I thought we could attempt to educate either sex with FIRST HAND accounts of our habits and behaviour for better or worse.
Anyway here's something girls probably don't know. When driving boys care about what other road-users think of their driving. They do this because they notice bad driving in others. Excessive riding of brakes, wide turns, inconsistent speed, obviously poor general awareness etc. A big one for me is roundabouts. I asses the driving skill of the person in front of me at every roundabout. For example anyone who is still on the brakes while turning through a roundabout sucks. Brakes on approach while travelling straight ahead, lift off brakes, turn, accelerate out of roundabout. That's how good drivers do it. That's how I do it and that's how anyone who is behind me will see me do it.
These are the things boys think about privately. Any female insights into female behaviour appreciated.
I thought this information exchange might facilitate a greater understanding between the sexes. If not we might at least get a laugh out of it.
READY SET STEREOTYPES THREAD GO
Isn't this more like a "What Are Your Personal Annoyances" thread? If this were true there would be no bad male drivers, and boy...that ain't true.
The only bad male drivers are asians.
women are sometimes scared to ask for things from their partner, infact i blame a lot of peoples failed relationships on this. women dont ask, they expect. And asking defeats the purpose.
like, for (a rough) example, a cuddle after a shag, girls dont want to have to ask their partner for that becuase if they do, and they start getting it, its never going to be the same as if their partner just always did it, it makes it seem like a duty rather than an affectionate gesture. Sometimes, relationships fall apart because girls wont ask, and guys dont know whats wrong becuase of that.
Also, some girls like to play the diva. I'll tell ya a funny story that I won't forget.
I went with a girl by train to some office where she wants to exhibit the photos she made. Well, she asked them, and we start to head to the train station back. Everything seems normal and we're talking, then, when we're maybe 10-15 meters away from the station, I see the train arriving, so I start to walk faster and urge her to do the same. She bitches about her shoes, how uncomfortable they are and that she can't run. Now look here, unless you have a gaping flesh wound on your foot or your foot is fucking broken, there is no excuse to walk a bit faster just 10 damn meters to reach the train. So I walk forward a bit, she tells me that I should just take the train, I say, like most normal people would expect "No, we're gonna make it, just walk a bit faster, dammit". I just into the train and hold the doors open for her, expecting her to arrive any second and to hop in. Around 10 painfull seconds pass, with the doors signaling that it wants to close and she only then arrives.
Oh this is good. She's standing 2 meters away from the train and says "Oh I won't make it, just leave without me". Hell no way I'm leaving without you, I got manners, and you're standing goddamn 2 meters from the train away! 2 meters! These are 4 steps! And she's standing there and I'm hating her more with every passing second, then I just out of the train because I held it up long enough already. She gets pissed at me, says "why didn't you just leave?" and leaves. She leaves me standing alone on the train station while I don't fucking understand what's wrong with her.
The moral of the story is this: tell us guys what the hell you want!
>>5 hit it on the nail. I'll just give another example. Haha.
GirlA wants BoyfriendB to call. But she doesn't tell him that. She just waits for him to call. And he doesn't know she wants him to call, so he doesn't. And then GirlA gets depressed, thinking BoyfriendB doesn't care and doesn't want to call her.
Many relationships fall apart because of this.
>>6
I liked the thought interjections. You sound like Kyon.
Girls are just too hard to understand. If you try to read too much into stuff, then you're being presumptuous, and if you don't read anything/enough, then you're just stupid.
>>9
No, it's IMPOSSIBLE to understand girls.
They just never tell you what they really want. Always talking in some encoded language. And if you don't do what they expect they'd get pissed.
Hell, just TELL us what you wand. We are guys anyway, we can't figure out your hidden meanings. Just tell us straight what you want, damnit!
Anyway, most girls just cannot appreciate what a guy does to please them. Here's a good story:
My friend had been dating this girl and she was telling him all the time how much she wants a romantic evening with candle-light dinner.
So my friend had managed to send his family away, cooked dinner for her and set up everything for a romance-filled night. He was expecting to spend the night with the girl after eating dinner.
Then she had arrived tired and she was constantly whining that nobody understands her. She didn't give a damn about the efforts my friend had made for her.
She then called some friend of her and they went out drinking.
Then my buddy was left there alone in the empty house and just couldn't understand her.
I guess we are hard to understand. Part of us girls want to have a guy who knows what we want/are thinking, yet the other part is too obnoxious to have our minds read. I think the trick for guys is to approach a girl with confidence in his actions, yet "Never assume you know what a girl is thinking."
One question: Do guys really think about sex most of the time?
>>12
It's not that we are constantly thinking about it, it's more like quick and short flashes of thoughts. One can probably go long periods of time without even thinking about sex, but then at some time you'll be thinking "...and yeah, actually the way the teacher acts is really immature, she'll SEX AH SEX like constantly nagging on this one girl..."
It's not that we think about it all the time, it's just that we can not not think about it
>>12
I'm a guy. I think about computers and Japanese most of the time. Sex isn't something I think about often.
>>12
I'm a guy and I don't think about sex all the time. Well sometimes I fantasisie about such situations but not always.
And I think love is much more important than sex.
Anyway... maybe that's why I'm still a virgin
>>15
seconded, me too
I think about sex rarely, sometimes never. I'm a 31 year old virgin and TERRIFIED of sex. I'll die a virgin. But then again I'm not your normal kinda guy.
For me? I pick my nose when nobody's around. I'll be SOOOOO self conscious that I can't even think doing it when someone's in a room with me but as soon as I'm away from people, up the finger goes. Damn, I suck.
>>17 You have a problem. Just wanted to let you kno... It sounds as if you were homosexual. Maybe you mean you're terrified when relationships are potentially sexual?
This is actually quite a decent thread (that is not a repeated topic). So I guess I should contribute to keep it alive..
The back of a guy is an underrated asset. Girls find backs attractive because for some reason it looks real dependable.
Often girls don't notice it until a fellow girl points it out, but after that I can almost guarantee that the girl sitting behind you in class is subconciously checking out your back.
Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina.
Back to basics. Fear of sex means that the person views sex negatively, often caused by childhood problems/experiences, or troublesome relationships with the opposite sex.
Would you like to share some more, >>17?
> I'm away from people, up the finger goes
What exactly does that mean?
I must say it shits me sometimes when a girl traps you in a lose-lose situation. Key example:
"You never buy me flowers. Why don't you buy me flowers? Why don't you surprise me?"
(a week or two later, surprising the girl) "You're only surprising me because I told you to."
My other favourite one is when girl is annoyed about A, so starts attacking you about B, when all she really wants is for you to cut her argument off at the pass and for you to say "What you're really angry about is A, isn't it?", at which point all animosity melts away and you've dissolved the conflict. WTF? That one still catches me out.
Troublesome relationships I suppose, several broken hearts. I won't go into details cause it's all lame emo crap I guess.
I discussed some things with my brother a few years ago and found out that he was molested by his scout master (who quit just prior to my joining the boy scouts). And I don't think I'm harboring any repressed abuse memories. I'm not gay even slightly, my friends can vouch for that pretty easy and I can say honestly I REALLY prefer women. I'm simply terrified of sex.
I'm not a bad looking guy (according to most girls I know) and I have many female friends, there's times I've counted more female friends then male ones, I get along with them pretty great. I had a girl come over to my place once and ask for sex, I turned her down and asked her to leave, she never came back and I thought that was best. I had a girlfriend ask if I wanted to sleep with her and I explained my reasons why I wouldn't and explained that should we marry our wedding night would be filled with a lot of playing cards. She eventually broke up with me but not for that reason, mostly to go to a college 1,000 miles away.
This doesn't mean I don't have sexual drive, I'm human like the rest of us. It's just I'm unable to even imagine actually going all the way with someone. I figure I'll die happily a virgin and don't honestly feel any loss.
Lol, my roommate read this over my shoulder while I was writing and says: You've had some VERY weird relationships and this was only while I known you. (my last was a girl that attempted suicide the day after I confessed to her). So perhaps, I dunno, that's got a lot to do with things.
>>27
where does your sex drive go if you're not wanting to have sex with women (or men for that matter)? masturbation? fantasies? (what do you fantasize about?)
it'd be different if you didn't have sex drive - plenty of people have low or even virtually (or truly) non-existent sex drives. but if you have a sex drive and don't want to have sex with people, there must definitely be an underlying psychosocial problem. you may actually be able to solve/suppress that problem. i'd say to seek professional help as they'll know how to help you best.
you may not feel any loss, but any potential relationship partner you get involved with may very well feel that something is missing or worse yet, that something is wrong with them. that sort of stuff doesn't really lend itself to a healthy partnership.
of course, if you can manage to find yourself a true asexual (i think they're rare though, statistically speaking), then you're in the clear.
Women are too embarrassed about their bodily functions. It's easy for them to see when we're horny, and we'd probably just say it anyway - yet they can't admit it!
We love sex, but hate sucking your dick.
Please make a note of this.
We really love sex, but hate eating pussy.
Please note this and make us a sandwich.
This thread is great.
sex flashes, yea, can kinda say that I feel familiar with that..
I can just be doing anything, thinking about anything, and suddenly the sex thoughts jump quickly in and out of my trail of thought x_x
Ive got very visual mind though, so its more like images og naked bodies or whatever flash into my thoughts.
I have RESPECT for myself when I treat women like I treat men. Women speak of equality, so i give them this equality. If my guy friend is being a butthead, i say so - with my own non-sugar-coated style. I do this women now, and at the end of my banter i add: "if you were a guy i'd tell you off like this. And since you believe in equality, I'm saying this to you as if were a guy. But do you want me to treat you like woman instead?" They usually say no; and they Usually don't comprehend the point either. Women say they want equality and they also want control. Guys don't GIVE away control to guys; nor should the GIVE Away their own control to women - just because she's a woman.