I've just started going out with this girl. I really like her, but one thing bugs me... she avoids contact with me when around some of her friends, whom I'm not incredibly acquainted with.
I think I have it figured out: one guy in specific likes her, and she doesn't want him to find out about us so he isn't hurt or something. What should I do though? I feel for this guy, but at the same time I can't avoid telling others about our relationship -- or at least, its existence.
I'm not sure if I want to confront her on this, either... she might get offended or embarrassed. I may have to though.
Dude, she's fucking him behind your back. Beat the guy up and show him she is yours.
>>2
Actually I think he's gay. Maybe not though.
She could be trying to increase her available range of choices. She might not want to show you to him so she can still keep him open as an option.
>>4
Yeah, I'm aware of that possibility too. In that case, should I make it apparent that I want her and am not willing to give her up?
uh...talk to her.
>I think I have it figured out: one guy in specific likes her, and she doesn't want him to find out about us so he isn't hurt or something.
>Actually I think he's gay. Maybe not though.
Huh>
>>7
My first impression was that he is, but I'm probably wrong. It's her perspective that matters anyways, not mine.
Make her choose, this is a risky situation. If you don't do something about this you might just get hurt in the end. She's like playing 2nd fiddle here.. nobody can have the best of both man. It's like unfaithfulness in the making. Either you stop it now or bail out. What are you her secret boyfriend? that's fucking insane man.
Ask her "whats the f'n deal?"
Well, maybe not that forwardly, but the only way you'll know for sure is by asking her.
I am going to follow your advice. I haven't been in many successful relationships, but even I know something's strange here.
I want to ask her in a way that gets the point across without her feeling that I'm jealous or something. I think I've found the words though.
Wait, how did you find out he likes her?
Morgan: No one can know about us. If anyone asks, I'll deny it.
Fry: Just like every other girl I've dated.
Dump the bitch.
If she's hiding crap like that, she must not really like you. Heh, "increase her available range of choices"... while she's going out with someone?
If a woman tried that with me, she would wake up the next day dead. Girls know this, and that's the reason they love me.
Are you the Hotaru guy? Last I heard, you were turning religious.
>>17
Hotaru guy? Pretty sure I'm not.
Well, I stuck it to her, in short. She tried to dodge my questions and gave me vague answers. I think I'm seeing the beginning of the end for this one.
>>17 I've always wondered. Was the Hotaru that guy talking abou, Hotaru from Sailormoon?
>>17
the hotaru guy would never say that women love him.
I think you should find the guy and talk to him