Singles Rant Thread 2 (1000)

1 Name: Sora : 2006-09-10 09:46 ID:H44Ytxto

Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha

2 Name: Sora : 2006-09-10 09:55 ID:H44Ytxto

SRT 1 994: I'm sure there are still a lot left out there for you.. have you tried socializing in events, forums, gatherings that caters to your hobbies and interests? If you're positive that there's no one really left for you then maybe you find that person elsewhere. Different country? I bet there are many gaijins in japan that are into these stuffs as well for example.

3 Name: 電影男 : 2006-09-10 11:06 ID:L4KctH0E

1000th was wasted on a guy saying "TIME TRAVEL"!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 11:35 ID:Heaven

>>995 to >>1000 were the same person. lame.

5 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-09-10 15:30 ID:srb+0Wrw

that 1000th post was meant for me!!! Now what's gonna happen to my dull life!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 17:24 ID:Heaven

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 19:27 ID:VOXT93cs

My neighbours are having sex again. So arousing, yet so frustrating.

8 Name: NoPhotoGuy : 2006-09-10 21:03 ID:AcWOSd1U

>>7
Yeah, I can understand it. Hearing them and thinking that you don't have a mate...
I feel the same sometimes, except my neighbors are all old people, but I see all those couples kissing on the streets and I get... envious or something. :(

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-10 21:05 ID:XRPrwmMR

>>7

Knock on their door and ask if you can join them. This has a chance of being successful.

10 Name: 990 : 2006-09-10 22:39 ID:tFsS4Jsf

I am assuming it was her sex appeal that overwhelmed me. I mean we did go out to a club together and I spent majority of the night so that may have affected things. But I won't know if it is a fluke or a pure feeling for awhile she goes to another college not to far but far enough where a car is needed and I lack one.

11 Name: Sora : 2006-09-11 03:23 ID:H44Ytxto

5: Guess you oughta wait again for another 1000th man.

12 Name: 994 : 2006-09-11 03:36 ID:9klP6jk0

>>2
Thanks for the advice. I've done some of that stuff before but I guess I never put enough effort into the socializing part of it all. I'm going to college soon so I guess I'll try work harder at that.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 04:13 ID:tFsS4Jsf

College is where it is at. High school I was some what social. But in college I really have gotten out of my shell, been doing stuff I would never have imagined and I am loving every minute of it. But the thing is that you need get out of your and possibly your comfort zone. It may be scary but worth it.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 04:18 ID:Heaven

>>9
I don't think I'd want that. Wouldn't mind watching though.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 04:32 ID:tFsS4Jsf

Why not? you are already listening to them, why not make that next step. She wouldn't mind, I am quite sure of that. Her hustband...it can go either way.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 07:42 ID:9AzNjkBR

Yeah. If they've been married long enough, they'll probably be open to something new.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 14:14 ID:+6MdkJT4

What >>13 says is true. It took me till my senior year to grow, now I wish I had more time. Do things you haven't done before.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 15:07 ID:7iYILtSY

I wonder if there are any other gay guys around here who have all the same stupid interests as me... probably not. orz

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-11 21:43 ID:JLHIatfn

>>18
????????

20 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-09-11 23:04 ID:MgPZA8/t

>>18
Hey dude. It's okay to be gay! I'm not gay but I have some friends who are and they are the greatest friends to have!

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-12 01:32 ID:tG9ILzZ8

Gay guys = people you hang out with at a club because the women then assume you're gay, and therefore unattainable, and therefore worth chasing.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-12 02:31 ID:tFsS4Jsf

what type of logic is that?

if the girl thinks your gay then why would she waste her time going after you if you dont swing her way.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-12 03:14 ID:Heaven

>>22
Because women are dumb. Hasn't anyone told you this? It was about time you found out.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-12 14:38 ID:Heaven

>>23
is spiteful. his logic is that if he can't get any girls then they must all be chasing gays.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-12 22:35 ID:Heaven

>>24
Speak for yourself.

26 Name: BENOIST : 2006-09-14 05:08 ID:kit7Jg1p

<sigh> Hey, guys. Long time, no see, eh?

I haven't really been able to post on the board for various personal reasons. I've recently come out of a bout of serious depression; not "Oh my god, my hamster died, I'M SO DEPRESSED!!1one!", actual DEPRESSION. Mainly due to a personal attack on myself when I tried to talk to this girl that I had been watching for a long time.

If anyone's interested, I'd love to open up that gaping wound again. But, anyway, I just wanna say: Hello, again, guys. Hopefully I'll be back more often.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-14 05:53 ID:Heaven

>>26
WHO ARE YOU?

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-14 07:16 ID:9klP6jk0

>>26
what exactly happened???

29 Name: BENOIST : 2006-09-14 13:13 ID:kit7Jg1p

>>27
I was around during the whole "MSN Otoko" thing.

>>28
Tell you later. Have work in 5 minutes.

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-14 23:24 ID:JLHIatfn

>>26
Kill yourself already. World does not need another failure like you.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-15 00:07 ID:Heaven

>>30

wow. wtf happened to 4ch?

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-15 02:48 ID:9klP6jk0

>>30
gtfo troll

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-19 14:45 ID:d4utj/bG

>>26

Anyone else still waiting for the story?

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-19 14:59 ID:Heaven

>>33
No.

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 11:34 ID:hbxHOyaZ

U_U Duh? Does anyone have any story?
well if not i have some story.

about 2-3 months ago, i met this girl in group assignment, after that me and her didnt have any contacts.at that time, probably only a week or 2 weeks, we working together. i even end up stayed until morning in her room (^.^) .Damn i never went to girls room before, i mean, i do visit girls house but never spent so much time with girls in her room. we having a good time well at least for me, i dunno what her feeling
Since i know she got a boyfriend =/. and yea we spent time together for the whole week. even though its only for 1-2weeks it was my precious moment ^^

After that assignment, yea i never have any guts to call her.
coz yea shes not available.lol Im having a trouble calling a girl whom i crushed on.

and now she just calling me to help her with assignment, well maybe she just want to copy my previous assignment (coz i did the subject last semester).should i try again ? maybe shes not with her bf anymore, i dunno hehe

crap she just called me again. U_U now shes gone while i type this crap and i didnt have any credit left to call her.

Anyway! thanks for those who read my post. ciao

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 15:59 ID:VR9f1XWz

so the story is that i got myself a bf the other day. he's great and all, but lately he's become really possessive of me. not to mention he dictates everything i do. he even joined my yoga class just so he could keep an eye on me. he'll wash the dishes, clean my shoes, paint my nails. sometimes he'll pick my nose for me, but when i try to return the favour he'll push me away.

i just wanna know is this sort of behaviour normal for couples?

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-20 17:47 ID:Heaven

>>35

She is just using you. Most likely she just wants to copy your work. You can help her if you want, but don't expect anything out of it, unless she has a single friend.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-21 21:15 ID:hbxHOyaZ

>> 37

i guess ur right ^.^

>> 36

no idea,
well
"he even joined my yoga class just so he could keep an eye on me. he'll wash the dishes, clean my shoes, paint my nails. sometimes he'll pick my nose for me," This is the way he show you how much he care for you

but

"he dictates everything i do." are you sure about this? ;__;

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-09-23 17:55 ID:AmSQKRIr

>>36

The relationship sounds a bit screwed up if you ask me... <_<

40 Name: sora : 2006-10-05 16:37 ID:DBnN58bG

yup.. there's no more space left for you to breath.

41 Name: sora : 2006-10-05 16:42 ID:DBnN58bG

he practically owns you, at least that's how he wants things to be. to dominate you and answer to all of his whims.

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-05 23:44 ID:MEfKA5aI

hay guys, this im >>36 and this is my bf.

43 Name: sora : 2006-10-06 15:37 ID:DBnN58bG

you have to draw the line somewhere. you also have a life of your own and things you need to do by yourself. It's an unhealthy relationship, because it only goes to show that he doesn't trust you enough that he goes out of his way just to see to it that you're truthful to him.

44 Name: RinJan : 2006-10-07 02:03 ID:br7X7EBt

>>35

Yo dawg the chick is sooooooo using you, just reject her.. remember man when going for chicks you cant give it your all YOU have to be HARD to get at times too! try it to see if she really needs you or not! good luck~

45 Name: (;´Д`) : 2006-10-08 04:19 ID:s16WguOp

I'm really curious about a lot of things, like relationships, sex, and whatnot. I feel as though if I don't do something soon, it won't ever happen. Kind of makes me worry a bit.

But overall, I'm honestly fine about being single right now. I'm a full-time college student with a part-time job - throwing women in the mix would probably lead to destruction.

46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-08 06:57 ID:O5rlkacl

>>45 Even if you don't use it, you won't lose it. Reading about your curiosity reminded me of "The 40-yr Old Virgin."

47 Name: (;´Д`) : 2006-10-08 14:54 ID:NYsh1M++

>>46

See, I never actually got to watch that movie. Should I?

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-08 15:58 ID:O5rlkacl

>>47 I've watched it about 5 times, and it's still surprisingly a bit entertaining.

49 Name: Demian : 2006-10-13 16:12 ID:Flgnl/w1

Benoisto ka.....

long time, long time indeed. I feel sorry that you had a depression recently. Hopefully it wasn't that seriously detrimental to your life. Tell me about your story.

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-14 04:31 ID:tFsS4Jsf

im about to head out to a party. wish me luck!

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-16 06:46 ID:7DKvW4C6

So did you score?

52 Name: 50 : 2006-10-16 17:15 ID:tFsS4Jsf

unfortunately yes. beer googles + low light = ugly morning suprise.

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-18 19:02 ID:xn7aLLzO

Someday I will go to a party and get drunk. Today is not that day.

Doesn't stop me from feeling extreme envy whenever I see a happy couple, though.

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-22 07:43 ID:Heaven

love isn't everything. I'm done with it. There are other things in life.

55 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 12:42 ID:Flgnl/w1

does anyone have experience in quitting masturbation?

I'm trying, but I'm going nuts over it. any suggestions to make it more easy?

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 15:31 ID:14T/7Iiy

>>55
Just keep busy. Pursue hobbies and make goals for yourself. The urge to fap really is short lived, so even a short activity like a crossword puzzle or something could help you. If you need something physical, you could always exercise or something.

57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 18:50 ID:Heaven

>>55
Why would you quit masturbation?

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-23 20:30 ID:9NKvQRDn

>>57
'cause it drains energy that you could use on other activities. Besides, theres a psychological effect to consider too. You know all too well its not "the real thing" and it makes you feel bad in the end, despite the momentary relief.

59 Name: Notch : 2006-10-23 23:57 ID:mAVARCuz

It doesnt drain energy. Thats an OLD OLD wives tale. Like the boxer who doesnt fok before the fight..... "IT" doesnt make you feel bad afterwards, its fucked up issues that make you feel bad after you do it. Its not supposed to be the real thing any more than having sex with someone you are dating is suposed to be having sex with someone you are married to ( what many consider the only real thing)

60 Name: Notch : 2006-10-23 23:57 ID:mAVARCuz

It doesnt drain energy. Thats an OLD OLD wives tale. Like the boxer who doesnt fok before the fight..... "IT" doesnt make you feel bad afterwards, its fucked up issues that make you feel bad after you do it. Its not supposed to be the real thing any more than having sex with someone you are dating is suposed to be having sex with someone you are married to ( what many consider the only real thing)

61 Name: Notch : 2006-10-23 23:58 ID:mAVARCuz

ooops

62 Name: Notch : 2006-10-23 23:58 ID:mAVARCuz

ooops

63 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-25 19:28 ID:tB1Z5RSO

I'm sure the people posting here prefer to find someone they could love instead of masturbating ! lol ! It's not a solution for me against being single ! But when you are shy, It's so difficult to meet someone... Is meeting website the only solution for people like us ?

64 Name: mina-kun : 2006-10-26 02:04 ID:c17EARAg

I think that just because you are shy doesn't mean you won't meet someone IRL...And even if meeting someone from the net is the "only solution", what is wrong with that? Tell me. You are a normal person sitting behind their computer screen. A girl who you pass by on a street could be doing the same thing (as in, using a computer to chat). It's just a tool to facilitate making friends and finding partners. Sure there are creeps on the net. But, there are creeps IRL, too. And last time I checked, it's alot harder to be raped through your computer screen.

65 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-26 05:10 ID:Heaven

>And last time I checked, it's alot harder to be raped through your computer screen.

Soon, though. I'm working on it.

66 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-26 06:09 ID:ttHS+vTm

>>64 But don't you think today when you tell someone how you meet your girlfriend (by internet), people judge you like if Internet is not the right way to find someone ! I'm feeling that they think i've not chosen the correct way to find a girl ! There is sort of taboo about meeting someone from the net

67 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-26 14:16 ID:IxV/hXfi

Yeah but when you tell your children how you met each other they wont be surprised. Things change, and this looks like it could be one of them. The enormous number of people using the interweb for this alone supports this.

68 Name: Minarin : 2006-10-26 14:52 ID:2QdICcd0

>>66

Oh for sure people will judge you. ...What is your point? If you meet a girl who's all yay and you're all happy and things work out well, what the hell does it matter if moronic idiots are gonna say, "Oh, you met her on the net?! OMG!" They have no argument or valid reason for judging you. You shouldn't care. I know it's hard...but I really don't think it matters. The only thing you have to say to rebound their stupid judging is, "I'm happy."

Aww, there is no "correct way to find a girl". If you meet someone on the net, it's FINE. Why do you think all those online internet dating site are so popular? Lots of people do it and I think it's great ^__^ I really like the idea of online dating because you start to like the PERSONALITY rather than going to a bar and liking the girl for her looks alone. Like of course with ICL (inchatlife), you'll eventually get closer and ask for pictures...use microphone and one day meet. I think it is a good way to get to know the person and establish a friendship.

69 Name: keiko : 2006-10-26 14:55 ID:2QdICcd0

>>67

yeah, agreed. not that it even matters how you met, anyway. like, arranged marriages!

70 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-26 15:53 ID:Heaven

Single here.

The funny thing is, I've been giving sensible advice on this board since around the time it was made ...but I really have no courage to follow any of my own advice. orz

It's so easy to encourage and advise other people, but my mind practically freezes up when it comes to myself.

71 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-26 19:31 ID:Heaven

>>69
even in arrange marriages even if you dont see the other person, your parents or relatives do. and parents do have sense of taste. buts looks always matters, you can have an awesome personality but if your looks arent at their standards then they will tell you to fuck off.

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 03:25 ID:YcS4DGN8

I hate being fucking single. Fuck all those bitches who won't give guys like us a chance.

73 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 03:54 ID:IsPDHeG9

>>72

Maybe you're going for the wrong girls? I'd totally give you a chance if you didn't sound so...mean.

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 04:14 ID:tFsS4Jsf

would you give me a chance?

75 Name: battosai : 2006-11-01 13:17 ID:DXMEYc2Y

moeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

76 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 16:40 ID:89jyxewf

>>74

Only if you live in Florida. I'm too horny for long distance relationships (haha?)

77 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 19:56 ID:tFsS4Jsf

actually i live in jacksonvile

78 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 21:03 ID:2pYZGu86

oshi--

79 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 22:50 ID:N+oBES6X

I am so glad I am Indian because I have arranged marriage to fall back on.

80 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-01 23:26 ID:89jyxewf

>>77

You're kidding me! I do too. Well, it's closer to Orange Park, but it's technically Jacksonville. I'm currently going to UF though, so I'm rarely home.

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-02 00:26 ID:tFsS4Jsf

This is weird. I live literally live right across the river on Mandarin. But I go to school in NC so I seriously doubt a meeting.

82 Name: Strawberry Cake : 2006-11-02 01:37 ID:h4lSicz/

Where are all the nice geeky guys around here? Heck, I'll even take a girl. Stupid New York and all these ghetto people. Curse my shyness too.

83 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-02 05:16 ID:Heaven

Where are all the nice geeky girls around here? Heck, I'll even take a... wait, no I wouldn't. Stupid Riverside county and all these old people. Curse my shyness too.

84 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 04:48 ID:JKrWk7bS

>>80
It would be funny if a couple actually met on this board.

85 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 04:49 ID:JKrWk7bS

In other news, GRRR I'VE NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND AND IT'S MAKING ME INCREASINGLY ENRAGED

86 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 06:52 ID:XidmfKOq

>>84
Yeah, it would. Why didn't we think of hooking up with each other before??

87 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 10:21 ID:Flgnl/w1

Arr,,, Same here, >>85, and worse, I keep attracting gay people!
(And I don't like that)

88 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-04 01:12 ID:pTU9P+r8

>>87
Haha, I hear you! Ours is a sad fate..

89 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-04 05:12 ID:dY/Lvv7X

>>85
In other news, GRRR I'VE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND AND IT'S MAKING ME INCREASINGLY ENRAGED

lol. i don't give a crap actually, but it does bug me that i'm one of those "little sister" girls. seriously, all the guys i've ever met always try to become my role model or something.

90 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-04 11:42 ID:Flgnl/w1

so how old are you?

91 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-04 13:42 ID:dY/Lvv7X

>>90
I'm 17, but I look like I'm 14 =/

92 Post deleted by moderator.

93 Name: 85 : 2006-11-05 00:18 ID:eH3jtR26

>>91
Rest assured, there are guys out there who would treat you as an equal. Based on how I act towards girls who are younger or shorter than me, I think I would count myself among them. (But unless if you live in Minnesota or Massachusetts, I don't think I could be your boyfriend.) You should probably look for the shy kind of person, not necessarily a geek, but someone who you have to approach yourself and invite him somewhere. Taking the initiative would at least show that you're not interested in a senpai-kouhai sort of thing.

94 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-11-05 03:12 ID:eTKT5MnI

I've only had one girlfriend in my whole life and the worst thing was is that it was a long distance relationship. From the start i knew it wouldn't last long and I ended up being correct.Ahhh......This boring life of mine.....what to do.

95 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 06:34 ID:Heaven

>>93

How the hell do you know if she wants a boyfriend?

Don't ever take yourself from granted and entitle yourself to being a potential boyfriend of hers just because she says she don't have a boyfriend. It's like you think she needs boyfriend like you without her consent and acknowledgement, you simply went ahead and condescendingly said that you can't be her boyfriend under your bullshit conditions. Do you think she would give a fuck about you? Who do you think you are? talking like you already claimed her without her permission. It's fucking rude!

Ironically that you said there are people who would treat her equally, who admit being her potential boyfriend?

This is coming from a guy like me.

>>94

What to do? Go and kill yourself.

There needs less people like you who only think about getting a girlfriend and having sex.

96 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 09:04 ID:dY/Lvv7X

>>95
Haha, you are a hoot :p. I think I saw you flaming Mireille Guy in that other thread lol. He deserves a kick up the ass once in a while though.

It's true, I'm not actively looking for a bf. I'm more of a take-things-as-they-come person. But at the same time I guess I don't like how guys see me as a cute thing to pat/teach/protect. I mean it was okay for a while, but not at this age. Before you suggest anything about acting/dressing more maturely, I can tell you I've tried that, and people become strangely intimidated. Ah well, watchu gonna do. But I will keep that in mind >>93, if I ever decide to go bf-hunting =/.

97 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 16:09 ID:Flgnl/w1

true that, same shitty grammar, and completely overreacting on something wholly besides the point anyway.

Nothing useful to add to the thread though. So yeah, with 17, you can be my little sister. (younger than the other ones I have, actually)

98 Name: 85 : 2006-11-05 18:14 ID:RovYsMZ7

>>95

>How the hell do you know if she wants a boyfriend?
>Singles Rant Thread

Just guessin.

99 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 18:51 ID:YcS4DGN8

you're only 17. There are plenty of use here in our 20's who have no love experience. Consider yourself fortunate.

100 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 20:25 ID:Heaven

>>99
Amen, hallelujah, peanut butter.

101 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-05 22:16 ID:Pwk6LORN

I am 18 years old and have never been in a relationship. Throughout high school I was slightly over-weight and never gave too much thought about my personal appearance, by the time I was ready for a relationship I felt it would be impossible due to the hole I had dug myself. With college approaching I saw it as an oppurtunity to start over. I decided to get in shape in an effort to re-invent myself and finally meet someone. I am now a commuter in a large state school and have been attending class for three months. I have yet to make one friend, male or female, since I started college. Even with my "new" body I still don't have the confidence, experience, or knowledge to approach a girl. In high school most of my friends would meet girls at parties, but I don't drink and feel very akward and nervous in these situations, not to mention I don't even have any friends to go to these parties with right now. I am a total romantic and being completely alone like this has left me so depressed. I feel so hopeless.

102 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-06 00:45 ID:8mQI81kv

>>101
My freshmen college experience was similar. But I found that the major difference between sophomore and freshmen year is that you know almost everyone. Talk to your classmates that are in the same program, join clubs that have girls, socialize as much as possible. Over time it will get better.

103 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-06 15:36 ID:Flgnl/w1

and start drinking.

104 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-06 22:08 ID:Heaven

I'm not exactly single at the moment but at the same time I can't say I have a "girfriend" of some sorts. Special situation, and all i can say about is FUCK SHIT GODDAMN HELL I AM FRUSTRATED.

:(

105 Name: 104 : 2006-11-06 23:13 ID:Heaven

okay I had a talk with her and i'm not so frustrated anymore phew

106 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-06 23:48 ID:Heaven

>>102

Sort of good to hear, I'm glad someone got out of the position I am currently stuck in.

>>103

Lots of alcoholism in my family, I was planning to avoid the stuff completely.

107 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-07 06:33 ID:tFsS4Jsf

I was in the library looking for a desk to sit down and study in and noticed an empty one with a cute girl next to it. As I got closer and I noticed that the girl was the same girl I asked about and got rejected from. So I went to another desk.

108 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-07 13:27 ID:Flgnl/w1

I can feel where you're coming from, 107. Still, why not just sit there? its a small, small world!

109 Name: 107 : 2006-11-07 15:33 ID:tFsS4Jsf

>>108

I had a big exam coming up, I didn't need any distractions.

110 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-07 22:12 ID:5ZVchPGp

Know know what's frustrating? You go to same with school for 9 years with a very sweet girl who's been showing interest for that whole time. One time she confessed through her friend. What I did? Walked away with a "meh". WHY, god, WHY? ;_; There were other instances where she hinted she wanted to get close. Just walked away every single time there was a change. End of comprehensive school was last time I ever saw her. -.-

I'm 21 now and never dated.

111 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-08 02:44 ID:tFsS4Jsf

I know that feeling. We went to school together for a few years, she moved away and I realized what I missed out on. To add insult to injury I found out my friend is her cousin. But its too late for anything now.

112 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-08 03:38 ID:4cJA8z8C

Reminds me of how in high school a girl I liked cam over to me and asked "Are you dating anyone?" I thought "Wow, is she asking me out? Yay!" and said, "No, why?"

She then said "Oh, my friend was curious," and I responded "Oh... okay." She then ran off shyly.

It was only years later that I considered the fact maybe she was asking for herself after all, and possibly just using her friend as an excuse. I probably should have said something like "Oh, I was hoping it was you who were interested." But yeah, way too late to do anything now.

And then there was the time my school had an anonymous Valentine's day thing going on. You paid like 50 cents, and they left an anonymous Valentine on your crushes desk along with any messages you wanted on it.

unfortunately, I was friends with some of the people running it, so I would have admitted to them that I liked the girl, and it would have defeated the whole purpose. So I passed on it.

>I'm 21 now and never dated.

113 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-08 15:05 ID:2UThTxj8

About 6 months ago, I went out with this girl whom I would consider my dream girl. We went out for about a month. However, due to work stress and bad timing, it didn't quite work out. We stopped going out together but we still see each other in school.

I still have feelings for her but i'm afraid of asking her out again in case she rejects me. Everytime i see her in school she'll flash me her radiant smile and i'll go all weak in the knees. I really want to try it again with her but i'm really scared she'll just reject me and then won't even want to be friends with me.

The thing is, during that one month while i was with her, I gave her a rose in a glass jar which is suppose to be everlasting. I told her that if she likes me she'll always keep it by her side. Recently, I found out that she still has that rose on her study table.

I wonder if this means i still have a chance or it means nothing. Either way.. i still feel weak whenever i'm anywhere near her....

114 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-08 15:07 ID:NiJhnEWF

>>112 Thats the way life is. There are many missed chances which we all end up regretting later... If only we could turn back time...

115 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-08 23:09 ID:14T/7Iiy

>>112
Don't worry. You're not alone... I know that doesn't really help too much. I'm 22! Just make sure you recognize the next chance a bit faster, eh? Live and learn... after messing up many many times...

116 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 00:15 ID:h4lSicz/

>>113
I think you should go for it! If things seem better now, maybe it could work. She still has the rose, it seems, y'know? If I liked someone enough, I know I'd keep such a special gift from them close. If not full out ask her out again, then just talk to her and see if she's even interested in the idea. What do you have to lose, really? Who's to say she won't want to still be your friend if rejected? For all you know, maybe she does want to get back together.

117 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 01:18 ID:2UThTxj8

>>115
I totally agree with what 115 said. What matters now is that you don't repeat the same mistakes! But then... sometimes its not very easy not to repeat the same mistakes... When opportunit comes, the window of opportunity does not open long..

118 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 01:25 ID:NwC3hLgq

>>116
Thanks for your advise.. Next time i see her online i'll try to ask her out.. I'm really scared but like they say nothing ventured nothing gained... I think...

I can't call her because the last time i tried calling her to invite her to my student committee investiture i ended up mumbling nonsense... And i don't think i can ask her in person too cause the last time i tried to give her something i ended up throwing it at her and it hit her face... i can never forget that embarassing incident.

She was complaining that she had gastric pains because she wasn't eating right and she was stressed over the exams.. I decided to get her a pack of antacids to clear the gastric.. i included a nice letter to go with it. I wanted to give it to her after our morning lecture.. however, while i was walking towards her.. she saw me and give me that killer smile again.. i panicked and just threw the whole package at her... sad to say.. it hit her face cause she wasn't aware that i was going to throw anything at her... I felt so stupid after that...

But she did send me a thank you message afterwards... I feel very hopeless...

119 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 02:23 ID:2UThTxj8

Arghhhhh!!!! Before i could message her online she already message me first... chatting with her online now!!! Talking about the past semester in school... What should i do? What should i say to ask her out!!!!!??????

120 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 03:16 ID:ibLc2FMU

Finished talking to her online already.. and i still have not asked her out... how come with other girls i don't have a problem asking them out or even flirting with them... but with her i can't do it... very frustrating!!!

121 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-09 13:29 ID:3ydnUOjc

>>120 You're afraid. Afraid that if you screw up, you'll lose her forever. You're in sence are comfortable in the relatationship you have with her. That's why kiddo.

122 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-14 05:20 ID:fBW/THoy

>>120
ask her out!

123 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 15:01 ID:Flgnl/w1

on another note, I'm still single and have always been.

124 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 01:09 ID:h4lSicz/

Single and lonely here.. --;

125 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 10:16 ID:xNv7vLGR

Remember guys that all those missed chances will come back and haunt you when you're about to do anything similar again. Live and learn and all that.

126 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 18:41 ID:ToZ37/1N

I'm gay, and I fell in love with a straight guy. Again. This is really fucking me up.

127 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 18:57 ID:PoG8vvGx

>>126 Alcohol + a nice stary night and..who knows |_|

128 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 19:34 ID:tFsS4Jsf

>>127

You will need a lot of alcohol to make a straight guy gay for the night

129 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-18 15:02 ID:Flgnl/w1

why is it that I keep attracting gay guys? its hardly something I desire for. I could do with some attracting the nice girls. I need to change something about my personality, I guess. Perhaps make more dumb comments like 'check THAT ass,' or 'I could bang HER.' Personally, I'd go for 'Wow, those are some hefty supply curves over there... That's gonna raise some serious demand! (uhuh uhuh uhuh...)'

But seriously, I need to get rid of the gay-vibes.... without becoming an asshole.

130 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-18 16:44 ID:14T/7Iiy

>>126 <3 >>129??

Hey, lately I've been going through something very strange. I guess I'm just feeling desperate but, I really want some physical contact with the other gender, even a hug would suffice. It's been like a little more than half a year or something. Maybe it's always been there, but I've been going to a new school where I don't have too many friends so that may be a factor. Does this ever happen to you, where you just need a hug?

131 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-18 16:55 ID:PoG8vvGx

>>130 I know the feeling.

132 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-19 16:54 ID:JWgvN9B5

I'm tired :(

133 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-19 20:33 ID:iFtTYJlZ

>>130
I felt that way for about a week this college term. Now I don't care about the physical contact as much as emotional contact. Age = years without girlfriend.

134 Name: >>130 : 2006-11-20 02:27 ID:14T/7Iiy

>>133
Same here... but I had friends who were girls and it was nice to do stuff with them... mainly stupid stuff like grocery shopping or cooking or just walking around with them. I guess, it's where I get my "fix."

135 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-11-20 13:42 ID:Og4yHFH3

So there is this girl and like, I like her.
I asked her out, and she said no.

However that was a month or two ago.

It sucks to know girls only in your class and that albino girl across the street.

Damn :(

136 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-20 14:32 ID:Flgnl/w1

Isn't it very usual to know people only in those places where you usually are? >>135?

137 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-11-20 15:15 ID:Og4yHFH3

>>136

No, like, there isn't much to choose from.

I don't really seek for a girlfriend right now. But I do think it would be wonderful to have one.

138 Name: Lonely Neko : 2006-11-20 17:59 ID:9eA5vadD

Can anyone tell me how do I know if someone had crush on me?

139 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-20 19:42 ID:tFsS4Jsf

If we knew the answer to that question, we wouldn't be here complaining about being single.

140 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-20 21:47 ID:14T/7Iiy

>>138
Well, if you had one, most likely you'd find yourself liking a particular something about that person. It could be looks, or personality, but only a very shallow basis. Be objective and truthful.

141 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-22 06:45 ID:O5rlkacl

>>138

Usually if the person attempts to contact you unnecessarily and asks you to hang out, they like you. For instance, if someone you meet in class asks you to study with them despite you being a complete dumbass, then most of the time, they like you. Got any specific questions? What's your situation?

142 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-22 09:20 ID:JWgvN9B5

There's this cute girl in one of my classes. I wonder if anything will happen. Probably not but it's always nice to consider "what if".

143 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 04:10 ID:O5rlkacl

Have you talked to this "cute girl"? You should go for it! What can you lose?

144 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 10:05 ID:TmxygP4B

_|¯|O

145 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 10:08 ID:rO1TruoY

go for it

146 Name: Mion Sonozaki, Rosa gallica!Mionic/thQ : 2006-11-23 12:05 ID:0xgaKQbU

So I herd this was a singles rant thread...

147 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 12:38 ID:wPSfneuh

yeah all of us mostly i think _| ̄|○

148 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-24 04:21 ID:Heaven

ugh. theres someone i'm completely in love with, but for certain reasons (damn sexual orientation) i can never have. i thought i was starting to get over him, but i saw him today. it was only for about 30 seconds. and, yeah, i'm really not over him.

149 Name: yuka : 2006-11-24 16:26 ID:Vu77LmwM

>>148 You and I have the same situation! And the weird part is, I have a boyfriend.

150 Name: carn : 2006-11-24 20:48 ID:fn+b3L5U

yuka, how long have you been with this new guy? maybe its not too late to go back to the one you love?

151 Name: yuka : 2006-11-25 00:08 ID:fK957TX4

>>150 I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. Almost three.

The only reason my feelings come back for him is when I see him somewhere. Like a Highschool party my friends planned.
*we're in college

152 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-25 00:55 ID:cRfRlKfD

>>151

Three years is along time with this guy to still have feelings for an ex. Interesting.

153 Name: yugge!!A+9hpX0x : 2006-11-25 00:58 ID:3OerPoYh

indeed.. Bu I bet you have the same feelings for your boyfrinde too, right >>151?

154 Name: yuka : 2006-11-25 01:31 ID:fK957TX4

>>152 He isn't really my ex. He's my highschool crush whom I fell in love with. I'm getting over him though!

>>153 Of course I do!

155 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-30 23:00 ID:6O8oXDU0

>>148

If I can add a suggestion, however pathetic, As long as you dont constantly think about him every waking minute it should be fine, no?

156 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-12-03 18:35 ID:FqGxqD9i

L&R.

I entered a band.

I wonder, will I become popular? Will I succeed?
Perhaps one day, I will find the one. On the stage.

tl;dr/decode: I entered a band. I feel good.
Too bad I feel that our band will fail hardcore. But if we get on the stage one day, then I will scream SUCCESS and my quest for loves will finally get a jumpstart. Get its engine going.

157 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-06 07:06 ID:CfOVS/Ij

So lonely. OTL

158 Name: sora : 2006-12-06 08:01 ID:DBnN58bG

>>157

yup, we are.

159 Name: yuka : 2006-12-07 01:29 ID:1LHTL+iU

>>156 YOU NEED HAPPY PILLS!

I'm depressed too. :(

160 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 03:28 ID:4cJA8z8C

I've been so horny recently.

There have been times (like right now) where I can't even focus on getting homework done, because I'm thinking SEX SEX SEX SEX.

However, I'm a virgen, single, and won't have sex with just any one. Porn and masturbation is useless, as my body seems to be craving real physical contact. This sucks. I mean, I've always heard how guys are horny all the time but have never really felt that way myself until now.

I'm 21, by the way.

161 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 05:55 ID:tFsS4Jsf

>There have been times (like right now) where I can't even focus on getting homework done, because I'm thinking SEX SEX SEX SEX.

Funny story...

I was and currently am studying in the library for finals that start in like 7 hours. And about 45 minutes ago 4 dudes and 2 girls start running around the library naked for the 'Midnight Study Break.' One girl had nice titties too. But it wasn't really sexy, just plain hilarious. One of the girls got tackled by one of the security guards and flew like 20 feet, but she was able to get away. One dude got caught though.

162 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-08 17:57 ID:M6AEqzM8

>>160 I bet >>160 helped you with that story, eh?

(sexsexsexsex)

163 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-10 07:37 ID:FD6MtgDs

Hi, I'm 24 and I'm currently working part time in a grocery store, while attending classes. I'm single, obviously duh and I have a question to ask. I'm very shy, skinny, and pretty much look like a huge geek. The area that I am currently living in consist of mostly 72% white and 26% black... the rest are other. My question is, while working at the store, ocassionaly I find very cute girls shopping groceries, being really shy I don't know how I am able to strike up a conversation or approach her.. how would I even know if she's taken or not.

164 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-10 10:09 ID:ok5Xh4iM

Don't let your boss see you trying to pick up girls while working.

165 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-10 11:57 ID:M6AEqzM8

>>163, If you don't like your body, change it. The few first months of weight lifting make a huge difference, it'll slow down then, but you'll definitely feel more confident about your looks pretty fast.
If you're working in a store then the hard bit is already over, the girl has come to you, and is forced to interact with you somehow. Don't worry about them being taken or not, they aren't going to start hitting you because you hit on them when they've got a boyfriend..
Now for the actual conversation bit...I'd suggest smiling mostly, wait for a smile back, then..."Nice weather, don't you think?"

Nah, not really, anyone got any ideas....?

166 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-10 20:25 ID:6LVhuUNb

I tried to fuck a fat ugly girl, but didn't even feel anything while fucking. He went limp and refused to work.

She wasn't all that ugly and fat, but I still didn't feel anything while doing it. I don't even know why I did it, she didn't even turn me on.

This was my first time. A pretty scarring trauma.

167 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-11 00:19 ID:ndqdQS+E

>>166
That's why you can't settle for less than love. Stand up for your honor!

168 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 04:45 ID:CfOVS/Ij

So who else is going to be alone for the holidays? orz

169 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-12-20 08:47 ID:Xf+T/uRn

>>168

I will be with my family.. But no girl.

orz

I wonder if santa heard my.. true wish?

170 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 10:26 ID:MvW6fVzV

>>169
same here. At least it's more than some have.

171 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-20 19:45 ID:Heaven

>>168

raises hand I'll be without my family too, but only partly by choice. My aunt's kicking me out of the house from the 25th to the 29th because her son is coming in and he wouldn't have a place to stay otherwise. I guess it's only fair, but that's still 3 nights I'll have to spend somewhere else (probably on the street, to be honest).

But back on topic, I'm single and will continue to be for the forseeable future. The only two girls I had a chance with both hated me (or at least one of them does, apparently the other girl doesn't as of last night.. confusing -_-)

172 Name: Mr.Feather : 2006-12-22 00:03 ID:JcQLqKJD

Hello there internet people
Quick question fer the masses.
First of all, i have horrible luck with gals and such, I'm quite shy and what not.
Now i got a new job a month ago, and soon after i started a gal started and we quickly hit it off. Im very quiet with people i dont know so i found it suprising how close we had gotten in two days. Now what got me wondering about things is that she always brings up the subject of me having a girlfriend, which i have yet to have (see shy and quiet) and why i dont have one. She is very touchy-feely and always a few inches away from me. My (overly gossipy) coworkers even thought we were goin out.
Now i suck at deciphering the gal codes (and spelling) so i cant tell if she flirty or just really nice. ALSO she has a boyfriend.
I'm moving across the country in a about a week and a half, and this weekend will most likely be the last time i see her for maybe ever with my sucky luck, so i just wonder what do you people think of the whole situation.
and yes of course, i am single in case you didnt notice.

173 Name: MrFeather : 2006-12-22 00:06 ID:JcQLqKJD

Hello there internet people
Quick question fer the masses.
First of all, i have horrible luck with gals and such, I'm quite shy and what not.
Now i got a new job a month ago, and soon after i started a gal started and we quickly hit it off. Im very quiet with people i dont know so i found it suprising how close we had gotten in two days. Now what got me wondering about things is that she always brings up the subject of me having a girlfriend, which i have yet to have (see shy and quiet) and why i dont have one. She is very touchy-feely and always a few inches away from me. My (overly gossipy) coworkers even thought we were goin out.
Now i suck at deciphering the gal codes (and spelling) so i cant tell if she flirty or just really nice. ALSO she has a boyfriend.
I'm moving across the country in a about a week and a half, and this weekend will most likely be the last time i see her for maybe ever with my sucky luck, so i just wonder what do you people think of the whole situation.

174 Name: MrFeather : 2006-12-22 00:08 ID:JcQLqKJD

Hello there internet people
Quick question fer the masses.
First of all, i have horrible luck with gals and such, I'm quite shy and what not.
Now i got a new job a month ago, and soon after i started a gal started and we quickly hit it off. Im very quiet with people i dont know so i found it suprising how close we had gotten in two days. Now what got me wondering about things is that she always brings up the subject of me having a girlfriend, which i have yet to have (see shy and quiet) and why i dont have one. She is very touchy-feely and always a few inches away from me. My (overly gossipy) coworkers even thought we were goin out.
Now i suck at deciphering the gal codes (and spelling) so i cant tell if she flirty or just really nice. ALSO she has a boyfriend.
I'm moving across the country in a about a week and a half, and this weekend will most likely be the last time i see her for maybe ever with my sucky luck, so i just wonder what do you people think of the whole situation.
and if you didnt realize, i am single now, as i have always been

175 Name: MrFeather : 2006-12-22 00:09 ID:JcQLqKJD

crap im sorry, it seems i dont know how to properly post. Excuse my stupidness

176 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 01:59 ID:Heaven

>>174 If you're never moving back it's probably a pointless thing to chase after...

177 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 04:22 ID:DBnN58bG

>>174 thing is she wanted to find out if you're single or not that is why she's probing too much of you having a gf in a subtle way. but she has a bf and you're going a way so there isn't much left to hope for. better move along.

178 Name: Mr.Feather : 2006-12-22 04:38 ID:ziEsFOG9

yea i figured so, I was just being curious. She did make work alot better though. nod

179 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-22 07:03 ID:Heaven

As soon as I was able to condition myself that I don't need a girlfriend, my friend mentions that a girlfriend will be my only savior for school. I have stressed out lately and I have no way to get rid of it. Since I don't drink or do drugs, he said that the only thing I can do is to get a girlfriend. HE said a girlfriend will just help relax me by having someone to talk to, hang out with, etc. I don't want to believe him, but deep down inside the tiny ember of hope just started a new fire. Ah fuck, months of work down the drain.

</rant>

180 Name: lost hope : 2006-12-23 21:54 ID:OAoHGbTY

hey everyone;
I'm new to the website, but I have been single for two to three years now. I tried to look for love, but all the girls i know only say that they want to be friends. Man, this sucks. I get the feeling that people only see me as a friend and I may never have a girlfriend again.

181 Name: Klaymen : 2006-12-24 03:59 ID:aChttVHV

Hi, i have been single most of my life and my problem is I get too bored of the girls I have had a defined relationship with. I am great with close friends and have been in love once (it was unrequited) but i just can't seem to get a good relationship cause I can never get the girl I want

182 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-27 05:44 ID:CfOVS/Ij

>>180
Welcome to the club. orz

183 Name: warez otoko : 2006-12-27 16:29 ID:k/GWj9/q

The only girl I had lasted less than 4 months, I found her on a website for social phobics and she's even more desperate than me. I wish I could have a normal life with a normal woman like everyone else.

184 Name: Oily Skin : 2006-12-27 16:56 ID:atzN3A5l

Mr warez otoko dude! do you really think anyone on this site has a "normal life" NAAA! but a pointer for you. start talkig to girls about everything and just be nice to everyone you meet, who know maybe they have a hot sister on a girl friends that you could meet :)

185 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-28 03:23 ID:8ehJJ5mz

I feel both lucky and unlucky at the same time. I'm a girl who would probably opt for a hikkimori lifestyle if I could, though I can't possibly afford that lifestyle. I have a few friends, one very good one that I love very much and some others. Most of my so-called friends drive me nuts, and my best friend, well, I talk to her through the internet mostly anyway. I've had three boyfriends in the past, though each had their own problems and had unique problems with me, so each parted with me for different reasons.

The thought that I'll never be successful in life keeps crossing my head. I know it's shallow of me, but as a kid I was hoping my parents would get me an arranged marriage to someone rich and then I'd never have to worry about anything. I do want to find my own success sometimes, but then other times I wonder what the point of it will be. You live and then you die; only a handful of people really make a tangible mark on the world, consider how many human beings have lived and died in all eternity. Would having someone to really love ever fill up that void of never being able to really leave a mark? What if the world ends all of a sudden? Wouldn't it be nice to have a story to tell before you die?

186 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-28 05:05 ID:qdC8CEvX

>>185

You are not alone, I am am the same type of girl.

As a child I also hoped my parents would arrange a marriage for me to someone rich. My cousin's Mother did just that for her, now she is set for life. I have always been jealous of that, her only worry in life is if the house is clean for her husband but she has two live-in housekeepers for that. Over the summer she came to America to visit us and her life sounded so perfect. She does not have to worry about having a successful life since she was married off to a successful man.

le sigh If only...

187 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-28 05:42 ID:h4lSicz/

>>186
But... is she happy? I mean, romanticly and all. It's one thing to be set in the money department and all, but to me it doesn't seem like much if one isn't happy romanticly with their partner, too. I'm just curious. ^^;

188 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-28 07:36 ID:qdC8CEvX

>>187 Actually, she does seem pretty happy. She just gave birth to their third child and she seems very pleased with the life that he has provided for her. He is a very kind man and is very attentive to her needs.

Of course no all arranged marriages are like this, but this is one experience.

189 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-28 22:12 ID:dXawG73X

hey, i'm a single guy, 24 years old. check out my videos and see if you like me!!!

www.youtube.com/jdrw5

190 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-29 10:02 ID:8ehJJ5mz

>>186

Yeah, my own parents were arranged, and it kinda flopped. Still, my mom's very intelligent and I trust her judgement, so an arranged marriage really wouldn't bother me at all since my parents are picking. Really, it's your parents that make the difference when it comes to arranged marriages.

I guess it's just wanting the easy road...ah, but as long as you're successful and able to support yourself somehow, I suppose it's alright to be single. It's just lonely.:(

191 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-10 16:14 ID:l3mqlyFX

20 years old and 20 years with out a girl.... talk about depressin _|¯|O still guess thats the same with most of the people here

192 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-10 20:13 ID:TKt4ha+3

>>185

The world's not all that bad, life can still be fun. Find something that you enjoy doing, and do it. Life is hard, but if you just give up, you'll lose everything that you could ever make out of your life and just throw away the luck that you were given a life.

193 Name: TEENAGER : 2007-01-10 20:45 ID:Heaven

So I bumped into an albino girl (Or she bumped into me from the behind) whom I rarely see outside the summer vacation.
It felt odd, because the air seems to be real tense around her.
I think if I once again see her, I will try to do something.

That is all.

194 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-10 23:12 ID:KVMnAAMJ

Posted this on an other thread. No replies, thought I'll try here.

Once I get to know a guy a little more I end up liking them (initially I'd never found them attractive). All of a sudden it develops into a small physical attraction and I start noticing little traits about them. I'm a pretty shy girl when it comes to revealing my feelings, and I don't flirt as such, so I'm not just horny or whatever. Usually this attraction doesn't end up anywhere, cos I'm pretty good at burying my feelings. It's just that it's happened so many times with almost every guy friend I have.

Is this normal? Do other people get physically attracted as easily as I do?

195 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-11 02:05 ID:/jeq0JPp

I understand exactly what most of the people in this thread are going through. I thought I would never have a girlfriend and die cold and alone. But somehow when I turned 20 my love life blossomed, though it was painful. First girl I ever dated was a high school girl who didn't want to commit (I'm in college), that ended quick. Second was a college chick whom I met at a Dance Dance Revolution club on campus, she's psycho and dumped me 2 months later. My third (and thankfully final) relationship happened a few months ago, she and I are unofficialy engaged and are set to get married after college. Its not everyday a girl tells you "I want to have your baby", I can tell you its a special feeling that I believe each and every one of you will feel if you try harder.

I'm not bragging, I'm just proving a point that I've been there, done that, and lived on, and so can you. My advice: be more social. Its how you meet people. If a girl shows some interest, be confident and kinda halfway show interest in her, make fun of her, tease her, yet be nice and complimentary when it counts. It will come naturally, I found that out the hard way.

And above all, the worst mistake you guys can make : letting your depression rule your life. If you dont' improve your attitudes (this is a general rule, I'm not pointing fingers), you'll come off as whiney and undsesirable. For the men, women crave confidence more than anything, if you're complaining all the time or appologizing all the time like I used to, you wont' come off as such and most women will reject you. For the women, guys like attention more than anything else too. If you have any interest in a guy, ask him out instead, turn the tables on him, I seriously doubt he'll say no. And to both groups: If you can't love yourself, you can't love anybody. Keep that in mind. Don't focus on the negative so much. Focus on self improvement and being confident in what you do, you'll catch the eye of your special some one someday. I always believed that would happen and it ended up happening to me, theres absolutely no reason why it shouldn't happen to you.

Flame me if you wish, but thats what I have to say about things. Good luck everyone! Keep trying!

196 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-11 05:14 ID:qIqvUyZv

but the funny thing is you can find genius scientists who were really depressed for entire life
now i came to realized that is not necessarilly bad for scientists at leat

197 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-11 11:37 ID:Zh+l0W8h

>>195

>And above all, the worst mistake you guys can make : letting your depression rule your life.

This is possibly the best advice posted in this thread yet, and everyone here should listen to it. Unfortunately, this includes myself. My biggest problem is my almost complete lack of self-esteem. I do not have a positive view of my physical self (despite the fact that I've been told by many girls that there's no reason for this), and a very low opinion of my mental self as well (dumb, no skills, etc).

But I realize that this is going to have to change. For example, I'm trying (however slowly) to get into shape. I'm somewhat overweight now, however not morbidly obese by any means. The next step after that is start doing something useful with my life (I am currently NEET.) That's probably going to be "get back into school", but I'm not sure.

After that, I hope things just happen naturally.

198 Name: warez otoko : 2007-01-11 22:43 ID:O8RsOlnn

I'm not single guys, I love Ayanami Rei with all my heart.... I love you Rei... I always will... Rei I'm so sorry I went with a real girl for 3 months .. but now I'm so happy I'm with you again... I'll never leave you anymore Rei I love you with all my heart :**

199 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-12 11:12 ID:qHuBqpe9

>>194

well i was once like this, people see me as a wild happy-go-lucky funny girl but i easily break inside. i also dont let people see through me. maybe i'm shy, i dunno

nyway, that's the same for me too, i thought at first I was just so desperate in having someone to hold me in their arms that I feel this way, or maybe I was. after I accidentally found out that one of my guy friends likes me but just too scared to tell me because he thinks I'll dump him, not only that guy friend, many others too, magic that they get the same impression i'll dump em all. AFTER that everything abt my feeling for every boy went poof

200 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-13 01:42 ID:Heaven

If you don't like the world you are in and not liking your existence. I doubt there is anything you could do but end your existence. You could suffer, be unhappy and live alone for the rest of life to old age.

I believe there's nothing one could do if you think like that.

201 Name: born to suffer : 2007-01-13 23:10 ID:5pa6vE8K

i don't think that is true mon, if one hates the world he can still live in his own fantasies, which i don't mean masturbating all day, i mean anime, manga, v.games, bookz and stuff. in tihs world one has to earn a living, but the rest is optional remember that mon.. u can do whatever the fuck u want and tell others to go and fuck their mutters if they don't like u
i've been a geek all my life and i loved my geeky life as much as i hated the stupid ppl of the 'normal' world
liek Ayanami, she doesn't exist in reality but she's in my heart, my heart is a temple where Ayanami resides, with Lacus Clyne, Nausicaa and all the others, and i love them all and they love me.
so taht's why i thnink one should'nt kill oneself, when all else is went to fuck, heterh's still oru inner world which can save us from damnation
i love you rei..

202 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-14 02:57 ID:pY9PA1TJ

I had the first date of my life before last christmas. I want to tell about it now. It was very nice, yes. Was it love that peeked down from the sky on us? What a precious time it was to share these lovely hours with my date. I may finally have an inkling about what those silly romance movies want to depict. I am thankful. For the rest of the day I could hardly think about anything else, my first date. I didn't wave goodbye on the train platform. stupid.

On the plane that night, nearing my home on the other side of the world, all those wonderful impressions were still celebrating together. We shall meet again. I sometimes wonder what my feelings are, if they are love. We did get closer, that's for sure. We each found that we enjoyed our time together, did we not? If only we would have had more time together to explore what could have been. I remain uncertain about us. Still I am happy for the time we had.

And I miss you...

203 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-14 03:02 ID:pY9PA1TJ

waah!!! what am writing! silly, silly, frigid onanoko silly to put this on web!! But its true.

Frigid onanoko warn all you! this no request for advice, this rant. Have own ideas how to deal with. wishing all happy new year!

saying goodbye now.... goodbye.

~silly ~silly ~oooh, how silly....

204 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-14 04:43 ID:cRfRlKfD

Damn Frigid Onanoke, you have been giving such good advice in a very unique style, I am shocked you went on your girst date recently. But congrats man. I wish the best for you.

205 Name: born to suffer : 2007-01-14 12:27 ID:KkHDWXjq

>>202 shit mon, distance relationship sucks hard...
My only gf was 500 km away from where I live (~300 miles?), every sunday morning I would take the train.... I was spending one quarter of my salary in fucking trains..
But shit mon... I can't imagine how u can hold a relationship if u live in another continent, to me it sounds fucking crazy mon!_!
Maybe if ur rly in love, i dunno, i wasn't rly in love with mine, she had far too many personal issues for me to handle, always depressed and shit.. and the money expense was too high anyway for me to keep at it indefinitely.
I don't know mon.. don't have too many hopes on this.-.

206 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-14 17:30 ID:kCdA5e2E

09013251697
E8IW-QI8E.Ru-chan.E8IW-QI8E@softbank.ne.jp

207 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-14 23:43 ID:q7i66skv

>>206
lol?

208 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-15 02:00 ID:GJcYDman

>>172
Why don't you fuck her? Not everything has to be a full-blown relationship to be enjoyable.In fact, if you start having lots of casual sex you'll find its a lot easier to get a girlfriend because you won't be so needy, and you'll end up with a girlfriend you are actually attracted to

209 Name: fart man : 2007-01-15 04:29 ID:tfliyq4D

>>17
some guys take every girl and u have none left. But its not because they are more handsome than u. its because they know how to treat girls better(nothing to do with money u have either, usually)

who fuck knows if she is flirty or just really nice. u just go for sex. succeed or not succeed is not a big issue here. itll be a good experience for the future anyway.

210 Name: fart man : 2007-01-15 04:31 ID:tfliyq4D

>>209
correction:>>17,

>>172

211 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-16 19:58 ID:Heaven

>>210 ok. now can you please leave this board, woman?

212 Name: fart man : 2007-01-18 02:22 ID:tfliyq4D

>>211
if u dont wanna see me, maybe u can leave here. bye

213 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-18 06:18 ID:Heaven

>>212 if every one does as you say then the only person remaining would be you.
GTFO already

214 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-18 06:42 ID:z6BAuoEG

I need some advice.

I don't have the best luck with girls. I've asked a few girls out before. The first 2 just wanted to be friends, I think I may hvae even scared the 2nd one off.

The 3rd girl I asked ended up having a boyfriend.

I just want to know. How can I tell if a girl is interested and not just being nice?

Also, what's the best way to approach a girl? I've heard that guys should try to be friends first. Does this mean just getting to know them better?

215 Name: You might not wanna listen to me : 2007-01-18 08:16 ID:Heaven

>>214

Ask out 50 girls. At least one might agree, and by the time you get done, you'll probably figure out what they like and gain the confidence to do anything.

Oh, but don't let them find out about it. You don't want a reputation.

216 Name: TEENAGER : 2007-01-22 16:00 ID:vWoq9Wt1

Le sigh.

A girl asked me, whom I barely know, but I saw a glimpse of her and she was quite pretty and was like DO I LIKE HER on MSN and I was like YOU'RE QUITE AWWRIGHT.

I fucked it up again.

I should've said yes.

Fuck.

217 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-22 16:46 ID:Heaven

>>216

Don't regret you past decisions. You had reasons for doing so, and those reasons probably still hold true.

218 Name: TEENAGER : 2007-01-22 17:57 ID:Heaven

>>217
Well, I realized that I said that she looks quite all right at a glimpse. Because that's the most I have seen her :P

But what the butt, why am I even thinking so much about it.

219 Name: fart man : 2007-01-23 11:05 ID:tfliyq4D

>>218

>I said that she looks quite all right at a glimpse. Because that's the most I have seen her

lol

u should have said something SHE wanted to hear. ...well, forget about the woman, its too late.

220 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-23 21:42 ID:Heaven

Dude, this single thing is nice. I can drink as much as I want without people badmouthing me.

221 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-24 21:57 ID:mRigxlt1

Frigid onanoko hate so say, hate to ask, but think need some advice.

Wrote before about a date, the date was great but fate then parted us to end what Frigid Onanoko commence to lament. (>>202) Still, we have chat. Gonna call date Wong, it random chinese surname.

Lately, Wong talk about song on chat for while. Frigid Onanoko supposed to listen to it. But not done until today. Then hit like frying pan, perhaps - no probably - Wong use lyrics to tell something? It no necessary tell what song (is secret, heehee!), but give hope to FO, it beautiful, it also have these lines:

"Angels have no thought of ever returning you
Would they be angry if I thought of joining you?"

Now inspiration hit FO, gonna also suggest title. Of course there plenty lovesongs, but that not do. Yes, good date, yes it click - yet, just one day; separated by at least half year until next chance. Keep real, stay careful, be cool. That what need to be now.

Here is problem: Need song to suggest. Gonna confine choice. It preferably indirect about love. It not about conquering heavens (at least not before tomorrow). You know, careful, at least show understood Wongs message, and positive about.

Looking forward to reactions! bye now.

222 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-25 07:08 ID:Heaven

something by the beatles?

223 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-26 11:40 ID:mRigxlt1

thanks >>222 FO like beatles too. Probably gonna suggest 'stairway to heaven' Led Zeppelin.

The real problem now is that we have never discussed our date yet or how we feel about each other even though I want to hear so dearly from Wong what the feelings are between us. Our date got locked out from conversation as if it never even happened. Talking about mere trivialities instead of this just hurts. Yesterday I realized that keeping silent on this matter was grossly unfair to the both of us and would put significant strain on our relation. We had come so close in such a short time, but as amazing as it was to me and hopefully Wong as well, I felt our hearts hiding from each other. Keeping silent about this was going to become a big wedge. It is unjust to let this go on.

So I wrote Wong a letter yesterday spending 3 hours one page, writing my soul out for the benefit of... what? What can I say about a person when we've met only for such a short period? (I'd invited Wong for coffee on campus before, it wasn't really just one day) If I am going to say the love word, can I even justify it? Isn't it really stupid to have such dreams in the first place when we're living so far from each other? And then, I don't even know if Wong reciprocates my feelings. Those were my fears, and the reason why conversation with Wong was difficult and stressing.

However, I believe that Wong deserves to know me. I may have gone a bit over the top in my letter but I tried to ensure that, whatever happens, we will have open, honest communication - or nothing. I anxiously await Wongs response.

FO, out. bye.

224 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-26 15:07 ID:Heaven

>>216
I thought you were a girl.

225 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-26 15:13 ID:Heaven

>>223
Lmao stairway to heaven ;)

How about "Your body's a Wonderland" -John Mayer

226 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-26 16:42 ID:Heaven

I have a chance at earning a full time job in the near future. Maybe then I won't feel so embarassed to talk about myself and open up to other people. Namely females. ;_;

227 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-26 22:59 ID:mRigxlt1

stairway to heaven no good?

228 Name: wingedloki : 2007-01-26 23:01 ID:vJF+P3K+

sometimes it's just hard to open up around anyone. I've always found it hard to open up, no matter the sex of the person I was talking with.

229 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-27 02:05 ID:Heaven

>>228
Except when posting on an anonymous forum, eh?

But yeah, I'm like that too. Oddly enough, the person I can talk to the most is probably my younger sister.

230 Name: wingedloki : 2007-01-27 03:08 ID:b8820zsg

>>229
oh online I can talk to anyone haha, I've always had so many internet friends ever since I've had internet. It's so much easier to say things when its just words on a screen then when its with your voice.

231 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-27 04:37 ID:Heaven

>>230
I hear you there.

232 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-27 06:49 ID:Heaven

how about stevie wonder's 'knocks me off my feet'

but picking a song is nothing compared to what you are facing. feel. i wish you luck with your letter, i really can't give advice except about music.

233 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-01-27 22:13 ID:mRigxlt1

Talking, talking, Frigid Onanoko talking again, to whom? not care! even nobody listen, FO rejoice in letter responded to today. Wong feel magic too (and oh, FO, your letter sooooo beautifuul!! -> me swoon on tummy through room/)

Trying regain consciousness as walk with head in clouds.

Oh Wong,
I could sit for days under the withered tree at the sea,
tea to the side,
mesmerizing about you.
You fade away as time goes by
It fades, but not what I know,
your presence is so wonderful.

uhh... as saying, trying to regain consciousness. wish luck, people please! bye.

234 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-30 10:35 ID:SjLdoJLr

see I thought I was over this girl and I am more or less. I'm fine when i'm awake but she's always in my dreams. She's be in 6 or 7 out of every 10 dream I have for the past month.

235 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-30 13:57 ID:zr23f4zO

>>234
Maybe that girl still has the hearts for you and she's hinting it in your dreams

236 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-30 14:27 ID:jmnMiPZa

>>227
Lol nah, just that it reminded me of a joke. Something about ladders and stockings :P

Goodluck with your er....whirlwind romance ey..

237 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-30 16:19 ID:SjLdoJLr

>>235
she never had the hearts for me _| ̄|Ο

238 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-31 07:28 ID:cEiMkka1

Valentines Day is coming up and it will be so sad. In High school without a gf. Will life ever get better....

239 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-04 09:12 ID:SjLdoJLr

>>238

hopefully. but you gotta remember, getting a gf and love isn't all there is to life! there are other things too!

240 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-06 07:06 ID:GHwYBDSa

>>234
I know that too. And that's almost five years afterwards.

241 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 07:46 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I really like this girl, because she is kind, talented, intelligient. In my high school im an underclassman and im only in the normal classes while she is in the advanced classes, student council, and choir. I've talked to her many times, and she barely seems to notice me. Last time we were together she did laugh at my joke but im pretty sure she only likes smart guys. My new buddies are her friends, but im very sure they would mock me, if I told them I like her.

242 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 08:58 ID:6jNsKENe

"Last time we were together she did laugh at my joke..."

She laughed...you got a chance buddy!

243 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 10:17 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I dont think so I mean my grades are probably crap compared to hers. Also I forgot to mention that a while ago I asked this girl out on a date. Anyways before I could go on my first date in high school, a few misunderstandings occurred and now that girl thinks Im a pervert. That girl who I asked out is in the same group of friends as the girl I like. Also the joke I told was lame, and me and her where kind of forced to be together. I did tell one of my buddies though, and I hope hes going to keep it a secret. Anyways he said that the choir is selling Hershey's chocolates to raise funds for a school trip, and I was thinking of buying some from her? Should I, I mean would it help?

244 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 10:34 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I dont think so I mean my grades are probably crap compared to hers. Also I forgot to mention that a while ago I asked this girl out on a date. Anyways before I could go on my first date in high school, a few misunderstandings occurred and now that girl thinks Im a pervert. That girl who I asked out is in the same group of friends as the girl I like. Also the joke I told was lame, and me and her where kind of forced to be together. I did tell one of my buddies though, and I hope hes going to keep it a secret. Anyways he said that the choir is selling Hershey's chocolates to raise funds for a school trip, and I was thinking of buying some from her? Should I, I mean would it help?

245 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 10:50 ID:2ZoFOE0o

(p.s the girl I asked out and rejected from is not the girl I like, but a friend of hers)

246 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 12:35 ID:ApZ51BQG

>>243

>>I was thinking of buying some from her? Should I, I mean would it help?

Duh, that's a given. It'll let you chat to her for a while (pretend you don't know what she's fundraising for..etcetc). And it'll show her you're not a stingy bastard.

247 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 15:04 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Okay but she dosent have an e-mail.. actually I heard she only uses a computer for school. But I assume I could still get more talking time with her?

248 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 15:09 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I guess im spending $ 3.00 today at school. Thanks alot. What else could I do?

249 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 18:45 ID:SjLdoJLr

ask her out for coffee

250 Name: KZO : 2007-02-08 18:48 ID:cXxjg2Js

Right like its that easy.

251 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 19:47 ID:cXxjg2Js

Yea personally I think you need to worry about that other girl spreading rumors because that will ruin your reputation with the girl you like. Unless it already has. Ways to reverse that? I think your in a dilemna there.

252 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 20:34 ID:SmBA2MDL

>Last time we were together she did laugh at my joke but im pretty sure she only likes smart guys.
>I dont think so I mean my grades are probably crap compared to hers.

Don't worry about those things. They're irrelevant when it comes to love (that sounded kinda corny..).

253 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 20:38 ID:cXxjg2Js

I think its very relavent. I dont know what your backround is but when I grew up my parents always had a "criteria" for the type of girl I should be interested in. If that girl is steeped in similair traditions I think you should greatly consider that. Dont change who you are because of who you like, instead improve yourself right?

254 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 20:56 ID:cXxjg2Js

I think its relevant. I dont know what your backround is but when I was younger my parents always had a "criteria" for the kind of girl I should like (i.e. good grades, respectable family.. etc.). If that girl you like is steeped in those ways then I think you should consider it. Dont change yourself for someone you like but improve right?

255 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-08 21:15 ID:SmBA2MDL

My parents too, but if you really like someone, would you blow them off just because they had bad grades?

256 Name: Orz : 2007-02-08 23:50 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Okay just got back from school. I didnt buy any chocolates because most of the day I was hiding.. however at the last period I saw her in the hallway when I went to the bathroom. I looked like an idiot. She was just walking and all I did was stare.

257 Name: kurodesu : 2007-02-09 00:59 ID:YqyMJcvJ

Remember that hiding is not always the best solution my friend, I do have some experience with girls, sometimes you think you're just a "nuisance", but it's not always like that.

But I wonder what I'm talking about.. The girl I used to like.. well I was all shy about her, she was like from another world, she didn't like anything I liked and viseversa... however, I was just in love with the way she was, I managed to confess my feelings to her, she didn't say a word about it for some time, till I gave up and she confessed to me.. but it was too late already. ( that happened 1 week ago ).

Just talk to her. That's all I can say.
"Verse beats Face"

258 Name: sarubobo : 2007-02-09 01:31 ID:ZlYA+ux7

Haha. I really like this guys story. Can I make a seperate thread?

259 Name: sarubobo : 2007-02-09 01:32 ID:ZlYA+ux7

Oh well too late.

260 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 04:21 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I dont want a thread. I think the stalker thing could go away.. but about not worrying about that girls grades or I guess differences I can accept. I just brought that up because I think she minds those things. Well Im only guessing. After my staring contest challenge should I still buy chocolates?

261 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 04:26 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Also last semester I happened to see her during one of my religion classes. Everyone went to go get their textbooks, and I happened to be the first people back in the class room. I looked out the door and she was at her locker puting some books in her backpack. A few other classmates came back and started talking so I poked my head out of the door, and said "hey *******" as I waved my hand. She didnt even turn around. -.-

262 Name: kurodesu : 2007-02-09 04:41 ID:YqyMJcvJ

To tell you the truth.. Girls are something complicated, at least for us(guys). You can't really know what she's thinking. Maybe she didn't turn around because she does feel something?

Why don't you try to get closer to her? I mean, help her with something she can't do.

Maybe that'll do the trick.

about the chocolates, you should buy them, however you need to really think out what to write on the card.

I would give her a rose.

263 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-09 05:13 ID:tFsS4Jsf

>To tell you the truth.. Girls are something complicated, at least for us(guys). You can't really know what she's thinking. Maybe she didn't turn around because she does feel something?

Do you actually want to know what they are thinking? Remember girls never know what they want.

I like the idea of getting closer, except reverse. You said she is in advance classes, ask her to tutor you.

And what misunderstanding happened with the girl you asked out? If it is something not that bad it can easily be fixed.

264 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 05:59 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Thanks alot guys. About the chocolates I was thinking of buying them from her because they are for funding a school choir trip. Also I am not really friends with her that I can ask her to tutor me, and it wouldnt make sense because most of my friends are in advanced classes. If you wondering about what happened between me and her friend was that a few months ago we had a winter ball. So I actually danced and had fun with a few girls (they didnt know me.. I have a big school) so this one girl was looking at me kinda funny. So when I sat down this one girls friend told me I should ask her out. Being the clueless person I am I thought she liked me so I asked her out. I think she said yes at the dance only to make me feel happy there, but was planning to break it off I guess after. At school I asked for her number, email, from my friend. I talked to her and she told me to stop calling her, and after got mad at my friend for giving her number away. After she told everyone I was obsessed with her. Recently I saw her again walking down the stairs.. and when I saw her I couldnt help but smile and be nice. She took it wrongly and now every time shes in the hallway with one of her friends she grabs their hands and runs away making look like im a stalker. Yeah I did have fun with her and I felt pressured to ask her out. But I only felt compelled to do it because I havent hung out with just a girl for a while so I thought experience is good. But honestly the time at that dance I was always glancing over to the girl I like know.. the one with the hershey chocolates.

265 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 06:04 ID:2ZoFOE0o

*now (last line). Because the girl that I like is pretty much in all advanced classes, should I ask my friend in those classes to help me meet her so I can buy some chocolates. Or does that seem like a bad request? He is busy all the time, and I am afraid to go up to her by myself.

266 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-09 06:12 ID:tFsS4Jsf

Well no shit she thinks you are a stalker. You called her and you never asked HER for her number. Just play it off, the girl is a bit crazy.

For your girl, do you know her well enough if you are walking by her in the hallway you can have a nice casual conversation?

267 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 07:17 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I dont think so. I mean we have met a few times, but mostly because of my friend or some school activity. Every time I try to initiate conversation something goes wrong like that one time, by the hallway. Now when I encounter her its mostly when im with friends or if shes with her friends. I could maybe get some more courage when we are alone but I am afraid of the same thing happening that she ignores me as if I dont exist.. or as if she forgot who I am.

268 Name: Orz : 2007-02-09 07:26 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Thats why I hope that if my friend can help arrange for me to buy some chocolates maybe she will think about me and not shrug me off as some other guy. If only I could do alot more with buying chocolates like pull my grades up, join clubs, councils, play 5 instruments and sing. But for now thats all I've got, and I really need help.

269 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-09 08:23 ID:ApZ51BQG

>>264
What a bitch.

270 Name: KZO : 2007-02-09 17:07 ID:cXxjg2Js

someone is making excuses.. just go for it

271 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-09 17:21 ID:eOY1oUvu

To put it bluntly: fuck that bitch. She's not worth your time. Play the same game as her, see what happens. See her in the hall? Give her a dirty look and walk away. If shes gonna keep acting like that, no sense in trying for the unatainable. You're young and got plenty of time to find the right one, keep looking dude, you deserve better than that psycho, immature little bitch.

272 Name: kurodesu : 2007-02-09 17:48 ID:YqyMJcvJ

Well my experience with an special girl.. I used to be like "omfg she's so cute" all the time, thinking about her and all, and she knew... However, when I gave up and stopped looking at her, she started looking at me. weird no?

273 Name: KZO : 2007-02-09 18:22 ID:cXxjg2Js

Someone is making excuses...

274 Name: rpem45 : 2007-02-09 18:43 ID:cXxjg2Js

think you got it wrong 271. the girl who is acting like a psycho is a friend of the girl he actually likes. hey orz i dont think leaving her alone to forgot about you is the right idea. hang out with your buddies who know her that will get you introduced more often.

275 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-09 21:54 ID:7lwGv5CS

Orz you gotta do something that makes you stand out from the others. Buying chocolate from her will make you just another customer. You need to figure out what quality you have that makes you stand out. Maybe now it is no so polished but you can work on it a bit until it is shining so bright that she can't help but notice you. So work on find that special thing you have and then start to worry about her.

276 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-10 00:41 ID:ApZ51BQG

>>275

>> Buying chocolate from her will make you just another customer.

Ever heard of getting your money's worth? Three bucks is pinch if orz can use it to make an opening with her. By buying the chocolate he can get her to;

  1. Notice him.
  2. Make her realise that he's interested in her.
  3. Make small talk. Ie: Following up buying the chocolate he could ask casually "How the the fundraising going..etcetc".

277 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-10 00:47 ID:ApZ51BQG

You also gotta make sure that you're not pressuring her to talk to you just because you bought her chocolate. This is really irritating for the girl (kinda like buying her an expensive dinner, expecting her to sex it up afterwards). You'll know if you're doing this if she tries to flick you away (which is probably too late, but at least you'll know that she's not interested).

278 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-10 04:46 ID:Heaven

>>276
How will buying chocolate from her make him any different from the other people she sold it to? By your logic, when I go to a store and say 'Hi, how are you?' to the cashier with a gallon of milk in my hand does she realize that I am interested in her? Fuck no! I means I want to buy some milk so I can eat some cookies and I have to pay her for it.

Unless he can make himself different(in a positive light) from the other students he is just some other guy she passes on her way to class. And making himself stand out will take some time. So, again Orz, work on yourself first and then work on asking her out.

279 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-10 13:01 ID:ApZ51BQG

>>278
I don't think you got the point of my post.
I shall reiterate:
Ever heard of getting your money's worth? Ie: Take Advantage Of The Situation.
Hey, if you fancied a store clerk the most logical approach would be to buy something (no, not a fuckin gallon of it), thereby giving you an OPPORTUNITY to talk to her. Same thing in this situation here.

>>How will buying chocolate from her make him any different from the other people she sold it to?

I didn't say it was going to. Buying the chocolate is just a PRETENSE to making small talk with her, and then getting to know her better. What makes him different to everyone else who bought chocolate depends on him, and his guts.

The "making himself different" that you mention is a long term thing, it just doesn't happen over night. People don't wait around while you change. Plus you're just telling him to change himself for the sake of a girl.

And even in the possibility that orz changes himself. He comes back a few months or a year later, he would STILL have to create an opportunity to talk to her (whether it be her selling chocolates or being in the same advanced class).

280 Name: Orz : 2007-02-10 17:12 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I dont really know what is the right way guys. I just wanted to buy chocolates because I had no real other way of getting her attention.

281 Name: Orz : 2007-02-10 17:38 ID:2ZoFOE0o

This might be giving too much away about me, but my former homeroom teacher, who happened to the choir teacher passed away. So alot of kids in the school it was heartbreaking.. school was never the same. Because I had that teacher for a few subjects I couldnt help but feel depressed for so long. I wouldnt go to the arcade.. I wouldnt download anything off the internment. I'd sneak out at night and walk trhough the park till morning when I had school. I remember that day she died we had a rememberance in the chapel and those who knew that teacher were allowed to stay in the chapel as long as they wanted and class wasnt mandatory. As I went there I saw the girl that I liked. Unlike the other 100 girls in that chapel she wasnt crying alot. But instead wiping a single tear off her face. I thought to myself why? How can she be so brave now. Whenever I felt like crying in that chapel I would look at her, and I always wondered how? After the first week so many students would gather in my homeroom (choir room) to reminesce about our teacher who has passed. One day at lunch I went in with my science text to study in the choir room, and there she was with guitar in hand the girl I liked. I didnt think anything of it at first, but as I reviewed, her sweet voice filled the air. She played the guitar flawlessly unlike most of my friends who fidget and fumble while trying to play their favorite rock song. For a whole forty-five minutes I listened to her play that sweet song. After I failed my science test, not only because I didnt study, but my answer sheet was practically blank.. I couldnt think of anything else besides her. My friend says ooooh you barely know her but you like her, maybe you shouldnt jump to conclusions... but this is the first time I have ever felt something like this.

282 Name: : ( : 2007-02-11 04:42 ID:FHWaKVyM

Ive gone sooooo long with out a chick my dong has rusted to my right leg.

283 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 07:23 ID:Heaven

>>282
you should get that checked

284 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 07:28 ID:Heaven

>>282

could be a std

285 Name: Orz : 2007-02-11 09:08 ID:2ZoFOE0o

I am taking guitar lessons and I have no idea what im doing. I had a guitar at home so every saturday I have to study guitar. I hope this really works because the only guitar I know is guitar freaks at the arcade. Can anybody help me?

286 Name: Orz : 2007-02-11 09:12 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Oh yeah I also found out I might be in this girls art class next semester, so I cut my hair because my parents said is was being unkept. But now its too short looks kind of weird? Anyways I hope shes not a master painter because then I will ahve some talent to show.

287 Name: Orz : 2007-02-14 04:26 ID:2ZoFOE0o

Im a freak. Why bother? Just talked to a friend from her school. He says that everyone pretty much from his old junior high thinks im weird. That probably means her as well. Why did I bother? I have classes with these fucking people why do I bother to make a good impression. I know you guys havent posted here in a long time because I can tell you think im a freak right? Well your not alone on that one. Why do I even bother trying to have a good reputation.

288 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 08:00 ID:Heaven

fuck you're verbose.

289 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 08:50 ID:Heaven

>>287

>>Why do I even bother trying to have a good reputation.

Uh. Howabout NOT for the sake of a girl?

290 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 11:04 ID:/wyFeuwv

Look, If others call you freak, you aren't necessary one. But if you call yourself a freak, you'll eventually become one. At least for now you HAVE a reputation instead of being invisible, if you can make that positive, then you win.

291 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 17:31 ID:SjLdoJLr

>>290

signed

292 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 19:14 ID:tFsS4Jsf

We lost because we told ourselves we lost

-Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

293 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-14 23:48 ID:OW2ZfyGR

worst valentines day ever fuck!!

294 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-15 00:07 ID:7rAtnqXZ

>>293

lol awesome!

295 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-15 01:31 ID:GHwYBDSa

>>293
maybe not the worst but quite bad indeed.

296 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-15 02:03 ID:7rAtnqXZ

Wouldn't it have been totally rad if you had a girlfriend who on valentines day went like: Well, I won't buy you some shitty present but tell you what; you can do whatever you like with me for the remainder of the day.

I'd fucking do.... THINGS. A lot of THINGS. sigh

297 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-15 03:26 ID:Heaven

God, I'm depressed because it's valentines day.

And I haven't even cared about valentines day since 8th grade.

298 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2007-02-15 03:58 ID:7jeDGpgx

I had a great day today even though I had no valentine!

299 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-16 09:24 ID:up2Nfvwp

We lost because we told ourselves we lost

-Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

That helps. Cant stop now. I've gone through school with people hating me before. I cant give up with what I have. But what now?

300 Name: 300GET : 2007-02-17 02:10 ID:0WyjbTFh

>>299
Here's how it goes:
-Time allocation: HER < GRADES
-Higher grades = Advanced class
-Advanced class = OPPORTUNITY DINGDINGDING
-GIRL ACCEPTS = WIN. GIRL REJECTS = WIN.

ie: Stop spending so much time thinking about her and maybe you'll get the grades you need to not only make ground with her, but with other girls too.

301 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-18 14:03 ID:HeeKQW95

Yes! We're nearly a third of the way through making this thread as legendary as the last one. Keep posting, fellow singles. Let the internets feel our pain!

302 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-19 03:41 ID:Heaven

http://pbfcomics.com/?cid=PBF210-Wishing_Well.gif#200

thought the board could use a good chuckle.

303 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 00:01 ID:oEe8E+E3

There's this girl....

Actually, she's a friend of mine and taken, by my other friend and they are really happy together, but this is my dilemma: for one thing, I can't help having feelings for her even though I only want to be her friend. And it's this thought that is just driving me nuts. Plus, I know if I let anything happen between us (which would require her leaving her bf), her ex, my CLOSE friend would feel betrayed and this could even ruin my relationship with the girl if it ended wrong. Also, meeting her and being her friend actually brought me out of a depression (lonliness?), but now has me in another one (her).

AAAGGGHHHHHHH!

sorry, I just wanted to vent for so long and if you have any comments I guess I would consider hearing them.

304 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 01:04 ID:6oY2XPex

>>303

Stop obssessing over her, find yourself another target for your affections. You can just drop it, it's all in your head. You've made her awesome in your mind but she isn't all that great. Don't let emotions play you. Even if she is fucking wonderwoman, affection and feelings without love is worthless and fades quickly. A relationship brought about from emotions that betrays love will never last. Accept in your heart that you will never have this girl, even if your friend and she breaks up. You will never have her, not even in your mind. Do you understand?

305 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 01:35 ID:oEe8E+E3

yeah, but that's the thing, i'm havin trouble even finding another person that i can have a crush on. And i don't even want to feel this way about her. But who knows, probably actually writing that on this board will help me get over her, i mean i never let out that thought. I mean, i want to get over her, but without just asking some other girl out to compensate.

uhhh...am i hopeless?

306 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 02:18 ID:6oY2XPex

>>305

Tell your friend you have a stupid crush on his girlfriend and can't do shit about it because you're such a woman, that will be so awkward it will definately kill it.

If you cannot rule your mind by the force of will alone, give yourself a push in the back by taking action.

Then, when you've rediscovered your manhood, go find yourself a woman.

307 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 03:21 ID:oEe8E+E3

Alright, I get it, but I don't need to find another woman in order to get over her.

308 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 03:23 ID:6oY2XPex

>>307

No, but you might want a woman regardless.

309 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 07:12 ID:3kG3I42N

>>308
I've never wanted any other woman, ever, and I never will.
So instead I'm resuming homosexuality, since it's all I can, and even then I only use it to get me to my ideal goal of asexuality.

310 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 07:47 ID:6oY2XPex

>>309

lol, it's you.
"I'm resuming homosexuality" Haha, ohboy. You are fucking extreme, how about you realize that there are and will be others. Don't be so dramatic, it's mostly about our own oppinions. I'm still crazy about a girl I will never have. Not because she was ever that awesome or that we shared much, I just got obsessed about her, and it still sticks. Sometimes I'm struck by this overwhelming feeling of longing for her, even if she is long gone out of my life. It's all in my mind, and I obviously like it to be there. Eventually though I know someone else will come along and I will forget.

311 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 08:11 ID:Heaven

>>309
lol, ic wut u did thar.

If only all men had the same sense of honour...perhaps the world would be a better place.

312 Name: Orz : 2007-02-20 08:25 ID:lH45+TtL

hello I posted in this thread a few times, and I was just wondering about something. School for me is starting tommorow, after a short holiday, and there is this girl I really like. She is really talented especially in music, so two weeks ago I started taking guitar lessons every saturday. Tommorow I will tell her when she is in the music room for help in guitar. Hope this is good idea?

313 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 15:08 ID:3kG3I42N

>it's you.

Me huh? Whats my name then? You know me so well, talk to me about it directly to me.

>there are and will be others.

Are? Care to try and prove that?
Will? Don't you try and will your socialist bullshit on me, my will is more powerful so it really is useless to waste the effort trying. Will be others? Not if I have anything to say or do about it.

>>311
Not sure what it is you've seen in my text, I'd just like to make sure you're not assuming anything here. Perhaps it would be nicer if more guys were gay, then less of them would have girlfriends.

314 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 17:33 ID:cXxjg2Js

WTH.. I have been reading your posts and I am pretty sure I know who you are dont come to the music room today.

315 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-20 18:58 ID:cXxjg2Js

orzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz iz back

316 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-21 00:41 ID:EOHArlx/

wow, is this thread mostly guys?? really dont wanna read through all of it to figure out myself :/

317 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-21 06:02 ID:Heaven

>>314
I don't go to any public education ministry building, ever.

318 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-21 14:10 ID:6oY2XPex

>>313

I recognize you from this channel dude, not outside it. Chill, you haven't been found out.

>>Will? Don't you try and will your socialist bullshit on me, my will is more powerful so it really is useless to waste the effort trying.

Yeah I know it's because of your mind and as long as you don't change it you will not see and be able to embrace the others. Really, why would you stick to one person who isn't much better than all the others and will never be yours, thanks only to your mind being forced in that direction by your own will?

Have you no power over your will? Why stick with something when it only limits you to no good purpose? It's just fucking retarded. Are you trying to be a romantic or something?

319 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-22 02:53 ID:3kG3I42N

>I recognize you from this channel dude

You have a case of mistaken identity then.

>Yeah I know it's because of your mind and as long as you don't change it you will not see and be able to embrace the others.

And that's precisely why I'll never change it, ever heard of defensive precautions?

>Really, why would you stick to one person who isn't much better than all the others and will never be yours

Oh you know this person? Oh you know all the others? Oh of course, you even know me, you're the best and I take your conclusions with extensive consideration. FUCK the others, there are no others, nothing but ghosts, why would I want to be with someone who is just going to die anyways? Its like necrophilia and as hot as that is, its not something I'd ever actually do, just consider for masturbational purposes, the same as all things until I rid myself of my sexuality.

>thanks only to your mind being forced in that direction by your own will?

Yeah its only my mind that has put me in the situation I'd planned for, not as if its the environment around me had anything to do with it, not as if I could ever count on it to be predictable and easily manipulated to my will, of course not. And even if I were to subscribe my will to the other team, it doesn't change a lick of shit besides make for some amusement in text form, but I can do better everywhere else.

>Have you no power over your will?

ahahahahahahahahahahahahhaahahahah wow, just wow, try to even understand what will is before even talking to me again ok

>Why stick with something when it only limits you to no good purpose?

Solitude isn't a good purpose? You're a fuckup, your opinions degrade into the bottom ranks of my considerations the more you even type. And as if sticking with it is something I can change, do you even know how powerful my will for that is? There is no way it could ever be surmounted by any amount of people across all of time all the way to eventuality. Do what I have, accept that it shall never change, nary that, embrace THAT because I'd rather perform that action on the fruits of my labors than some shitty person who I'll never care about and who interrupts my personal time.

>It's just fucking retarded.

Says the guy who doesn't understand that there is no desire, no action, not even any thinking within an individual without will and that will is the single driving force behind anything, let alone anything related to the individual (provided they're an individual and not a groupie). Fucking fool, WILL IS THE VERY SOURCE OF CONTROL OF ANYTHING, WITHOUT THE WILL TO CONTROL THERE IS NOTHING TO MAKE CONTROL HAPPEN.

>Are you trying to be a romantic or something?

Yes, with myself, because I'm the only one who'll ever subscribe to my brand of it, and fuck all if I ever get stupid enough to do such things with anyone. You want to talk about losing will and self control, that situation is what I would classify as the classic case of that.

320 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-22 04:16 ID:Me16In5T

>>319 so, are you trying to become asexual, or embrace solitude?

I am thinking about the same thing, well just becoming asexual but enjoying a normal life otherwise, but I think the key is to stop masturbating/looking at porn, which is hard (><);;

How important is procreation from an evolutionary standpoint anyway, right? But to achieve a truly unconscious asexuality, I need to consciously avoid sexual activity, i think.

321 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-22 05:32 ID:Heaven

If you want to be asexual, just cut off your balls.

322 Name: I Love You Hot Stuff : 2007-02-22 06:43 ID:Heaven

Tall and lanky with tight faded jeans and dirty fake converse and a faded black t-shirt with a barely visible graphic design and the pink dye in her hair is fading pretty golden brown eyes LOOK AT ME please you want me YOU LIAR type of girl. ROck and drrawgs. I say do you notice any difference? its a bluray disc yaknow? I don't notice any difference. Me neither K bye. K.

forever.

323 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-22 11:25 ID:3kG3I42N

>so, are you trying to become asexual, or embrace solitude?

I already embrace solitdue and have since, lets see...DAY ONE, what I'm trying to do is achieve asexuality. Which is of course only a matter of time, but soonest is best.

>How important is procreation from an evolutionary standpoint anyway

Less important than you would think, in fact at this point it is highly detrimental, but of course no one will buy that despite downs, harlequin fetuses and the general populace getting dumber and dumber, and whole fuckton of other issues, ahh humanity.

>If you want to be asexual, just cut off your balls.

If I believed in self mutilation then I would have by now, I'm going to do this by willpower alone, I have enough to spare.

324 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-22 19:51 ID:uz+iTgSA

>>322
yeah, uhmm, talking to myself here but total fucking coincidence reallyseriously has nothing whatsoever to do with you know, speaking of my friends nextdoor neighbor but still ur hot too really all to my fucking self here

325 Name: Densha Fan : 2007-02-23 09:02 ID:PKSr+s77

Konbanwa mina-san. This is my first time coming here. I heard about 4-ch thanks to my love of the Densha Otoko story. When I saw this thread I knew I had to join in.

326 Name: Densha Fan : 2007-02-23 09:03 ID:PKSr+s77

I am not, however, thinking that something could happen to me like what happened to Densha through this thread. I just thought it would be great to join in the conversation.

327 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-23 11:30 ID:Heaven

>>ahahahahahahahahahahahahhaahahahah wow, just wow, try to even understand what will is before even talking to me again ok

Yes I see you have not discovered the fine art of twisting your own mind. Not that it makes you very different from most people, it's only unfortunate that your circumstances
would hopelessly turn you into such an odd fella'.

But you seem to be happy with your situation so really why should I care? For your own good perhaps, so here's a protip for you son:

Will and control as you mention is emptyness, without a force to drive them, will is betrayed and control is lost. How often do we not act opposite to our will, we do not say what we wished we said or do what we wanted to do, often we actually do and say what we do NOT want to do or say.

What we want is equal to will, what we do is equal to our emotions. As long as our emotional currents are quenched, we can, more or less, live as we will. But once our emotions burst out due to lack of stimulation, we lose control, and find that we have no power over our lives.

What you are doing, motherfucker, is backing away from all situations that stir emotions within us, so you don't have to worry about losing control over your odd mind. You set up in your private environment, a haven for drenching the violent flames within you, to the best of your abilities. And this keeps you content to a level that you can go through life without snapping.

for now

But mark my words, you WILL snap. It's just a matter of time because in your mind you're already broken. I can see it in your words, you are the kind of person who snaps. Your thinking is not natural, it will not sustain you because our emotions will always be and require what is natural. Your hypocracy bullshit will break you to shit, how the fuck can you bring yourself to imagine anything else?

328 Name: Orz : 2007-02-23 18:08 ID:cXxjg2Js

Hey I am @ school now and I just found out something. I think that my buddie whos in the same class as her likes her now. I overheard a conversation he had with one of his friends and he didnt seem to notice me. I know that if he asks her out he will never tell me, and he likes to keep me in the dark when convienient enough. Whjat do I do?

329 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-23 18:35 ID:cXxjg2Js

uh lol

330 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-23 19:20 ID:4DnGLcuf

>>328 ask her out first I guess

331 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 00:58 ID:Heaven

>>328 challenge him to a dance-off

332 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 04:27 ID:Heaven

>>327

>try to even understand what will is before even talking to me again ok

333 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 13:18 ID:6oY2XPex

>>332

Moron

334 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 15:20 ID:fybASY4n

sorry for my intrusion, i'm just new here

335 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 15:24 ID:fybASY4n

i just wish things would be better for me

336 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-24 18:22 ID:SjLdoJLr

>>328
ask her out first!

337 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-26 11:53 ID:lH45+TtL

right now its really early in the morning and I am writing a paper for a friend so his friend a girl who I like will notice meh good right?

338 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-26 12:12 ID:22uhpigg

>>337
What no? Girls don't generally dig pushovers. Unless she's into SM and that shit.

339 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-26 19:18 ID:cXxjg2Js

wth is SM?

340 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-27 05:20 ID:NtPg4kRe

>>339
S&M, as in she wants a weak guy to dominate.

>>337
Ask her out faggot.

Although, I'm just as shy myself, but seriously.

341 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-27 06:41 ID:Heaven

>>337

Man, you are WEAK. First of all, why are you letting a 'friend' use you like that. If he was a friend he would introduce you to her without any hesistation, even he was interested in her (he would have probably let his motivates known though). But nope, he is like a pimp that you have a pay so he can see one of his hoes. He took advantage of your desperation. So tell your friend to fuck off and write his own paper while you spend your own time talking to that girl of yours.

342 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-27 20:17 ID:cXxjg2Js

Yeah you are right he probably dosent even regard him as a friend and is only nice to you so you can do his homework. Fuhhgetaboutit. LOL I guess he already wrote it goodluck xD

343 Name: Orz : 2007-03-01 07:54 ID:lH45+TtL

Okay yeah I did it. I saw on my friends contact list this girls name that I like. I was thinking maybe I can make a shell e-mail and send a love letter. I know what to say, but should I do it now or later like in the summer? Also I dont know if anyone here read my old posts but I asked out a friend of hers last year in December. What should I say about that if I send the love letter?

344 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-02 00:58 ID:/wyFeuwv

you don't say anything about it until she asks you, if she asks about it, then be glad!

345 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-03 05:08 ID:/uj3H8tQ

Yo! Just curious... do you guys ever think about going to those date sites? Because man I really want a girlfriend lol. And im too lazy/ not confident/ and not social enough to get a girl... So yea neone have experience with date sites?

346 Name: Densha Otaku!!V5PEVwRU : 2007-03-03 09:08 ID:GyZKjpLn

>>345

Better to go out your front door. It just takes a few steps, step out in the real world and hunt girls. ;)

347 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-03 16:23 ID:Heaven

>>346
Take this advice if you want to fail and waste your time, also follow this advice if you want to be miserable, have a fucked up day.

348 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-03 18:51 ID:/wyFeuwv

Take >>346 's advice if you want to fail and waste your time, follow >>347 's advice if you want to be miserable, and have a fucked up day.

Fixed

349 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-04 00:09 ID:egw0VVp1

So basically, if you follow >>346's and/or >>347's advice, you're screwed either way?

350 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-05 11:38 ID:3kG3I42N

Another reason to follow >>348's advice is to experience the joy of wasting your time wallowing in a pool of boredom strewn from a trying to interact with a broken and dying society.

351 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-05 22:42 ID:Heaven

and maybe to kill time, too. that's how i see it. XD

352 Name: Densha Otaku!!V5PEVwRU : 2007-03-06 03:17 ID:GyZKjpLn

Everybody has a chance, even if it's only 0.000001%, take it, jump at opportunities. Densha Otoko is a good example. See, he got the opportunity and he jumped right on it. If you go out of your front door, opportunities will come your way. ;)

353 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-07 07:35 ID:fok4Nja3

>>346
Hunting people is illegal in most countries.

354 Name: Densha Otaku!!V5PEVwRU : 2007-03-08 07:12 ID:GyZKjpLn

>>353
So i'll rephrase it. Meeting people. :)

355 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-09 23:17 ID:Heaven

>>353
Hahahahahahaha!
Thank you for this XD

356 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 13:07 ID:NtPg4kRe

Arrrrgghhh I just had my heart broken today. And tomorrow is my final exam. YOU CAN'T STUDY FOR MATH WITH A BROKEN HEART!

357 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 15:16 ID:Heaven

>>356

I feel sorry for you.. :(

358 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 18:28 ID:MkcxVX7/

>>356
One should not need to study the day before the exam ;) better to learn things earlier

359 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-11 19:58 ID:Heaven

>>358
Yeah, but it's math... :(

Anyway, I feel better now, but I'm so tired and I don't have a girlfriend to poke me.

360 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-12 17:32 ID:Heaven

>>359

Aww. Mind if I give you a poke, then? poke ._.

361 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-03-13 05:09 ID:Hc2SV2Tn

Dating online does work 345, my sister met her BF on a online dating site and she plans to get married to him next year.
Unfortunately I havent had any luck -_-;

362 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-13 13:22 ID:wvpIj37H

Keep holding in there!!

363 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-13 13:23 ID:wvpIj37H

you'll find one sooner or later

364 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-16 03:46 ID:GQihSm2u

>>361
have hope. (ugh.. what crappy lines i have...)

365 Name: warez otoko : 2007-03-19 20:15 ID:z/Bq2NTj

guys i want to go to dating sites t00, but im too lazy atm i prefer playing games....
btw plz tell me something: on the sitez is it like teh real life, where the man has to make the move, or do the women also make first contact with men on the site?
i dunno wath to do, i know in real i must make all moves but in the site i'd prefer not to do it... so i can subscribe to all dating sitez and play games while a girl finds me.
or else should i ditch anime and stuff and become a dating geek stayin all day contacting girlz fomr the site lol?
10x all

366 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-21 03:06 ID:JcfSLY5u

well warez otoko, for dating sites it goes both ways. I'm a girl that uses dating sites and I usually make the first move if I see a guy that I'd like to get to know.

I was always told to let guys make the first move, but waiting for them to do so is hella frustrating >_<;;

367 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-21 03:51 ID:tFsS4Jsf

what dating sites do you use?

368 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-21 04:27 ID:JcfSLY5u

match.com. It's actually the best in my opininon

369 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-03-23 03:11 ID:rGHUW9QA

I randomly go to different chat sites, like myspace and stuff

370 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-28 06:17 ID:CyJ9MZaT

Anyone here ever try okcupid?

That said, a classmate of mine randomly said "I think you're hot" to me today... I think.

To sum it up, she said it as I turned around from the whiteboard to hand her a marker. She said it so randomly that it actually took me a second to comprehend that she said "I think you're...", I walked away thinking it was unimportant and finally figure out what the last word was about 15 seconds later.

I'm the kind of person who has trouble catching comments when they're said to me out of the blue. In such situations I usually forget to say something like "pardon?" also, unless I'm in a situation where comments are really important. Thus usually when something is randomly said to me, I don't get it and just nod or something. Bad habit, I know. But what made it even more random is that I knew nothing of the girl... besides the fact that she was my classmate.

And then there's the possibility that she was talking to someone else and just happened to turn to me right then.

Anyway, perhaps it's best that I'm not sure that she said that. I wouldn't know how to respond, as I'm always at a lost when women come onto me, online or off. The only thing I can think of which doesn't sound cliched as hell and not like me is "thanks"... which sounds sort of vain.

371 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-28 15:13 ID:eOY1oUvu

>>370
She probably did say it to you. Say it back just as subtly, turn the tables on her. See how she reacts.

372 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-29 02:45 ID:JojEpaxY

>>370

hey, a girl with balls.

sounds like the direct type. if you want to be cute, buy her a single flower and as you give it to her say, 'wanna go out?'

that is, if you want to go out with her even..?

373 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-30 07:44 ID:M2o0kZRM

I think the lack of female contact has created such a void that now when I starting to reintergrate with the opposite sex I begin to think any girl that spends more than 5 minutes talking to me actually likes me. Not the fact that I with her friend who happens to be my friend, not the fact that I know more about a subject than she does. Nope, I just take any positive feedback from her and over amplify it. I guess it will go away with time.

374 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-30 11:55 ID:mbZNb8Ys

>>373
Good to see you've opened up your eyes.

375 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-30 13:25 ID:/wyFeuwv

>>373 This man is telling the truth

376 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-03-31 05:04 ID:wsTx1PnU

I love making, just friends, with the opposite sex. I find it better to have close friends as guys and girls, instead of finding out he or she doesn't really like you the way you wish they did. Once they know, it's like awkward to be around that person. But, hey, if you find out, somehow, if they do like you, go for it! :]

377 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-31 19:07 ID:wdzfTpb1

>>370

My sister met her stalker, munchausen syndrome ex on okcupid. I have virtually no desire to use dating sites because of that. But yeah, the last two girls I tried going out with...ended up turning into friends shortly after they found out I was TG...and it was subtle. I didn't even realize it until they both started dating other people, lol. Kind of sad. Oh well.

378 Name: Seraphius : 2007-04-05 05:55 ID:Khc9cL91

>>377

Yeah, TG? Like Trans Gendered? (Cause if you are, you may be too self delusional in the first place to find a normal human being with which to have a relationship)

379 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-05 08:35 ID:Heaven

>>378
Oh thank you random internet person for explaining how that all works. I'm happy that you at least aren't deluded about who I am, even if I may be. One of these days I'd like for us to meet, so you can fill me in completely about who I am. Please?

380 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-05 08:35 ID:O6HEyIc3

i'm 18 and i've never had a girlfriend in my life. sometimes i feel like i want one and that i want the company of a girl, but over time i've cared less and less. i haven't liked a girl or felt that i've met a girl that i wanted to be with in years. i just don't care anymore. i'd like to be with somebody, but i have pretty much no desire to be with any girl i meet. hell i don't really understand girls in general. most girls just seem weird, i can't even being to expain it. i generally don't even know what to talk to most girls about because of how little i feel like i have in common with them. i don't really know what to think anymore

381 Name: Seraphius : 2007-04-05 14:40 ID:Khc9cL91

>>379

Actually, I would like to withdraw that last post. It was late and I was pretty frustrated with something else, but that is no excuse. I just dont understand why someone would want to do the TG thing to themselves. It probably comes from the way I was brought up, and I should know better than to make a judgment about someone I do not even know.

So, accept it or not, I am sorry.

382 Name: Haiiro : 2007-04-05 23:47 ID:mfneN+m/

>>381
We need more people in the world like you. Forgiven.

>>380
17 here. Not a single girlfriend in my life, although I've had my crushes and whatnot -_- . I feel alienated too when being around girls. Not that they are weird (what is normal anyway?), but I feel embarrassed or vulnerable to them. I'd like to have a girlfriend, I'd really like to :)
But being stuck in a school in whose society (friggin' Mexico!) is alert and cautious as of relationships and pairing is a real drag. I don't feel free enough to have a girlfriend if I am in that school. The "qué dirán" (what will they say) fear is really a big problem in everybody, although very few accept it. I have that fear too, but I am trying, slowly, to get rid of it. Being in Mexico's slow and sad society is a real problem for a person like me who has other projects in life :(

383 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-04-13 05:57 ID:7ZPaNFdJ

hi, hows it going it's been a while since i've had a boyfriend or been on a date, but i'm a fraid to go up to a guy ask him out for coffee what do i do?

384 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 06:57 ID:LvJGnpYQ

>>383

It looks to me >>382 is single, why don't you two get together and get some coffee.

385 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-04-13 08:55 ID:7ZPaNFdJ

i'm 19 and my birthday is saturday so i'll be going on 20 so i'm flying to california, my mother thinks i should date within my own culture while i'm over there, but i don't care who i date, see for me in the past i had never dated a mexican guy, and my mother has always brought me down alot of levels in dating, because she told she would never approved of me being with aguy who is outside my own race, but i don't care who i date as long as i'm happy, so thats why it hard for me to date i'm afraid she wouldn't approve? you probaly think i'm stupid? for what i just said?

386 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 09:05 ID:O5/D54nh

>>383

do it, as i guy i'd say you'd have a grateful recipient.

cultural pressure puts guys on the active side of encounters(presenation), and not all guys like that. saving some guy the hassle of that, and turning the tables, would be most certainly refreshing.

at least that's my outlook.

387 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 09:10 ID:O5/D54nh

>>385
jewish here.. same dilemma... and the community is so small there tends to be a kind of cookiecutter mindset to most women in the culture.. (which also happens to be very cold).
my outlook.. when someone comes along who inspires me to say "f*k it, i dont care what they think", they'll be someone worth a relationship with.

388 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-13 09:17 ID:EVxPqz9U

389 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-04-13 09:40 ID:7ZPaNFdJ

>>388 i hope i'll find someone soon? i really hope

390 Name: 379 : 2007-04-13 09:51 ID:Heaven

>>381

>I just dont understand why someone would want to do the TG thing to themselves. It probably comes from the way I was brought up,

It probably comes from not being transgendered or transsexual yourself. :P (I'm gonna briefly define TG as "not identifying strongly as either male or female, or identifying strongly as both" and TS as "identifying strongly as the other sex, and possibly taking steps to fix ones body to match".) It's completely understandable for you to not understand it yourself. Myself, I'm transgendered; I can't really understand people being able to just clearly identify as one or the other without any doubts at all. But that's not any reason to be disrespectful, right? To each their own, I say. I'm happy you're happy with your identify; and I'm happy with my own.

391 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-04-14 00:19 ID:4kEg9J1v

>I'm gonna briefly define TG as "not identifying strongly as either male or female, or identifying strongly as both"

Frigid Onanoko not so fond of neologisms if there is perfectly ok regular word for it. Based upon above definition, lets define TG as 'confused' no? Now, gonna discern three levels of gender recognition. Have used it successfully to ascertain own gender and preference. Think you can use it too.

Level1: Your body. This very simple, you should know if you are boy or girl.
Level2: Type of partner you want. This bit more difficult. You need find out if you like to make out with girl or boy, which one better.
Level3: Type of body you want to have. You should know this too.

Level2 most important. FO believe that person can feel strong affection for both boy and girl - you can make very deep relation with either as long as you find right person. So only thing that matter is which type you prefer in your bed.
Frigid Onanoko not know if being gay or lesbian is simply fooling oneself, or something real. Must leave that to you to decide for yourself.
Anyhow, romance is just method to pave road to getting closer physically, so don't confuse it with physical love - as noble as it sound, romance is not of higher level than making love. (well, that's just what FO thinking!)
If you not really desire boy over girl - i.e. you don't know - then why not just choose for opposite sex. Going for both will make world around you very confused about you, and that probably alienate bigger group of either boys or girls from you than you will find in the transgender scene. Opposite sex is better than same sex (at least in this case) because it fit better in pleasure. (Frigid Onanoko feeling queesy writing so much about sex all of sudden!) FO really advise to narrow down your partners to just boy or just girl.

About level 3. So maybe you have boy body, but you feel you should have girl body. OK. Frigid Onanoko want to have shiny white wings, and magical powers to cause massive collateral at flick of hand. FO no have. Very sad. Have to face reality. It would be very nice. It so annoying to have to witness own limitations, but cannot change it. At same time, wanna try to love self. (This time not in erotic sense) Can you accept yourself? This maybe even more important than finding out level2 Yes, FO think level3 is nonsense. Only include it because might seem like argument for some people. But it really is not. It immature not to accept your situation and to live in dreamworld instead.

Frigid Onanoko.... believe have been respectful of people who pertain to idea of transgender and transsexual. That's what it should be at any rate, and FO hope this is true. However, Frigid Onanoko no have respect for such ideas. Those just elaborate but silly excuses to cover up being confused and not dealing properly with it. (And, can have disrespect for peoples ideas even while having respect for the people - although if would have disrespect for ALL their ideas, then no. Still, that hardly the situation here.)

Have been talking way too much again. Saying bye now!!!

392 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-04-14 00:23 ID:4kEg9J1v

Ooh, forgot to mention, FO sometime prefer romantic above sex, but still, romance far less important in determining what type of partner you wanna have!

Bye for real now!

393 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-14 02:37 ID:Heaven

>>391
nice derail. back on topic please. also your radical ideas about neologisms have already occurred to others, and been debunked vigorously by others still. but this forum is no more for linguistic debate than it is for gender enlightenment. so at least have the courtesy to sage when you're off topic, if you really have to post at all. thanks.

394 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-14 18:10 ID:Heaven

FO is a guy lol

395 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-04-15 11:01 ID:4kEg9J1v

Singles rant thread not have well demarkated discussion boundaries. It one of most broad places to.. uh... rant. It most general thread in /love. So please let FO be. ok?

396 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-04-15 12:20 ID:RJo3VVjC

>>395 is gay

397 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-04-15 12:54 ID:u+MZQQrv

>>396 is gay

398 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-04-16 01:51 ID:5YSYjQO4

>>395 Agreed

How's everyone?

399 Name: Seraphius : 2007-04-16 03:59 ID:Khc9cL91

>>395
I agree as well, rants in rant thread == okay

>>398

Eh, I'm good, wanted to get out to the gym today but didn't happen, but thats what tommorow is for.

Met some new college girls in Sunday school... remembered why I don't want to date college students..lol

Pretty productive overall I'd say

Everyone else?

400 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-16 07:06 ID:ICyWkO3C

400 GET

Anyway, last night I was hanging out with my friend. I use to have a crush on his cousin but she moved away a few years ago. I actually didn't know my friend up until recently and about 6 months ago found out they were related. Back to the story, we were talking about life and we started to talk about her. He wanted to know if I had a crush on her, but I denied it. At most I said that if stuck around, I would have had a major crush on her. But my friend is a good guy. He was saying how she has gotten prettier and is really smart. But she plays hard to get with guys (btw, after he said that I felt that it was my duty now to try, I always enjoyed a good challenge). But I feel weird now. I should have forgotten about her a long time ago, but I am sitting with my friend, her cousin, in the library studying. I dunno, I guess I can't get over any lingering feelings.

401 Name: Seraphius : 2007-04-16 12:24 ID:Khc9cL91

>>400

Call her. Just a friendly call to see how she's doing if you are thinking about her. Maybe she needs that kind of pick me up anyway! If you fail, then thats okay too, but at least you know that the possibility has not completely passed you by. Good luck.

402 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-28 20:39 ID:xv8B8SmJ

I wish somebody loved me back...

403 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-04-28 21:14 ID:0EvS3aKw

>>402

ditto

404 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 01:48 ID:NtPg4kRe

Dear 4-ch, please hear me out.

I have surveyed all my options (ALL of them), and the only girl I would ever want to date right now is taken, by my best friend. There's another girl who I wanted to date in the fall, but I realized that even if I got her to stop being afraid of guys, she'd be really high-maintenance. I have NO OPTIONS. A college that is 60% women, and ZERO of them are intelligent, friendly, and available.

Someone come rescue me. For Pete's sake. I want someone, anyone female, to go out on a date with me, and at least act like a possibility for a week or so. Really I just want to give someone a hug. Oh God.

405 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 02:54 ID:Heaven

60% female and none of them are availble? I think you need to change your sample.

First of all leave your best friend and his girl alone. If you care about this girl and if you are a good friends with the guy you will not even consider about ending it for your own personal gain.

Second, for get about getting a girl for the week. Study for your exams, just study so hard that you will forget about girls. No need to ruin your grade in an attempt to get a hug. If you have any female platonic, I am sure you can get a hug out of them, just don't go overboard.

Finally, just relax. You will never get a girl if you are desperate and needy like that. You need to set your life so that dating is like 5th on your list of priorities. If you do that, then I promise you things will work out better for you, especially in the long run.

406 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 05:26 ID:/wyFeuwv

on that note, I am going to be at a uni that 95% are guys.
wtf

407 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 06:49 ID:DuQWG3YI

>>404

You're looking for a girl to date, not to marry. Stop being so dismissively critical, which I think you're only going from initial impressions and assumptions.

408 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 07:36 ID:NtPg4kRe

> Finally, just relax.

Hey, this is the singles rant thread and I'm posting the sum of all my frustrations. It doesn't reflect how I am actually going about doing this. I was probably pretty needy when I first found this forum but I've backed off a bit and now I'm just pissed that there's nowhere for me to go.

>>407 is good advice though. I was talking to this selfsame best friend for six hours tonight (let it slip that I like his girlfriend, oops, but that was kind of a mutual understanding from the start) and he pointed out that your initial impression of someone is TOTALLY different from what you will learn about them when you actually get into a deep relationship. Being a virgin I didn't know that. Thanks best friend and thanks 4-ch.

409 Name: confused guy : 2007-04-30 08:52 ID:6Rd3XREL

haiz.....I wish a girl would like me instead of me liking em. Im getting so tired and bored of attempting to get a girl.

410 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 09:28 ID:z6BAuoEG

Even if the girl liked you, as a man you will be expected to make the first move.

411 Name: Bad Engrish : 2007-04-30 09:31 ID:L+xPxkBq

>>409 How you like them if you not try to love them? then it would be a oneside love?

I wish I there will be a girl who love mo and know me for good and bad, but wishing is not much enough. I must try harder to know everything about the girl that I like but that is my weakspot, I don't understand Girl AT ALL!!! T_T

412 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 11:17 ID:wKXX8FU3

>>411
Lame pseudonym.

413 Name: Bad Engrish : 2007-04-30 12:17 ID:L+xPxkBq

sory for being a lame person T_T

414 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-04-30 16:24 ID:xWL3t8Gq

Just be Anonymous, it's easier.

415 Name: Seraphius : 2007-05-01 23:04 ID:Khc9cL91

>>409

Well don't attempt to "get" a girl. That goes for all of us. I chuckle a bit every time I hear the expression. Like girls are some kind of resource or pokemons to be "gotten." They are people... like you and I. And like you and I, they do not want to be tied up with someone who is not able to be happy on their own.

Bored of trying? Well maybe putting some time into bettering yourself may be what you need. If thats not important to you, then I am gonna guess that you will be in this predicament for a loooooong time.

I used to be a clingy spineless child that believed that I needed a female for happiness, until I ended up dating a girl for two years who needed me for happiness, and guess what? It was good for awhile, but I had to break up with her when I started thinking of what it was doing to my sanity. A real relationship is too draining and cannot last unless you learn to love yourself and are with someone who does as well.

All I am trying to say is that if you are not happy with yourself when alone, you will never be happy with someone else and will have an extremely difficult time getting yourself into a relationship with a girl who has any self worth whatsoever.

>>407

Agree with the second sentence, disagree with the first. The purpose of dating is to get to know someone for the purpose of finding out whether you are compatable for marriage. Unless of course you are seeking immoral pleasure.

416 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-02 04:08 ID:B8uhCHF5

I agree with the common sense brought to light by Seraphius. As for its relevance, I am not sure, having read no other post in this thread. I will add that it is more about finding oneself first, which will lead to self-fulfillment, than just being happy. Once a man realizes who he is in this world, a proper relationship will ensue. Of course, according to my philosophy, this is inevitable, as a woman represents the physical manifestation of just that (realization). Therefore take heed and do not sow seed in a premature breed as they are the physical snare which clamps down on your potentially powerful destiny, the fates.

417 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-05-02 07:14 ID:7ZPaNFdJ

i finally met someone when i went on vacation, but i was only with him for two weeks, thats when he asked if i wanted to be his girl friend, but said i don't have to reply so soon, he lives in los angeles and i live in washington state, do you think long distances relationships work out, what should do???

418 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-02 07:31 ID:xonbS1d8

>>417
I've been in a long distance relationship, and.. Well, it sort of worked, but on the other hand the distance was endlessly frustrating for both of us (especially since we were both broke college students, so visits were out of the question) and in the end it pretty much just fell apart. Suppose it depends if you're the sort of person who can pull it off, though.

419 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-05-02 07:36 ID:7ZPaNFdJ

it would be hard for me i'm also broke, and i'm going to start community college really soon too, so it would be hard to travel.

420 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-02 08:51 ID:GsYLZpcK

long distance relationships are a bad idea unless you're totally in love with the person and can picture yourself calling him nearly everyday and only seeing him a few times a year.

421 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-05-02 21:13 ID:/b1smZA4

I remember him when i was leaving in california, for two and half years, there was this kid who use to walk and stand outside of my aunts apartments, that's where i was leaving with my family, but back to my story, when my mom was always cooking, she would send me outside to play and everytime i went outside i would turn around and there he would be looking at me, but when i went to California two weeks ago, i didn't think i could see, him it was like fate.

422 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-06 05:38 ID:SjLdoJLr

old wounds opened up

423 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-06 05:44 ID:SjLdoJLr

you think you've got things under control. over the person and all and when it's put to the test, you realize you are not over them at all.

424 Name: argg : 2007-05-08 22:28 ID:W0Kewbmi

i want to have sex with yua aida fusioned with maria ozawa with a hint of kate ground

425 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-14 05:34 ID:Vfw8RcXm

>>424
no one cares

426 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-14 12:39 ID:gAPUaZrA

>>422
I feel your pain.

427 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-26 08:07 ID:NtPg4kRe

I met a girl at a party tonight, I think she likes me, but God there's only ten days left before I go back home and I'm so so worried that nothing will happen or I'll try to rush her into it and get her scared.

Being a virgin past the age of 18 is just a vicious cycle.

428 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-26 10:54 ID:Heaven

>Being a virgin past the age of 18 is just a vicious cycle.

How so?

429 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-26 16:05 ID:NtPg4kRe

>>428

no experience -> awkward attempts at dating -> even worse failure

Of course, I'm being cynical.

430 Post deleted by moderator.

431 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-31 19:47 ID:8bh2u+fa

>>35

Stop being a weeaboo pussy fag and maybe you'll get some tail someday.

432 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-06-01 04:43 ID:wR2lHggP

Whats the best tip to ask a guy out?

433 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 06:38 ID:SjLdoJLr

>>432
just asking

434 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 14:50 ID:srZrbrPW

>>432, I'd have to say I agree with >>432... Half the time the guy you want to ask out would love to be asked out, and as I guy, I can say that most of the time we're far more scared then you to show any interest, for fear of rejection... On behalf of all guys, just ask "do you want to go out sometime?" That's really all it takes, most of the time!

435 Name: 434 : 2007-06-01 14:51 ID:srZrbrPW

(whoops, meant to say I agree w/ >>433 on that, lol)

436 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 16:27 ID:OAsvXdb4

If I was a guy, I would think something was up if a girl asked me out.

437 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 17:33 ID:srZrbrPW

I wouldn't think something was up, I'd be happy she seems interested in me! The only reason I'd think something was 'up' was if she was perhaps well-known already as a sleep-around or gold-digger or something already...

438 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 18:48 ID:0S7WwcUN

>>437

Personally, I'd be very suspicious if a girl asked me out. Normally, they won't even not give me the time of day -- that would be too kind. They can't even bear to be in the same room as me.

Ergo, if a girl approaches me for any reason, it seems fair to assume she's working some sort of angle.

439 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-01 19:46 ID:NtPg4kRe

438 is too cynical. Don't worry about people like him, you wouldn't want to go out with him anyway.

440 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-02 09:16 ID:Heaven

>438 is too cynical. Don't worry about people like him, you wouldn't want to go out with him anyway.

seconded.

441 Name: 438 : 2007-06-02 14:43 ID:0S7WwcUN

>>439

>>you wouldn't want to go out with him anyway.

Gee, thanks.

442 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-02 15:06 ID:/XYC2AbZ

>>441

It's true, though, buddy. Just because a few girls have been dicks to you doesn't mean every one is. And it's that sort of cynicism and suspicion that really turns off some really sincere ladies. If you're interested in dating, keep and open mind. Not everyone's gonna hurt you, baby.

443 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-03 23:17 ID:Yafwr2cQ

at least you're not this guy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKad9acwKDY

444 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-03 23:42 ID:IXZe8QoD

I would sort of ease up on it though. Most guys will not have any problem with it at all but they're a bit too easy. You don't want to seem "too" easy. And sometimes saying "We should hang out" might be a little too blunt. Go with what a lot of girls say "It might be interesting if we hung out sometime" or "If i don't anything better to do, then let's go out"

You don't always want to do what a guy WANTS you to do. You can still tease them. Teasing them makes it more enjoyable for both parties. Do make it completely obvious, let them guess, let them wonder, let them imagine. And don't worry about taking your time.

Sensible girl she is. >>432

445 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-03 23:45 ID:IXZe8QoD

Actually. I just saw >>432's pictures...

Better at this point in time to work on some weight loss and some physical fitness. There's no shame in wanting to look good and to have boys come to you afterwards. No offense. You'll feel a lot better after a nice makeover and some weight loss.

Turkey + Lettuce + Water = Great Diet.

Good luck

446 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-06-05 06:18 ID:wR2lHggP

>>445 I'm losing weight, and the pictures you saw, are old, their a year old, i'm way thinner now.

447 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-06-05 06:23 ID:wR2lHggP

I've been going out lately on alot of dates since i've gotten back from california, it's like the universe has gone upside down for me, my friends think it's my look, but i think my social skills have changed? I really don't know, it's so weird, but all of the guys are really kind and cute.

448 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 13:55 ID:5ROE54zI

>>445
Ouch.
I mean, she's not exactly overweight.
Although, I guess if she does/did get into shape, you can tell she has a lot of potential.

>>432
I'm kind of in your shoes. Except instead of losing weight, I changed my hair and look. I pretty much got an immediate reaction and started turning heads. It's nice, the new confidence I have, but also slightly uncomfortable with the new attention.

Just as a piece of advice from a girl in the same boat, I think you should keep a level head amongst all this change. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for you, but it sounds as though you're a little overwhelmed and carried away with the new attention you're getting.

449 Name: Touch of Ink. : 2007-06-05 14:39 ID:IXZe8QoD

>>448
Keep a Level head, but at the same time, BASK!! BASK IN THE GLORY OF HUMAN VALIDATION. Because when you bask in it, it tends to attract more people.

Positive Attitude = Sexy + Cute + Beautiful.

MONSTER COMBO!~!~!

450 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-05 15:20 ID:Heaven

No guys ever used to pay attention to me. Then I finally met a guy, and we dated for a few months. Ever since we broke up many guys have all been jumping through hoops to be my...

friends. That's it. Friends. All of a sudden I have like 20 really good guy-friends who have no romantic interest in me whatsoever. Crap.

451 Name: jenny55972002 : 2007-06-05 16:39 ID:wR2lHggP

I'm not taking over advantage, we hang out and go out to concerts, but other than that it's just that, Alot of the guys tell me it's whats in the inside that counts not the outside, when i heard those words it sounded really nice, I guess there are still gentlemen in this world.

452 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 02:49 ID:sFcM3xiH

>>450

If the guys are jumping through hoops to be your friend, then they have romantic interest. They are just too scared to ask you out.

453 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 07:03 ID:OiePDpQO

>>450
joking ask each one of them if they want to go out with you and look at their reaction.

454 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-06 23:20 ID:CfOVS/Ij

>>450
Most if not all of them want to go out with you, but they missed any signals you might have sent or they don't want to risk scaring you off.

455 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 01:36 ID:TNHnEEIA

>>454
>>452
LOL! How very true!

>>450
Listen to truth, guys don't go out on a limb to make friends with a girl for no reason. I mean why do you think so many guys want to be your 'friend' suddenly when you're no longer taken?

456 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 01:49 ID:Jnu0w3TH

>>450 Seriously, the only reason they don't seem to have romantic interest is because they're literally terrified to show interest only to be shot down and then feel really awkward & creeped out around you in the future for having ever asked...

If you asked one of them to go out with you sometime, I mean, seriously asked them, I can almost guarantee you'll get a reaction, as their face lights up, and their fear goes away, at finally being able to see that you're not going to shoot them down or treat them like a creep for asking!

(That's single guys' worst fear, in my opinion... We try to be friends, but we're afraid to take that final step in saying something, for fear of now being regarded forevermore as a creep!)

457 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 04:19 ID:ndqdQS+E

I came back from college and I didn't manage to ask anyone out. I came close, but only when I was drunk-- when I became sober, I was extremely awkward. It made me feel horrible.

Now I'm back in this room where I spent four years jacking off. I'm already forgetting what my female friends looked like. I feel like I failed somehow.

458 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 05:26 ID:gAPUaZrA

>>457
I feel like I failed somehow, too, in the very same way. I still have something like 2 weeks though. Maybe then...

Hehe, like I believe that.

459 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 08:06 ID:tCnGsIVI

I'm single and too lazy to read the whole thread. can anyone give me a summary?

460 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 08:31 ID:gAPUaZrA

>>459
rant rant rant rant
rant doubt rant
advice rant rant rant counseling rant
rant rant rant

rant

461 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 08:50 ID:1aySjafD

lol, >>460 changed the structure with that post, though. here's the updated version.

>rant rant rant rant
>rant doubt rant
>advice rant rant rant counseling rant
>rant rant rant
>meta rant

462 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 07:27 ID:DHmptyu9

Ok my question is.. How in the hell would a asian guy get a white female in a majority white population?!

It's impossible >.< because I'm an asian guy with interest in white females :/ but, yet it feels like none of them are attracted to me and/or I don't know how to approach them. Hell, what's even sadder is that I am able to approach middle age or old ladies and have a conversation with them.. yet, I have a hard time forming a sentence with a attractive girl :/

463 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 09:42 ID:xQP/2eOD

>>462
You sound like a fob.

Piece of advice: Stay away from white girls if you don't know how to handle them. Seriously, most of the ones who seem like they show interest in you will use you for what it's worth and then dump you like there's no tomorrow. You'll go in with a full wallet and heart intact, and come out with an empty and broken one. Also, fobs seem to be notoriously dense at reading signals. They don't seem to understand that even if a white girl outrageously flirts with them, they only think of you as a "friend". Some of them don't mean it, but most do it for the sake of it. It's in their nature.

464 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 05:23 ID:5yja9l0e

So how did bruce lee get one? Not enough chinese to go around back then in the states ?
There seem tobe more asian girl with white guys then asian guys with white girls.

465 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-12 13:39 ID:I4XFHkRo

He got one by being totally sweet.

466 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-13 10:17 ID:Heaven

>>462
i like asian guys, you should call me.
i mean, you'd have to find out my number and everything, but it's worth a shot.

467 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-17 08:20 ID:sFcM3xiH

I just met this girl I had a crush on 5 years ago. I thought I was over her, but when I saw her again, a whole wave of feelings literally rushed back and smacked me in the face. But I dunno if I should call her. I feel like these are just old feelings just messing with my mind, but then again by gauging the events of the night, I may have been given a second chance.

She is transferring to my college, she is rooming in my sister’s old roommate and of course she is prettier than ever. But she may have a boyfriend but I am not 100% sure.

I feel like I have a second chance, but I also feel like that someone just wants to see me suffer..

I could use some help, really.

468 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-17 09:46 ID:SnYLeQGa

do it
it is incredibly scary
but god when it turns out exactly how you imagined it
things can't get any better

469 Name: sora : 2007-06-17 13:32 ID:DBnN58bG

you have nothing to lose, go for it.

470 Name: 467 : 2007-06-17 21:20 ID:sFcM3xiH

It is not the fact that I am afraid of calling her, well I am a little, but will it be waste of my time to pursue this? Can I expect anything to really happen from this?

471 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-18 02:37 ID:sylfd4RY

>>470

Why not?

472 Name: 467 : 2007-06-18 05:49 ID:sFcM3xiH

Alright I gave her a call a few hours ago.

For clarification let me add a quick backstory:

My sister and one of her roommates, Hannah, were graduating from college (we all go to the same school). My sister decided to hire my band to play at the party because she wanted some good CHEAP entertainment. We played a few acoustic sets at local coffee shops and played two full shows at local clubs. We mainly play for fun but we don't mind the money we get from the shows. While playing our second or third song I saw her walk by the band and we made obvious eye contact. She smiled and waved, while I nodded and lost the beat for a second (I play drums and bass during the acoustic sets). We played two sets the first 45 minutes, the second 30 minutes set with a 15 minute break between the two. During the break, that is when we got to talking. She told me about how she is transferring to my college and is rooming with her friend from high school, who happens to be the sister of Hannah who also stayed with them in the apartment. She moved from my town and moved to Hannah's befriend her and her sister. I thought life couldn't get any better, but then this guy Greg shows up and she introduces him as her friend. I noticed the entire night Greg would hover around her but never touched unless they bumped into each other. We finished playing the second set and everything went well. As an encore we played some songs from our acoustic set for a small group of people left, she and Greg were among them. I was able to use my singing voice for "Under the Bridge" by RHCP. After that we packed up and left, and we exchanged numbers as I headed out the door.

When I called her, she told went on for like 5 minutes how good we were (she is a real chatterbox). We talked about old times and what happened after she moved away. She told me how she is moving in this Wednesday so she can start summer classes next week. I asked her if she wants to get lunch then and she happily accepted.

I guess things are going well, but I am still not sure about Greg. I still think that they are dating, but they show no signs of it, and she did introduce him as her friend. Aside from that I guess things are going well. I will let you know how Wednesday turns out.

473 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-18 06:11 ID:SnYLeQGa

oh jesus
she introduced him as a friend.
they didn't touch at all.
she HAPPILY ACCEPTED lunch
MAKE YOUR MOVE
GO FOR IT
GOOD THINGS ARE HEADED IN YOUR DIRECTION

(i'm so excited)

474 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-18 14:44 ID:/wyFeuwv

>>472 whoa, why all the paranoia? The point is, they are not dating and if they are, they are (which is impossible) awfully cold to each other.

475 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-18 15:08 ID:SjLdoJLr

Greg might be stuck in the friend zone. either way go for it!

476 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-20 18:59 ID:0k/l1mxo

467> it's been 2 days since u've called her. any updates?

477 Name: Visual Kei : 2007-06-21 04:00 ID:S7MVLesJ

Cuuuute

478 Name: 467 : 2007-06-21 04:57 ID:sFcM3xiH

Today was one of the greatest days of my life.

479 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-21 05:09 ID:Heaven

Sounds like someone has a new story to tell. Go ahead and tell it, we are ready to defend against shelling.

480 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-21 06:06 ID:Heaven

>>478
We want details, you bastard!

481 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-21 10:35 ID:I6w+a9v+

yeah details would be good!

482 Name: 467 : 2007-06-22 06:21 ID:sFcM3xiH

Sorry for the lack of updates, I have been busy with life

The night before I decided to go to sleep early so I could get a good night’s rest. However, I was so nervous that I couldn’t sleep until very late or very early, depending on your perspective. Since I was so tired, I over slept and have a few minutes to get ready for work. I quickly showered, brush, didn’t have time to shave, and ran out the door to grab the bus to the lab where I work. But since I was behind schedule, I just missed the bus. And I forgot to mention, it was raining. After waiting 10 minutes for another bus, I got to the lab finding out that there is a contaminant in the HPLC. After about 4 hours of cleaning the machine, I was finally able to go to lunch.

I met up with her at a pizza shop on the main street of campus. It is small place that has an indie/college vibe to it, but is the best place to get pizza on campus. I showed up about 5 minutes late and was already seated. She looked a bit anxious, probably worried if she was in the wrong place. As soon as she saw me, her face lit up and she greeted with a smile and witty remark on how I should tell time.

For about the first 5 minutes we talked about the generic, boring stuff, like how her day has been, what is good to order, if she is enjoying her new apartment and if she needed any help. Soon, we were talking about old times, friends and places. She was a little shocked about how some of our old mutual friends have changed in the course of 5 years while others are virtually the same. We then talked about what happened after she left. She went on how she went to her new school and did not know a single person. The first person she met was one of her, I guess current roommates, and they met because she asked her where 1 classroom was and she happened to be in the same class at the same time. But one thing I find remarkable about her is that she is very nice, friendly, just amazing personality. And by talking to her, even it is for like 5 minutes, is that she can turn the worse day in the world in to the best. She went on how she soon became very active socially in high school, making a lot of friends, working on the yearbook and newspaper, as well as being very active around her community by volunteering and such. She also explained why she transferred. She wants to psychology and our school’s psychology program is one of the best in the state. She is also pre-med and we do have a nice medical school for her to look at.

Then she asked me what I did after she left. I was hesitant at first; I mean do I really want to admit was Captain of our Science Olympiad and Academic Decathlon teams? After her persuasion, though, I did tell her about those activities. She was delightfully impressed about it though but was curious to know how I can be a nerd-musician. She knew I played the drums; I started before I met her. I explained that I picked up the bass junior year of high school and I have been playing the guitar for about a year. I told her I no where near a master in all of those instruments and I only play as a hobby and the occasionally rent money. But again she was delightfully impressed by my talents. I felt uncomfortable about the attention being focused on me, so I switched the conversation back to her.

483 Name: 467 : 2007-06-22 06:22 ID:sFcM3xiH

When the check came, I didn’t realize that the waitress didn’t split it and I paid it with my credit card, and essentially paying for the both of us. She objected to my paying, and (jokingly) complained it is the 2007 and how women are capable of paying for there on food. Rather than accept her money or allow her to pay if we went out again, I told her to think about it as a house-warming present. We left the restaurant a little more than a hour since I got there. We stood in front on the sidewalk making our awkward goodbyes and she asked if we can do it again sometime. I told her next Tuesday, there is a nicer place down the street where we can eat, but they are more of a dinner place than lunch. She said it would be fine and she can pay for her own meal, unless it is too expensive then I can handle the bill :-). I wanted to hug her or something, but I was too scared to make a move, so I just said bye and headed back to work.

484 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-22 06:49 ID:SnYLeQGa

oh god so cute.
i am happy. look how good this is turning out.
you guys have a dinner date now!
aaaah!
good luck!
(i can't wait til tuesday.)

485 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-23 16:36 ID:GoHwXSUo

sounds promising. good luck and dont forget to give an update after tues!

486 Name: 467 : 2007-06-26 04:30 ID:sFcM3xiH

Quick update:

Saturday, a bunch of my high school friends "kidnapped" and took me to the beach this weekend. It was good to spend time with old friends.

Dinner is tomorrow, I told her to meet me there around 7:30. I have a fair idea what I am going to talk about, but I still feel like I am storming a Omaha beach with an empty gun. So I would gladly take any advice.

487 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 11:20 ID:SjLdoJLr

oh man I can't wait for the next update! 467 is making me believe in love again! ~_~

488 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 23:05 ID:+RNTWiEI

Where are you eating? What are you wearing? Tell meee~ !

489 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-28 00:08 ID:Heaven

>>486
We want the Details!

490 Name: 467 : 2007-06-28 16:22 ID:J//jH7pq

Sorry for the lack of an update, I was going to update as soon as I got back, but my laptop decided not to work. So I am now stuck to using a public computer until I get mine fixed.

Tuesday started amazing but I say it ended badly. Work was slow and it was easy for me to leave early. I left work around 4 and went back home and decided to go a run. I was really nervous and I had to work out some excess energy out of me. So around 6 I started to get ready. Showered, shaved, and put some cologne on. I am not a cologne person but my roommate insisted. Polo Black what it was called and I must admit, it wasn't that bad. I wore stripped collared shirt and some dark jeans with black shoes. I drove by her place around 7, (actually 7:07, I left a little late), knocked on her door and she opened it with a yellow and black top, kind of swirling together, with a black skirt. My first reaction was DAMN, but I greeted her with a studdered hello.

The resturant was about a 5 minute drive from her place, not too far and it is really nice and the price isn't too bad either. At first we talked about each other's weekend. She just stayed in town, went shopping with her roommate, watched a movie and basically just explored town. I told her about my impromptu beach trip and she was excited that I was naming names she once knew. After that we just had a crazy conversation with the topic changing like 15 times and we some how found a transition between all of them. I believe we started out how I attempted to surf and ended up talking about Van Goegh. And in between we would toss in a joke, like how I showed her what I did at work with bread and oil. I showed her "Plate Chromotography." Obviously she is not as nerdy as me to get the joke, but she laughed at my attempt and just general silliness of the situation (that was the worse of them, I am not that bad at telling jokes).

We were at the resturant a good 3 hours before we realize it may be time to leave. About 30 minutes later we actually decided to leave. Time just flew by, I cannot even still imagine that we were there for that long.

I was deciding to take her to get some ice cream but since it was past 11, I decided to take her home. And here when things got bad. As I was walking up her up to her door, I was debating with myself if I should kiss her goodnight and both sides had really convincing arguements. When we reached her door, the tension in the air skyrocketed. She told me that she is having a house warming/ birthday party for her roommate Mona and that I should come. I told her I have to think about it since I am going home home to spend 4th of July with my family and that I am leaving Sunday. She said that is fine but I should try to come even just for a little bit. At that point it became deafly quiet with only the slight sound of traffic and crickets muffled in the background. We were both staring at each other, it was like nothing else except for us exisited. I leaned in slightly and with my lips, I whispered "goodnight."

491 Name: 467 : 2007-06-28 16:22 ID:J//jH7pq

I think a sailor would be upset at the amount of swearing I shouted out on my drive back to my house. I told my roommate about what happend and got my laptop and then it broke. I dropped the biggest F-bomb to hit North America. I am still a bit upset but I calm down a bit. My roommate told me that I should have kissed her, but it is no loss just so long as I do it on our next date. He also told me something really surprising: he has a crush on Mona. They are friends, not good friends, but they will hang out on occasion. I told him about the party and he insisted that WE should go. (I was going to ask y'all if I should go, but I guess I figured that out).

Wednesday, I told everyone in my lab and they said I should have kissed her. The bass player in my band called and told me I should have kissed her, I swear, everyone and there mother told them I should have kissed her.

But next time I will see her is Saturday and then I will be gone for the week. I was thinking, at the party I would ask her out for date for next Saturday, when I get back. Set it up where the mood is right and then kiss her. Or should, if I get the chance, kiss her at the party?

Oh she also just called me too. Asking about the party situation. I told her, my roommate and I will stop by for a bit, but I cannot stay for long because I have to drive in the morning. She doesn't sound upset, so I guess I am safe. But I cannot allow a mess up like that happen again.

492 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-28 20:35 ID:YJw4ND1J

betcha she was very disappointed, but definitely kiss her at e party when u get the chance!

493 Name: 467 : 2007-06-30 17:03 ID:AQd+fvK2

Just want to give a quick update. The party is tonight, supposely it is going to be around 20 people and suppose to be pretty chill. If I get the chance, I will kiss her but I cannot make any promises I can get her alone. My roommate is coming to "spit his game" with Mona, but also to run interference with the party go-ers so we have a little bit of privacy

Tomorrow I am heading for home for the week to celebrate the 4th with my family. It has been 25 years since my parents moved to the US so they want to do something special. A lot of family, a lot of food, and a lot of fun. I should be back next Saturday. So you have to wait at least a week to see if I got a kiss or not (no internet at my parent's place, sorry).

Have a good week all, and Happy 4th of July.

494 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-02 07:25 ID:D9ZjyWK1

For a rant thread, there aren't that many rants by singles lately...

Well, I've got nothing to do on the 4th of July. I wanted to at least watch some fireworks, but I have no idea if there'll be any in my town, or if it'll be in the next town over, which I won't be able to get to due to lack of transportation.

It's depressing, really. I don't have anyone who'd go with me anyway, as my friend who I've usually hung around with on Independance Day has a boyfriend now, so she's probably going to some resturaunt with him. My other friend lives a little too far for me to go there, and her family's having a barbeque that day, so she can't come here. I'd go to NYC to see fireworks(trains go there every hour from where I live, even in the middle of the night, and the train station's within walking distance from where I live), but I'd rather not go there by myself. Even my family lacks motivation to do anything. My parents are moving to a new house soon, so they're too busy packing things to think about doing anything on the 4th.

My motivation to enjoy life's slowly draining away. I need to save my money, so I can't spend it on anything this summer. I'd like to do a lot of things, like go to the beach once, go to an amusement park, visit NYC, meet up with some old friends, but as the weeks go by at my summer job, I come home too tired to do anything. All I do is eat, work, watch anime, and sleep. I wish I could do something more productive this summer. Really, you're only young once. I'd like to have fond memories of my youth when I grow old, but if things keep going as they are, I'm just going to grow old regretting being alive at all, because I never really did anything special.

I guess I'm just antsy. I'm gonna try and call up some old friends of mine tomorrow, maybe, just to get out of this lifeless slump I'm in.

495 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-02 13:35 ID:srZrbrPW

Why not, I'll join in on a good rant... I'm 26 and still being in the same boat of feeling like you're only young once... And I just about 3 weeks ago broke up with the first person I've really cared about, but who was just toying with having a relationship, and didn't really want one... Right before my company 4th of July picnic at a nearby amusement park/waterpark, which I'd planned on taking her to (and at the time, she'd said she'd love to go)...

Now I've basically got no reason to go to the picnic, but yet I'm on the volunteer planning committee for the picnic, so I have to go... Which makes for a wonderful day of sitting alone watching everyone else and their significant others and/or families having fun with each other at the park... Like I don't already get enough of seeing people holding hands & everything in public constantly at every store & place I go...

I planned on watching some 4th of July fireworks as well, but I just have no drive right now for much of anything... No real reason to be interested... I've got a convention with some friends coming up, and did hang out with a friend last night that I haven't seen in a couple weeks, but I still feel really down... I just feel like there's no point in doing much of anything lately...

(As this is a singles rant thread, at least it's only the 4th of July, not Valentines Day... My most loathed of all holidays... All that makes me think of is how, when in Elementary School, teachers made every child make boxes to hold valentines cards, and how every child bought valentines for every other child in the class, but when Jr. High and beyond came along... People realized they no longer had to, and that's when if you weren't popular or liked, you never got anything again... You were the one who had to put up with watching everyone else find roses in their lockers all around you & things like that... At least on the 4th of July, the fireworks aren't near as bad of something to sit out alone;

496 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-02 14:41 ID:RVfPCooL

well fireworks would be very romantic for couples, but it's also nice to watch it with friends.

>>464
i m really looking forward to your update!I m already clutching my fist while typing with my nuckles here

497 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-02 14:44 ID:RVfPCooL

ah typo it's 467 not 464. sorry

498 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-03 06:54 ID:D9ZjyWK1

This is >>494 speaking.

>>495

You're actually a lot luckier than you give yourself credit for. Sure your significant other's now your ex, but now more than ever you've gotta count your blessings. After all, unlike me, you've still got the chance to hang around other people and socialize on the 4th. It might not be Valentine's Day, but it's still depressing to spend any holiday by yourself. Enjoy your company picnic to the best of your ability, okay? Have fun with your co-workers, and stay positive. If not for yourself, for all those people who don't have anyplace to go that day.

I know what you mean about being annoyed with people holding hands and whatnot. My best friend invited me to hang out with her college friends(we go to different colleges) and her boyfriend for her birthday, and it was the worst day I ever had. There were five people including me. There was my best friend, her boyfriend, and another couple. It felt like I was intruding on a double date the entire time. My friend wasn't very considerate at all; she kept kissing and hugging her boyfriend. After mini-golfing for a while, we went to her boyfriend's house for cake, and they just rolled all over his basement floor making out the entire time, for hours upon hours. I sware, people have no modesty these days! It's like they were practically about to have sex in front of me. I don't mind kissing or holding hands, but please, there's a limit!

Don't get me wrong, I love my friend to bits, but she gets on my nerves sometimes. The thing is, though, we've been friends since we were kids, so even though I hate how much she loves her public displays of affection, I want to support her, because it's her first relationship, and your first relationship is the one you always remember. Whether it was good or bad, you'll always remember it.

499 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-03 13:49 ID:Ya3qLgUm

>>498

i know how you feel...each and everyday, everywhere..all the time i only see ppl holding hands, together hugging kissing...and i pity you, it's bad enough ppl that you don't know, but your case...oh god...it's going to turn ur mind around.but still live on and stay strong.good luck

500 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-04 05:09 ID:FTTuuo+O

500 get

501 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-04 05:39 ID:Kh/O/EbJ

>>500

GET GOT

502 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-04 05:52 ID:u3amxgjl

hello.

for all of you single ranters, perhaps i can make you feel better - misery loves company?

i am turning 28 shortly. i have never had a girlfriend. i have never kissed a girl. i am obviously still a virgin. i am not gay, or bi - i really am attracted to girls. the girls i have liked in the past have not felt the same way about me.

somehow, i am always giving advice to friends. they go through the trials and tribulations of love and i am there for them. i have been told that i am a good shoulder to cry on. but i never cry on anyone else's shoulder. in fact, i never used to cry. but i find myself crying often these days.

i am unemployed, and seemingly unable to find work. the only reason i am not living at home is because my parents have done well and bought me an apartment. but this only makes me feel worse - the stigma of living at home is pretty bad, but try being a spoiled loser? even sillier is feeling bad about feeling bad, because there are a lot of people who are plenty worse off in the world.

all of this makes me want to put myself out there even less. there are a billion red flags in there. but how can i find love if i can't step outside and look?

at least i can sit here and cheer you guys on.

503 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-05 03:03 ID:2n9PTX7o

>>500

Congrats! clapclap

>502

It must really suck to be unemployed.D: Your first goal should be to get a job. Baby steps, you know?

504 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-05 03:38 ID:PYLcL6jw

what 502 said was right,get a job;then maybe u'll find someone you like at your workplace =D

505 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-05 05:06 ID:Heaven

>>502

How can you not find work? If you need a job,you will work anywhere you can. Suck in your pride and flip them hamburgers. I rather work at a shitty job than be unemployed.

506 Name: 467 : 2007-07-09 18:47 ID:qPpAufG7

Hey everyone, I am back from my little holiday.

Saturday, my roommate and headed to the party around 10ish. Rather than ringing the doorbell, we just walked in and saw about 20 or so people just around the apartment in little groups talking. As we shyly entered, heads glanced over toward us as my roommate and I tried to make sense of all the faces. Immediately someone grabs me from behind and asks "Guess who?" It was quite obvious who it was and I just played along for a bit. I introduced to her to my roommate and then she took us along introducing us to people. As I said before, this was a birthday party and a house warming party. Most of the guest where Mona's friends since they were on or near campus. They had a few mutual friends, but there also a few guest from her hometown/old college there. They were in a little group in the corner just chatting away when she introduced us. There were two guys and two girls. the girls and one of the guys I have never met, and the other guy, well it was Greg.

I remember the advice you gave and rather feel threatened by him, I tried to be very friendly with him. I started to talk with him and he and his friends decided to spend the weekend there and just party. I asked him where he was staying and he pointed to the ground and said, "right here" I offered him and his friend to come over to our place, we have an extra bed and a futon and they were more than happy to stay with us for the night, and throwing in how he should let the girls have the place to themselves. They said they would consider it.

While I was talking to Greg, my girl, Allison (by the way, I am not using real names just in case someone I know finds out about this), was mingling, making sure everyone was comfortable. I was fine with that because me and Greg were just getting along. He is a pretty nice guy, smart too. I think I really did overreact my first meeting with him. Allison came back and sneaks her way underneath my arm and also gives a me a drink (I didn't ask for one). So any doubt of her liking me was quickly erased at that point. We chatted with Greg for a bit longer, and then we went over to my roommate and Mona (I thought my roommate needed my help, but he was quite fine on his own). I had dragged Allison away from the two and it took her a good while to figure out why. Me and Allison went around the room and talked a all the little groups, there was even a group out on the balcony.

Here when life gets great. We were talking to the group when midnight was strolling by. A few of them had to go home, while others went inside to talk to other people. So it was it was just me and Allison on the balcony, alone with a night sky in front of us. I also love my roommate, he saw us two alone and comes over and shuts the door say "man there are too many bugs getting in here." Then for a little bit, we just rested on the railing of the balcony and just talked. She made a comment about the stars being bright, which reminded me of The Beatles song "And I lover her" which has a line "bright are the stars that shine" and suddenly struck with the urge to kiss her. It was quite literally a primal grip of my soul. I gazed into her eyes and she stared back. With no words spoken on my part, I just leaned in and gave her a kiss on the lips.

507 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-09 20:24 ID:6PW3SJFu

God I have a pretty good rant.

Ok, so I have had a crush on this guy named Zac (not real name) for maybe the better half of two years. Not continually, but yeah pretty much on and off. So about 2 weeks ago I call it quits. I say to him, nonchalantly, that I am pretty much done with him. This was while I was over his house, and not surprisingly he was fine with it, since I was pretty sure he wasn't interested in me anyway. Well, that same week, we decided to go to a movie. We also went ice skating, both did with other friends present. It was an ok time, nothing special happened or anything. We then go see the movie, we talk about how awesome it is and all.

He then springs a question on me, asking if it's ok if he comes over that night. Well, of course I am thinking, great, we're just friends now. I invite another friend, he doesn't seem to care. We are all sitting in this pitch black room, and i am sitting with my legs kind open. I then feel someone lay in between them, and it is Zac. Of course I have no problem with this, though I am confused. We eventually get up, go to bed, next day comes. We slept in the same bed, turns out, but nothing seems to have happened. He asks to stay ANOTHER night. I am cool with this. That night was very odd. He lays down beside me, on the same bed, really close laying in the oppisite direction. Then he switches direction. Now we are laying right side by side sharing a small pillow. He then turns his body to match mine, and we are spooning. Out of nowhere. I put my arm around him and he doesn't say anything. I start kinda caressing his neck and all. We fall asleep like that, and it's one of the best nights I have ever had.

That sounds normal for a couple right? Well, this is right after I tell him that I don't like him anymore. I don't understand, and I have a feeling I am being fucked with. Long story short, I am confused and still single. Life sucks.

508 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-07-09 22:49 ID:1aySjafD

You live on your own already? Assuming you do and are around twenty but probably older.

Frigid Onanoko no see problem with you being together like this since you both appear to enjoy. However it problematic the way you communicate to each other. If you continue saying there is nothing between you, then the verity of your words will wear off. He and your friends will think you are talking nonsense and unable to understand your own situation. Better be cool about it and maintain that you still are close to each other, something like that. That way, you no need to keep up appearances.

All you did when saying you through with him is that you no feel obligations to stay with him. I.e. when you find another guy, there no problem to fall in love with him. Until then, why not enjoy company of Zac(s body)? However, don't get lazy, don't get complacent with the situation. If you no take proper distance from him, at least mentally, then perhaps you find it hard to fall in love with another guy since your heart is still anchored to Zac.

Finally, if you intend on finding new boyfriend, then most likely the closeness of Zac will turn him off, because usually boys look for girl only, not girl and competition attached. Letting Zac around you so closely will make it more difficult to get guys interested in you.

Frigid Onanoko, saying bye! (why don't you bite him? when you do, say its because he such bad boyfriend!)

509 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-09 23:08 ID:fSaHA/tf

>>506
SUCCESS.

510 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-10 02:04 ID:Heaven

>>507

He just wants to sleep with you. He is sleeping in your bed, it is just at matter of time before he whips his dick out. Create space with him and if you like him TAKE IT SLOWLY. So far he has only shown concerned with taking off your pants.

511 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-13 14:31 ID:+idkOdGr

He is awesome. In all sense of the word.
Funny, good-looking, athletic, full of surprises.
You wouldn't know it from just looking at him.
I can't help but smile when I see his face.
He ticks literally all my boxes. Which is a first, because I'm such a picky bitch.

How can one person be so awesome?

512 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-14 08:30 ID:dBPgNyvW

usually when people are unemployed it is because they dont realize that they need to apply everywhere all at once and many times and call the places back. it shows that you are truely interested in working and it never hurts if you get more call backs after already having a job. if the call back is better then switch jobs and if it's not the people aren't going to get to upset if you say no. another issue is getting out of the rut of how much you want to be making and how much the job pays. anypay is better than no pay.

513 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-03 00:13 ID:xO7/pyQP

depression guys. IT ISN'T GOING AWAY. ( ' A ` ; )

514 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-09 12:20 ID:y+wl67aV

Hi guys. 18 years old here.

My problem is I'm still madly in love with my ex-girlfriend. We broke up two years ago and I haven't been able to get over her.

I have friends that keep me company, but they can only do so much, and I feel awkward opening up to them about anything... Because it usually ends up with them not knowing what to say. They're not really compassionate guys, I guess.

So, I turn to the internet.

I just can't shake the feeling that she was the one for me. We both had a unique sense of humour that no one else around us really got. She's one of the very few people I've ever met that I could fully put my trust in. She's kind to most people around her, regardless of who they are. She may not be the most good-looking person to the average eye, but to me she is beautiful. She just has a radiance around her that makes everyone love her. Some of my happiest memories are of her.

I've looked and looked, but I can't seem to find anyone out there that even comes close to her level. It feels like she is irreplaceable, and I'd be better off trying to get back together with her than go looking for other girls.

Breaking up with her messed me up, but after 2 years I'm finally feeling better. I have a decent job, I'm a lot more outgoing(I used to waste my life on MMORPGs..) and I'm feeling quite better in general. The only thing missing is a relationship, and when I think about that, she's all I can think of.

I'm ready to try again. I'll lose the weight I put on while I was depressed over her. I want to do all the things we never did before and tell her all the things I never did before, but wanted to. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make it work this time. I want to live without regretting at least trying.

Is this a good idea, 4ch? Is reigniting old love possible?

515 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-11 00:45 ID:3nLqCUjK

>>514
She dumped you, right? If you dumped her or it was mutual, you'd be over her by now. She isn't irreplacable. Billions of women out there. Why you're busy feeling sorry for yourself they're happily finding other partners and you're cold and lonely. You know what you have to do, so do it.

516 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-11 20:49 ID:xWL3t8Gq

Hey everyone. I'm at sophomore year of college now. My problem isn't that I'm desperate for a girlfriend-- I'm feeling a little better this year, and I'm always meeting new people. My problem is that I don't really know what to say to people I met last year, and everything is either awkward on my part, or it seems like they want to get out of my presence! Consider this conversation, either way:

  • Hi
  • Hi
  • Uhh... okay, going to dinner now.
  • OK, later.

Just needed to let off some steam.

517 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-12 03:46 ID:38yQlkXT

>>516
your just making the opposite person feel awkward as fuck...instead of just saying hi, why dont you say something like 'hey where the hell have you been?'.....a way lot easier to respond to than just a vague 'hi'

518 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-12 13:17 ID:sKlOb02U

>>516
You got to search for a something in common and talk around that. Hard at first, but with a little practice this becomes really easy. Avoid cliches: "So what do you do in your spare time" because it sounds corny as hell. Don't say "Hey did you see Matrix 3!" because she might think it sucks. Avoid talking too much about you, talk about her. Openers like "hey, love your outfit" but whatever you say be genuine. If it sucks, don't tell her its great. Slickest stuff is when you get her talking about her hopes, dreams, what she wants to do and where she wants to go, but for starters be general about stuff you're both likely to have in common. If you haven't done much living, can be tough because you don't have much to talk about, but trust me: once you start, it gets much easier. Just relax.

519 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-12 19:20 ID:DpHL8+sj

>>518 I have a similar problem, I can't complement someone unless it's something I really respect and fashion is not one of them, in fact it's mostly "geeky" things that give my complements.

my problem is that my hobbies/interests aren't popular to discussing with others mostly because i like to keep parts of my life private (out of necessity not going to expand).

the main thing i share in common with most people is drugs and movies :\ and im not an artfag so i don't really get pretentious and start "analyzing" the film, etc. so i can't really hold a discussion with that. usually i have some sort of project im working on that is incredibly boring if you are not me (like figuring out how to setup a certain type of server).

idk i just don't click with most people i meet. tips?

520 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-12 21:42 ID:YeQGOOFi

I'm going to be in college this in few days as a freshmen. I know I will meet more new people, but I always seems to be not talkative. Like when I meet someone new, I can't be always the one to start a convo. Like what do you say when you meet someone new?

521 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-12 22:49 ID:DHOZtw2T

>>520
"Hi! What major are you in/are thinking about doing? How're classes going so far?" That's what I usually say to new people in college. It brings something to the table to talk about, and you can drift from there to other topics. It's a start at least.

522 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 03:50 ID:ubVAYVQa

well, I'm now a fresh man in university.
Thanks to my choice of being in Computer Engineering I only come in contact with males during my daily life (its like a 20 to 1 ratio m:f ), of course, I'm really happy to hang around my male friends, but man , I'm 20 and with the workload we got, I can already see myself getting my masters at the age 26 with the same life I have now, only with more white hair strands.
Meeting with girls, getting a girlfriend, or even in further future, marriage, I don't ever see myself in that picture.
sorry, I had to whine a little.

523 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 10:14 ID:xu/u0r2c

>>522 You'd have some serious problems if you had white hair strands at 26... You really shouldn't be having anything like that happen until many years later...

At 20, you should hardly worry, take it from personal experience... There are lots of chances and opportunities for you...

524 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 16:07 ID:hWx6Spxu

God damn it... I want a BF before I turn 20 and it's only a few months away!

525 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 18:49 ID:FTqpSgSs

>>524
where are you located? :)

526 Name: shudder : 2007-09-14 18:56 ID:5gGcZ/LL

Creepiest Thread on 4-ch.

...Seriously

527 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-15 05:32 ID:ubVAYVQa

>>523 , >>522 here, its genetic. My father's hair started to go gray really early on, my brother at 27 now has a lot of white hair, you can clearly see it if you look at his hair across a room.
thx for the advice.

528 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-18 07:38 ID:2Gd+STmp

Tell us more 467!! How is dating situation now!?

529 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-22 23:48 ID:JgbR/lgt

I don't know if I like being single or not. In a way, there's so much less to worry about. But being in a relationship is nice too.

There's a girl I like, I don't know though if I want to date her or anything. Last relationship I had was kinda pseudo, I think both the feelings of both of us were obvious but I never admitted how I felt to her.

Some of my friends think there's something going on, it's been a while since I last talked to her. I don't think she really sees anything going on other than us being friends. Thing is I'm very happy just being friends with her and I'd hate to break that up by making unwanted advances.

I'm not sure what to do 4-ch, I think wait and see if any stronger feelings develop.. how does that sound?

530 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-23 02:56 ID:DHOZtw2T

I think you should just go ahead and wait and see what happens, 529. There's no need to pursue anything more if you're not feeling totally up to it. If you don't know if you want to date her, then you shouldn't try and change the relationship right now.

531 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-24 03:29 ID:Heaven

>>522

I have noticed that a lot of engineering schools always has one or two schools near it with a large female student body and that they all go to your school for the parties. Try joining a fraternity it may help your situation.

532 Name: Shucake : 2007-09-25 04:37 ID:DHOZtw2T

Hey 4-ch! I don't think this needs a new thread, so I'm gonna say it here...
I'm a girly, a freshman in college. Everything's really fine and dandy. There just happens to be this one guy in class I have taken a fancy to. He's really cute, pretty sweet, and just all around a kind fellow.
The first time we really spoke to each other was when he let me borrow a paintbrush from him during a class. After that I've been trying to be friendly-- to, y'know, make friends and stuff-- and say hello to him everyday. Sometimes when I look around in class, I kinda look his way and he's looking back my way. No idea if he's really looking at me but... sometimes we smile at each other. Especially when I end up waving at him.
He started talking to me a bit more, like about m glasses and stuff. Saa. I kinda like how he says my name. Eheh. Last week after one class he asked if I wanted to get lunch so we went walking around together and got something to eat before heading to our next class. I wasn't sure what to think of it-- he's probably just being friendly too, but it made me feel a little giddy. He asked the same thing today so we ate lunch together again. I'm usually a bit shy at first-- and he seems rather quiet-- but I think we're talking pretty well so far. And when we get quiet we kinda just look at each other and smile.
He also came to me and asked if I wanted help making a canvas today and ended up doing most of it for me. Eheh, my hands can be pretty weak.

So, hm, I don't know. I can't deny I'm certainly getting (or already) have a crush on the dude. But it's nothing big.. especially since it's just been a few weeks since school's even started. But I'm just wondering if he's being friendship-friendly or maybe he might be a little interested, too? I don't recall seeing him really going to eat with anyone else before.. at least not with another girl. What do you guys think?
For the meantime, I think I'm just gonna do my best to go with the flow... Things are pretty fun right now.

533 Name: 467 : 2007-09-25 06:52 ID:043AbCzE

>>528
Good to know people actually still interested. I know it has been a while, but if you can understand, my time was spent on more important things, namely her.

Everything between me and her have been going great, just absolutely wonderful. If it wasn't for her, I would be ranting on how bad life sucks. But just even thinking about her, I feel like a million bucks. I have a full course load and actually had to stop working in the lab because I don't have enough time in the day to get any actual work done. The band has been put on hiatus because everyone is busy (though we do jam the occasional weekend). But life is just awesome with her in it. I mean, no matter how bad my day has been I can pull her into my arms, and it is like nothing else exists. Sometimes I feel like I am dreaming because I still cannot believe this is all real. I have a girlfriend.

534 Name: 467 : 2007-09-25 07:05 ID:043AbCzE

Crap, I didn't realize that I didn't fill in the time from when I first kissed her to now. I will let know what happened (I guess you know it went well), as for now I have an exam to study for.

535 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-25 09:24 ID:JgbR/lgt

>>532

I think it sounds like he's trying to be extra nice and make a good impression. Good chance he's interested I reckon.

536 Name: 789 : 2007-09-25 13:49 ID:+Vb8+Y0C

Looks like I qualify for this thread again.

537 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-26 01:35 ID:mHnfx64l

HOWCAN i get a girl???????? im soo shy. HELP ME GOD.
1 Hot or cute gf is all i ask for . T_T

538 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-26 23:30 ID:Heaven

>>537
Chloroform.

539 Name: 467 : 2007-09-29 03:01 ID:b+q9oBO4

So after that first kiss, I left the party. I was able to time it right so that I had to leave when I kissed her. Leave her wanting more. I was so damn happy with that kiss, I felt like I swam to the moon and back. I left that week for my parents home. When I came back we started to date more. At first we met like twice a week, but soon enough it was 3-4 times a week. Dinners, ice skating, picnics, basically we started to spend more and more time together. Soon enough we are dating on a regular basis. I think it was about a month ago that we she was officially my girlfriend. She asked me if I considered her as my girlfriend. I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message. But I do introduce her as my girlfriend to my friends and peers. So thank you all for advice, but for now, this single ranting thread is over for me.

Sorry about not having more detail, I have always been press for time and since she came into my life, I always had something to do. If you really want I can give more details, but don’t expect it anytime soon.

540 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-29 23:31 ID:wYJAgL3x

It's not official until it's on facebook.

541 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2007-09-30 19:15 ID:uoBYMA/h

How???!!!! WHY!!!!!!.......So......unfair....I wanna meet someone too! wahhhhhhh=(

542 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 04:21 ID:sTjOXade

>>539
Clap, clap

> I never said yes, just kissed her on the lips, she got the message.

Smooth operator.

543 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 04:33 ID:5gGcZ/LL

>>541
go outside

544 Name: Shucake : 2007-10-02 01:53 ID:DHOZtw2T

>>532
It's me again! Since I wrote that, things have gotten more friendly. Or closer. Or something.
Me and the guy I'm crushing on have been going to lunch together almost every day so far. During our last art history class he's even sat on the side of the room I sit on for once, right in front of me. I dunno if it's because of me or another classmate that he did that.
Today we went to lunch again and since we had time before we had to get back to work I brought up a song he had wanted to show me last week. He asked me to sit out in the hallway with him while we watched and listened to a video on his iPod. I asked if he wanted to see a movie sometime and he said yes so... I believe we're going to tomorrow after class, so long as nothing changes.
Saa. I'm not sure what to think of this. I guess it's friends hanging out but.. it also does seem like he's interested, huh? But it feels kinda weird and very surprising if that's the case... I mean. Me? Haa.
Still trying not to get my hopes up but... I'm enjoying where this is going.

545 Name: venus : 2007-10-07 05:36 ID:FGy29bFZ

(キタ━━━━━━(゚∀゚)━━━━━━ !!!!!)

546 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 16:00 ID:Sr4Pho/i

_|¯|O

547 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 20:03 ID:wZkVppSS

>>544
It sounds like he is interested in you, but maybe just as a friend, give more details! how was the day did you go out with him? keep informing.

548 Name: Shucake : 2007-10-07 22:21 ID:DHOZtw2T

>>547
Ah~! Okay! I'll keep informing them >D
So last week Tuesday, when we were suppose to go to the movies, we didn't quite make it there. Turned out he didn't have enough money in his account, so we just spent some time downtown. We sat in the park watching people skateboard for a while, talking about one of the building's across the street, 'cause it had a really cool design... Then we went to a comic book store. After looking around downstairs I told him he wouldn't be interested going upstairs 'cause it just had anime stuff and he doesn't like anime. But he said if I wanted to go, we could go up. I hadn't cared either way, but went upstairs..and blah blah. Afterwards we went to Virgin records and it was pretty fun. Aside from the black dudes outside giving out CDs and swindling people for "donations" eek.
While crossing the street, sometmes I'd hurry him along when the light was about to change and I'd hook my arm around his. He didn't seem to mind that at all...
Anyway. We soon walked all the way back to where his dorm was and I hugged him before we split ways. And he hugged back, too, of course! Then he asked if I could meet him the next day so we could go to the museum together since our drawing class had a field trip. I wasn't sure at first since I had to figure out how to get to the museum in the first place and I live uptown to begin with, but I told him we'd talk later and figure somthing out.

Sooo. After I got home and got the directions to the museum, I called him and told him where to meet me. So the next day we met and..saa. He always looks so cute. I hooked my arm around his again as we walked to the next train and I could feel him holding onto mines too, erm. However you say it. We talked some but we were mostly quiet. I'm pretty shy..and I think he's shy too.. but I don't mind it much.

At the museum we split up into groups, so I was in a group with him and some of my other friends. We were all together for a while, but eventually we broke up and me and him were on our own. It was...really nice. We were pretty much together the rest of the trip, splitting off from the class again after everyone had to join up to watch a video. We had lunch, just the two of us, and soon went back to the train. I took a picture of us togethr and everything was pretty cool~

And then that Friday... he finally sat right next to me during art history. ^^ And after class was over...he pretty much jetted out, which I'm used to by now. But he said he was really tired (it seemed like everyone went to bed mad late or something) so I didn't expect to see him again until Monday. But after I got out my english class I realised he was trying to text me to know where the class was since it moved buildings. I called him and told him it was pretty much over anyway and that we were just taking an exam that he was gonna take the next day anyway, so he didn't need to be there. I asked where he was and he said he was at a starbucks near by, so I asked if he wanted me to go and meet him. He said yes so we met up and took a walk to the park and sat on a bench watching dogs for like an hour or so. When we were ready to go, I hooked my arm around his again as we walked (I swear, I'm too shy to grab his hand-- maybe he's too shy to do the same?) and this time it stayed like that.

549 Name: Shucake : 2007-10-07 22:22 ID:DHOZtw2T

>>548

We saw some people filming a few blocks away so went over to see if we could get a good peek. He said they were probably doing something for the Gossip Girl. It kinda looked like it. I think. Still cool regardless. He asked if I was going to the club meeting I usually go to (whee, he remembers~) I told him I was just going to meet up with a girl friend of mine since it was canceled this week. This time when we parted it looked like he wanted to iniciate the hug, but I think I had gotten out of his reach for that, so I backed up a bit and we hugged again.

And that's all I have to report back so far... We're...really quiet together most of the time, but..he keeps coming back to me so... I guess he doesn't mind it. He said he wanted to go back to Virgin Records with me some time.. and I'm gonna ask to set up another time to see that movie. Does it seem like it's still just friendliness?

550 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 22:40 ID:Ulf24qKK

You're a pathetic waste of skin.

551 Name: Female : 2007-10-08 04:16 ID:q9sk0JyA

I'm not so sad about being single, but it DOES get lonely sometimes. I like this guy, but he's way out of my league. I can't even help myself. Today, I wanted to ask him "Can I sex with you?" =_=" I'm not even that type of woman. He's just so dense and hard to understand. Plus, he keeps sending me mixed messages.

552 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 05:35 ID:Heaven

>>550
Giggerota the Wicked? Shouldn't you be performing your wifely duties?

553 Name: Cou : 2007-10-08 20:49 ID:pc5wqRFz

I think the 1 thing that gets me depressed, is my height, i'm just below the average height, maybe even lower, but compared to many people, i am the shortest. I walk around the streets and such and i find that many couples, have tall guys. Which pretty much puts me down.

554 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-09 14:38 ID:kMhSlM3w

>>551
I totally hear you. I'm in the exact boat. Unfortunately for me, we kind of got into this awkward phase where we're just ignoring each other now. I think it was because he started talking to the last guy who liked me (and I naively confided in). It makes it easier to feel indifferent towards him when he ignores me. The mixed signal thing really messed up my head. Regardless, I still think that he's good looking, smart, charming, funny and interesting. But if it's not to be, it's not to be. I'm in no hurry.

555 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-11 01:01 ID:mQNyRhvf

Still lonely. The saddest part is, I think I might have to hook up with some guy at an anime convention.

shudder

But really, the person i am after is bi. Bi in highschool = HEY LOOK AT ALL THIS ATTENTION I AM GETTING. Despite my loneliness, should i go for it? y/n.

556 Name: Shucake : 2007-10-22 19:47 ID:HZqmHEix

>>549
Arr, it's me again~
Just a little update. Me and the guy I like still hang out. We attempted to go to the movies again last week, but ended up just walking around. We're locking arms a lot now and sometimes hold hands. That's a good sign, right?

I can't seem to really say anything when his friends are around, but I guess that's okay. He still doesn't seem to mind sitting in silence, but he's very twitchy. He always has to drum at things, but eh.

When we hug now, he kinda pats my back. Does that mean anything? I still think it's a bit too soon to ask what he thinks of me or anything...but things are still going well.

557 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-10-22 22:39 ID:1aySjafD

Shucake

Frigid Onanoko wanna say a lot but not know enough to justify telling you off. The situation not seem bad but FO worried about lack of pace. More important, the physical contact is not proportional to the amount of 'feeling' you have for this guy. It is obvious that you want to be physical with him, but don't give hugs and especially holding hands for free. He'll get spoiled. Spoiled boys walk away because they fail to see their benefactor as such. They no thankful! They betray the giving girls nyah!

So you still have him and he show increasing affection. Make sure to require some of his own effort. You can give him hints but he'll have to figure out on his own that he loves you. (Probably he doesn't know it yet - assuming you two match in the first place.) Since for you this seem the first time you begin to love, go at your own pace, as long as you do keep a pace.

FO suggest you find a song with some suggestive lyrics. Find song that properly give the proper hints and then find stuff about song. Google for history, of band or whatever. Say that it your favourite (if it has a message you agree with, that become really easy) and just have plenty of things to say about. The goal is that when you recommend it, you give it so much significance that it'll have to finally get through his dumb head that he should listen to it carefully. When it come to picking up signals, disposable coffee cups can be more receptive than many guys. Nobody ever told them what to listen to, that's the problem. So it not may work. Worst case is if he ask whether you 'intend to give some message to him.' Normal reaction is to get pissed and negate, just because he such an idiot. Better to leave it open. Tell him, 'I like the song, so if you think it has some special meaning, please tell me.' Or whatever. He will have to bring up the theme of some closer relationship, never you.

Maybe a month after he crushed you under his kisses, you might confide how you had a crush on him for a long time. His ego cannot handle such a thing beforehand. So spare him.

Wish you luck, FO say bye now!

558 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 07:45 ID:2Gd+STmp

Shucake keep us updated!!

559 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 08:22 ID:VjLRgSQc

>>556
lie back, spread your legs and yell "stick it in me cowboy!"

560 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 09:28 ID:VjLRgSQc

no
no
no
what she should do is tell him "i heard you have cock and i love cock so give me cock"

561 Name: Shucake : 2007-10-25 18:05 ID:DHOZtw2T

>>557
Thank you, FO.
Haha, the guy isn't my first love, but he is probably the first guy I've gotten close to like this that I didn't meet online. We hug, but it's not everyday or anything.. just after we hung out together and we're heading home. Should I stop reaching for his hand when we hang out together? He really isn't the one to start things other than the hug. One of my friend's think he just might be shy.

As for what's been going on.. we haven't gotten around to doing anything after school this week. He still askes if I want to go to lunch with him. Yesterday one of my friends was with us and she doesn't like the guy at all. And he didn't seem too spiffy with her. So it was very awkward, especially since my friend didn't want him to know her name (she really hates it for some reason) so I was caught between her wanting me to keep quiet about it and him wanting me to say it. He found it out eventually after some hints.. and I quickly finished my lunch and went off with my friend to get them seperated.

It was all.. pretty silly, yeah. But it kinda helped me talk more openly to him. As open as I could when in a nervous, giggly, fit. -_-

562 Name: ureikun : 2007-10-26 02:20 ID:n+dLXN+u

I'm pretty much single and lonely. It's not that it is hard to talk to a girl, it's just that if you have one bad experience with a girl.. it tends to haunt you for life :/ Which happens to me on numerous occassions. how would I counter that?

563 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-26 10:48 ID:SUDgnHJV

>>562 look for the right girl next time... Theres gotta be at least one which you will find perfect for you :)

564 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-26 11:00 ID:2Gd+STmp

Thats also a problem I have although I am confident for the most part when talking to girls. However I think its espeicially hard when you have a bad experience with one girl in school, because she will probably tell her friends and then everyone in that girls social circle will develop some biased opinion of you.

565 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-27 02:08 ID:kCNWZEev

I'm a fat, depressed, anxious chick with ED-NOS.

So yeah, lonely would be my middle name.

So to all you hikki's and partial hikki's, turn off the pc, get out of the house, and make some friends before you become like me.

566 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-29 13:28 ID:eRonge70

>>529 here.

Well, I'm going to ask her out next time I see her.
We're already friends and all, so I don't think it makes sense to ask her on a date or something first off as so much it seems to confess my feelings to her.

Any suggestions on how to approach this?

567 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 11:34 ID:QtcP8ryR

I've been following this thread for a while, using it as a kind of real life soap opera. I thought I might de-lurk for a moment to give some people a view into this sad creature which is myself.

There's this girl I like (how original, but you have to start somehow.) I met her through the language school I attend; she's not my teacher (if that were the case I think I would give up instantly) but rather she's undertaking training to become one. The very first time I saw her, I was initially distracted by her looks (clothing style to be more precise), but what eventually got me was her amazing niceness. Genuinely good people are very rare around here and she's simply amazing.

We meet in a social setting (school-related but unofficial) once a week and in school once a week. We always say hi and often talk, whether it be at the weekly gatherings or around school. Over time I've been developing a crush, and as always, this is where the problems begin.

Due to past situations my fear of rejection is incredibly high. Rejections in high school were all really harsh. In university this one girl decided she would make me a stalker, and ruined my reputation. Anyway whatever the root cause, it had me in a situation where I was content to remain in this crush limbo and enjoy the fuzzy feelings inside every time I meet her. On another thread I probably remarked something to this effect, saying that I would never want to lose it.

But lately I'm not so sure. I wouldn't say I've been fantasising, but my feelings have been becoming somewhat stronger. It's at the point now where my brain is running simulations of asking her out, but still not actually letting me do it. For example, today there was a moment where the two of us were actually alone, which would usually be the right time to bring such things up. One part of me would say "here's the line, just say it", and the other part would throw that shit in the incinerator and crisp it up.

I get the feeling that if I manage to say half a confession, I will end up stuttering or saying something else for the second half due to this resistance. Really great comedic effect in romantic comedy, but not so fun if you're a victim of it. If I succeed in saying it and she turns me down, I'm sure she's the kind of person who won't do anything bad as I trust her a lot. But for some reason my brain won't let me get out of this situation, like it has a happiness filter designed to prevent me getting what I want.

Anyway I'll end it here as it's already a rant. Don't laugh too hard.

568 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-11-01 21:24 ID:1aySjafD

>>567 don't worry, no need to be insecure about this. Frigid Onanoko give you 100% guarantee if you confess, you will be turned down. Dropped like a brick. Maybe more like deceased animal? Something like that. Probably not so directly, more like the way you icky-eww walk around roadkill on the road.

Or maybe you would like to give a reason why she should be impressed by you. If you can convince FO that your target might want to be with you, then you have chance.

Not much more to say. FO say bye now!

569 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 22:26 ID:QdYaIotU

>>567
Well, FO was harsh.

but his my view. Don't confess... or atleast don't say "I love you" or something similar.

that is too direct for a situation like this. Depending on how long both her and you known and talked to each other. You may have to try a more indirect or casual approach.

Instead of saying, I like you. Ask her out on a date. not just some friendly outing, but just a nice simple date.
If she refuses, move on, don't worry, I don't think she'll hate you for it is you don't come on too strong. And if she does, she's a bitch and getting involved with her would have been more trouble than it's worth. And there are plenty of other women out there that give alot less trouble out in the world.

Remember, after that, if you are rejected, you can still remain friends... except you HAVE to stop treating her like you like her and just treat her as a friend. If you can't do that, you can't be friends.

Just put that fish back in the ocean and wait for the next one to pull on your string.

But if you succeed. Thumbs up.

570 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-02 12:35 ID:QtcP8ryR

There's actually a movie I want to watch coming out this week. I'm going to watch it regardless but I will for the hell of it, try to invite her. It's horror though so refusal could mean a dislike of the genre. Then again if she really did like me, she would probably go unless she really, really, really had something against it.

And FO was harsh, yeah. Maybe even inaccurate too, as plenty of guys who have no redeeming qualities have girls.

571 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 17:22 ID:vMdBCeAt

>>570

you could ask her to go to A movie. not tell her what it is, kinda make her guess and see how willing she is to go see it with you before telling her what it is.

572 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 17:23 ID:vMdBCeAt

of course...you may end up going to 2 movies in that case- one by yourself and then whatever movie she wants to see as the 2nd. Especially if "what movies do you like' comes up in that conversation.

573 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-02 23:11 ID:FxfciKXK

I will see if that strategy works. She may be able to guess what kind of movie it is actually, as I'm sure I've talked about horror when she was in the group. And two movies would be double the time with her, which is positive too.

574 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-05 09:01 ID:Heaven

Every additional day feels so much longer. Today this somehow translated to work; I was able to complete two day's worth of decent work in one seemingly long day. When I run the scenario through in my head my heart starts pounding and I can only imagine how much harder it's going to be with her standing in front of me. Times like this I start to think how inconvenient the human body is.

575 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-06 06:22 ID:y8WChwcO

I just found this thread and wanted to vent, so here goes. I will try not to make it longer than it needs to be.

I'm single and I've never had a boyfriend or done anything with a guy besides danced and a kiss on the cheek. It bothers me and I've been lonely for a very long time.

I'm just transfered to a 4 year college after I got my Associates and I hardly know anybody. Problem is I'm more shy than I'd like to admit. I feel like I've made progress over the last few years with the help of some Zoloft and a therapist, but coming to a completely different situation has made me crawl back into my shell again. My therapist says that a huge change takes time to adjust, but everyday I still feel the loneliness of no real friends and no boyfriend.

Haha, it doesn't help that more than half of the guys that go to my college are gay and the girls outnumber the guys by a lot.

Still, I only hope that I will acquire some real friends soon, because I am trying even if my efforts may be in vain, and maybe a boyfriend later on. I just don't like how my long-bottled-up loneliness gets to me so often.

That's all.

576 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-07 01:39 ID:I4XFHkRo

My university was like that (only the opposite ratio.) When I would go to classes the ratio would be 10:1 and it would seem like the ratio was 5:1 when walking around campus. Then I joined a couple of clubs and discovered that some clubs had an unusually high female ratio. Not to mention the clubs were in general, good for making normal friends.

Still I didn't get a girl throughout my entire time in university, the depression from that probably contributed to my backing out before getting the second degree of my double degree.

My battle is tonight. My stomach is churning... I thought it was hunger but eating lunch hasn't stopped it at all. My mind is already trying to rationalise a way out of saying anything at all.

577 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 19:34 ID:/RNvnxLE

Can I post if I'm not technically single? :(

See, I'm seeing a guy (waves girl flag), and I don't exactly want to. He's a great guy, probably my best friend, but he's also an annoying clingy weeaboo b-tard who has NOT FUCKING LURKED. I think I'd be fine with the b-tard shit if it weren't for the fact that I know more about the memes he's always pointlessly spouting at the most inopportune moment. And I rarely if ever go on /b/.

Anyway, yeah, I'm being a total pussy about breaking up with him, because I'm scared of not having him as a friend any more.

Doesn't help that I have multiple others I'm interested in, none of who anything will ever happen with.

One is this guy I met a few months ago... he flirted with me, I flirted with him, things were progressing pretty well. Only problem was, he was only in my state for a short visit, then he went back home (~1000 miles away). We still IM each other sometimes, but it's not the same at all. Nothings going to happen unless he moves out here, and that's not going to happen any time soon.

The other is a girl I see about once a month. (Lol, bisexual attention whore.) Not likely that anything's going to happen there either, because I don't think she's interested in other girls.

Eh, it's an okay situation, I guess. Other than the occasional pangs of horniness, I'm not too interested in romance. Just wish I was better at meeting people in general.

578 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 19:46 ID:VXwypEP8

>>575
is there a club or something at your university? like a gaming club or oragami? just attend the meetings and just sit there. you don't have to even talk to anyone. sit there long enough and either you'll become comfortable enough to talk to the guys there or the guys will talk to you. i mean come on, guys dig shy girls ~_^

579 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 19:56 ID:Go6Hflk+

I have to rant. The other day I realized that my standards are impossibly high, and that, not shyness, is the reason I've never seriously dated anyone. I can tick off a very long list of everything I want some potential girlfriend to be. Mainly I want someone who doesn't find me weird and would want to hang out with me a lot. But I make most of that judgement based on how they react to me when I talk to them as a friend. So far the only success I've had is when I go out on a blind date and the girl clearly wanted to end with something exciting, and even then I was thinking to myself "she probably won't last too long with me if we date."

I'm constantly imagining that there has to be someone else at my college who has the same problem. How would I ever meet someone like that? A dating site? I dunno.

580 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 21:12 ID:rJNMWXlA

>>579

Your standards are not high,... They are unrealistic.

Big difference.

Solution: develop a real interest for other people, instead of just searching someone to love yourself.

581 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 23:39 ID:8euv0M3J

>I want someone who doesn't find me weird and would want to hang out with me a lot.
>Your standards are not high,... They are unrealistic.

Yes, that's absolutely unreasonable. I mean imagine, the thought of a girlfriend who actually likes you and enjoys your company. Talk about setting the bar too high.

582 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-09 00:30 ID:rJNMWXlA

>>581

Absolutely, your wishes are purely self referencial, and probably that is part of the problem.

I'm not saying you are setting the bar to high,... just handling it the wrong fashion

583 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-09 07:35 ID:VTxXkC51

"When the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?"

584 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-09 13:34 ID:Heaven

>>581

>>Yes, that's absolutely unreasonable. I mean imagine, the thought of a girlfriend who actually likes you and enjoys your company. Talk about setting the bar too high.

Remember: this is 4-ch. For any of us, that's setting the bar too high.

585 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 03:50 ID:JRYHIZ9T

>>584
Hey, the blind date turned out pretty well... I just need to force myself to talk to people more, I think.

586 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 04:15 ID:OWJ9Mqyi

I need a mute woman so I wouldn't have to talk all the time.

587 Name: Frank Sinatra : 2007-11-11 15:06 ID:GzdAcSWW

Say any love story involving lonely nerdy engineers out there? I could use some good one.

588 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 16:09 ID:k1bb3I8j

>>587
love stories involving lonely nerds you say? alost EVERY one of them are related to this concept.

589 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 19:54 ID:Heaven

>>588

This man speaks the truth. Frankly, nerds are the only people who really need love stories. Everyone else lives it.

590 Name: Kurono : 2007-11-13 14:23 ID:hC6VUWhx

That's somewhat true, though I'm a nerd and I'm living a love story. Albeit an odd one.

591 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 15:16 ID:FFkEB/5Z

Help my girlfriend found out I was asking for dating advice on here and dumped me.

What should I do?

592 Name: Kurono : 2007-11-13 15:32 ID:hC6VUWhx

All though this probably isn't the right thread explain to her what happened. That you had good intentions. Hopefully you did.

593 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 05:43 ID:JKrWk7bS

Your girlfriend is insecure and she sucks. And show her this post, too.

594 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 09:46 ID:mDJ/VTId

your girlfriend is narrow-minded - you were soliciting advice for both of your relationship's own good. unless she's hermes. kita!

595 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 13:27 ID:I4XFHkRo

>>591
Is that you Densha?

596 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 05:39 ID:9sDQgFnA

>>591
She was looking for an excuse lol.

597 Name: : 2007-11-15 11:37 ID:Heaven

She should have used the guy's furry porn collection. That's usually the first thing they find.

598 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-15 12:03 ID:Heaven

orz

599 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 16:53 ID:DUyBuxec

>>591 She probably assumed that everything you did was merely a product of strangers' advice. She probably feels that her privacy has been compromised and that you were insincere.

600 Name: Nanba 567 : 2007-11-15 21:01 ID:I4XFHkRo

I feel the same way if my partner consults the horoscope. I mean what the shit is that? Taking advice from some columnist they don't even know... where do they get off?

601 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-19 09:43 ID:u3m4VQRf

I've been reading and I also want to rant a little.

I'm single single single, as I always have been--nothing even so daring as holding hands, other than in a platonic way. I've liked people, and never had the nerve to confess, cause I have no confidence and I know that I'm really...odd, and thus undesirable. That, and I'm only attracted to asian guys...do you know how rare it is to see an asian guy with an american girl?

Anyway, there's this (asian) guy I like now, at the same college as me. He's amazing; he speaks three or so languages fluently, he likes cats, he plays guitar, and he is as attractive as someone could be to me. The best part is his personality: he is also odd (in different ways), somewhat antisocial, and puts off this air of confidence despite it (yes, I find all this attractive).

The first problem is that I don't have the nerve to talk to him when he is alone, only when he's with someone I know, and then it's just something like "hi". Whenever I see him in the library or whatever, I get this intimidating feeling of "He's really cool...I'm really...not. I don't deserve to speak to him." It's probably stupid to think now, when I just want to know him better so I can test what he thinks of me, but I'm dumb like that.

The second problem is that he may still have a girlfriend back in france. I was kind of shocked for a while when I found out, and then I realized that his girlfriend who may or may not currently exist is in france....I am not. And I genuinely do not believe that type of thinking is wrong. If I discovered from him that he really liked her, then I would give up. But right now, I can't stand to sit back and watch some girl halfway across the world fail to like him as much as I do.

And at the same time as I'm thinking such strong thoughts, my lack of confidence is keeping me from even being friends with him, and makes me feel more like never leaving my room. The end.

602 Name: Kurono : 2007-11-19 14:22 ID:hC6VUWhx

Well at least you're able to talk to him, if even just a bit. Try talking more when he's around one of your friends, since you find it hard to talk to him alone. After a bit, you should be able to feel more confident and not have it be strange that you're talking to him privately. Don't worry that he may have a girlfriend. No point worrying about it if it may not even be true. Don't bring it up right away. Bring it up when the the time is right. Overall, just be confident and don't worry if you're not cool, though you don't sound like an uncool person.

P.S. The first paragraph is really cute. Rare to see girls like that nowadays.

603 Name: KVizzle : 2007-11-21 07:09 ID:n8ASlTiq

Can I rant too please? I'm in a mad situation, with prospective ladies everywhere, and going nowhere.

Theres one girl, who is my best friend's housemate. He's all for it but she is /s/ material and KVizzle doesn't really stand a chance. She's really nice though, sweet girl. The next girl is cute and I met her at, er, an anime thing. Not quite sure if she likes me, but signs are good. She's cute, and girls who like anime + games is always good.

Met a girl on the interwebs recently, that went horribly and was made of fail. Who doesn't know what a fucking Jetski is? Lastly, Ex girlfriend from three years ago (we split up because she moved far away) may be coming back, and be interested. Help with advice ladies of the thread!

Some man advice for the shy girls though - Unless the guy you like is a really outgoing person, he's going to really like it if you ask him out for a drink, or a movie or something. Specify just the two of you, he'll like that! If he says no, then you know he's not interested, without the months of awkwardness!

604 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-22 02:22 ID:Heaven

A Jetski is a type of Russian aircraft isn't it?

605 Name: 577 : 2007-11-22 18:45 ID:e5tjb4OI

Officially single now. Fuck yeah. I'm thinking about going after this guy who works at a coffee shop I go to a lot... probably won't get anywhere, because I think he's a lot older than me, but it's still worth a try. Mostly I just want someone to hang out with.

606 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-22 20:07 ID:TqvA/3Ql

Single now too... Trying to enjoy it.

I used to be fine with it and not care too much, but now I really miss being in a relationship. I mean, I'm getting over him (he's not the same guy I fell for now anyway), but I miss being loved, you know? Annoying as hell.

Doesn't help that he said it was because he couldn't handle a relationship and still loved me, but then got together with a new girl 3 days later.

Sorry, I ranted too...

607 Name: : 2007-11-23 09:33 ID:I4XFHkRo

>>605
If he's a lot older than you, then you're a lot younger than him, therefore you have the advantage. Or at least I know if someone >10 years younger than me made a move on me, I wouldn't say no.

>>606
Ranting is the purpose of the Rant Thread.

608 Name: 577 : 2007-11-24 05:52 ID:MftGVCJM

>>607

There's maybe five or six years difference between us, and I don't know him well at all.

Mostly I'm just really happy to have the stress of dating someone gone.

609 Name: : 2007-11-24 12:15 ID:I4XFHkRo

For me, five or six years is the grey zone. Not young enough to be a turn-on in that way and not close enough to my own age for me to identify with.

...diverts...
Still I feel at the moment I would take almost any offer thrown at me, and the thought of this makes me feel a little sad. Whoever did the asking would be playing the part of temporary relief though, so I would feel sorry for them too. But ultimately the guilt of this will cause me to emit an aura that will prevent anyone offering in the first place. orz

Why is it like this, I was happy being single until that one spark had the nerve to flash for a while. WHY.

610 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-24 19:58 ID:XRtJ3cYd

I'm in love with one of my best friends, and she's dating another best friend. I've already confessed my feelings to her, but she says she can't feel the same way about me. DAMMIT!

611 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-25 08:21 ID:55HjjNH9

>>609

Can I be your hazubando and you be mai waifu?

612 Name: silencer : 2007-11-27 22:01 ID:1tc2KHPS

hi

613 Name: W. Evo : 2007-11-28 01:28 ID:dmj+c0iz

sigh
Maybe im too young to be saying this.... maybe ?
15 years old and i've yet to have a girlfriend.
yet to kiss a girl...
I don't know, something tells me that it isn't that big of a deal, that im still young and that i have alot more to experience... that a relationship right now would not be as great as i think it would.
But the other side of my mind tells me that im growing up without experience ... and that later on i will find it hard to get a girlfriend and have something special.

I seem to have alot of friends who are girls ... but none seem to have any interest in me and to say the truth ... i seem to have no interest in them either.
I don't know...
Maybe i feel like im missing out?
I really want to be with someone, but i find it hard.
At the same time, i havn't really tried.
Whenever i meet a girl, i usually place her in the friend section or whatever.
I never try to go out with them.
I guess i have something on my side then huh?
Girlfriends so far = 0
Rejections = 0

614 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-28 07:16 ID:3PXsJGdc

>>613

dude you are 15 years old, you have nothing to worry about. there are guys here are much, much older and are in the same situation, you have plenty of time to figure this shit out.

try asking a girl out, within a few days of meeting her. this way you avoid putting her into the "friend section." if you get rejected, the friend option is still there but if you dont want the hassle, then you can easily let her go since you hardly had anything going in the first place.

point is, take some chances and ask some girls out, trust me after a while rejection is nothing. you will always miss the shots the you dont take.

615 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 09:16 ID:0QOctHnu

Bleh, I just transferred into a university as a 3rd year a few months ago, and I haven't went out (or made any friends) yet.

I joined the anime club (lol) but of the only two decent women there one rarely comes and seems taken anyway, and the other stopped coming near the start (I guess she had sense).

I still continue to attend as a feeble attempt at being social, though I think most of the people there are weeaboos and/or gam3rs, and I could download and watch at my pace any anime they show.

Also, I'm way too shy to say anything to anyone, anyway.

616 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 09:20 ID:0QOctHnu

>>575
Also, hello female me!

Though, you've done more than I have. :(

617 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 15:14 ID:iBYFG1y8

>>615
don't rely on an anime club to gain a social life - surrounding yourself by people with no social skills (this applies to 90% members of most anime clubs anywhere) is not a good way to meet interesting people.

that said, i'm sure it can be hard to make friends or meet women when you join a university in the third year - i'm quite a shy person myself, but i've been at the same university for two and a half years, so i still have the friends i made in the first few weeks of the first year when everyone was actually open to meeting new people.

618 Name: 617 : 2007-11-29 15:21 ID:iBYFG1y8

although considering my last post in the context of the thread... i may have a few friends but my love life is certainly going nowhere. it doesn't help much that i'm gay but i don't know a single other gay person. maybe i should make a trip to this town's (one and only) gay bar more often.

619 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 23:26 ID:0QOctHnu

>>617
Well, I wasn't really hoping to gain "a social life." Just maybe some friends.

Pretty much everyone there has social skills... though, maybe their skills are different from the normal kind. :p But that's still more than I have.

Besides, there's not much else I'm interested in. My school does have a computer club, but the times conflict with one of my classes and I'll probably be even worse there.

620 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-02 16:46 ID:30nHTWAO

>>613
you oughta be concerned though, get your act together and find chicks... you don't want to become old like us with no girls. time may be long (for you) but it ain't gonna wait for anyone.

621 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-02 22:01 ID:gOYyc5pE

I'm 22, and age = time without a girlfriend. I went to tech school, so the only women that were around me were in their 40's and trying to jumpstart their careers. Now I'm a working stiff doing 8 - 5 in a cubicle for an IT company. And the female populationn here is even worse than it was in school. Of the 1% of the building that is female, 100% of them are either married with kids, or have boyfriends. So yeah, conditions would have to improve quite a bit for the pickens to even be slim.

And that leaves me with bars as the only source of potential mates. And I'm not too fond of bars (although I do enjoy drinking) as they require I strike up conversation with total strangers with whom I have nothing in common, and I'll probably end up embarassing myself. Plus I'm not really interested in the one night stands that that sort of environment fosters. Not that I would turn one down though...

So yeah, I've come to accept that I'll probably be single forever. The more I try to convince myself that I'm okay with that, the more I realize that if have to try to convince myself of it, it means I'm lying to myself. Man, I wish I didn't have to have a job. I wish I could go back to school, meet people my own age with similar interests, and have fun again. Not to go off on a tangent, but being an adult sucks. When you're young, and your parents say "These are the best years of your life" they know what they're talking about. For the love of God/Buddha/Flying spaghetti monster/Hare Krishna/whatever, listen to them.

622 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-02 22:49 ID:VL63D6RO

>>621
Once you get past the age of 21 and you cannot find people your own age to date anymore, it's time to go for the 18 year old high school girls because they love older men who can get them drunk. Also, you have a car right? They love that. Just don't be fucking creepy.

623 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-03 00:11 ID:Heaven

> your parents say "These are the best years of your life" they know what they're talking about.

I'd say: No, no they don't. Not my life anyway.
I'd like to go back ten years and smack anyone who ever said that to me across the face.

624 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-03 13:08 ID:I4XFHkRo

>>622
WTF, is the car the only thing I need? I'm filthy rich but most 18 year olds won't go for me even if I propose an arrangement (some do, but I haven't found any really nice ones yet. My standards are a little high too.) But because I live in a city where public transport is more than adequate and taxis are cheap, I don't bother buying a car.

625 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-03 14:44 ID:bPFRwZPN

>>624
Well, are there any other hobbies you like to do other than watching Anime? Do you play any instruments? Are you a good artist? Try and pick up on any of your talents and see if there's a group or any like-minded people in your area you can meet up with. Chances are at least one of them's gonna be a single woman.

As for me, I'm single but not looking to be in a relationship at the moment. I seemed to attract all the psychos back in 2007, one of which is still giving me nightmares now. I've also got a fun (not) evening with one of my ex's tomorrow night. There are times when Women are not worth it, and you just want to stick with your friends instead...

626 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-03 18:45 ID:gOYyc5pE

>>622
How is it possible to do that without being creepy? "Nice cheerleader outfit. Wanna get drunk and fuck?" is one small step away from "Nice teddy bear. Want some candy from my non-descript white van?" And I say that as a self-described lolicon.

627 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-04 11:08 ID:6t2b+Ldx

>>626 It isn't. Even if you do it without being creepy, you're still a creep.

628 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-04 13:18 ID:I4XFHkRo

>>625
If it's about single women my own age, I run into quite a few thanks to going to language school. I just haven't run into any I like, with the obvious exception of one.

629 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-04 17:05 ID:+Xqk4wq3

>>628

Well, if she's single and you like her, then go for it. You don't have to have a whole range of options there, if you see one chance then go for it and don't regret it.

630 Name: Henshaw : 2008-01-04 19:42 ID:Tbg7tt7x

Single , 26 . I GAVE UP. Jeezes my life has become a hell..if i could go back and tell my teenage self one thing it would be: kill yourself so i wouldn't be here. kill yourself JAMIE! When you were 18 DONT fall in love with her cuz she will push you away when you will give YOUR first FAILED kiss. After it, you WILL FAIL COLLEGE and run out of "friends" leaving you more broken. Kill yourself because the diagnosis told you that you have AVPD, that's like wanting something but in truth you will never get it. Kill yourself jamie because that is my only hope.

631 Name: Valiant Ed : 2008-01-04 21:43 ID:SfnZRTFI

I have never really bothered looking for a girlfriend. After high school ended two years ago, I have spent most of my time at work or night classes. I suppose I should look for one now.

632 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-05 06:48 ID:VTxXkC51

>>630
that's me in 3 more years

633 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-05 07:06 ID:fDZ8PotR

>>632
Same here

634 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-05 13:35 ID:t57ItSO+

I love too many things by nature. I love fire, I love my friends, I love to eat chocolate. I really mean 'love' and not 'like'. As such, even if I longed for tenderness from times to times, I never really 'needed' a girlfriend. I loved a girl in highschool, though. Spoke to her once or twice. I valued her a lot, but heck, now I realize a good part of it would've been idealization.

So I decided to wait and not chase. I tried, once, as I was feeling down - didn't work, I dropped the case before we even could do anything, could've been a one-night-stand or a relationship, I didn't care. I didn't love her. I didn't care. I still had the other one somewhere on my mind, though.

Something like six years later, I realized that I didn't really love the first one. It wasn't true, it was just an excuse for the fact no-one around me felt worth of more than the love I give to everything I do.

And I met this girl. I found her cute and charming and intelligent. She was great. I met her at parties, with friends. Every time we would chat a little bit. And I would discover a part of her universe. Never in my life did I feel that connected to someone. She has everything I could dream of in a human being. When I'm around her, I don't feel alone (not alone as in "no friends and stuff", but alone as "no one on this goddamn earth is like me"). I think I discovered what alter-ego means.

And I think we'll never be in a relationship. Impossible. She didn't want to get closer before I moved out (some 250km farther, not that far, though), so I suppose she's already been disappointed by a distanced relationship. And I strongly suppose she likes a very charismatic friend of mine, and I suppose he likes her too.

I talked with him about it, and strangely he told me he'd support and help me, and never try anything with her. I trust him. But still, I don't think it will work.

I'm so mindfucked that I have a hard time even following a casual conversation with people around me.
Damn.

I knew I'd destroy myself the day I'd really fall in love.

635 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-05 19:18 ID:S9TM/Huo

The girls I like keep dating my friends instead. Or in one case, marrying one. It's not like I can just turn off the physical attraction and forget all the times I fapped to them. Or in at least one case actually fucked them before they started dating my friend. It's frustrating.

And all the girls I do end up dating turn out to be batshit insane. Sure, the sex is good for awhile but then I just can't put up with the craziness.

And then one of my friends girlfriends gets drunk and tells me, "I made a mistake, YOU would have been a better boyfriend" and then tries to get me to fuck her behind my friends back!

Fuck all of that. Women are crazy. My right hand never tried to kill me/itself, stole shit from me, went nuts and had to be committed, cheated on me, or any of the other bullshit that women have done to me.

636 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-06 20:02 ID:J/lsiWqc

bump

637 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-07 13:44 ID:gOYyc5pE

>My right hand never tried to kill me/itself, stole shit from me, went nuts and had to be committed, cheated on me, or any of the other bullshit that women have done to me.

Yeah, that's part of the reason why I stopped actively pursuing relationships/sex and just bought a fleshlight. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

638 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-07 16:15 ID:M41W2ZZ5

>>634 here.

I made up my mind. After some days of slowly falling into a mild depression, I shook myself up and set things straight in my head.

I will carry on as I did before. I'll set my goals for the future as to work, get money, and then travel all over the place to see my friends, wherever they may hide in the future. Especially her.

I'm going to love everything just a bit more. After all, it's all in my mind so no one but me can do anything to it. If I want it, they can't shield themselves from love. They can't prevent me. They can do things like not answering, be harsh, whatever, I don't care. I'm stronger than they are.

And I'll tell her that. I'm going to tell her exactly how I feel. How much I love everything in this godforsaken world, every instant, everything really. And that amongst all those things, she managed to get a special place. That it's not a problem if she doesn't love me. I'm above that, I'll just keep it in my head, and we'll carry on. At least I'll do.

Fuck it all. Fuck all of your fears, all of your regrets, all of your remorse, all of your anguish, all of your sadness, all of your distress, keep your passions, value them, love them, fling them as high as you can.

I feel that's the best you can do - I feel that's the best I can do.

639 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-07 20:02 ID:S/szvo3u

I live in a small town, and all the guys around here are fucking hicks and wiggers, or gay, or ugly........fucking hell!

640 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-07 20:04 ID:pX7rLK1u

>>634
>>638
Continued.

I talked to her about the situation I was in. As I thought, she liked my friend. I told her I loved her. A lot. She said sorry. We're okay with that. Neither of us made a choice, so there's no point in thinking the thing over and over again.

We're not children anymore, even if the situation will be a little awkward at first, we'll make it through. Friends is what matters most, anyway.

I just hope that my friend won't put her down not to hurt me; she'd be the one to be hurt, and in the end it's not what I want, heh. Having two friends happy together is great, too.

Well, looks like I'm off for some more years of loneliness on the romantic point of view.

Let's just hope there are some more like her out there. Even if I'll probably need some time to love again, of course.

My stomach hurts a bit, but I got my resolve, I manage to be kind of happy.

641 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-08 01:44 ID:pX7rLK1u

>>634
>>638
>>640
Continued. Again.

Looks like I overestimated myself. I'm trying to keep my head out of the water, but I'm slightly losing control. It took some time, but I'm slowly realizing that she'll never be 'mine' (by reflex, I added 'probably' in the last sentence... obviously, it didn't deserve to be there). We'll never bind at the deepest level, and I'll never get to explore her soul as far as I'd want to.

That really leaves me with few things to look at in the future.

I'll still try to kind of stick to my resolve, and do everything I do with as much heart as I can, but... damn, it's going to be hard.

642 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-08 04:42 ID:I4XFHkRo

The holidays are over and the traditional weekly meets will resume. I have resolved to continue going to the same place to see the same person knowing that she isn't available because she's great to be around. It's torture in a way, but I have weighed up the torture against the benefit and I'm finding the benefit to be worth the pain.

In doing this I feel a little like a certain character in a certain manga, but that's okay, because my resolution for 2008 is not to fall in love, and I feel that this might help me achieve that.

643 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-08 07:02 ID:S9TM/Huo

ITT: pathos, and a fuck ton of it

644 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-08 10:56 ID:pX7rLK1u

>>642
You'll fall in love, if you haven't fell already. Stop now or make up your mind to the fact the suffering will only increase, not necessarily the benefit. I'm dead serious.

>>643
Yeah, I guess you're right...

645 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-09 04:44 ID:I4XFHkRo

I have fallen for her already which is why I feel it can't get any worse. I already went through the whole shock phase on finding out she wasn't available. Now my feelings remain but I am grounded in knowing that I have no chance.

In this situation there's not a lot I can do because I know the only way for me to lose an obsession about one person is to start an obsession about another one. This is the danger though, I'll probably end up breaking my resolution by meeting someone else. Maybe that won't be all bad, but given my track record it will be another case of the same.

646 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-09 14:04 ID:pX7rLK1u

>>645
I share your pain. And I'm thinking next time won't be before my thirties, given how it went this far, and how good (read: bad) it was this time.

647 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-09 21:54 ID:S9TM/Huo

I liked a girl once. Everybody knew it. She started dating someone else. Everyone was afraid to tell me, so much to the point that I was hitting on her one night in front of her boyfriend. So later on they decide to tell me, and it's like, "we didn't know how you'd feel, if you'd be mad or anything". I think the guy was afraid I might want to fight him or something. My friends have weird ideas about me sometimes... But anyway, I just laughed and said, "why would I be mad? I'm a completely shallow individual and am already over it, LOL" Didn't bother me a bit and I stopped pursuing her.

Fast forward. Those two break up. I'm still KINDA interested in this girl, but not really anymore. My friend starts dating her. Again, I'm the last person to find out. Why? My friend says sort of the same thing, like he thought I would be really upset or something. What? What have I done to make my friends think I will turn into a homicidal maniac if I can't date the girl I want (and in this case, didn't even really want anymore)?

What the fuck?

Anyway, being single isn't so bad. At this point in my life having a girlfriend would mean being serious past what I am ready for. Like marriage and kids and shit. Which is why I broke up with my last girlfriend: things were moving too fast, and I wasn't ready to go there again (I'm divorced, and happily so).

648 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-10 14:10 ID:I4XFHkRo

I'm over the mixed signals thing. I wish everyone had a luminescent sign over their heads with their relationship status, so that when a woman acts single, never mentions a SO, and doesn't wear a wedding ring, the big-ass orange sign can say NO, DO NOT FALL FOR THIS ONE, BAAAAKA.

>>647
My marriage ended for fundamentally the same reason. Although she went about it the wrong way ("he won't let me have a kid, so let's find someone to fuck who will let me have a kid") instead of speaking out about it and ending things gracefully and sooner. From my side it only looked like the withholding of sex for no reason at all, which should be a crime punishable by death. ;-)

649 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-13 22:07 ID:mH6oywP6

I've got to rant. Any advice might help too...

19, never been on a date with a girl, never held hands, etc. I haven't had any female friends either (unless it's through another one of my male friends). According to some of them though, I'm very attractive (which I still can't bring myself to attribute that to myself) and really shouldn't have any trouble meeting someone.

I'm at a big University and involved in a club (fencing) so there should be plenty of opportunities to at least meet someone. However I'm cursed with being the quiet type of person in lectures and class.

Really though I don't even think I'm that quiet. I'm just bad at starting conversations/meeting people. Particularly with girls. However, of the girls I have gotten to know somewhat, they are not one's I'd be interested in.

So pretty much I'm lonely, I can't start conversations with strangers, and I'm starting to feel like I'll never meet someone.

650 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-29 23:35 ID:5Q6Bbro6

Fuck you, feelings. Fuck you.

It's horrible when you manage to put them aside, given the girl you love somehow ended up with one of your best friends whom you happen to work with, and they come to slap you right in the face when another friend (the third coworker) tells you he was trying to call him but he hung up and turned his cell off. And he tells you jokingly "He's probably makin' love, lol", because he doesn't even know how deep you have been affected by that girl.

And there you feel a deep physical pain in the chest, a chill, and your mind suddenly blanks up. And when it comes back it's a total mess, and you know you're back down in it, and you have to sort your thoughts once again. It also reminds you that no matter what you might think, hope, pray for, resolve yourself to - there are things about yourself you'll never be able to control. And you imagine them both, and you chase the thought, but it's still there somewhere.

Only time will help.

Fucking time.

And tonight, when you'll finally give up to sleep because you're too tired, at the break of day, you'll dream of them. Once again.

651 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-30 20:56 ID:RFaapuVd

will she pick up? will she see the voice mail? does she know what we are going to talk about? does she have the courage to call back?

652 Name: 651 : 2008-01-30 22:20 ID:RFaapuVd

Just broke up with my girlfriend...welcome back single rants thread, I surely missed you.

653 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-30 23:36 ID:5Q6Bbro6

>>652
Welcome back home, friend.

654 Name: 651 : 2008-01-31 01:14 ID:RFaapuVd

Not that I don't love you guys, I cannot accept the fact that I am coming back here. I hoped this would just be a temporary venue and one day I will be free of its bondage. And I think for that I thought like that, God decided to spite my arrogance and ended it with her. Man this is rough, but I will live. Usually when I have a problem I would go to her, she would listen, but now I really don't have one, except my best friend who is also suffering a similar heartbreak.

I really don't want to come back home, I have been to the top of the mountain and quite frankly I loved it; I loved her. I never told her that...Right now I am holding myself back from finding her and shouting at the top of my lungs 'I LOVE YOU' Won't do me any good. I know she loves me but due to circumstances, due to social context, due to religious beliefs she does not want any of it. I say FUCK IT, but it will not do me any good. The problems she has will never leave and thus we can never be together. To all you guys out there looking for love, I wish you the best on your journeys, for this old sailor will be taking a break from the sea. Any advice I can give you, ask but looking at my recent success, don't count on it being good.

655 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-31 01:53 ID:bS5Kx1V9

I wonder sometimes if maybe the person that's my soulmate got into some accident and has been dead this whole time

656 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-31 01:55 ID:5Q6Bbro6

>>654
I undersand exactly what you mean. And quite frankly, I totally understand you don't want to be 'here'. Because, well, we know what that means. I thought I would be able to break away from here too, without spite or anything, but just because it's obviously better out there. But things don't turn out that way, and I still hang around.

To follow up your metaphor, this thread is kind of the harbor you don't necessarily want to go to, but still know it'll always be there when you've nowhere else to go. It's not the best place in the world, but still it's better than nothing.

Best luck on your 'recovery'...

657 Name: 651 : 2008-01-31 07:13 ID:cNOz++IR

I feel sick. I cannot sleep, I cannot relax. It is 2am in the morning all I want to do is sleep or throw up. I feel like if I throw up all of this pain I feel will be flushed out of my system. But I know that the awfulness will build up again in me. I just want to fast forward in time so I can put all of this behind me and forget.

Stupid me, to think I can love a girl and have her reciprocate the feelings. Well I can promise you this /love/, never again will I allow myself to be fooled by a girl or be fooled by this silly idea called love.

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659 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-31 12:53 ID:Heaven

>>657
Saying it will never happen is the best way to bring it on. I don't know if it's Murphy's Law, or some other law.

660 Name: 651 : 2008-01-31 14:48 ID:cNOz++IR

>>659

Well I am wiser and I will not let my guard down so easily for another woman.

And this feeling of hope is the worst ever. I have some delusion that she will call me and tell me we made a mistake.

Fuck my life

661 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-01 11:58 ID:Heaven

What I want
is a girl
with whom to walk
down a bright city street
on a warm summer's night.

662 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-02 14:37 ID:JWPEq6/q

>>661
Aw.

As for me, I'm a 19 yr old girl who is feeling very conflicted. Despite being confessed to quite a few times, I've always been single, and never been kissed. At the moment there are numerous issues I have to deal with before pursuing a relationship. Some of these are; religious family (who believes in abstinence till marriage), finding the right guy, self confidence and my studies.

I've never been particularly desperate to find a boyfriend. I'm the sort of person that goes with the flow. And considering that life is good, I'm happy to keep things like this for a while. However, I do worry about my lack of relationship experience. My friends always come to me for advice, which is rather ironic. But I'm scared that at my age, if I don't start working on my non-existent love life soon, it will be too late. Basically, I'm starting to see myself as a 40 year old virgin. Yet I can't do anything about it because of my circumstances. Meanwhile my social circle is getting the impression that I am frigid, because I've rejected anyone who confesses to me (I just wasn't interested in any of them). I know this is a silly question, but should I start to care? Am I really missing out on the prime of youth?

663 Name: 651 : 2008-02-02 22:13 ID:pMF6s7Um

>>662
If you are not ready, then for the love of God, don't do it. That is what happened to me, I went with a girl who thought she was ready, but wasn't. So not only she hurt herself but hurt me as well. Just enjoy your life and just be who you are, one day you will find a guy who will be the answer to your prayers.

As for me

I feeling much better now. The first night, I was literally sick. But the next day I felt so much better. While we were dating, she made me join her dance team because they needed guys and we have a show coming up next week. I easily could have not gone and quit, but I am being a gentleman about it and going to perform in the show, but I have no more obligation to be there, so after I am done with it.

Last night, she wanted to talk to my friend about us. My friend probably took the break up harder than we did, since he recently broke up with his girlfriend and literally told me that we were the only sign that love still existed. I demanded that I listen to it so I could get some closure, hoping that there some other reason for the break up. But turns out it was the same reasons, basically she got scared and wasn't ready for a relationship. But since I was there, and my friend can get angry easily, we started to ask her hard questions and basically made her feel guilty. At that point she got upset and ended the conversation. My friend got upset that he may have ruined his friendship with her, so I called her up and told her I was there and you shouldn't be mad at him, you should be mad at me.

So tonight we are going to meet and tie up any loose ends. The thought that we can still be friends are gone and any hope that we can get back together is over, even though there is a ember of that hope in pit of my soul but I will stamp it out as soon as I can find it. I really don't want it to end, but the truth is, it is over. My mind has accepted that fact, it takes a little longer for my heart to do the same. Am I crazy to think that there is hope? Please tell me yes, please tell me that it is over, because honestly I cannot fully accept it and I don't know if I fully will.

664 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-03 00:28 ID:5Q6Bbro6

>>663
There shouldn't be hope. Drop the case. If something happens in the future, well, then be it, but don't hope for something to happen.

Do not ruin your health, your sanity and whatever, thinking about it over and over again. Seriously, it'll do more damage than good.

665 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 02:09 ID:B+/fMco9

Once more to the number of the Beast.

666 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 03:17 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>665

Hail Satan, brothers.

Also, 23, single, never been kissed, yada yada. Nothing ever changes.

667 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 03:21 ID:OBqXlY6O

I'll take the so-called evil post number, I'm already cursed so another can't hurt. My curse is my initials; SWM, which also stands for Single White Male. Just my luck, eh? Been single for almost 29 years now despite all my efforts. Maybe girls just aren't into skinny self-sufficient gamers who won't put out and don't drink? Who knows.

668 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 03:22 ID:OBqXlY6O

>>666
Nuts, you beat me to it!

669 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 03:32 ID:GWoWY2mV

>>667
now ITT: we guess what your name is

Stephen William Madison

670 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 16:57 ID:Heaven

obviously, Super W. Mario

671 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-04 21:15 ID:RZ8rn3ad

James T. Quirk

672 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-05 12:35 ID:Heaven

Irving Theodore Teatime

673 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-05 20:48 ID:Heaven

Lex Oswald Samson
Ezra Renault Schmidt

674 Name: 651 : 2008-02-06 22:26 ID:mYYAVI+g

Final update:

I am fine now, a week later my life is getting back into order. I am moving on, meeting new girls and already have a date next week. The ex has been trying to talk to me one-on-one for a while, but I have been taking my time to schedule something. I really don't want to, I want to put all behind me. Eventually we will talk, about what I dunno, I don't care, but honestly I just want to move on.

So everyone that has fallen off the horse, it really isn't that hard to get back on. Just have a positive outlook, good friends and be ready to take risk and life will work out.

651 signing out.

675 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-07 01:05 ID:bS5Kx1V9

>>651 salute

676 Name: 662 : 2008-02-07 11:10 ID:JWPEq6/q

>>651, thanks. I think I knew the "right" answer, but wanted some confirmation. It didn't used to worry me as much when I was younger, but lately with all these newfound responsibilities, I'm really starting to feel my age.

Anyway, good to hear that things are looking good for you.

677 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 06:30 ID:2suv8+Hi

so it turns out this girl i had a huge crush on is... wait for it... gay.

FUCK

which is surprising as hell, because NOBODY knew she was gay. one of my friends made a joke about her being a lesbian (which seemed ridiculous at the time, she doesn't act like it at all, just shy), and i brought it up around her in a teasing way. then, a week later, she tells us.

so now, on one hand, i don't care about anything. one the other hand, i feel sort of relieved, because she never knew, and i think i can keep it from getting awkward, and keep her as a friend. and it's better than blissful ignorance.

and she seemed so perfect, too (don't they all?). except that she's into objectivism right now, a phase i'm hoping will pass.

678 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 16:15 ID:Heaven

>>677 Looks like the popular saying among females, "all the good men are either taken or gay" applies to both genders as well!

679 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 16:40 ID:Heaven

>>677
Maybe she's bi?

680 Name: 677 : 2008-02-12 18:53 ID:Heaven

>>679
fucking wish. we had a discussion a couple of weeks ago about how she thinks there are no such thing as bisexuals, just gay/straight people who are confused. aoeugghcrudaour.bsog

681 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-13 14:25 ID:EbArnvtr

So the girl I liked who turned out to be married but I found out just in time before I went ahead and confessed... some other guy gave her valentines day chocolate and she let him down. The guy was depressed as hell, but the important thing is it made me feel a whole lot better because it could well have been me in that position and I escaped from it.

682 Name: 634 : 2008-02-13 16:48 ID:aqrLUI5Y

Okay, so... I kind of progressed since the last update. I've been through some hard nights, but now it's mostly okay. I have a few physical issues (ie sudden cough & suffocation) that probably are due to too many interiorized feelings and stress, but in my head it is almost fine. I'm doing stuff to keep myself occupied and fixed myself some mid-term objectives, to be sure I'm not drifting away.

There's just one main thing that is bothering me right now. I feel like an ass for how things went when I kind of "confessed" to her. Seriously, that wasn't right at all, I should either have done that with more tact, or more likely not said anything at all. It was, I guess, kind of bluntly... I really do want to apologize for that. It's been some time now, but I don't know if it's enough.

Also I learnt that she and my other friend kind of broke up something like two weeks ago... something not really right about him not returning her calls, I don't really know (and don't want to know, that's not my story). This gives me a weird aftertaste, a mix of relief as things won't be so awkward and tense between us three, and of disappointment in my friend, and of sadness because, well, I always feel like that when a couple in my friends doesn't work out well.

And now with the knowledge of this fact, and the surroundings of Valentine's Day, I think it would really be innappropriate to apologize now.

But is it appropriate at all?

683 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 09:41 ID:2DiJrW6G

hai

684 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 12:03 ID:2DiJrW6G

>>682

First thing first, what your heart told you to do?
Peace

685 Name: 634 : 2008-02-17 21:29 ID:CwzUjYhx

>>684
What do you mean? What did my heart tell me to do at which point?

686 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-18 06:43 ID:Heaven

im in love with a girl and i know she loves me. yet we cannot be together. i know in time our love for each other will fade away and i will find someone new who will love me more than she has and the same for her.

yet i dont want that to happen, i want her, i need her. she is the only one for me. but she is not mine, i am not holding her in my arms, i am not staring into her beautiful eyes telling her that she is my happiness. no. there is nothing between us but an illusion of a feeling called love.

687 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 15:47 ID:CwzUjYhx

Bump. I'd still like some input for >>682 ...

688 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 02:29 ID:R9O+z65F

>>686 Grow up already. "I need __" is a useless phrase.

>>682 What's there to apologize for? You were basically just freaking out, right? it happens to everyone. Just keep moving on and acting normal.

If it stays in your head, then just mention that you wish you'd have had more control and didn't want her to be put into an uncomfortable situation.

Or am I missing something here?

689 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-05 17:01 ID:vfEK2pEc

>>688
Nope, it's kinda what happened. And I think I'm going to put it sort of the way you said it to her.

690 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-05 17:36 ID:qVTHK5Lk

Getting quite lonely, yet only because of my insecurities. I wouldn't subject someone to my selfish dependence... Though I'm becoming increasingly tempted to. Every time I walk to the bus I catch for school, I almost just walk past it, out of the city. I just want to die in the desert, reading my books.

691 Name: : 2008-03-05 17:37 ID:OflEuAL2

Daamn, reading through large chunks of this thread makes me go "and I though I had it bad."

But.. ranting, right? Might as well throw out a life story while I'm at, and get it off my chest.

Highschool relationships didn't go to well for me. Or rather, the only one that I had didn't really go anywhere. But for all my loneliness by the end of my two years there, it wasn't so bad. That being said, I went to college two years early, and not the 'regular' sort either. Evening School (at a good university, batchelors degree and all, but those who've taken evening classes know that socializing isn't something that one does very much there.) Work kicked in around the time I was 17... And on the relationship front I went through one long-distance e-lationship.

Then shit happens, and I when I finally get the opportunity to lose my virginity, I fail. Yeah. Nervousness can be a bonerkiller.

Perhaps I should explain something. The girl I was in a long-distance relationship with, well, it was a turbulent relationship to be sure. We'd split, come back, like two uncertain pendulums. At the time of my fail, we were not together... but hey, she still flips. (Not that that matters, girl had a quick temper but a quick cooldown time and a surprising ability to think rationally.)

The problem I'm having... well, I can't pinpoint the exact time that it started is the fragmentation of feelings. Most girls I fall for, the feelings are not reciprocated , and I think this leads me to have several "backup crushes" so to speak. Combine this with my desire to get married and have kids(!?) at some point in the (preferably near) future, and you have a recipe for emotional disaster.

tl;dr - Liking a lot of girls at the same time = massive fail.

692 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 19:45 ID:JYKsQVTF

I fall for girls, never get enough confidence to talk to them, then they get boyfriends ._.

This has happend too many times.

693 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 20:53 ID:omEvVzWz

I just have to post it somewhere. I need it off my chest.

There's this girl I was really into, for about 3, 4 years. I never told her though. Then, I asked her at a supermarked where she works parttime if she would want to go to the movies, but I messed up real, REAL bad. Of course, she shyly rejected.
She probably was a bit into me but that was the end of it. Though she didn't have a boyfriend for 4 years, 3 months later she had one. That relation failed, and one month later she had another one.

I feel like I spoiled it for the both of us. Though I am over her, I'll probably never be over this memory.

694 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 21:21 ID:KX1zCtWI

I find myself liking this guy who has absolutely none of the characteristics that I'm into. He's not asian, he's not skinny (at all), not that tall, curlyish brown hair, and even though he's a gamer, he's all for the first-person shooters. But he's really nice and accepts me for who I am and I can't help but like that part. A lot.

But he likes another girl. Not like he knows that I know, but that part doesn't really matter. I really don't stand a chance.

One time I poked his side and realized that he had a big tummy. Normally that grosses me out. I giggled. Wtf is wrong with me?

695 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 21:50 ID:G5NKarAS

I met so many girls, got on well so much with them, slept with so much of them at parties, even at home, and nothing ever happened... ever.

696 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 22:32 ID:JYKsQVTF

>>695
I'll trade your confidence for my sister.

697 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 12:32 ID:Heaven

>>696
Do you do home delivery?

698 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 13:10 ID:IFqafmBd

>>697
Sure. First we must find out a way to transfer personalities ._.

699 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 17:29 ID:omEvVzWz

Just tell how you get all the confidence! It might radiate a bit onto me.

700 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-02 08:50 ID:Heaven

700GET

701 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 04:02 ID:VoItPfrM

A friend of mine has a sister I've known since she was about 11 years old. I was about 14 when I met her so I paid her no mind relationshipwise but stayed friends with her up til today.

Now I'm 21 and she's 18. And she's so fuckin hot. And I'd love to ask her out but I'm positive I'm not the type of person that she's go for due to the fact that I'm an otaku and she's a college party girl. She calls me every once in awhile to hang out and we have a good time and all but it's just me and her like she likes to hang out with me but she's almost embarassed to be seen with me.

She's planning to move away in about 3 months too ;_; We took roadtrips together just me and her drank together but...

Chances are I'm hopeless by now unless something big happens.

702 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 05:07 ID:2NxM5Y1e

>>701
You put stupid romantic story ideas in my head. Such a cute history you have.
I'm imagining a sappy romantic continuation... the girl moves away, and you don't see each other for a long time. She meets a lot of guys, but none of them are what she really wants. She eventualy feels a bit disillusioned. You, the otaku, felt pretty down when she left your life, and it got you thinking about your situation. You decided that although you weren't going to change yourself from being an otaku, you also wanted to be the type of guy that can attract hot girls like this. With the brains of an otaku, and the attractive power of a regular good looking guy; this is one of the coolest and rarest kind of guy.
Given your long history with this girl, you inevitably cross paths again sometime, and by then, you've acheived your goal. Of course, by then, you'd pretty much forgotten the feelings you used to have for her. Until, of course, you see her again. She's matured somewhat, and you've become attractive to her. The connection which caused you two to be friends in the past is re-established. Sakura petals swirl around. You see eachother again, and an epic romance quickly blossoms.

703 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 05:37 ID:pMc7Pgjx

>>694

I hate it when posts seem personally relevant. Now I'm going to have to spend the rest of the night convincing myself that you're talking about someone else.

704 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 05:41 ID:3+iLnDbo

Well, there was this one girl who is actually my ex. We'd probably still be together if I didn't fuck up our relationship. Anyways, she's pretty much the only girl in this town that I can see myself being with and I just need to find a way to get back in her good graces. Let's see... Alright, my Junior year of high school is when I first started going out with her mostly because I was too shy to ask her during Sophomore year but I decided to go out on a limb and blah blah blah. We went out for about three months which was a very slow three months, I haven't even kissed her, but due to my old bad habit of lying to other girls she lost her trust in me when I said something that got out of hand and broke up with me afterwards. Now It's Senior year and I think she's forgiven me but I don't really have much of a chance to talk to her anymore. Like I stated before however, I've just got to try to get back with her again (Pathetic, huh?).

705 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-16 15:29 ID:EbArnvtr

I can't think of anything else except her face and voice. She smiles when I smile, and laughs at my lame jokes. All these things are great, but she isn't mine and I have no idea what to do.

I've only seen the girl once and I already know we have very little in common although if it were a few years back it would have been different. This lack of information means it can't be love (yet?) and there's no obvious sexual drive behind my thoughts so I have to classify it as infatuation.

But despite this lack of things in common and my rational view of the situation, I still can't help but fall for her.

I'm so over shit like this. Life would be so much easier if I could switch off the emotions and spend my life smacking shit with a crowbar.

706 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-16 17:15 ID:mmXTHF2z

>>705

I am in a somewhat similar situation. I don't want girls who I have sexual drive after to be my girlfriends. But when it's the other way around (when I am attracted to them for reasons different than sexual) I fall for them.

Don't know what's the problem about it, but I know that some guys are like that. The moral of the story is that this girl is likely what you are searching for...

707 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-16 22:32 ID:iGMZbCgL

Dang, i wanted a gf so bad for awhile, but then i see all this shit happening in these relationships and im still 17...so ive sorta been wary of others, trust is not something that comes easily to me
on the other hand when i was about the confess to a girl, she blew me off before i even asked her.......that sorta completely crushed me............

708 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-17 12:45 ID:EbArnvtr

She probably has a guy anyway. She answered the phone a few times during the evening, I was going to ask "call from the boyfriend?" which I thought would have been an amusing way to ask the question but the words wouldn't come out.

709 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-23 04:52 ID:OpHxDTfR

hm. i've found myself in love with two different people. i'd be incredibly happy with either one of them, but at the moment they're both completely inaccessible - one due to distance, the other to sexual orientation.

with distance-guy i at least have a chance, but only if we somehow find ourselves living in the same country; he doesn't "do" long-distance stuff, and to be quite frank i'm not too enamoured with the idea either. but he does actually love me back, which is more than i can say for the other guy... and distance is at least something that can be overcome.

as for sexual-orientation-guy, distance is no problem, he lives only a few streets away from me and we often see each other around the place... but he's straight (and i'm not). and in a few weeks he's leaving and i might never see him again. maybe just before he leaves i could tell him everything on the 0.0000001% chance he's in the closet or something... i wouldn't have much to lose by that point, i suppose. although i'd probably have to be really drunk just to have the balls to do it.

710 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-23 05:14 ID:Heaven

>...just to have the balls to do it.

Nevermind me but I laughed at the conclusion of your post. No offense eh, I have no problems with that, but this formulation was too awesome considering the phrase that just preceded it :)

711 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-23 14:49 ID:EbArnvtr

I feel your pain, >>709.

In actual fact I am still riding a pretty bad obsession with someone who I regard as inaccessible. She was the SO of my late best friend, so even though she's available and has in the past obliquely indicated interest, I have chosen to do the right thing and bury the feelings.

The obsession was actually getting to be pretty bad but now I have another one to keep me occupied which is slightly more realistic, which is the one mentioned. I saw her again tonight, and it reaffirmed my feelings a bit but we didn't get quality talking time at all.

My mind has been going in fail-loops thinking of plans for first dates and stuff so I've been obsessively compiling data to improve my false spontaneity.

It's awful and wonderful at the same time. I don't know if that even makes sense.

712 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-05 09:35 ID:e11m5AVo

Well, it was fun, but that's the end of my story here.
So long people, I love this woman.

713 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-05 11:31 ID:fxjPZ1zs

they sure tell a lot of sad stories here

714 Name: : 2008-05-05 11:35 ID:VPj7F7pw

おめでとう ございます!!!

715 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-05 12:04 ID:fxjPZ1zs

i wish i could understand what do you mean...

716 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-05 13:07 ID:EbArnvtr

>>715 If you're talking about >>714, they said congratulations. But on the other hand Google Translate probably already answered that for you.

...

I didn't see her last week. Is this the newest link in a chain of girls who I fall for and then never see again? Maybe. We'll see this week I suppose.

717 Name: Kohei : 2008-05-07 20:07 ID:Ddu7XZWP

I've been wanting to be in a relationship lately
(I blame reading this board for that)

Alas, I know of no girls at my school that I am interested in.

718 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-09 00:42 ID:16vl+yT/

I am interested in four girls, none of which want anything to do with me.
Obviously I like some more than others. But unrequited love four times in a row is quite pathetic.

21 year old virgin never been on a date or have a girlfriend ;_;

719 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-09 02:41 ID:4ycMfrki

I'm 22 and I've never ever had a serious relationship. I'm terrified that if I don't meet someone in the next couple of years, I never will. I know I'm young, but it feels like time is running out, because, after school, it's hard to meet people, and then slowly, when you enter your late twenties, more and more people around you are getting married...

Already some of my friends are engaged and it's fucking terrifying.

720 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-09 15:52 ID:q4Vrr2R+

Good morning everyone, I'M SINGLE AND IT SUCKS
I hate people who aren't virgins. What makes them think they deserve to be so lucky?
GREEDY CORPORATE PIGS
MAY THEY ALL BURN IN HELL

RRRRRAAAAAGGGGGEEEEE

721 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-10 20:55 ID:JYKsQVTF

Today I kissed a girl. It was quite fun.

722 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-10 21:15 ID:4ycMfrki

>>721

What?? That's not a singles rant! That sounds like good news, even!

Get that shit out of here!

Signed,
-A Bitter, Poisonous Single

723 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-10 22:01 ID:JYKsQVTF

>>722
I WAS ONCE LIKE YOU.

And I will probably remain as it anyway, i don't see this going anywhere.

724 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-10 22:45 ID:16vl+yT/

>>723
That's what they all say. ~_~

725 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-11 03:53 ID:y//23jRy

I once waited for a girl for 2 years, but i got blown off so badly i'm so scared to put on hopes for this girl i like now, ive had 13 rejections in my past but now i'm so close to this girl, BAHH!!!

726 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-11 09:19 ID:gUW16ph7

>>725 13 rejections in my past

is that in a row??

727 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-11 13:20 ID:MigRHLiW

That'd a major losing streak man. I think your out of the finals.

728 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-11 15:32 ID:JYKsQVTF

>>725
>>727

Although props for continuing.

729 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-12 12:27 ID:df1Iax57

>>725

Guys who use the "strength by numbers" approach to getting a gf often fail because they come off as desperate. And even in the odd possibility that some girl falls for it, the relationship never lasts because she finds out that you've asked out all her friends before getting to her.

730 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-12 12:37 ID:Heaven

>>729
Tell me about it. At the moment I have two candidates. One is really cool and awesome, and I like her a lot but she gives off this vibe of "no" half the time while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time. The other is definitely interested in me and she's nice too, but I really want the first one. They're friends. So if I go for the first and miss, then I lose the second. If I go for the second I will never know about the first.

731 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-12 15:24 ID:q4Vrr2R+

>>730
Go for the second one. The first one sounds like a tease who gets pleasure out of heartbreaking; sounds like a scumbag to me.

732 Name: eskrim : 2008-05-12 20:45 ID:gUW16ph7

>>730

agree with >>731

probably you want no 1 more because its more challenging?? dont do it.

>>One is really cool and awesome

how how does she compare to no 2 in terms of look and personality?

do you like no 2 (you didnt mention liking her) at all??

or you are only considering her because she likes you?? if this is the case dont go for no 2, only gonna hurt her, dont play with a girl's feeling, you should know the feeling (no 1 did it to you)

733 Name: eskrim : 2008-05-12 20:52 ID:gUW16ph7

>>while giving smirks and encouraging glances the rest of the time

btw forgot to mention this, there's a chance that this teasing is in your head, meaning you got the wrong idea. dont read too much into this teasing unless she gives real indication that she likes you.

734 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-12 22:42 ID:Heaven

Go for none, love is a travesty!

735 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-13 16:10 ID:q4Vrr2R+

>>723
Did it ever go anywhere?

736 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-14 08:31 ID:Rouz/ZDc

>>730

well for no1, it's possible that she's sending the "no" signals because she knows that her friend is interested in you and does not want to hurt her friend's feelings by letting you know her feelings for you as well. Well, that is only a possibility.

If you think you will regret going after no1 then.. go after her. Some people don't mind dating their friends' ex; and if no2 really likes you that much, if being w/ no1 doesn't work out, maybe she'll still go out with you. Who knows...

737 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-16 14:44 ID:EbArnvtr

>>732

Comparatively I would rate #1's looks higher, but probably #2's personality is slightly better, and she's also a closer fit in terms of pastimes.

I'd say I like both, but #1 caused the initial spark. I started to like #2 a little later on getting to know her better, but #1 was continuing the routine so when I think about it rationally she's a bad option, and yet rational thought still flies out the window when she's around...

>>733 I know it's all in my head. At times when they're around I can't even think straight so who even knows which indications are real.

738 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-16 23:42 ID:Heaven

How come everybody I love has a boyfriend?
Is it my bad luck? Do the powers that be get a good laugh out of this?
I HOPE YOU ARE HAPPY, ANGELS, BECAUSE I MIGHT AS WELL BE IN HELL RIGHT NOW

739 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-17 09:39 ID:Q4Pzk/qh

single male.

looking for significant other.

i am very sad. ;_;

740 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-17 23:27 ID:Heaven

I feel like dying.

741 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-18 06:31 ID:Heaven

i have been dreaming about my ex for the past several weeks. every night new dream, new situation but she is always in it and she is always pissing me off. its starting to get annoying

742 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-18 13:25 ID:Heaven

While I lie awake at night and think about the girl I like, she's getting railed by her boyfriend.

743 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-19 06:48 ID:Hgu7ZrWY

I'd like to meet someone special. I just wish I can change my outlook, that's all.

744 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-19 15:40 ID:q4Vrr2R+

I just saw the girl I like in the embrace of another man. I think it's a sign to let go, but it's easier said than done.

745 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-19 23:50 ID:16vl+yT/

Yet another night sitting in front of the computer listening to depressing music. Such a vicious cycle that is life.

746 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 00:39 ID:aFndFSwb

I thought being single would suck, but that was before I had a girlfriend. Now I'm single once more, and, well, it's FUCKING AWESOME.

747 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 01:03 ID:HfRiI+zv

I had this dream yesterday, where i was sitting in front of my computer and as i left the room and came back, there was a young lady sitting..perfect; blond hair,brown eyes..etc and i instantly knew that the universe OWNED ME THIS, i was like "hell yeah, finally something GOOD in this life i call pain". She was hugging me,kissing and suddenly i woke up.

Never ever did any dream hurt as much as this one. I curse you MORPHEUS of the Endless!

748 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 02:04 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>744

I had the same thing happen to me, but I saw it as almost liberating. Prior to witnessing the two of them making out at a party, I had been agonizing over how to ask her out on a date. Suddenly, that ceased to be a priority.

749 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 04:53 ID:isL5lELX

749GET

750 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 11:13 ID:EbArnvtr

>>746
I'm the opposite. I was single forever and didn't care, then I got a girl, then I lost the girl and now I care.

Also, 750GET. Unless someone jews me at the last minute.

751 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 12:05 ID:Heaven

>>748
how is it liberating? Now you have to worry about lost love to some unqualified loser

752 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 12:34 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>751

He wasn't a loser -- I knew the guy, and he was obviously a better match for her than I would have been.

And in the end, I'm not worrying about anything. I was always extremely unconfortable around her, and now that she's definitively out of my life, I feel like a weight has been removed from my shoulders. If that isn't liberating, I'm not sure what is.

753 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 15:23 ID:Heaven

Liberation is finally finding love after a lifelong grueling struggle

754 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 15:27 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>753

Considering that I'm never likely to find love, I'll take what I can get, even if it's not ideal. My current situtation is liberating enough for me.

755 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 23:17 ID:16vl+yT/

I wish I could think like that. Instead, I wallow in self-defeat.

756 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-20 23:29 ID:Pdc4V+Lb

being single leads to a lot of disposable income, so its not so bad.

757 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-21 03:19 ID:HfRiI+zv

>>756 money < warm bed with a loving girlfriend. i would prefter that choice, maybe others not

758 Name: Akina : 2008-05-21 04:56 ID:QiURz2qJ

>>757 A warm bed with a loving girlfriend without money would lead to the girl would leave you for someone who can support her, and take her out to fancy restaurants.

759 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-21 12:36 ID:srZrbrPW

<<758
Any girl who would "leave you for someone who can support her and take her out to fancy restaurants" isn't even worth being in a bed with, that's not a loving girlfriend, that's a bloodsucking leech in human form...

760 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-21 12:51 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>759

All the same, a relationship in poverty isn't likely to last.

761 Name: >>759 : 2008-05-21 13:47 ID:srZrbrPW

>>760, Oh, absolutely agreed, a loser who doesn't get a job is a loser no matter how you look at it, it was just the wording about the girl that was just as bad, about a girl who needs or expects that guy to support her & take her to fancy restaurants... A girl who doesn't work or even try to support herself or expects fancy restaurants is just as bad as that guy who lays about without working, himself;

762 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 00:56 ID:16vl+yT/

Why is this so far down? Has nobody no rants to unleash!?

763 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 06:59 ID:BpkXCz0J

>>762
Eh...just seems kinda' pointless to rant, at least to me. I've accepted my fate and just try not to think about my eternal singleness. Raging over it just causes more frustration which I don't need, after all.

764 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 13:15 ID:srZrbrPW

>>763 One of the smartest & most productive things I've seen all-thread:) Ranting & raging over it, whilst legitimately caused, still isn't terribly productive, and even while it's here, in relative privacy & anonymity and it's good to vent, it still doesn't even give you a good feeling of confidence afterward, which is what attracts people of the opposite sex;

765 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 15:34 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>764

Fuck confidence.

I agree with >>763 that ranting is pointless. I also think that smarmy, feel-good "you'll get a date eventually" optimism is vapid and naïve.

766 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 15:36 ID:rkmyLOGf

767 Name: 759 & 764 : 2008-05-28 15:54 ID:srZrbrPW

>>765
Optimism, indeed, blind feel-good optimism isn't going to get you anything, but it is confidence that will; The ranting is pointless, but if you're confident, and someone seems to have potential when you encounter them, then you're going to make a move, and that confidence, the fact that you don't need them or are desperate, but just interested in them, is what produces results.

>>766 Thanks, and yes, it's true

768 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-29 14:22 ID:df1Iax57

Why are asian guys at uni so shallow?

769 Name: PK : 2008-05-29 15:04 ID:F/DZFY9t

>>768

Our "closed" eyes have not only taken away our peripheral vision, but also our ability to see people for who they are.

Jokes aside, I think it's because their parents (most likely Asian-born Asians) put so much importance on outward appearances and perceptions. That's why my mother hated the fact that I dressed like a punk rocker in high school (in other words, looking like a bum).

770 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-29 22:01 ID:E2Nptuyi

I'm 27 years old, and have always had the shittiest luck with women. Basically,

-If she's unattached, she's looking for anyone but me.
-If she considers me a candidate, she probably has a better candidate in mind. (Pfft. "Better" is subjective. :P)
-If she responds positively to me...she's either married or engaged.

Single life in itself isn't so bad. The problem is that all of my friends has someone, and I can't even see it happening for myself anymore. I'm too burned out to try (which doesn't give off a positive vibe, I'm sure), yet I can't find it in me to stop caring. I'd be a lot happier if I could.

771 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-31 01:05 ID:5wWEl94J

Girls are like Internet domain names. The good ones are already taken.

I can only find two classes of girls:

  • Obnoxious Ladder Theory girls who want to use me as a shoulder to cry about jerk #187 and ask me why can't other guys be like me, without giving me the slightest chance because I'm on the fucking friends zone.
  • Bearable girls that already have a boyfriend. To make matters worse, the motherfuckers will often pull all sorts of stunts to avoid letting me know of this, and I can picture the reason (I could be their plan B).

I need to find a girl I like. I should post about what I like in women, but it can be summarized as: looks like a woman, but acts as the polar opposite of the average girl: mature, sincere, serious, romantic, deep, has something she likes doing in life other than dancing and buying pairs of shoes.

772 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-31 02:03 ID:GyZKjpLn

>>771

Awesome analogy, girls are like domain names. Indeed. Even if you backordered, there's still no guarantee.

773 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-31 17:58 ID:4ycMfrki

774 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-31 18:54 ID:Heaven

>>773
I think it was meant to be funny.

775 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 02:45 ID:JYKsQVTF

>>771
I am going to steal this analogy for my own purposes.

776 Name: Kira : 2008-06-01 03:49 ID:idZO1fvu

I just prefer not having girl friend because I am too lazy...
Besides I just like helping others out find bf/gf and such.
I think I just like being single (Maybe because I already dated before) but I think it's ok to be single if the person feels comfortable just being single. -Kira

777 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 17:34 ID:iph01xfq

guys are scared to talk to me. :{

778 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 19:24 ID:BpkXCz0J

>>777
Then talk to them first!
Many guys would love to have the girl initiate conversation.

779 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 13:51 ID:gokp0FNn

I'll never be single because I will always have my hug pillow ;_;.

780 Name: Smarq : 2008-06-03 15:13 ID:12f5NUqb

Damn, thats pretty sad. lol.

781 Name: Smarq : 2008-06-03 15:13 ID:12f5NUqb

Damn, thats pretty sad. lol.

782 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 17:48 ID:MkcxVX7/

>>773

That "calculation" is bullshit. He states that only 2,275% of all of the females aged 18-25 can be defined as "beautiful". Seems like someone has some unhealthy standards

783 Name: PK : 2008-06-03 20:02 ID:F/DZFY9t

>>782

Really can't take a joke, eh?

784 Name: Mr. Anonymous : 2008-06-03 20:03 ID:wyg154IS

man what's there to talk about?

785 Name: Mr. Anonymous : 2008-06-03 20:19 ID:wyg154IS

can't we all just talk about something else?

786 Name: Mr. Anonymous : 2008-06-03 20:21 ID:wyg154IS

hey there's nothing wrong with being single. it just means you have more opportunities open to you.

787 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 20:59 ID:HfRiI+zv

>>786 Yeah, tell that to the rest of guys posting here :/

788 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 22:46 ID:eOY1oUvu

>>787
They just need to learn how to play the game. It takes just one experience to make you a good flirt, and each subsequent experience will make you more confident. I used to be in the mindset of "I'll always be alone, no one will ever love me", but you'd be amazed what can happen even if you aren't looking. Expand your horizons young ones (not that I'm old, 22), you'll find that girl (or guy) you like only if you really want it to happen, if you're willing to take that chance. I found my sweet heart and I'm gonna marry her after I graduate from college, not to brag but love does happen. I believe a lot of guys are lacking the confidence that they need, nothing ventured nothing gained is absolutely true.

789 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 23:12 ID:Heaven

>how to play the game

Damn you!

Also gb2mASF Neil.

790 Name: Mr. Anonymous : 2008-06-03 23:31 ID:c5dplKyL

yeah, you're right. it's happened to me to. you make friends with girls when you're not even looking for one and they may come to like you in the end. you may have an unexpected attraction to them.

791 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 03:56 ID:iORTsya+

Always remember that the more girls there are around you (and it's even better if you're flirtarious with them, even just for a joke) the easier it will be for you to approach other girls (because you'd be used to their presence), and also because this raises your social value. "Oh, he's popular with girls, I'm a girl, so I guess he should be popular with me". Yeah, it's really that stupid.

792 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 16:20 ID:xL4mJMNo

>>778

I would, but im really bad with words.

793 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 17:05 ID:q4Vrr2R+

>>788
I call bullshit on that. I used to do that all the time and it never worked. If anything, it made me feel worse because it reinforced how much of a failure I truly am.

you're so fucking condescending!

794 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 23:08 ID:16vl+yT/

>>788
How long did you have to wait?
Was it longer than five years?

795 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-05 15:51 ID:HfRiI+zv

>>788 i simply hate the "you lack confidence speech"..jeezes christ, what are we supposed to be? Brock Samson? 24x7 Bare chested pushups,aggresive motherfucker screaming from his car "hey baby!".Or do you mean a geek who doesn't give a fuck what people think,yet when he opens his mouth he is DENIED..so which one is the real confidence?

I don't think confidence is all there is,and what the hell is wrong with you? "when you aren't looking" has got to be the shittiest advice ever, it's these advices that keep guys from getting any. DONT DO ANYTHING, DO FREAKING SOMETHING! There is no Dencha bullshit,no FOREVER, no soulmate..there is only the present.

796 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-05 16:29 ID:iORTsya+

>>795
Having confidence doesn't mean you have to be a jackass, but neither does it mean that you just "don't give a fuck what people think".

It means being self-confident and having some self-esteem. It's an inner resource, not a question of outer behaviour.

797 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-05 19:49 ID:HfRiI+zv

>>796 But it manifests for a great part in outer behaviour. Maybe, just maybe..it's just being yourself and having the balls to open up without any psych.tactics to impress him/her=confidence.

798 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-05 21:01 ID:iORTsya+

>>797
Nope. Some people are very confident without being very outgoing, and it runs deeper into the way they speak, the body language, etc. This is subconsciously read by the people they speak to. It also slightly influences the way they think and interact in a conversation.

Having "psych. tactics" isn't incompatible with confidence, although confidence makes them less useful. But you're a bit right, too; it's in a way being yourself and having the balls to stand for what you are.

799 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-06 13:24 ID:Heaven

If it runs into the way they speak and their body language, then that is EXACTLY what is meant by manifesting in outward behaviour.

800 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-07 13:52 ID:Heaven

800 GET

801 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-07 18:32 ID:lDWo5i5L

I've resigned myself to being single because I'm not very healthy, mentally or physically. If I actually managed to get a relationship with someone, I would end up hurting them.

All the same, I always feel so irate and jealous when I see my friends with someone.

802 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 15:13 ID:Heaven

I want to die.

803 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-09 19:47 ID:zMGEXkxX

I am in the 4th week of summer school and I can't force myself to give up. I came into college thinking life for me would be better, turns out it is only worse. I find it more difficult to just even maintain contact with a girl, let alone get to know one. I checked my phone and I only have 2 numbers that are girls out of the 25 in it. Mentally I have given up, I know that I will be single my whole life. My heart still has some fight left it in, and I know I can't stop it but I certainly don't have to listen to it.

My heart has fallen for this one girl in my class, and I am counting down the days until classes is over so I can just forget about her. She is smart, outgoing, very social and talkative, beautiful, basically everything I am not. And she is very nice, one of the kindest person I have ever met. I think the only reason I fell for her is because she was the only person in a long time who has come up to me on a consistent basis and ask how my day has been. I think the only reason I like her is because she is the only girl who gives me any sort of attention.

orz why must you torture me?

804 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-09 19:54 ID:JYKsQVTF

I have probably posted this before.

All of your ancestors have not been single. The odds are in your favour, all of us.

805 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-09 23:57 ID:HfRiI+zv

>>804 arranged marriages plus it was so much easier in the day

806 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-10 03:54 ID:iORTsya+

>>803
I just checked, I have 19 girls in my phone (excluding family) on about 50 contacts.

Wow, I'm just surprised by that score.

807 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-10 05:18 ID:gqQdFzip

788 here

>>794
My first date in my entire life was at 20, but I met my final choice when I was 21, so yeah, 21 years of being single, bleh.

>>796
EXACTLY what I was saying. Smart.

>>795
Not that I want to get too much into it, but when I say "when you aren't looking", my experience (and many others) is that love happens (sometimes) when you least expect it. Obviously keep trying, but sometimes it happens when you aren't trying as much.

I really don't want to be condescending, I sympathize with all of your feelings, but the most important thing you can do is persevere.

808 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 12:55 ID:df1Iax57

A couple of weeks ago I was waiting at a bus stop. I was not in such a great mood following uni that day. There was a guy walking towards me, and I'm looking past him to see if the bus is coming. As he comes nearer, I change my focus on to him, and I catch him with a rather silly small smile on his face. Grumpy that my personal space would soon be invaded, I turn the other direction and take no further notice at him. All the while I was thinking, "Don't sit down here, don't sit down here." Of course, he sat down next to me. Minutes pass, and the bus comes. At the ticket checking, I'm having trouble getting my purse out, and rather than hold up the line I let people pass. When I finally dig out my ticket, I reach to swipe the card at the same time as someone else. I turn around, and it's the guy with the small silly smile. I couldn't help but return the smile as he politely let me on first. It was then for a moment that my heart skipped a beat. It was strange, because I'm not one to get all deluded. I mean, I'm not naive and inexperienced as to go all lovey dovey over a small act. Normally, I wouldn't think twice if a guy offered me his seat. Add to the fact that he wasn't particularly physically attractive.

Anyway, a couple of days ago when I accompanied my friend to print stuff at the library, I bumped into him again. My friend and I were probably talking obnoxiously loud because he turned slightly towards my direction. I immediately recognised that small weird smile of his, and continued working at my computer in silence. All the while I was looking at him, whilst pretending to look at my screen. I had this sudden urge and confidence to give him my number (I never give out my number??). My gut was actually telling me that it would be a good idea. I folded though, thinking logically about the situation, and how weird I would come across. I left soon after, but after that second encounter I can't get him out of my head.

Thanks for listening.

809 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 13:28 ID:YGAkr00g

maybe he's a stalker.. be careful. but hey.. it's worth a try.

810 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 17:59 ID:QSpAzNSp

>>806
Count yourself lucky, I have 5, 1 I could possibly date.

811 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 18:12 ID:XVWRRzMF

>>810
Well, to be honest, there are three or so I would gladly date (two of them taken, so no way), two that would date me but I don't want to, and one I'd marry on the spot and make her nine kids. But that's so not going to happen, it's depressing.

812 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 18:53 ID:DctQ76V5

Every morning, I have this girl in my dreams. She doesn't resemble anyone I know at all. Every time I drift off to dreamland, I end up seeing her. We go and have fun. I treat her to some ice cream; we go to the bookstore and glance over all different types of books. I hold her; she feels warm and soft. She's affectionate and trusting. Her pouty smile, her beautiful eyes, and delicate skin, all bundled up in my arms. Then I open my eyes, and see her staring back at me for less than a second. Then it hits me. It was all a dream. I stay in my bed for a few minutes, contemplating the fact that she isn't real. I get a dreaded feeling that I will be lonely all my life, because I will never get her. This has been my life for the past 2 months. I hate my life, 4-ch.

813 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 23:50 ID:WPRbooF2

>>812
I feel your pain

814 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 10:10 ID:GyZKjpLn

>>808

A small kindness goes a long way.

815 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 01:44 ID:16vl+yT/

>>814
A small kindness lands you in the dreaded friend zone... FOREVER

816 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 06:58 ID:HmP/NPlL

I just want a friend with benefits.

817 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 08:18 ID:GyZKjpLn

>>815

I don't care, i'm not desperate to get gals, they flock all over me.

That friend zone is bullshit, that doesn't apply to everything, a mere overhyped theory.

818 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 15:12 ID:NcJ+OGcf

>>815 yea that's somewhat true...

819 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-02 03:09 ID:m89ox7+T

So the girl I love and am trying to clumsily and slowly seduce is all friendly towards a friend of mine she met at parties. In the course of a week (yeah we party a lot) she looks like very close to him. I just noticed she added him on Facebook, while she told me she always waited for people to add her. It's either that or he added her, which would be as bad because she semi-hid her profile, so that would mean he has searched for her and added her - probably meaning he's interested too given the circumstances. If they end up together it would be the second friend of mine she'd be dating.

I hate my life right now.

820 Name: devil's ivy : 2008-07-02 10:24 ID:8jRStz3I

>>819 looks like she's the straight forward kind of girl. may be u gotta be more assertive. if you go too slow, she might think you are not interested in her.

821 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-02 16:45 ID:m89ox7+T

>>820
She knows it. I told her before. She was interested in that other friend at that time. Now I'm trying to act somehow indifferent and increase my "value", because I can't do any direct flirting 'cause she'd see it coming. I'm conscious it's probably useless. If she does end up with that second friend I guess I'm going to have to sever any contact for a few. I don't know.

I'm really not sure how to react.

822 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-02 18:29 ID:hRp29ZL9

Every potential relationship I've ever had has failed due to my passivity. They all have either ended in the girl thinking (1) I'm gay and have no interest in her, or (2) going far too slow until she got fed up with it. More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.

I'm the type a guy who meets a girl, likes her, and then gives up when the going gets serious. I question sometimes whether I'm depressed, apathetic, or just a huge pussy.

823 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-02 20:27 ID:Q42RKcb4

>>More recently, a girl has been taunting me with other guys. According to all of her friends, she's trying to see how I react. Well, naturally, I react like I always do and simply withdraw from said situation.

Call her out on that shit, don't take it lying down. Trust me, I know how you feel; one of my ex girlfriends did that to me after she left me for another person.

Speaking of which, I'm kinda at a weird point. Every relationship I've ever been in ended in the person cheating on me/leaving me for another person... and I am still hurt by one of those relationships a year ago. Also, I'm in an area where there are very very few girls my type. I mean, I can hook up with random people, but none of them are people I probably would be able to connect with on a relationship level...

...However, at the same time, I do miss the feeling of being in love, of yearning for someone, of loving someone and being truly loved in return. I haven't been in a relationship in a year, and I haven't been truly in love and loved in return in 4 years. However, I'm going to wait until school starts back in August to worry about it, I guess...

824 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-03 17:25 ID:hRp29ZL9

>>823

Why bother? If I jerk off, she won't bother me nearly as much. Deep down I don't actually enjoy her company apart from touching. I have financial issues right now, and I'm trying to get back into school. Seriously, my days of partying and chasing after girls ended when I turned 20.

825 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-04 22:59 ID:Heaven

I love her with all my heart and don't expect much in return. It's hard to see her going to other guys, though. I would go and find me another girl, but I can't be serious about it.

I wish I didn't know a love so great and I could keep things simple and carefree.

826 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-08 10:51 ID:GjH69LKW

I'm tired of being alone. Waking up, knowing I'm just going to be grinding the day away by myself; fuck that. I'm sick of that.

I never got along with anybody in highschool, it was nothing short of a miracle that I found a girl I liked my senior year. Damn shame she wasn't interested in me though, and now about a year later we're not on speaking terms.

All the older people in my life told me when I was in college, more opportunities would arise for me. While it's true I've met some pretty cool people, I've only met one girl that I've been romantically attracted to, and she ended up going out with one of my friends. I'm probably only going to be in college for about another two years or so, and I sincerely doubt my situation will ever change.

Love is a lie.

827 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-09 01:43 ID:43I0ZVs8

I find it funny that all of my friends approach me for relationship advice. With my success rate, I feel like a truck driver who was ask how to perform open heart surgery. Eh, thats life I guess.

828 Name: jappie : 2008-07-09 06:13 ID:7Or7oWQD

i got this crush in class, she and I seem to be getting along pretty well, but the case is.. She has a boyfriend, and now i think im starting to fall for her.. gah what should i do?

829 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-09 14:13 ID:df1Iax57

I just found out that the guy I had been crushing hard on for the past year is a slut and a dishonest person. In my defense, I had an inkling that he was a bit of a bad boy, but he was very discreet about those kind of activities in front of me. I'm kind of glad actually, because although we parted ways a couple of months ago, I'd never truly managed to move on. I realise now that I'd been idealising him and this latest discovery has confirmed that for me. It's like all the pieces of the puzzle falling in place. Little suss things I remember about him are beginning to click. I'm just frustrated that I didn't want to trust my gut instinct earlier. I'm usually a very good judge of people, but it's funny how feelings can get in the way. I feel so foolish.

830 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-09 15:55 ID:Heaven

>>829
Well... try to be more clever next time maybe? :)

831 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 09:47 ID:7Or7oWQD

will we always be single??

/l、
(゚、 。 7
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 じしf_,)ノ
merowr!

832 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 22:18 ID:D+ObKND9

Seems that way kitty. Seems that way.

833 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-12 19:03 ID:yBMO4rfP

>>829

Don't feel so bad about yourself, you're just a woman after all.

834 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-21 18:15 ID:AhZR3AXE

Love is both a lie and irrelevant to life. Girls (and people in general) suck, so I have no qualms about being single for the rest of my life.

I'm not young anymore, but as long as I work hard and continue to be successful, I don't give a flying fuck about getting a girlfriend at least once in my life.

835 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-21 20:34 ID:xzDX/3H2

all women are liars and that is why i will never find happiness

836 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-21 22:42 ID:kmSFu2b0

! that's why pron is so popular

837 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-21 23:21 ID:RrA5xZKe

>>835
for me, they are too demanding not liars....

838 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-21 23:22 ID:RrA5xZKe

>>834
strangely I also feel the same way :(

839 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-22 09:04 ID:mDJ/VTId

what a shitty life. girls these days have way over the top standards

840 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-22 21:50 ID:WKOnhraA

I completely agree with 839

Women dont realize that even high standards dont mean that theyll be happy just becuase a man is rich or good looking doesnt mean hes a nice/good guy

841 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-26 09:37 ID:tMpPTQvC

It's getting too much for me. Seeing my friend going out with the girl I like, seeing everybody around me finding bliss through their romantic companion, and seeing so many others squander such things as romance for money and status...

It's leaving me bitter. Perhaps a little to bitter to care when things might turn my way for a change. As far as I can tell, the situation will never happen where I'll ever know any such things. Knowing that they have so much, and some just piss it all away because it's the hot thing to do or it'll get them other things they want.

The bitterness has me turning cold. Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs. If that's the case, why do I care about any of the needs of those around me? It doesn't seem as if some omnipotent being will reward any kindness on my part. It isn't as if the favor will for some reason be returned to me.

I may now be unfit for being with another, but only because I have for so long been alone that now I only resent those around me, blinded by a delusion that perhaps they have it better than me or are somehow responsible for my blight.

While I know there are other kindred souls like me out there, for some reason I cannot take solace int this, for when you are alone, it's hard to believe there are others like you.

842 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-26 10:41 ID:Heaven

>>841

OMFG PUT ON SOME MASCARA AND JUMP INTO AN ABYSS OF LOVE-DEAD SOULS ALREADY.

843 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-26 15:37 ID:EYnMCw0C

>>841 Yeah, i was like that in the beginning. But eventually you destroy that hope completely (no hope=no despair). I just accept that i will be alone and there are no disappointments or no rewards, but it's much nicer here then i was a Love Seeking Fool.

Hope you find "peace".

844 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-26 23:29 ID:Heaven

>>842
I lost my mascara, can I borrow yours?

845 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-27 02:54 ID:tf/DSzP0

I have no problem with being alone. However, being alone is fine as long as you have people to hang out with in your spare time. If not a significant other, you might as well have some very good friends who you can spend time with. I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.

However, I have noticed that they will not always be there for more. Slowly they too will find girlfriends or boyfriends to be with or even fiancees in some cases. Because I'm in the midst of this entire process happening, I become more worried about my own future relationships with girls. My 24th birthday just passed and I've never kissed a girl before. I suppose I'll need another 24 years to get a serious girlfriend. Two of the girls that I've ever considered going out with already have boyfriends and are too heavily marriage oriented. For whatever reason, they'll probably end up marrying their current boyfriends since they're too insecure that they can find a better match. I'm not saying their boyfriends are terrible people, but they're kind of jerks in comparison to me. But most people generally are. Perhaps my own sense of morality and ethics has prevented me from entering a relationship. I just think that taking advantage of girls who are drunk or emotionally vulnerable is wrong. But apparently, it works for a lot of people and girls don't seem to mind that too much.

846 Name: faggot : 2008-07-27 04:33 ID:B8JnNYcT

i know no nice cool cute girls. does fashion sense give a clue to a girls personality? who do i go for. Im talking about really interesting high caliber types

847 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-27 08:05 ID:Heaven

>>844

YOU JUST REACHED A NEW LOW BY ASKING A WOMAN TO BORROW HER MAKEUP.

848 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-27 08:06 ID:Heaven

BTW, THE ANSWER IS NO.

849 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-27 11:43 ID:Heaven

>>848
>>847
I'm afraid I can't comply then. Sheesh, first you tell me to do something then when I take steps to do so, you shoot me down.

850 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-27 11:46 ID:Heaven

>>845
Seeing your friends with significant others sure does suck.

Just like a good vacuum cleaner.

851 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-28 13:47 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>841

>>Nobody cares about me being alone. Nobody care about my emotional needs.

On the bright side, at least you figured this out sooner rather than later. Too often, you find that the average person is someone who goes around thinking everyone else in the world is personally invested in his/her happiness.

But that's never been the case. Self-interest drives our culture, and people are typically disinclined to care about anything outside their own private spheres of interest. This is neither good nor bad; it's simply the way things are.

852 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-28 19:52 ID:Heaven

>>850
hahaha i laughed to that one :D

853 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-28 22:32 ID:Heaven

>>851
Sure is ironic how people are belittled if they're "insensitive."

854 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 00:52 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>853

Belittled by whom? The "sensitive" types?

855 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 07:29 ID:Heaven

>>854
Selfish people. As >>851 said, self interest is what drives modern culture. But if you speak callously of somebody else's problems, people won't like your insensitivity.

856 Name: Smilebit!ozPYsh7pFo : 2008-08-14 01:26 ID:wSzfwXDv

To tell the truth, I don't think I'm that bad of a guy; I keep myself looking decent, and I have plenty of friends. People around me seem to think I'm a pretty cool guy, and I hear girls think I'm attractive, despite the fact that I rarely talk to anyone outside of my group of friends. But my problem is that I have NO idea how to approach, talk to, or maintain a relationship with a girl. My friends tell me to just wing it, but the few times I tried it I ran out of things to talk about within minutes. ):

857 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-14 05:12 ID:gQaxPOlO

My roommate's girlfriend and my ex-girlfriend are living together this year and they just moved in. I have a feeling they are scheming. I'm armed if that is the case.

858 Name: Anal Otoko : 2008-08-15 21:46 ID:CZKjbfUJ

Guys I am Anal Otoko I was posting somewhere in 2006 with a few different nicks, I was desperate etc. (the usual story) but now I have a wonderful girlfriend, and I didn't find her on the net this time, she came directly from the REAL WORLD!!! She's a NORMAL girl!! Isn't it so ridiculously HUGE that it seems almost impossible? Well anyway, we've been together for more than a year now... life is good aaah.

859 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 23:45 ID:Heaven

>>858
You were trolling around if I remember well?
Wait let me see... not single, check. Not a rant, check. What the hell are you doing in this thread?

Oh well, good for you anyway. Good luck out there.

860 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 16:23 ID:Heaven

Clearly >>858 has just phoned up to wash his head at us.

861 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-17 02:44 ID:XN/ocypN

Okay so I was at this wedding (working) and there really were some cool girls there. Especially one, really cute, seemed to have great fun on the dancefloor, and cool overall. I wasn't sure if she had a boyfriend or whatever (and nowadays I seem to care a bit less about these things as long as it's innocent, while before it would have stopped me right there), so I started lightly flirting with her (eye catch, smiles, funny comment about something happening, some disinterested compliment, a sliiiight bit of patronizing... well mostly harmless things).

At the end of my shift I was roaming around the room to grab some stuff of mine, kinda dancing my way around the room (yeah, I can't help it when there's music). And there she goes, grabs my hands and pulls me to the dancefloor to dance a rock'n'roll. I tell her that I don't really know how to dance rock'n'roll, at least not at two and she says something like "well whatever, me neither". By the way at that moment I was sure that one of the guests was her bf (and a close friend of the groom, too). So followed a lull in my head, and possibly a few minutes of cool-but-awkward-like-i'm-not-dancing-with-her dance, and she walk away. I turned the other way pretending to go grab coffee (which I was supposed to be doing in the first place), and also walked away utterly confused about what just happened. I mean, she really looked like she wanted to dance with me - and I wasn't even a guest.

I'm still not sure if this is a critical failure at seduction or a huge success in not making a possible mess - but either way I had to vent about me not getting to do more stuff with/to her. I mean goddamn she was cute and hot and fun. Shit.

WHAT THE HELL WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING ME WHEN I'M SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONE LEADING!

862 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 13:50 ID:725XH6z/

>>845
24 years? I guess I better turn on my aggression mode now before I reach your mark. But seriously, I know how that is and I guess being exposed to a world filled with relationships and people together just makes me a tad too conscious about hooking up with someone. It sometimes makes me think whether that made me make a run for it, or something like that.

863 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 23:17 ID:LlfcC84Q

>>845

>> I really wouldn't know what I would do if I didn't have the friends I have.

I'm also not sure what you'd do, but I know I'm in that boat -- 24, never kissed/dated/etc., and friendless for the last six years or so.

It's a pretty lonely life, but if I keep myself busy, it's not too unbearable. And I'm pretty good at keeping myself busy.

864 Name: 857 : 2008-08-19 04:50 ID:Ml++o63N

I was right and my roommate stole my knife. Fuck drama...

865 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 02:15 ID:7sptAJWY

I love my ex, but she has a new boyfriend. I'm kind of sad that I cant have her back. I guess it was my fault the whole time. I secretly wish she'd break up with her boyfriend for me, but I don't want to wish it. One person would probably be as depressed as me. I need to stop thinking of her.

866 Name: Effin Annoyed : 2008-08-20 07:50 ID:3p7ZNnA5

i just dont get it.
I am 20, considered pretty by a lot of my friends, i am outgoing, upbeat, love music and learning, have a good sense of humor and am also overweight.
for the longest time i figured it was my weight that was stopping guys from asking me out, but then i am talking with one of my other friends, she's got about... 50 lb more then me, and a personality that i can find somewhat obnoxious sometimes. but SHE has a boy friend!!!

WTF do i just scare them away???
i mean i am 20 and have NEVER been asked out even once... unless we are going to count some ass hole in high school who did it was a practicle joke.

867 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 08:20 ID:pQIOQ04R

>>866

>>considered pretty by a lot of my friends

friends can lie to make you feel better, that's not to say that they always lie, just sometimes a lie might be nicer.

868 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 12:08 ID:df1Iax57

>>866
Perhaps you have standards?

869 Name: Effin Annoyed : 2008-08-21 04:55 ID:3p7ZNnA5

>>867
ha ha ha ha lol yeah i guess... but i mean its one of those things where like i know when i am having a Fugly day and its just like wtf, and i mean if i dropped some weight, (which i am working on) i would look like my mom in her 20's and she was effin georgeous... not just cause its my mom either cause when i saw a pic i was like... you are kidding me right? not saying that i am effin georgous but just... lol ok... i'm done digging this hole ^-^

>>868
you make my life ^-^
i guess to a certain extent that could be it
'cept if i have never even been asked out to reject someone who is below my standards... how can my standards be keeping me alone.....

friggen rawr

870 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 14:55 ID:Heaven

>>869

Most girls I know in your situation would just wear a low cut top, flirt shamelessly, and act all clueless and innocent about sex/relationship stuff. Remember: men are dumb.

871 Name: Effin Annoyed : 2008-08-21 16:08 ID:3p7ZNnA5

ha ha ha ha
>>870
i get it, i dont get picked up because i dont dress like a whore, and dont act like a ditz!!! :D
lol i get it, i think i would rather stay single and classy and wait for a classy man then turn into one of those ^-^

872 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 16:38 ID:vESe3zpD

My girlfriend just internet-broke-up with me. :/

873 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 22:10 ID:Heaven

>>872
Ouch. Hard.

>>871
Yeah, right, whatever. I'm what most would consider a classy man and no one ever got to me. I used to have a somewhat special style (nothing too weird though), was kind and gentleman-ish, funny, talented in many domains, kind whatever. Best friend material. Got broken-hearted, and in an access of rage and cynism decided to try the "player" attitude. Girls falling all over the place. They didn't even get that I was acting that way out of spite or worse, it made them think my act was even hotter or I don't know.

What I believe you think are "classy men" are most unlikely to come to you and whatever. They'll shy out in a corner - or be kind to you and so good you won't even notice them as dateable material. Nice guy syndrom, you know, it's not just a myth. And it's kinda sad that most nice guys either die alone or get broken at some point by the same girl that claim to want a "knight in shiny armor" or whatever crap.

If you really want someone, then >>870 is the best way to go; you can still be "classy" after the seduction part. Otherwise, good luck waiting. There's probably one out there for you. But you'll wait. Maybe your lifetime. Waiting.

874 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-22 12:11 ID:Heaven

I've learned to look forward to the prospect of lifelong celibacy.

875 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-22 20:17 ID:bUdiX1S/

>>874
Probably the best way to look at it. But sex isn't really everything. I'd even settle for a lifelong roommate at this point with no sex involved.

>>863
Well, I have a fairly strong social dependency which I don't really show to others too much. Though my friends know I value them, I don't think they know exactly how much. But yeah, keeping busy is the best. Sometimes this might even help you to get a girlfriend by "being interesting." I don't quite know what girls mean when they say this. But apparently, I was out with some random people one time and a college girl on the rebound fell for a guy because he knew geography. (Standards also are lowered when you are recovering from a past relationship.) My outlook on life, well, I haven't decided on too much. I'm a bit of an optimist. It's just hard as a research student to get to know others since you do make significantly less than other people. It's hard to go out and buy drinks for other people without conscious of the cash you're spending though you'd like to reciprocate someone else's actions.

876 Name: Lovechan : 2008-08-25 05:58 ID:6X+vMVOv

everyone needs to experience love in their life ^.^

otherwise you haven't lived to the full extent.

keep going! you'll find her/him one day :]

877 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-25 09:01 ID:odH484F0

>>876

coming from someone who is 15, i don't think you've experienced "love" before.

878 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-25 11:22 ID:Heaven

>>877

Coming from someone whom of which obviously came from a bad relationship, I don't think you have either.

879 Name: lovechan : 2008-08-27 07:20 ID:6X+vMVOv

which is why i'll keep trying ^^
well not at the moment...hehe

880 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-05 08:03 ID:Heaven

Y'know, I can't help but thing my friends are all conspiring to keep me single my entire life. So I'm thinking I should just kill em all and my problems will be solved.

Let God sort them out and may the Devil have mercy!

881 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-17 07:29 ID:TPpNk4up

FUCK! I fell for my friend again...at least this is not the first time it has happened. Maybe I will luck out and she will tell me to fuck off.

882 Name: Single Lady : 2008-09-23 03:17 ID:ue5WpGoa

I wouldn't say I like being single as much as I love not being with my ex. I'd like to meet someone new, yet I'm a little gun shy. Don't want another bad experience. Ex was a complete ass wipe. Doesn't even call or visit his daughter.
I'm a more guarded and cautious now. Won't be jumping into anything as quickly as the last relationship. I don't really go out partying anymore, so I'm thinking about using a online dating site called True.com. Anyone here ever used this service? Btw are there older posters on this site or is this just for 20somethings and younger?

883 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-23 15:41 ID:aKsyxJDP

>>882
Naw there's older folks (well, at least one) here. I'm 29, never had a relationship before. Can't say I've used that site, all my money's going towards getting my master's degree anyhow, which leaves very little time to even meet people. Also sucks that I'm at a satellite campus so there's not even many girls around here to begin with. I do have a friend back home a few states over who I've got an interest in, doubt it's mutual though (is it ever?), but I can always hope.

884 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-23 19:58 ID:GI0rI1/R

>>882
Tell us your story, single lady!

885 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-24 03:20 ID:v+LMQ7Op

who the hell believes in relationships? Nothing but trouble, the Better is is, the harder you will fall. The worse it gets, the harder you will fall. See where i'm getting? Such hire a prostitute, saves you money and effort.

www.asianmassagec165.com

886 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-05 09:20 ID:8JhbrhyQ

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WHY DOES IT ALWAYS START LIKE THIS?!!!

887 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-06 08:33 ID:sIfQ2qco

>>886

From what I've gathered, maybe you have bad taste in men.

888 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-18 14:59 ID:kAAz0Fgk

>> 885

i agree with u :D,
why do you need to have the whole cow, when u can easily buy ready to drink milk in supermarket?
what is it that oblige human to date someone or even getting married?
why can we just enjoy our single life?
why why why??

889 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-20 07:35 ID:HMvGs3e0

No better place for a rant, I guess.

I'm 20 years old and have never been in a relationship. I'm apparently not ugly, but I'm so shy and socially retarded. But at the same time, I'm picky. Any guy who's expressed interest in me just doesn't appeal to me at all and I feel like I'd just be settling because I can't do better. At the same time, even if I do trick a guy I'd like into being with me, I feel like I'd just drive them away with my personality. I'm loud when I get to know people, lazy, short-tempered, and nerdy. I fear I'm going to be a crazy cat lady when I get old, spending my morning showers touching myself to video game pretty boys I'll never get. I feel like I deserve it. Dammit.

890 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-20 10:21 ID:N6Zw4Jtm

>>889
Sister you said my life's story.

Well, something like it at least.

891 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-20 11:26 ID:i9uQMxZZ

im 24 and i kissed a guy.. and i liked it..........
(dotdotdot)

892 Name: erumesuuu : 2008-10-25 13:16 ID:c/PodipU

>>891 and you're a guy as well?

densha!!!!

893 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-25 21:27 ID:CwqPhf6c

Basically, I'm single because I'm a self-loathing bastard. I like to act stoic and serious about things. So much so that I'm not much fun to be around. That, and I insist to almost every girl (and guy) I meet that I'm "not very sexual." I'm not asexual, but I fear my own sexuality. Maybe a tad bitter also, as I'm really short with people when I detect flirting.

My personal project is to break out of my shell, gain some enthusiasm, and go meet people. I have social finesse and good looks, but my bitter edge has really isolated and kept me single.

894 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-25 22:38 ID:AMP62Zgd

i've been in love with a girl for over 2 years...and i can't imagine myself with anyone other than her =/. Except I know that she'll never like me back.

895 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-05 13:57 ID:hPWEO4gO

>>894
now, that's sad. i feel your pain buddy

896 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 01:58 ID:l3B+iOxw

Soon to be not single, woo!

897 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 03:35 ID:kT3p+TCK

I confessed to hte guy I like recently, and just like me, he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. I'm just really hoping we'll stay in touch after I graduate and head off to college, 'cause when we are both ready, I definitely want to try being with him. I hope that he feels the same way when the time comes...
Say, he said that he "admired" me for being able to tell him how I felt. What do you think, guys? Do I have a right to be really excited by that?

898 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-09 15:14 ID:Ydf7iEzr

not sure, to me it sounds more like he doesn't want anything from you... maybe he's just being nice, you now ?

899 Name: Because Everything Ends and Begins anew : 2008-11-10 21:33 ID:Heaven

>>898 yeah, when you graduate and go to college , he will be busy screwing college girls and you will probably be drunk dancing on a table. That's a good thing, because all this "oh he is the one" bullshit keeps people from meeting others and moving on in life.

goodluck (and yes, forgot about him, goodluck in college!)

900 Name: Kung Fun Man : 2008-11-13 08:38 ID:2w3UAuod

Okay, lets tell a story that we've all heard before... I'm 19 and been girlfriendless since the day of my birth. Its just frustrating how whenever I try for a girl I'm so dimwitted that it always tends to fail. I'm your friendly neighborhood nice guy who is a little too introverted. I'm a little weird because unless I get that "love at first sight" feeling I'm generally not interested. Plus even if I'm not, I have trouble talking to attractive women. Sheesh I'm making myself feel lame here. Any ideas on how I can change myself?

901 Name: cornshit : 2008-12-07 14:39 ID:WDL4Z8nz

>>896
yo! congrats to you! how did you do it? enlighten us

902 Name: Otakun : 2008-12-07 14:47 ID:2w3UAuod

Race to 1000 anyone? Just no double posting lol

903 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-07 16:00 ID:Z1ciy0ra

I've been in love with a girl for some time now. She told me months ago that she didn't have any such feelings for me, but I still can't get over it. Same thing happened last time - it lasted until I got a new crush.

This time around I met a girl on a get-together last weekend, who I got a light crush on. No chance though - she lives 460 miles apart from me. What I discover afterwards when looking through pictures is that she has similar looks, and maybe a similar personality too.

It only reminds me of how much I want to be with the first girl. :'(

904 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-07 21:17 ID:DOgrEls1

>>903

I'm desperately in need of a new crush, 4 months after my crush broke up with me and my mind still wanders back to her, despite that she barely acknowledges my existence anymore.

905 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-07 23:51 ID:2jCfM5CQ

I'm single again, yay!

Now I just have to get through the next few months of being too broken to think about dating. Should be fun - looking back on it, the period of time when I was last single was WAY more fun that actually dating someone. Maybe next time I'll find someone my friends actually like.

906 Name: Otakun : 2008-12-08 04:34 ID:2w3UAuod

Working hard so you could be with someone is tough -_-. Ack, what am I doing I'm falling behind

907 Name: 903 : 2008-12-08 07:02 ID:Z1ciy0ra

I still get a warm and fuzzy feeling when I think about what we did together. She took my first kiss, and I think it was her first too. :3

I miss her. ;_;

908 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-08 22:50 ID:5UWcsl8x

Lately, every single person of the opposite sex that I'm smitten by ends up having a significant other.

It's...disheartening.

909 Name: Otakun : 2008-12-09 03:43 ID:2w3UAuod

Why is love so complicated!? >_<
Christmas is coming... To all the single guys/girls out there! good luck with this lonely part of the year!

910 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-09 04:09 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>909

I have a feeling it's gonna get worse once February rolls around.

And thanks for the luck. We need it.

911 Name: Otakun : 2008-12-09 04:35 ID:2w3UAuod

I dunno... valentines day is only one night, but Chrismas shopping is a few weeks of seeing couples buying presents lol

912 Name: WestCoast : 2008-12-09 09:49 ID:XrAP+UnY

It makes me look like an ass, but I don't do much XMas shopping to begin with, so it makes that few weeks breeze right by. The sight of red in February, however...

913 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-10 18:23 ID:HQKTLzgH

>>910
It's a known fact that for lonely people christmas is the worst part of the year. Sadly, it's not even a known fact, actually... it's a clinical statistic.

914 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-11 04:59 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>913

Yikes.

915 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-11 06:04 ID:HQKTLzgH

>>914
Yup. You said it.

Captcha: name of a friend of mine who stole a girl I loved a lot from me. Hopefully I'm an adept of irony.

916 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-14 07:10 ID:5UWcsl8x

A friend is trying to set me up. How often does that work, denizens of /love/?

917 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 04:42 ID:A41R5bgh

It works good if you're not passive about the thing but get invested in it. Friends are a good leverage.

918 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 04:56 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>917

Elaborate, please.

919 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 05:02 ID:Heaven

>>917 kick his ass?

920 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 16:07 ID:A41R5bgh

Wait, I might have misunderstood this one. What is your friend doing exactly?

921 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 22:28 ID:5UWcsl8x

She's trying to set me up with one of her friends. Not quite sure as to how that's gonna turn out, see.

922 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-15 22:33 ID:xGiDScS6

I am male 24 and she is 18. too young?

923 Name: Milo-Man : 2008-12-28 09:10 ID:1uH/uDqW

>>922

No freaking way too young!!!! She's fine :)
GO go go !!

924 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-28 16:13 ID:WDL4Z8nz

yep, be happy pal. don't look back

925 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-28 17:13 ID:A41R5bgh

>>921
Works if you make it work, then.

Merry Christmas and happy New Year, fellow lonely and broken hearts.

926 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-30 13:25 ID:A41R5bgh

So, how's it going for you people? I'm having a massive end-of-year blues. Not only because of the end-of-year itself, but also because it was in this period that things developped (only to be badly crushed a few weeks later) with my last romantic interest, which I'm still not really over. And I'm gonna spend the new year's eve with friends and she'll be there.

Oh well.

927 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-30 23:24 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>926
Shit, I don't even really have plans for the new years. Friends keep telling me of things they're doing, and I've yet to receive an invite. Ah well.

My love life was pretty unfulfilling this year. Hopefully 2009 will be somewhat better.

928 Name: Cloudnyne : 2008-12-31 11:53 ID:cbjf+Eir

End of the year isn't really going to well for me either.
The guy I've been semi-dating for the last few months gave
me a christmass present, so i was really happy, but a few
days later he told me that he just doesn't love me as a
girfriend. With this being the fourth time he rejected me
I've finally given up. It still hurts like hell though.

929 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-01 16:59 ID:XrTZcW09

I found out my childhood friend developed such nerdy hobbies that it's adorable and I am afraid that if I might go and eat ramen with her I'll fall for her!!

930 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-02 08:17 ID:8L/OXKbD

so.. 08 ended.. single since six months now and not getting better..
well, there is a girl i like atm, but she's in a relationship since one year, so this isn't getting anywhere..

931 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-02 11:58 ID:EbArnvtr

>>929 Sounds awesome. If any of my childhood friends turned into anything but bitches, I would be going back to the country to see if they're still available.

932 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-02 16:37 ID:Wji9/Lrs

my 2008 was really bad... the girl that i was in love with picked my best friend over me.and on top of that shes totally ignoring me. hopefully 2009 will be better.

933 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-02 20:16 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>929 , What's so wrong about that? Sounds like a good thing, really. All my childhood friends are scattered off in various places around the world.

934 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 07:12 ID:5UWcsl8x

I've been using a facade of high standards and a broken heart to hide my debilitating shyness around the opposite sex in matters of "love". In actuality, I tend to fall for every woman that gets close to me.

Help?

935 Name: Kei90 : 2009-01-04 08:44 ID:aZ6lnZ7U

Hueee! Just watch Densha Otoko and now I find the same thread. Lol, maybe there IS a Desha Otoko here? Secret Admire-san, are you Densha? : )

934, are you a ladykiller or what? Falling in love to every woman?! Maybe it's just your imagination, or your needs of love too much. Maybe... I'm not psychiatrist. : P

936 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 09:37 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>935 I'm thinking more of the third mixed with the second. I'm not a ladykiller, that's for sure.

How are the lonely hearts these first days of 2009, hm?

937 Name: Kei90 : 2009-01-04 14:14 ID:aZ6lnZ7U

Hmm... maybe not XD
All hail singles! : P

938 Name: 映画男 : 2009-01-07 15:27 ID:3aGwFQFp

sigh sigh sigh

i have totally given up my love life, it never works and i dont think it ever will =[ im 4ever in this thread

939 Name: otakuisback : 2009-01-07 15:41 ID:0CI9BvB9

>>938
well maybe u should look around
there maybe someone 4 u...

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940 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-08 15:14 ID:twKCGYMK

>>938
I think most of the users in this thread ever had such thoughts. maybe some of us still have and maybe some know better meanwhile..
I know it sounds dumb but it happens mostly if you expect it at least ;)

941 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-08 17:00 ID:VjK69XuX

I've decided to stop pursuing relationships at this point in my life, because I'm too busy and it's too much hassle. Fooling around with platonic friends is soooo much better.

942 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-10 05:15 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>941

Hm. Fooling around?

943 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-10 17:47 ID:i9RyFwSy

>>942 he means friendzoned, probably a masochist

944 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-11 11:26 ID:HILO/Xgx

I've never really had a real relationship (there was one, but it was more of a platonic, experimental thing than anything) and, though I'm not terribly desperate, it frustrates me to NO end to see happy couples holding hands, etc...
I don't really know how to talk to people...T_T I always end up saying the wrong thing (I'm among friends, right? haha). The only people who have shown any interest in me whatsoever are guys I've met on the Internet, which is really frustrating.
I'm to shy to initiate anything IRL...or maybe my standards are just too high...OTL

945 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-12 02:19 ID:5UWcsl8x

>>944

Oh, how I can commiserate. It stings even more when you see your friends, or people that you know, doing all of that mushy stuff.

I've found that talking to people is a delicate balance of whatever comes to your head first with yourself making sure that whatever you're saying isn't stupid. It's harder than it looks, oftentimes I dwell on what I want to say and end up being silent.

946 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-12 03:11 ID:HILO/Xgx

>>945
Forsooth. :[ That's especially true when your friends in relationships used to be just as lonely and socially awkward as you are now...or when the person you used to date goes on to date others while you stay single and lonely. QQ

Yeah...I've tried to do that and always end up failing. I'm so afraid of saying something stupid that I end up being boring and quiet.

947 Name: Library Girl : 2009-01-12 08:15 ID:4lqGvRa3

I'm mostly okay with being single at the moment, but the lack of sex is killing me.

And the lack of any physical contact at all is even worse. I want someone to cuddle with so badly. Sex would be nice too.

948 Name: jenny55972002 : 2009-01-12 08:41 ID:VPbxkG0y

I miss the cuddling and long conversations, right now i'm looking for someone, cause I'm young and I don't need to be down life is there, to guide us to a new chapter in our lives

949 Name: Yoshiya : 2009-01-13 01:12 ID:EkDp32/5

That's how I am right now too.

I don't honestly mind being single too terribly much, but I miss having physical contact.

I had a movie night with a female friend of mine about a week ago, and the whole time I was thinking about how much I wished we were cuddling....

950 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-14 04:47 ID:5UWcsl8x

Blergh, I might have complained about this before on this thread, but damn does it sting when they end up being taken.

951 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-26 18:06 ID:lTH3tjIh

when you need someone the most. they are never there to help...

952 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-12 13:29 ID:A41R5bgh

V-Day approaching! Every single to the shelters! Love-love couples sighted everywhere!

953 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-12 14:43 ID:U4ffCtQu

>>952
uggh singles awareness day,
the most unsavory time of year for me.
and wouldn't you know it its on a saturday too!
I guess I'll spend half the day sleeping in and the other half playing video games with friends.

954 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-12 14:44 ID:mxug6+VR

thankfully I'll be drunk on 13th and spend next day sleeping

955 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-12 19:26 ID:XrTZcW09

Man, I was buying chocolate for this girl, right?

I just couldn't choose! I ended up taking just plain milk chocolate only because it had a cute cat and a tiny hearts on it!

956 Name: bumm-er : 2009-03-29 15:58 ID:WDL4Z8nz

oh man what a pain.. aren't i gonna get hitched?

957 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-30 03:23 ID:IlU1zFx5

>>955 awww ;3 cute

958 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-12 02:11 ID:qkWLvHXg

21 yo female, never been kissed let alone had a boyfriend.
I've been asked out several times but I'm either not attracted to them, or I don't feel like they like me for who I am. I think this is mainly owing to the fact that I look about 13-14. I get along with guys a lot better than girls, but I get friend zoned because of how young I look I think.

959 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-12 08:08 ID:3+x1o25r

>>958

I feel your pain. 23 year old male, but I look like I still belong in high school. Makes it hard with the opposite sex.

960 Name: chewbacca : 2009-04-12 16:11 ID:WDL4Z8nz

awfully out of luck aren't we?

961 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-12 19:49 ID:qkWLvHXg

>>959
We should hook up.

962 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-13 03:12 ID:3+x1o25r

>>961

haha, I'm not against internet hookups, but anonymous posting makes it difficult to do this.

963 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-13 03:25 ID:2w3UAuod

Looking young isn't necessarily a bad thing ^o^

964 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-13 04:11 ID:3+x1o25r

Hey, it's Otakun! How did it work out with that girl?

965 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 14:55 ID:pvX2od6P

Three times in a row now, the only girls who have shown any interest in me (albeit online) have abandoned me before the date we were meant to meet up. I'm developing a horrible abandonment complex as a result.

I'm not ugly, I'm not socially incapable, I'm friendly, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I wish someone kind would offer some body warmth to me for once in my life. ;_;

966 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-15 22:27 ID:2w3UAuod

I guess things are on a big freeze due to the circumstances. I'm not too horribly heartbroken though.

967 Name: D : 2009-04-16 07:17 ID:If6wJmB5

haaaaaaaaaaaah.....im bored.... and dont have any friends to go out with.... and im bored of surfing in the net..... im bored of my life...... im bored of my loneliness......im bored of not having gf.......... im bored of my exsistence......im bored because im bored......im so bored i dont know what to write..... haaaaaaaaaaaaah.....in other words, im bored....

968 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-16 16:58 ID:wjbyBjCS

I have yet to have a relationship with a woman. I don't know how to make you people know what I'm feeling but I trust that you don't need my words to bring that feeling out in you since I'm sure you're victim to it yourselves.

I want someone to be close to. I want to have someone to hug and tell her that I love her. I want to have someone I can talk to hear something interesting or funny that... I don't even know. I just want someone there. I want to be there for someone. Just to be close, to have basic human contact. To care for someone and to be cared for.

Now, it's just this feeling of being unfulfilled. I am so freaking frustrated and impatient! I know that I'm not going to find someone in undergrad but I have another fucking year to go! I'm just so lonely. I feel like there's a part of me that isn't there and I'm searching and waiting and nothing seems to fill that hole. I feel like I've missed out by not having even a little bit of this contact. Why is it so lonely?!

Well, that was therapeutic though ultimately pointless since it won't help me find anyone any faster. It does make me feel better to know I'm not alone though.

969 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-17 04:18 ID:2w3UAuod

If you want something you gotta work for it. Like all things in life all good things must be earned. Its not that the fates have cursed you to be single, but you cursed yourself of being single if you don't do anything at all.

Right now I may be avoiding relationships due to my hectic schedule, but in summer I'm going all out. We all got to surpass the you of yesterdays through sheer effort! Get out there and find yourself a girlfriend! GO!

970 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-17 19:17 ID:U7v2zY1q

To all the guys that feel like they can't live without a gf, or in general are miserable and consumed by lonliness, let me start off by saying I've been there and I know the pain.

But the most important thing to understand is that you need to be happy before someone else can make you happy. It is, in my experience, very unhealthy to depend upon someone else to make you happy. How can you love someone if you don't love yourself? You need to think about what is good in life and have the confidence to appreciate it. And trust me, confidence breeds appreciation from others.

My bottomline: you can't possibly make a relationship work if you are moping about your singleness. If you do manage to find a girl, this will lead to your happiness dependant upon someone else. And if it doesn't work out, that dependancy will destroy you.

971 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-17 21:10 ID:OvSV4HE0

>>970

I understand that. I'm hoping by the time I get better, I'm not completely behind in the dating race though... I'm 18 now and just starting to intend to learn to go out, socialise, etc, so I might feel very intimidated approaching dating late in the game. |:

972 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-18 02:07 ID:SJSshE0b

>>970

I've been trying for over a decade to get to the point where I can love myself. Nothing works. Just when I think I might be moving upwards and out of this pit, the wall gives way and I end up even farther down than I was before.

I suppose this means I'm doomed to a life of isolation.

973 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-18 08:41 ID:2w3UAuod

Like I said, you doom yourself if you don't keep trying. Whats the point in life if you don't take any risks or keep clawing through the hard times? The only one who can pull themselves out of the pit is you, stop quitting on yourself and give yourself a chance

974 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-20 23:53 ID:0H1BFPlE

I no longer see the point in trying. Women take up too much time and money and for what? The occasional use of their vagina? If that's what it's going to take, I'm just fine with my hand, thanks. And the chances are incredibly high that I'm not going to be the only one using said vagina anyway. Women cannot be trusted.

I'm done giving in to societal pressure to date them. I'm finished with relationships, at least until something perfect comes along, which I know will never happen. It is a pointless never-ending game where you both push your ideals on the other, never actually changing anything. It just costs time and money. And it will hurt you in the end. Not worth it. I cannot trust women again. Or at least I can't trust the things that attempt to pass themselves off as women these days.

So go prance around in slutty clothes and sleep with strangers you meet in bars. Just don't come crying to me when you're 40 and need a "nice guy" to look after your bastard children. Goodbye relationships.

975 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-21 02:02 ID:2w3UAuod

My oh my someone has fallen to the dark side of love >_>

Lets have more hope shall we?

976 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-21 02:19 ID:zssox16Z

>>975

Well said. My prospects may be poor but I'll be damned if i give up yet

I'm still holding out that the right one is out there.

If I have not found some one yet it is only because fate has seen fit to spare me the pain of pointless relationships destined to ether fail or trap me in an emotional hell. I'll just have to keep waiting and looking until I find a women to kick the worlds ass with.

977 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-23 04:39 ID:2w3UAuod

I'll keep this short and simple: Nobody controls your destiny but you. Create your own fate with your own two hands.

978 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-23 11:37 ID:A41R5bgh

>>977
I only partially agree with you, Otakun. You might be one of the greatest instruments in forging your destiny, you're still chained to your surroundings and to luck. You're only a small, small piece in a vast machinery - don't think you're free to do whatever. Think chaos theory.

Now that doesn't mean you can just let yourself go by the flow; but you are not that free either.

979 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-23 23:32 ID:kq23CDRM

>>978

You are as free as you allow yourself to be.

If you're a lazy person, of course you won't achieve much freedom.

980 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-24 02:10 ID:0H1BFPlE

Freedom is a pipe dream.

981 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-25 01:56 ID:6GaqQnTi

I've always believed that fate and your own actions are entwined.
Though I despise people who blame their troubles on destiny and resign themselves to it.

982 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-25 07:19 ID:A41R5bgh

It's not a question of "destiny" like "it's been written in the stars, it HAD to happen", etc. But sometimes you just have to accept fatality and the fact that you're shit out of luck. Otherwise, you'll end up blaming every single mishap on yourself and it's quickly going to be unbearable. Trust me, I've been there.

Don't resign and wimp out, but don't be too hard on yourselves either. You can't control everything.

983 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-26 06:40 ID:adpc0aEf

Honestly it is a numbers game. Some hit the jack pot while others are left out in the cold. But the fact is you have to keep playing before you can hit a home run. And even if you find a girl then it does not mean you will be with her forever. Think about it this way, lets say 1/10 girls you ask out will say yes. And 1/5 of those girls you will get a second date with. And 1/3 of those girls you will date long enough to have a relationship with. And 1 out of the 2 girls you have relationship with will be with you forever. So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.

984 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-26 19:03 ID:SJSshE0b

>>983

>> So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.

Actually, that sounds like a really good argument for saying, "fuck it, this is hopeless; I'm gonna drink myself to death."

I'm not looking for sex, I just want a loving, stable relationship with someone who cares that I exist. Apparently that's asking a lot.

985 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-26 21:49 ID:L5vF6bXs

>>984

That's asking a lot of from a person that doesn't know you. Think from the other's perspective, too.

986 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-27 01:39 ID:SJSshE0b

>>985

So what can I expect out of dating, then, if a stable relationship is out of the question?

987 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-27 02:18 ID:A41R5bgh

>>984
Actually, I understood his point as a "keep trying" - statistically, one out of 300 is low but still possible.

988 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-27 16:18 ID:SJSshE0b

>>987

And 1 in 300, to me, sounds like "impossible."

After all, you could try 300 times and still not succeed. And even asking a girl out once is hard enough as it is.

989 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-27 20:12 ID:2w3UAuod

Enough with the speculating on how low the odds are! Just get out and mingle already! Meeting people is the first step to dating!

990 Post deleted.

991 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-28 13:48 ID:0PCVgaFB

first of all - too much thinking guys (gals possibly?)... if you want to find someone, it's just about trying and not giving up... just like Otakun said - get out and search... what I'm recently finding out is that too much thinking about these love matters will just fuck you up but when you just try, it's worth it and it gets you somewhere...

also... let's say that 1 of 300 girls is the one... considering size of earth, the chances of meeting that girl sure are very low because she could also be from other state... other side of planet probably? but still, if you look around, how many happy couples can you see? couples that are together for the length of their lives (ask them if they were together from the beginning or if they needed to go through 300 other people and you'll hear myriads of different answers)...

skipping to my theory - I don't believe that there is something like ,,true love" (or the ,,one")... you just fit with the girl in a romantic way more or less... sometimes you find out after long time that you fit less or sometimes after that long time you find your friend suddenly attractive... and there's plenty of girls with plenty of possibilities also affected with plenty of things because people can change, can suddenly open their eyes, can get run over by train, can get molested by drunk man in a train and be saved by you etc. etc. ... but outcome in a form of relationship is the same, either it's happy or not - in that case you can collect experience, memories and just move on to next person... or you can just die as a lone coward

992 Name: 映画男 : 2009-04-28 17:22 ID:mEflN62v

after going through some experiences, i realized you cant go "search" for it, you have to let it come to you naturally, the more you search for it the more it runs away, you just have to let it come to you =]

993 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 00:37 ID:vGrA4NoP

>>992

That still requires you to leave your basement, so hop to it!

994 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 01:05 ID:0H1BFPlE

>>991

>how many happy couples can you see?

None at all. I see some deluded lovestruck couples in the honeymoon phase of their relationship who will get bored soon enough, I see people cheating on each other, I see married couples who hate each other but stay together for their children and I see people who only stay together because they're scared that they can't do anything else.

It's nice to daydream about things like love and friendship, but when it comes down to it, those things are impermanent and nothing but temporary illusions that will hurt you in the end.

It won't come to you naturally. It won't come to you if you look. You'll get into pointless relationships over and over looking for something that only exists in fairytales. And then you'll get old and you'll just settle for whatever comes you're way because that's what society expects of you. Lasting happiness cannot be found in relationships.

995 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 03:08 ID:zssox16Z

>>994

You sound like someone who was just rejected or who has been rejected a lot.

996 Name: Otakun : 2009-04-29 06:30 ID:TvYqjzUv

Wow getting to close to 1000

http://personals.aol.com/articles/2009/04/16/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/

Read it and get out there

997 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 14:57 ID:qymPsf2G

>>994
well, if that's true, I'd enjoy those short moments of happiness rather than sit on my ass and do nothing...

998 Name: 映画男 : 2009-04-29 15:52 ID:/mjq+i3a

oh god, i was there when they first started the single rant thread, and here we are to the 3rd one!! 998

999 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 16:32 ID:qymPsf2G

hell, never thought that I could have the 999 post... so... I wish luck to all of you to not be single anymore...

1000 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-29 16:52 ID:A41R5bgh

AAAaaaaand 1000GET!
BUT RANT IS NOT OVER, MY FRIENDS!

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