Thats the gist of the question really... would you date some1 (no gender specifics this is aimed at every one!) who was physically falwaed with a great personality or some1 who is a pixie with no brians or intellect?
>>1
Physical flaw is to prefer over no brains/intellect.
If I date someone, I want to have a relationship, whether it be short-term or longterm, NOT a living fucktoy/human pet. If I'm just looking for sex, then I can just get some fuckbuddies.
Also, if the physical flaw is something as simple as wayyy too much fat, then that's usually a lot easier to help the person with (persuading them to hang out with you on your daily exercies for instance) than to teach the goldfish type bimbo a lot of good stuff. Though the bimbos need love to, and help. A lot of help, including professional help. Their lives are awful.
lol... yeah although i must admit that the first thing i notice is looks. but then again i think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder... as the people i find attractive are not attractive in the general sense shrugs but my taste is my taste i suppose :p
>>3
Yeah, I generally don't find "sexy" or "beautiful" girls the most attractive. I prefer "cute" girls.
Of course looks aren't everything, but attraction is definitely important in a relationship. If you're not attracted to the person, of course the relationship is going to fail. Your partner needs you to be attracted to them as much as you need to be attracted to them.
I'm certainly not saying a girl has to be physically perfect for me to like them. All of the girls I've dated have had physical imperfections of some sort. But I was still attracted to them, both physically and mentally, and that is what's important.
I would prefer a man with brains over looks. I like men who can teach me something new. He can have acne, a huge nose, ugly scars, glasses, I don't care. There is only one thing I cannot deal with and that is fat. I do not like people who revel in decadence or lack self restraint, and someone who is over weight obviously has a restraint problem.
I dont know about that, i find fat more attractive in women than in men... but on the whole a little plumpness is ok.. morebid obesity is not
>>5
As a guy who has some fat (not much nowadays tho) I'd have to say that it's not necessarily true that fat = lack of self restraint. I'm a tall and big guy, but I still have to eat less then many people (even tiny girls) I know simply because I put on weight very quickly. It kinda sucks but I suppose that it's still a fixable problem with a good diet and exercise, so I prefer it above having an ugly face. Still, if I would eat like a normal person I'd definately be way fatter then I am now. I suppose if I was living 3000 years ago it would have rocked tho :P
Anyway, personally I don't care about looks too much. But I don't think I'd date a burn victim or something, that's simply one step too far.
This might sound like bullshit, but I don't care about looks. I mean, I do, but if I like someone's personality, I'll basically like what they look like, even if I would have thought otherwise if I didn't like their personality. I've spent months fawning over girls no one else even finds vaguely attractive.
>>9
The thing is though that the majority of people who are fat (keep in mind that this is 2/3 of the American population and a growing portion of the rest of the world's!) are fat because they don't eat right and they don't exercise.
But then, one of the cutest guys I know is a little chubby <3 and mostly healthy (he just drinks wayyyy too much soda) so it doesn't matter THAT much to me, as long as he's got a nice face and a nicer personality! <3
Yes, absolutely. I just gotta have one or the other. I'm a larger guy myself (6'4, 300lbs), and I honestly prefer women to be... I dunno, just not STICKS. A little padding is fine too. Like >>10 said, though, the face means a lot. Cute face but a little overweight is just fine.
I usually won't date someone without any personality though, so you could just say that as long as they've got that, the looks don't matter THAT much.
Unfortunately, the only girl actively chasing after me now has none of the above. She's dumb as a rock, fat, ugly face, and has NO PERSONALITY AT ALL. That sounds pretty mean, but it's the truth. Go me. D:
>>5
and someone who is over weight obviously has a restraint problem
Wow, that's so blatantly ignorant, I can't even comprehend it. Over-eating isn't the only cause of obesity. Many things play a part, including lifestyle, genetics, and also thyroid problems. Just because someone is under-weight doesn't mean they spend all day hovering over the toilet with their fingers down their throats, does it?
It seems I have offended some with my opinions on obesity. I am not going to apologize for it because I find people without self restraint unattractive and to me obesity tends to be a sign of that.
It is true that some people are obese due to other health problems, but that is not everyone or the majority of obese people. There are still plenty of over weight people who are that way simply because of unhealthy lifestyle, poor diet, and over consumption. These are things in one's power to change.
Also, those who have health problems that cause their obesity have an abundance of solutions to those problems.
I agree with you. Majority of obesity cases is not because of complicated health problems. A simple diet and exercise will help most cases. Not to sound all hippie but the body craves balance/equilibrium. Input=Output. If input is greater than output then you will gain weight, if output is greater than input you will lose it.
And as for the topic, if you are not grossly obese then I have no problem. If you can set time to exercise then it tells me you are organized. That means you will not break dates or forget anything important. A large figure can mean, at least to me, more than bad looks.
But the way I see it, OP you seem upset that guys are not physically attracted to you. You should try to lose some of the weight or meet a blind man. Because no matter what a man might say looks do matter, the type of look may vary person to person, but if they do not like how you look then they will not love you.
By the way if it sounds like I am an asshole, well it is because I am.
id prefer a goldfish type bimbo to an ugly smart girl. especially with nice tits and legs. strictly speaking, i dont care so much about features, tits and legs r far more important to me. u can cover ur girl friends face with a porno magazine if shes so ugly that u cant have sex with her.
I think that a little bit of padding on a man or a woman is fine... i do like someone who takes care of themselves be it , running or going to the gym or trying to eat healthily most of the time. also i think we need to bare in mind that a) average size is 16 and that Marilyn Monro was a 16, and look at curvy starletts like Kate Winslett, Drew Barrymore and Lindsey Lohan. oh And sophie Dahl was stunnign before she lost like half her body weight
>>13 is right "if they do not like how you look then they will not love you." This doesn't mean you have to be beautiful to be loved, of course. People have different standards and different attractions. What it means is that you should put some effort into your appearance if you want a boyfriend or girlfriend. Just look your best!
16 is average size AMERICAN maybe...look at Chinese though, they're much thinner on average.
Flaw, personality, etc. FUCKING ALL THE WAY THROUGH
I've had it with shallow people who care only for their boobs. To me sex partially goes on inside your head, even with the penis turned on.
Proof that looks do matter, my friend's girlfriend broke up with him because "she wasn't attractive to him." Basically she went with him in the first place because he was a nice guy and had a secure future so hey, why not go with him. But she couldn't handle it apparently, so she dumped him. I am sure there were other reasons but I am sure looks were one of them.
>>19
"she wasn't attractive to him."
she dumped him right? or she wasnt attracted to him?
i want some milk!!
Neither
if neither then what?
She thought he was ugly.
Not heavier or taller than me. almost all girls are atractive.
>>11
Well, I'm anorexic, I weigh like 38 kilos(83 lbs). Last time I went 'out' was, uh, months ago, I never excercise, am poorly organised and I have a poor memory.
Thing is that I get sick if I eat too much. =<
>>20 She probably felt unwanted, "like" he wasn't attracted to her.
>if neither then what?
I wouldn't date fat women, or stupid women.
Which isn't to say I dislike all "physically flawed" women. Just the fat ones.
And I also don't mean that they have to be geniuses. Just not idiots.
I also don't like sluts.
Practically anything besides that is fine.
OP is a fattie.
Thats just rude! you dont know that. maybe OP is just insecure or something. anyway it deosnt matter to me cause i think weight is generally irrelevant.. and hey if they have a few extra pounds thats what a gym membership is for
>>31
"a few extra pounds" is fine.
A fat-assed lazy bitch isn't.
>>31
Title gives it away. Size 20 = goddess??
Anyway. I concur, weight is irrelevant. But I hate how people are people are just using their weight as an excuse for not getting laid, and don't even bother to do anything about it.
I would not go out with an anorexic, just like I would not go out with an obese chick. Reason? HEALTH. Same reason why smokers are generally unattractive. Get my drift?
I would date with someone I like, both in terms of looks and personality.
External beauty is directly influenced by internal beauty and there can't be external beauty without internal beauty, so it's unlikely that I will be attracted to a person with external beauty without internal beauty or a person with internal beauty without external beauty.
It should be noted I don't mind dating someone whose mentally disabled or someone whose physically disabled or both, as long I find them be beautiful.
>It should be noted I don't mind dating someone whose mentally disabled or someone whose physically disabled or both, as long I find them be beautiful.
u sure?? what happens if she was mentally so screwed that she even eats ur and her own shit, but she is basically a very nice person?