It's hard to say. It sounds like you were in a pretty low and dark place for a while. Where are you in your life right now? It sounds like you're on a bit of an upswing right now, but how stable is that? I think you need to get your bearings and get back on your feet. Get your own life moving in the direction you want. Pursue your dreams passionately. Better yourself however you can.
Keep in touch with her, if you can. Try being friends. Talk to her about what your doing in your life. Try not to dwell too much on your problems; the last thing you want is for her to see you as too emotionally needy or in need of a mother figure.
You may be able to use her as a motivation to turn your life around. Maybe, just maybe, as you get yourself together, she'll see you differently. As someone she can rely on, rather than as someone who saps her emotional strength.
I don't know. Maybe it will work, though probably not overnight. She might come back to you. On the other hand, maybe it's just too painful for her. But even if that's the case, you'll be in a better place. You'll feel better about yourself and be better able to keep up your end of future relationships.
Best of luck to you! Give it your all.
OP, I had a similar experience as you. My ex got pregnant because of me, I didn't understand then but she changed almost like your ex did. At first my ex would tell me how she wants me over then suddenly she starts telling me to don't touch her and how she doesnt get enough sleep at night because I'm around (I tried to hug her in bed). This continued for a few nights...
Anyways, what was the reason your ex wanted that expensive umbrella?
Well, all I can say is try to restart the relationship somehow.
Thank you. I will try to change my life. Not to rely on others as much as I have done, but to be able to stand on my own feet, even when I'm down.
I will try as you have suggested, my biggest worry is however that she will find another. ------but then again, I am confident that I will to.
I guess the thing that made this seperation harder was the fact that I didn't realise the seriocity of her needs. So it came as a shock when she declared it was over basically the same day as I was supposed to by the ring.
Must have been terrible. I wish that girls would try to face the problems and tell you what is wrong, instead of turning everything around like it's you who betrayed her because of not knowing.
About the umbrella: I guess we where at a point where both I and her needed som confirmation of love still being there. I needed hugs, kisses, etc. She however was not attracted enough to do so (which must have taken a rather big toll on her aswell). So I guess she wanted to see my buying her stuff that makes her happy, as a reminder of how it use to be.
Who do you think you are to pregnant your ex?
You are selfish and self-centered. The only think you want is sex from her, and nothing else. Maybe in truth she doesn't like you enough to get into a serious relationship. She found out how irresponsible you are by your actions in which you intentionally not care about taking measures in birth control. Evidently, this is proved that you are selfish, irresponsible and not care about her emotionally and physically, so she is smart to dump you. You are just using her as a sex toy. Or maybe she don't have any others choice of better men so she go for you due to conveniencies.
You still don't understand why she dumped you?
Cuz you'are an annoyance, the reason you're there with her is for your own pleasure, sex, and this cause her to hate you. And fact that you're are there with her and the fact that she doesn't like that, infers she doesn't like you. If a woman likes a man, she wouldn't treat her man like that.
Was this entirely pointed to >>3 or did it involve me too?
Because I really like the girl...and I failed to see me using her as a sextoy, I've been without sex for half a year, without even thinking about cheating...I don't even think I masturbated...
Since I posted she and I have had quite some talks. And I try not to mention our past relationship or my feelings of her. But I do try to implict that I'm there for her If she needs me. She seem glad because of that. I met her last night, before her being taken to the hospital for a surgery, she gave me a really warm smile, that kind I used to see..it made me feel warm inside :)