Okay, perhaps I am just foolish, but as much as I despire women who are infatuated with the wrong type of guys, there is no point in trying to deny that I am the same.
Throughout the many years of schools, I've always had a crush on this guy. He is the type of guy that is arrogant, good looking, popular, and so forth. Adding to that, he has slept around with around seven girls, I believe. Well, he has a girlfriend. I know I should hate him for sleeping around when such, and would generally look down on guys that do so, but I just can't with him. You see, he and I are not strangers. We are, in a few ways, friends. Like I've said, we've known each other for years because of school and usually talk everyday, though not always. And despite his typical behavior and attitude, he is actually a nice guy. It may be for that reason that I like him.
Even so, I know I need to get over him and find better people. Is it possible after so many years? Should I try and pursue him? I just don't know anymore. I don't think I am the best looking girl ever, so I know he would only have sex with me and act like nothing ever happened. I'd have nothing to gain.
Any help would be appreciated.
>>I need to get over him and find better people
Thread over.
Seriously tho, fuck that.
I was in the same situation a while back, except the guy had also just gotten out of a relationship with my best friend. We had the same sense of humor, liked the same music, I thought we were you know, FRIENDS. I tried to start something a little more with him as I felt that stupid, "oh no, i can change him" feeling comin' on
BUT
it murphy lawed on me and now I can barely think about him without getting pissed off.
If he's been an ass to all those other girls, I am willing to bet paper monies he will be an ass to you AND/OR complete rejection.
Very sorry, best of luck, etc.
"I know I need to get over him and find better people"
Hit the nail right on the head, son.
"Is it possible after so many years?"
Yes.
"Should I try and pursue him?"
No.
Find someone else. An asshole isn't going to magically change into a nice person because he is with you. And to top it off, he already has a girlfriend. You're just going to get hurt if you end up pursuing him. There are plenty of cool guys out there that don't just want to fuck you, just look and you will be surprised what you may find.
And some guys wonder why the girls are always getting fucked by the jerks.
It's because they're fucking stupid and love getting abused. Better try to use that to get them, guys!
I really don't get why girls all seem to pick out the guy whose fucked over every other girl the know and go, "Ohhhhh, but I can CHANGE him!"?
>>5
All girls do not do that. There are just too many girls who are like that, but by no means all, or even close to all. At least not if you overview a larger group, and not just some "inbred" "incestous" drama group (not literally, obviously). Like the one a pal of mine hangs out at sometimes. Everyone has made out with everyone, wannabe-emos/goths, and the chicks apparently do not realize that everyone else trying to hook up with a certain single person (the one who is the latest fad in the group) is not a valid reason for trying to hook up with that person as well ("Ooh! Everyone is trying to get him?! That automatically means he's the most awesome bloke.. I MUST WIN HIM OVER TO PROVE THAT I AM THE MOST AWESOME CHICK!"). Shudder shudder. Horrible people. I'm glad I have nothing to do with them.
>>1
Leave him. Stay as fucking far away as possible. Figure out why you find him attractive, that includes his negative sides.
Too many incorrectly equate "jerk" with "has a spine", which is very untrue. Being able to stand up for oneself and what one believes in doesn't automatically include being a rude asshole. I've seen plenty of spineless jerks who were jerks to feed their own ego, to soothe the pains of not having a real spine.
>doesn't by itself include being a rude asshole.
Fix'd. Some people who have spines are jerks about it, however the two are not at all the same. It's easy to have a spine while not being a jerk.
>>1
well, i guess u should leave him. its very difficult to change guys feeling once its set. almost impossible. he is a guy what exactly u think. so forget(at least try) about him and find a better one
Because many many many women are dumb and secretly like to get hurt so they can cry about it?
My best advice would be the one from >>2 - that is, don't date someone who would have to change for you to be happy with them. If you can't accept someone the way they are already, then it's not worth it.
And I know you don't want less than that - you don't just want sex, you want to get over him. And, yes - it's perfectly possible to get over someone after a long while.
I've actually dated someone to get over her...and it worked, so maybe the sex thing will work too. Rape him hard then dump him, I say. He sounds like the type of guy who would like a good challenge. If you want to be with him, then you'd have to play games. Btw, I was entirely joking about the rape thing. I'm just showing you how ridiculous it would be for you to pursue him (no offense). It's not worth it; you deserve better, and someone better is out there...like me. You couldn't resist me, baby ;) Joking again, sorry. Just trying to lighten the mood a bit.
>>11
Rape him hard then dump him
dont joke, actually its a quite good idea.
someone better is out there...like me.
i doubt
>>12 Don't doubt, my friend. Learn from my wisdom.
Girls, don't get all cramped up when someone says "all girls do this" and "all girls do that." We don't REALLY mean ALL girls. And we know you know that, so stop trying to play dumb!