Any idea?
Obsession is a state of trance you hypnotize yourself into, also known as crush.
Love is a deliberate act of self-sacrifice, also known to man as "why the heck did I marry".
I could give you a 2 page dissertation but I wanted to keep it short since I've been replying a lot of the same answers over and over.
Love: 1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b : an assurance of love
Obsession: 1 : a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly : compelling motivation
I believe the definition from the dictionary is good, but not as well understood as mine. ;-P Love is controllable, deliberate, and involves self-sacrifice. The Book of Philippians (Holy Bible) has a good definition of love as well.
>>1 Try to read around the board (click on all threads) to get a feel of what people ask, and find answers for questions you may have but haven't asked yet.
And better yet, find a question that's interesting, tabooed, and haven't been answered by me yet. That way I can get a little amused and answer with informative and constructive replies. (Incest, sex during childhood and impotence are a few that have been covered already.) I'm interested in anything from Anal to Zoophilia.
lol, I dunno what zoophilia is but I think obsession is more superficial. Haha. I like to use this question:
If you get a call from GirlA at 3am asking you to pick her up 'cause she's stuck without a ride in a city 12 hours (driving) away. Would you pick her up?
(Then again, actually, that may not apply on 4-chan so much, with what all the long distance relationships and whatnot, so I guess ask yourself if you'd take a bullet for her, hahA)
Good insight.
>>5 Of course I'd pick her up at 3am and take a bullet for her.
But does that really make it love? Wouldn't an obsessed person do the same thing? I don't think obsession has to be superficial.
>>Love is controllable, deliberate and involves self-sacrifice.
I like this. Definitely distinguishes it from obsession. But I don't think love is deliberate. It's something that happens, not something that's planned and calculated.
That's where you're wrong. It's always deliberate. When you develop a crush, you choose to enter that state of trance, as much as you could choose not to. (See my post in how to destroy crushes.) You know, attraction happens always, but love doesn't. I've experienced "love at first sight", and let me share that it's amazing dating someone for whom you have falled for at first sight. But dating her and going out with her is something I CHOSE to do. Wooing her and seducing her is something I CHOSE to do. Love begins when you deliberately put her above yourself and sacrifice time, effort and tears for her. Obsession on the other hand is not controllable but rather, you are controlled by it.
I agree with Mireille guy, love is always deliberate and it is controllable. :) The best definition though is: it is self-defined, it depends on how one defines it themselves, it molds on what and how your perspectives are.
>>9
I somewhat agree with the second part of your post (you troll!) but not the part about agreing with Mireille. Some people might not even consider attempting to control a crush (or might not be able to), so unless they come up with that idea, they wouldn't have any control over it.
>>5
Eh, I would probably take a bullet for anyone that I didn't really hate... well no, probably anyone. I have friends and acquaintances (both from online and real life) that I would bpick up at 3 am. Doesen't mean I'm in love with them, maybe I just have nothing better to do.
Actually, I don't think it can be self-defined. Love can alter your mind, and if you're obsessing over something you're most likely not in the best sate of mind to see that you are.
I think the difference would be best decided by other people, on a case by case basis.
You truth distorters! ;D
I have some experience, but I don't claim to have the truth so I respect your valid opinion.
And I taught you how to destroy a crush for what?! :P
With Obsession, you'll find that its hard to deny your feelings for the person you're obsessed with. You will tell yourself "of course i love her/him" and you won't consider that you might not.
With Love, you can deny that you love her/him, but then wait a little bit, interact with that person again, and you'll find out that you really do love them very much and your denial was a false assumption.
It's kind of like a proof by negation :)
lol SA strikes again.