It seems, my fellow L&R'ers, that I have come to a point where I might fall into a relationship with a woman 10 years my senior (I am almost 20, she is 30). She seems really into me from the couple of dates we've been on, and we have participated in one sexual act together. Things seem to be going alright, to an extent... Still, I cannot help but wonder exactly WHY she's into someone so much younger than her (considering the vast majority of women usually want someone older, much more stable, and experienced than themselves). Perhaps I am still a tad bit uncertain because I've never dated anyone older than me, but I can't help but wonder if there's something amiss.
Am I just being paranoid, or do I have just cause to feel uncertain about her attraction to me? Oh yes, and how am I going to explain THIS ONE to my parents? >_>;;
Oh, and also, anything I should be aware of before either on of us tries to take the "next step"?
I think if she likes you and you like her, there's no reason for you to stop.
Yes, most women want someone older than them, but not all women. Some might think that younger, "innocent" boys are easier to conduct and they're not the sexmaniac ones, but cac show some feelings.
I'm 23. One thing I've learned about girls of my age that most of them are immature and only want to play. You practically cannot have a serious, longterm relationship with a girl younger than 20. They wouldn't take you seriously.
So, I also turned my head towards older women but they do not treat me as a possible boyfriend.
So, you can consider yourself lucky and if you like this girl, just go on, you may have a true and serious relationship with her.
I've been in your position. Maybe not as far as going for sex. Take into account that this relationship will give you lots of sex (because women reach their sexual peak at 30 and men at 20). Now, the big next step would be making long term plans. Specially at her age, it's a very important thing to do, because she has to get married soon. You're the one making a sacrifice here. If the relationship goes well, it can prove to be very rewarding. Plan your time wisely, and do discuss what would be next.
The things you need to be aware of are: you are taking this seriously, and therefore she will as well. Time is important, study, work or whatever you do takes time. Finances are important as well (As long as you can survive together it's fine), and location (Together is the word). And I can't emphasize this more, but make sure you prioritize your college education because that is the fastest way to get money and be economically independent.
My best regards to you.