Hello everyone. Back in high school, I had fallen in love for the first time with this girl. I couldn't believe it; she was pretty, funny, kind, but in spite of it all, she was a nerd like me; games, anime, being stupid. She was everything I looked for in my dream girl.
And then she told me she was a lesbian.
I persisted months after this revelation, holding out hope that somehow a miracle would happen, to no avail. Eventually, she came to me wanting to talk things over and put everything to rest.
Now, everytime I see/hear yuri, especially here on the chans, all the memories come back to me at once, and I get chest pains. What should I do? I've been going through this for almost 2 years now, and I am terribly concerned about my health.
Deal with it, she don't like you. This "sorry, I'm a lesbian" thing is only a poor excuse for girls to dump a man.
Looks like this love stays one sided... You may wish to go for another girl.
Lesbian or not, it's just not gonna happen. Sorry
Geez, move on. I've recently been through the same thing, a girl that simply didn't like me and yes, it hurts like a bitch, but you've got to keep going. Believe me, with all the girls in this world, you will find another one.
I am resolute in moving on; it's just that whenever I see or hear about it, I'll feel terrible all of a sudden. What can I do to overcome this? Hell, I love reading Negima, and it suddenly turned sour when the Setsuna x Konoka pair was shown to me. As pathetic as that is, please help.
You need a distraction.. you should find someone else whom you can occupy your mind with. This way, you'll find it easier to forget her and move on.
>>6
I agree!
When you can't get a girl out of your head, you must distract yourself with someting.
In my case, I went for a part-time job and it worked for me.
Do you still have any contact with this girl? Cause being friends with her and showing that you can be trusted can help you. In either case it may please you a little that you at least make her feel like there is always someone there for her. I have had female friends whom have claimed to be lesbians because males only have hurt them, and the whole breed makes them reimagine what made them feel that way. Kinda like you and lesbians...
However, and this is a MAJOR however. Trying that would possibly make them angry if they start thinking your only doing it because you want them to agree with you. But this would not be a problem if you truely like the girl. It may also hurt you if she truely are a lesbian. My feelings about it tho is that love is not bound to the sex of the creature.
/r/ some yuri ascii art in this thread, stat.
Go back to the chans. This is a -ch, for serious discussions
Yes, I do still have contact with her, and supposedly, we are still friends. I also have hypothesized that other men have hurt her in the past in some way, based on facts that have been disclosed to me these recent years. Even though I realize it now that it may just be inevitable, I can't help but think about her every now and then, wishing for some way to get her back.
However, if this is truly how it must be, then I must know how to get over this negative reaction my body has whenever I am confronted with some example of yuri. I do agree with >>6 and >>7 that I require a distraction, which I have tried and works in general, but what should I do if I abruptly saw something like a wallpaper of Strawberry Panic; I know I'd enter a state of distress immediately
"she was pretty, funny, kind, but in spite of it all, she was a nerd like me; games, anime, being stupid."
UNPOSSIBLE!
But seriously? I've been in the same situation, telling a guy I didn't like him really because... well, he had a penis. I have grown over the years to be relatively uninterested in men.
I'm sorry, but it's just a high school love (you'll definitely mature and move on) and she's a lesbian. It's not you; she doesn't like guys. Nothing can change that (the fantasy about "turning a lesbian straight, along with her bisexual friend..." is just a fantasy), not even you. Sorry.
And if /u/ reminds you of a real life girl, you need to stop going on the boards so much.
Frigid onanoko think that when you get chest pains, you should take walk in the park. or whereever calm.
Me, like to walk over big highway-bridge over the river, and look at city. Very nice just before dusk. Make superfluous thoughts blow away, make calm come to u.
I like your idea frigid onanoko. thank you. :)
I think I will stop frequenting the boards so much. Thank you.
Thank you, those words helped me in my struggles as well.