Asking A Girl Out (15)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 15:16 ID:mwcUv86d

I've finally gathered the courage to ask out the girl I like. Should I tell her that I like her and then ask her out? I don't know how to tell her. She has no idea I feel like this about her.

Halp.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 18:03 ID:Heaven

>>1

>Should I tell her that I like her and then ask her out?

If you don't know eachother well, then it's a bad idea..

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 20:34 ID:ryuhAQXw

Ask her if she wants to go get some dinner for some night. But whatever you do, do not tell her you like her. that will fuck you over.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 21:31 ID:EpUEZA1y

>>2
I know her well.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 21:43 ID:QHM2MoqI

What do you mean by that ?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 22:28 ID:RzBnFZTz

>>5 has a valid point.

You have to gauge your relationship before you can accurately go ahead and ask her out. If you're childhood friends and know each other very well, then maybe just spending time together (even for a meal) really isn't anything too special or out of the ordinary. You'd probably have to give a hint of your intentions. Or plan something that you wouldn't normally do (like see a musical or play). But if you two aren't extremely close, then maybe going out to dinner and movie is special enough. Maybe telling her explicitly that "I like you" is a bad idea, however, as long as she understands why you're taking her out, it shouldn't be a problem.

7 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-16 22:35 ID:u36+3agx

Plus, if you don't know her too well, you really can't say you like her coz what + and - do you know she has in terms of personality and stuff? All you can say at this moment is that you are attracted to her. I think attraction is fine with girls but if you say you like her like right out of the blue then she's going to say 'huh?!' 'sides, girls are like probably masters of understanding non-verbal cues, so you don't actually have to say it, just do it (as Nike points out hehe).

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 23:14 ID:EpUEZA1y

>>6
>>7
I know her, we are good friends but were not like extremely-close-childhood friends as you say.

9 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-17 01:49 ID:EZTlTWsG

Well, still, don't go and tell her that you 'like her'. Not randomly, not even after trying to set the mood. Since a lot of girls play subtle games, we guys should play it back.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 03:13 ID:SdlEy/7z

>>9
Subtle games?

Also, I was talking with a friend about it.

Me: I like this girl but I am afraid of failing. What should I do? D:
Friend: Do you know how she feels ? Don't put a leg out there unless you know for sure how she feels. Ask her friends, see what they think, but make sure it's one you can trust so that they don't tell her.
Me: It's name
Friend: I'll tell you now... it's not going to happen... I feel bad for telling you that, but she isn't interested. She isn't interested in anyone.

I guess love is ovar, amirite?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 03:47 ID:kGUQnRU8

If you think you can take the risk of failing and her not being your friend anymore, then go for it. Because that's the worst case situation.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-17 19:01 ID:ZrXZA5Q5

Okay, you are in the friend zone, you are finished if you ask her directly in most cases. However. Maybe, if you wait for the right circomstances, say, for example, she's upset, tipsy, it's late, you slip your hand into...her hand (what else..tsk), etc.

Then she might go for it...but just whipping it out (your question, pff) probably won't.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-18 01:04 ID:Heaven

>(what else..tsk)

her drink!

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-18 02:17 ID:TvV+eb+U

>>12
I see...

15 Name: Unknown : 2006-11-23 16:19 ID:LfJ83X6m

hi, i have a similar problem, this girl and i went to the same school till grade 12 and now i am in a different city then she is. i have liked her since grade 10, thats when i moved to her city but i was afraid to tell her anything, now that i am here in a different city, i have really started to miss her. it is a little bit hard to say if she likes me or not, everytime i am in her town and give her a call, she would invite me over to her place and stuff. we really haven't hung out at all. i just dont know where to start. heard that messenger is the worst way of talking, so i have actually quit using my aim. if anyone of you can help me with this. would be greatly appriciated. and yeh another thing is, i would like her to be my soul mate for the rest of my life. i know this sounds creepy too but thats what i feel about her. please help.
thank you

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