Progress Report/Translation Help Needed (6)

1 Name: Severin : 2006-12-15 09:17 ID:G2ymYkOT

Hey y'all, you might remember me from the thread "SHIT! I just slept with my best friend". I'm callin' in with a progress report and with a new question.

The past month has been really smooth, with us being near inseparable, and we've had a couple of more sexual encounters. But she's not giving any clear signals on where this wants to go.

For one, she has vocally insisted on the line of "We should keep this casual/we should be able to see/sleep with other people/I don't want to be in a serious relationship". Okay hun, that's fine. I say, But if you're so anti-relationship, why are you calling me twice a day, always buggin' me with wanting to hang out with you, and get frumpy when I decide to go out clubbing with my guy friends or whatever instead of staying home and getting drunk and fooling around with you? I'm serious cats, for being so vehemently against us being in a relationship, she is getting awfully clingy (she DID say the "L" word 3 weeks ago, but never repeated).

I'm pretty good at speaking Womanese, but I can't translate this particular message. Anyone got some ideas? Ladies?

2 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-12-15 11:09 ID:3i6PTlqD

So, ever since you had sex, she has been like this all the time?

Maybe, like you said, the thing is that she is your BEST friend. She thinks the same and ofcourse, being with your best friend = best time, right?

If this doesn't satisfy you, then perhaps the woman of yours simply is afraid of commitment? (Thank you, Freud)

P.S. Most people in L&R are people who can't speak Womanese. Like me, sorry.
If you give me more details, perhaps I can make a better conclusion from all this. Like.. when did she use the "L" word.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-15 18:57 ID:opHTDL6A

>>1
Tell her 'I don't speak womanese', tell her how you feel, and ask for a direct response.

4 Name: Severin : 2006-12-15 23:46 ID:G2ymYkOT

>>So, ever since you had sex, she has been like this all the time?

Not really, but the past two weeks, yes. It's been about a month since we had that little "thing" happen, sooo... still not much time has elapsed.

>>Maybe, like you said, the thing is that she is your BEST friend. She thinks the same >>and ofcourse, being with your best friend = best time, right?

Not sure what you're saying here, lad. Rephrase it?

>>when did she use the "L" word.

About 3 weeks ago, when we were parting ways from a meet-up at the bar.

>>Tell her 'I don't speak womanese', tell her how you feel, and ask for a direct response.

Have asked for one, she basically snaked around the question, but I think Teenager might have something there about the fear of commitment, because she gave off that vibe in her attempt to snake around it.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-12-16 01:21 ID:oHnf0Tat

I think you should give thought to what you want, see if it's in any way compatible, in the long run, with what she wants. if it isn't, then you should probably part ways unless one of you is willing to change.

6 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-12-16 13:33 ID:3i6PTlqD

>>4

Egh, shit. I meant she thinks that you are her best friend too.
And she simply wants to hang out with you because you are fun to hang out with.
She feels left out because you hang out with your buds instead of her. This makes her feel replaceable thus feeling threatened because of the fear that she will simply be left out once a better and improved woman approaches.

Fuck that was a whole lot of nonsense, but if you give enough thought about it, then you will get the idea.

Either that or.. Holy shit I can't think about any alternatives :/
This situation reminds me all those dating sims (2) I have played. The girl(s) always falls for the main character, never to anybody else.

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