time we want to spend lending our shoulders for you to cry on. That's why self-confidence is a must for a relationship. You need to be able to hold your own, but not so much that you completely ignore your significant other.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-25 06:55 ID:gq8Xtrq4

>>15

Hey man.... I get sick of that puppet bullshit. Puppet of Big Oil, Puppet of Haliburton. I don't care about politics, just money. I had no problem being a Private Contractor over in Iraq and I am not ashamed of my Hotaru Real Doll. She's more of a lady than any human girl I've ever met.

If you really ARE a girl, Let me let you in on a secret:

Women need men more than men need women. As long as I have my right hand, Hotaru, some Duran Duran, and some K Y Jelly I really don't need jack shit from any woman. However a woman will ALWAYS Need a man. Remember Gloria Steinem that communist bitch? "OH I need a man like a fish needs a bicycle" Yeah for 30 freaking years bitches just ate that shit up like it was candy and guess what she did? She married the guy who played Patrick Bateman's dad. Women are nothing more than toys or breeding machines.

Except for the scant Valkyrian few who actually matter. And Aye, I have known a few. Strong Willed, Vindictive, and hard. They appreciated me for who I was and were encouraging of me. Never got in my business, never made me be anything I wasn't.

Why not commit? That's just the nature of the lifestyle. I don't think of them as girlfriends or fucktoys. I think of them as friends with whom I can open up a bit. But by nature I am a solitary person, so I see them rarely.

Case in point, a lady who worked with an NGO is a good friend of mine. I haven't seen her in four years, but I know that when we see each other again we'll probably go get some nice dinner and share some intimacy. She's earned the right by being both a Warrior and a Scholar.

But Girls you meet on the street....to me they are only worth Mickey D's and a two star motel room. And really, I don't mess with them too much.

I mean....I have my Hotaru Doll, you know.

17 Name: Haruhi : 2006-07-25 07:04 ID:ULFYbZ+0

>>16

I find the lack of respect you have for women rather disturbing. I mean, you say women are nothing more than toys, and then advocate extremist women? Most militant feminists of the latter type would have your head for the former comment. Maybe it's good that you've got your doll, because any remotely sane-minded lady would avoid any guy who thinks of women as mere "breeding machines".

As for the puppet thing, it's a joke. Ah, but your Hotaru Doll has your sense of humor, doesn't it? No wonder you two get along so well.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-25 07:26 ID:gq8Xtrq4

Feminists? They aren't feminists. They are ladies.

There is a difference between girls and ladies.

And what's extremist? I don't associate with radicals. When I say warriors and scholars I'm not talking about some lame Dungeons and Dragons yugioh live action role play bullshit.

I'm talking about people with Trigger Time, former Public Sector types who have neither the time nor the resources for traditional relationships. It does get a bit incestuous(not literally but figuratively) among other ranks. A feminist is fat, lonely, manless, and hairy legged. None of the ladies I know are like that.

Some people don't have the luxury of living in nice cozy little anime worlds where everything is wrapped up in 30 minutes. Most of the girls out and about today are whores, sluts, and worthless brainless pieces of shit who are into all of this trendy stuff without an ounce of sensibility or practicality.

Before the finger is pointed as to "Well if you are so squared away then why are YOU here?" Simple. To help people and to get off on all the lonely emos pining and moaning and making productions over things that aren't important. Plus This board is right next to politics(which I like to address my fiery anti communist rhetoric) as well as the hentai boards(because I enjoy it so).

I recommend everyone here read Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand and Might makes Right by Ragnar Redbeard. Trust me....you ain't going to get good advice from people who cite Love Hina as an example of how to score chicks.

Because years from now you are going to look back and go "Damn I can't believe I was moping over that bitch and looked how she turned out! Yeechh!!"

Get it while the gettings good and GET OUT while you have a chance.

Oh yeah, and don't talk bad about my fucking Hotaru Doll, dude. I actually put off buying a Barrett light fifty for her and she was fucking worth every penny.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-25 08:56 ID:tQ3pkP8Y

This is what I heard from the internet: "Girls go out with jerks, because they find confidence is an attractive quality."
Biggest truth ever.

Also, never give up. Our genes have been around for billions of years. It's our basic instinct to mate with others and spread our genes. Which means you will eventually get laid.

20 Name: Polaris. : 2006-07-26 04:09 ID:dvhBwJs0

>>18

>Feminists? They aren't feminists. They're women.
>There's a difference between girls and women.

Fixed because some women aren't "ladies". Also, not every feminist is fat, ugly, and has hairy legs. Some shave their legs and work out because, oh...I dunno...THEY LIKE DOING IT FOR THEMSELVES. There are exceptions for every stereotype and I'm so fucking sick of hearing any of them. And if every woman needs a man, what's your take on lesbianism? Don't give me that "THEY THINK ABOUT GUYS WATCHING LOL" bullshit either, fucker.
I am no breeding machine, I have no urge to have children or marry. Time paradox!
...Also, did you just tell us to read fucking Ayn Rand?

>>19
Internet=\=a work cited.
I just dumped a guy because he was a MASSIVE jerk and even though he was confident, it was to hide how pitiful he really was on the inside.

In regards to the OP, someone already took my responce.

21 Name: Haruhi : 2006-07-26 05:35 ID:GyV9lCxg

>>19

There's a difference between having confidence and being a jerk. In fact, most jerks don't have confidence, and that's the reason why they're jerks. They hide their lack of confidence by pretending they're better than everyone else, when they're really the scum of the earth.<3

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 06:07 ID:Heaven

There are certainly smart girls that know better, but it seems the world never runs out of girls who fall for the assholes, and everyone around them wonders why the hell she ever liked him. This girl that is a manager at my old workplace is with an asshole. He is cheating on her right now with a crackhead, but she won't leave him because they had a baby together and she's afraid he'll get visitation and hurt the baby while he's high on that stuff, which is why he beat her that ~one~ time. She said she's breaking up with him, but apparently she's said that plenty of times. I can see that she's afraid for her baby, but she's not doing anything about it! Go to a lawyer and find out how to keep him from seeing the baby? Nope.

I'm sure I'll see plenty of cases like this throughout my life, sadly. She's not a stupid girl, so why is she dealing with this? Use some common sense, ladies. There are guys out there that don't do drugs and will never hit you or cuss you out!

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 08:15 ID:J1YBfJhY

>>19
I'm not just looking for sex, I want a stable and meaningful relationship. Something with mutual love... a thing that's hard to achieve nowadays. :(

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 08:28 ID:J1YBfJhY

> There are guys out there that don't do drugs and will never hit you or cuss you out!

Yes, but it seems like girls aren't interested in them.
I would never use drugs, I don't even smoke. The only "drug" I regularly take is my morning coffee. Also, I could never hurt anyone, I hate violence in any form.
But girls just don't like me. For a friend, I'm OK, but nothing more. Some girls even don't take the time to know me better. :( Girls are so shallow! (again, sorry for generalisation)

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 09:07 ID:hVxehSZu

Here's a simple answer: go find other girls. Girls that know nothing about you. It's the only way to make a clean start; to shake any "image" that you've picked up amongst those who know (of) you. This will necessarily involve leaving the house. Be impulsive, see what happens. I'll say it again: be impulsive. You're on a mission, so don't hesitate. Do your best to have no expectations whatsoever when you go up to a new girl. Doing so will prevent you from a) looking desperate (girls can smell it) and b) making a fool of yourself by (a). You'll also appear to be confident (which girls can also smell). Girls like confidence. What's the worst that can happen? She says no? OH NOES. You had absolutely nothing invested in her because you went in with no expectations (right? Right? Didn't you?). You'll probably never see her again, so who gives a fuck. On to the next one!

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 09:10 ID:Heaven

What's wrong with taking drugs? Oh, I forgot. Anyone taking drugs is a psycopathic demon in hibernation, ready to go on a murder rampage during their next "hell trip". I'm so sorry.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 14:40 ID:Tivhgb42

Yes, everyone here needs to read Ayn Rand.

I'm not saying every feminist is fat manless and hairy legged. But the VAST MAJORITY are.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-26 16:20 ID:hVxehSZu

>>14
Linkage to this "Hotaru doll" please. What is it, a Japanese Realdoll or something?

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-27 00:07 ID:4DA+UTFU

My Hotaru doll is a CUSTOM Realdoll I ordered for myself after coming back from Iraq. I was going to buy a Barrett M82 .50 but decided that I loved Hotaru so much that I needed a Hotaru Realdoll. It cost me 8,000 but she has just the right shade of pale complexion, Violet eyes, and black pageboy hair.

I will post no links or pictures to it. I'm very open about having her, but respect her too much to put her on parade for all the world to see.

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-27 02:43 ID:Heaven

>>29
You're getting up to an acceptable level. You still have a lot to learn but this is pretty good.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-27 02:53 ID:vODCaIYa

>>26 Her boyfriend is doing cocaine and meth and stuff. Yes, people who do those drugs are quite psychopathic at times.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-27 05:02 ID:GPpgRamM

>I'm not just looking for sex, I want a stable and meaningful relationship. Something with mutual love... a thing that's hard to achieve nowadays. :(

Ah, I am quite sure there are girls looking for the exact same thing. You ever try going to church, there are nice girls at churh. You got to go to nice places to find nice girls.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-27 08:35 ID:V3ZaJAlU

> You ever try going to church, there are nice girls at churh.

My aunt suggested the exact same thing. But how do you accost a girl in a church? Besides, I know some of the girls who go to the local church and I'm quite positive that I'm not the type they're looking for...

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-28 02:56 ID:LLFsx+dH

My mom tries to persuade me to go to church by telling me about all the cute girls there. Doesn't something seem wrong about that?

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-28 03:00 ID:Heaven

>>34
The way to a man's heart goes through his penis.

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-28 18:19 ID:uUMIvUGF

>>34 She thinks your gay.

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-28 21:16 ID:rim6Jk38

>>29

hahaha oh god i remember that thread

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-28 21:17 ID:rim6Jk38

>>34

don't do it. she just wants to brainwash you into christianity by both pairing you with christian girls and getting you to attend church

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-29 07:01 ID:eF5HImL1

I enjoy this thread.

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-29 11:56 ID:lR17usjy

confidence coupled with humour is the biggest win.

41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-29 13:18 ID:Heaven

>>40

ofcourse, but the million dollar question is, how do I get it?

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-29 16:30 ID:NoxFCskq

Lots of jerking off.

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-30 07:29 ID:eb6IVk5k

>>41
Get to know lots of children.

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-07-30 10:52 ID:lR17usjy

>>41
humour/wit is generally something you're born with. so if you don't have it, maybe you could go for the Strong and Silent type. lol.

confidence is easier to achieve. >>43 said it.

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-01 00:51 ID:BLF04Tgf

>>44
How do you pull off Strong and Silent without being a total bore?

46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-01 12:30 ID:Heaven

>>45
see the "girls who fart" thread for more info on strong and silent ones

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-01 13:08 ID:1hT36+ED

>>46
i lol'd.

>>45
usually if you have to be tall, dark and relatively handsome. what attracts girls to the strong and silent types is the mysterious air they have about them and how quietly confident they are about themselves. i'm sure you would know someone like that. a guy who seems to cooly mind their own business and then seems to get the attention of girls without trying.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-07 05:17 ID:FbgmGp+D

"Nice and funny" = they're putting up with you because they feel sorry for you.

You have much to learn about the ways of female creatures.

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-11 11:05 ID:BtnHPLe/

>>14
Hay there Hotaru guy!

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-11 14:20 ID:uFDbm3Cn

>>1 fuck men you dipshit

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-11 18:52 ID:paq6scz1

>>20

>I am no breeding machine, I have no urge to have children

tick

tock

tick

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whats that? oh, its just your biological clock. just give it 20 or 30 more years and it will be more like:

TICKTOCKTICKTOCKTICKTOCKTICKTOCKTICKTOCKTICKTOCK

52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-11 21:30 ID:nKZTBPOL

i think you become "just friends" if you were talking and acting as if your "one of the friends" (in actuality you were prolly trying to get close to her). once in the "just friends" area your pretty much ****** unless under certain circumstances.
strong & silent and nice & fun personality is all attractive and all, but if you keep pursuing that person like a friend then expect no more then becoming friends (unless she initially had strong interests in you). pursuit her from the beginning as a girlfriend; initially you want to become friendly (but don't prolong it then necessary) to become comfortable talking about other sh*t besides preliminary bullocks (such as "what class are you taking," "you have any siblings," ...f**k "whats your favorite color," and etc). then try to get her to do something with you besides where you guys usually meet, and from here on out...no one can really advise you on how to act...possibly suggestions on where to take her or what activity...but thats about it. haste makes waste, however apples eventually rot (no idea where i'm going with this sentence).

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-11 22:03 ID:nKZTBPOL

to gain confidence is to put yourself in shitty positions. try doing something that usually involves one or two more people outside one day (sure you look like a loser, but once it becomes comfortable some how your confidences boosts up) like shopping or something. i don't know how this works...but constantly putting yourself in control boosts confidence (in a group it usually ends up in a collaboration or the strongest one taking the lead)

54 Name: FUCK FUCK : 2007-04-11 23:31 ID:LfXlnpPJ

FUCK FUCK FUCK

55 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-12 16:46 ID:opBeR/SD

Dear >>20,

the fucking fuck does '=\=' mean?

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 08:49 ID:jDlHyAA3

>>32

church...

no intelligent person wants to pick up a significant other at church. churches are concentration points for individuals who have no will of their own, and every desire to give up their sentience to a greater organization without question.

in other words, an intelligent person would not find an equal to date at a church.

57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 09:57 ID:Heaven

>>56

you know that's exactly the kind of bigoted statement i'd expect from the individual with no will of their own that you describe. protip: fundamentalist athiests are just as fucking annoying as fundamentalist anything elses; and plenty of nice, reasonable and rational people go to various churches for reasons of their own.

but i can understand that you wouldn't want to meet a significant other at a church, because your bigotry would prevent you ever properly respecting them, so it'd never work out.

but just because it won't work out for you is no reason for anyone else to not try.

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 18:35 ID:q+xCp4Fc

Lol. Watch 40 Year old Virgin and a couple other teen movies.

59 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-14 21:18 ID:Heaven

>>57
I don't really belive in anything, but I like being in churches. It's kind of soothing. Plus, I love the architecture. And I totally agree with you. Some atheist are in fact even worse than most of the people who regularly go to churches, temples or whatever.

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