Usually I just post things up but now I'm going to have put up a thread. I'm an asian nerd who has a penpal from China and we have been chatting on MSN for 2 months now and I find her very interesting! Problem is after those 2 months I have run out of things to say!! I need help! What should I talk about with her?
Well, what have you already spoken to her about? I would not like to suggest things that you have already done.
School and our personal lives.That's what kept us talking for 2 months. Now that were both in school it's hard to balnce homework and chores and still have time to MSN. I don't know anything else to talk about that can keep us talking. Probably cause my life is like a repeat of the day before. Nothing really happens. Samething goes with her. But she goes to school sunday night and comes back on fridays.
I feel you. It's something that plagues many of us geeks/otaku. Are you two interested in similar things, maybe have similar hobbies?
Well.......we both love to read books. But I'm into manga and comics while she's into romantic and Harry potter books. We both love to swim, we like listening to music, and were both anime freaks. She loves Prince of Tennis as do I to Love Hina.
Talk about your favorite animes then. Maybe try suggesting to her some animes she might like. Are you a fan of Densha Otoko? If so maybe try introducing it to her (if she doesn't already know). She into romance so maybe she'd like it.
I tried that already but it ended up becoming another subject. Should I bring back our short conversation of Densha Otoko?
I know how you feel. Some people you have this instant connection with and you can just talk non stop about random stuff. But others you have to try and think of a mutual interesting topic. In those situations I can't be bothered forcing a friendship.
I agree with >>8. It's sometimes true.
>>We both love to swim...and were both anime freaks
There you go. That's two things you can talk about, and I'm sure you'll find other stuff that leads from there.
I hope so....
Well, can always talk about things you would like to do outside of normal routine.
Even if we give you something to talk about, it'll only last you a few more days maybe.
BUt on the whole, I agree with >>8 as well. I'd just leave it. Remember that talking nonstop everyday is not a requirement for friendship or relationships.
Well I sent her my answer of what I like to do outside! Thing is, I put down something's that made me sound gay, like I love beautiful scenaries and would love to see animals living at peace." was that okay? Cause that's the truth! and I'm not gay. I'm just one of those very sensitive guys. But I hide it.
>>13 lol, we call those hopeless romantics.
That is something I would expect to see in personals. I am quite sure she won't think you are gay because it is obvious you are trying to impress her.
>>13
Of course we have to hide it, or we'll have our asses beat in this macho world we live in. The only thing it's OK for guys to talk about amongst fellow guys is sports, bodily functions, sex, and the T&A on that hot chick over there.
Unless you plan to get married to her, and move to China, stop building a crush on someone you do not want to be attracted to. I don't want to stretch this post, but I hope you get my point.
I just want to have a friend I could talk to about anything without being made fun of or became the most watched over the group. Over my group of friends I'm the guy who does the stupidest anctic's, I'm the guy bringing all the laughter and what not....Do you think they'll take me seriously? Well, either way it's the reason why I got a penpal.
Of course they will take you seriously. No one wants the laughing stock of the group to leave. Be serious with them and try working on the relationships you already have. Share some of your problems with them (do get ready to be laughed at and be strong). If you take them seriously, they will take you seriously. Take everything in with a lighthearted attitude. Attitude is everything. Socializing is done through real life, not through MSN (I've stopped using MSN myself a few years ago). Messenger should be used strictly at work or for emergencies. Phone is acceptable.
After you've solved your relationship problems with your circle of people, get yourself a date.
If those friends just see you as a clown, fuck them, they're not worth your time and effort.
What kind of a friend do you feel conscious talking to?
Someone that I dont know. I know it sounds stupid, but when I talk to a friend I rarely know, it feels good. It helps them cause they get to know the real me and it helps me cause they can cheer me up with their kind words.
Umm....Hey guys. Recently I just talked to an old friend which I flirted with but rejected me. We had a long conversatio about many great things. We were enjoying just talking......it was.....Amazing. Thing was, at the end of the conversation she sent me <3 as her last comment. Does it mean anything?
>>23
lol you remind me so much of me when i was younger. being all, omg?! she said <3! and stuff!? wahts it mean?! i remember some girl said, "luv ya bye", one time and i thought it was like, lol wats all this eh? it doesnt mean anything, dont think anything of it, its just how some girls talk, but still, ey, lol if shes nice and cute, well, eh, keep talkin
About 2 years ago. She's changed a lot. She says she's no longer looking for looks but personality. And yes she's really cute. Evertime I said something about myself or something really true, she'd say"awww" or "that's cute". And she would occasionally laugh without saying why.
About 2 years ago. She's changed a lot. She says she's no longer looking for looks but personality. And yes she's really cute. Evertime I said something about myself or something really true, she'd say"awww" or "that's cute". And she would occasionally laugh without saying why.
you got friend zoned up the ass
Really?
duh
It's your chance to take her out on a date and show her your manly side. I mean it. Refer to my other posts on how to date.
Wait a sec, is she nearby? Read my other post on how women communicate and what they mean when they say those things. I've covered that already.
Um.....we live far, but not too far. She lives in a very rich area!! And um....I don't know where she lives exactly. And I'm not one to ask for a date. It's never happened to me before.
Do read other of my posts to get an idea of what to do on a date. I recommend you ask her if she would like to go for a walk, and show up at her house (of course you'll ask her address). Walk, get some coffee. Maybe even set to meet somewhere you'd like to hang out with her, or somewhere related to what you are skilled or like doing (tennis court to play tennis, arcade to play games, etc.).
>>35
I'm the informative, effective, and sensible samaritan that empathizes with all of you good people.
>>35
I hope you're not flirting with Mireille?
man TokyoJapan22, i feel like i'm reading my own story!! Mirelle guy gives the best advice on dates! i beleive you know my story with long distance so i will say this, its very HARD to have a long distance relationship because it doesn't last very long usualy. plus you dont want to be me waiting for one little reply for 4 months!! theres heaps of girls outside there waiting for you!! we're in the age where oportunties are filled up!!
btw if your going out on the date, dont get too nervouse and act normal! try talk alot like intrest, schools ect! do what >>34 says! it will work!~ GOOD LUCK and all the BEST!!
Like I said before, it's hard to ask for a date! It's even harder to flirt! Just thinking of what to do is hard. All I can do is stare thinking how I can talk to her. And when she stares at you it makes you think "oh Shit".
>"oh shit"
as in, "Oh shit, she's hot"? :D Yeah, I know what you mean.
Women flirt, men date. Witty/smart/honest compliments that do not have any indirect criticisms in them is a good way to talk to any girl.
Don't think. Just do.
Wrong. Think first, creatively (Wash). Practice your thoughts (Rinse). Then do (Repeat).
Just do = failure again and again.
Practice loudly, physically, and even in front of a mirror.
>>40
No not as in "she's hot" but as in Oh Shit she saw me, what do I do now.
Okay! I'll practice on it!
Hey people. Today at McDonald's some girl came up to me and asked me for my number. She looked like one of those people who are what's the world.......umm sort of like a skank....I dont know. Anyways when she wanted my number my friends gave her a fake one. Once it was shown I all of a sudden just screamed it's not a real number! So yeah....Do you think she actually wanted to get to know me? Or do you think she was just playing around?
Did you give her your real number?
no.
would you want to get with a skank?
I wouldn't.