Another one of those /r/ help threads (11)

1 Name: Brick : 2007-01-28 08:41 ID:rYLsCo2B

Can't believe I'm posting on 4ch. First off, I'm a college student, asian, 6'0", slim, and there's a girl I'm interested in. I first met her a year ago in a physics class, but didn't really get to know her till this year when we shared a math class. During this time, she helped me with this class, usually a night a week, and it was all good. Now we don't have any classes together.

One thing about her is that she's also a pretty big gamer. After said previous math class, we once went to a local arcade and played up Time Crisis 4.

3 weeks ago, I asked her out to a meal somewhere under the pretense of her helping me out with my class, and she for sometime when she didn't have work. She then called me last thursday, and said she forgot about my offer the previous week before, but wanted to have lunch this week. Yesterday, we met up for lunch, played some Bust-a-move (which I let her win, but she knows I did) and she watched while I played a racing game with some of the arcade regulars which I know, I walked her to her car and she left, Total duration 2 hours or so. She planned for lunch b/c she said she was meeting her family to watch a movie.

My problem is that I can't read signs at all, tell when/IF she's flirting, and how to ask her out again, but for a proper dinner or something next time. I'm not sure if she has any sort of feelings for me, or if she just considers me a classmate with similar interests. We both have each other's phone numbers, but not screennames.

I think I could have said something better to her when she was leaving, since I said "We should do this again sometime", in retrospect, I think it sounded like I have no interest.

I'd really appreciate some serious advice, especially from people in college age range, its been 4 years since I had a "date", and even then, I don't consider that high school date to count. I'll be back in a few hours to check this thread, hopefully one of you SA/Anon's post.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-28 12:15 ID:xpo/BJPR

Hmm....a girl who takes Physics and Math classes, and is a big gamer. She must be popular amongst the guys then.

I think you could try and find some event like a college game and ask her to join you, to explore more of her interests, and show her what other things you are into as well. Otherwise, she'll probably just see you as another fellow Physics/Maths classmate who happens to share a gaming interest! Find something that will make you a bit different from the others and thus spark her interest in you.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-28 15:33 ID:t439Q37C

Meeting new people in college on a regular basis is pretty hard if you don't put effort in it. It's all chance really who you meet and whether or not they're available.

I don't think it's about reading signs. Either you see them or you don't and you end up with a vibe. Because you don't know right now, you probably didn't get a vibe that she liked you. This however doesn't mean she isn't flirting with you. I think it's kinda hard from just one 'date' to really tell.

Anyways, I think you should ask to meet up again. Give her a call or something. You're in college so a guy going out with a girl like that isn't really considered dating until you two start holding hands or something. If you make an effort to meet up with her another few more times you can probably figure out if she's interested in you or not and you two can be good friends either way.

4 Name: fart man : 2007-01-29 01:19 ID:RFomRawQ

u shared time with her only for 2 hours, excluding "a night a week" thing, right? so dont worry too much about the "sign"
as long as she doesnt hate u.

u r interested in her for a long time, so its not very difficult to like her so much after seeing her that day, but for her, this is not the case. why does she like u so much after seeing u only for 2 hours?

u r lucky enough to share the same interest with her. it would give u a good excuse to ask her out. but next time(if u r lucky enough to have another chance) u dont play games with "some of the arcade regulars" because, if u do this, she will have to just watch doing nothing while u r playing. it sounds so boring(if she loves other pple playing games, then this is not the case)

take time, man. dont rush. she doesnt have any special feelings of u at this stage, anyway. try to look at things from her eyes. then u may be able to see how things r going better.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-29 01:51 ID:b+vwBgoh

well if you dont have each others screennames, she is probably not a friend. which is a good thing. don't worry about the proper date thing yet. ask her out to a game like >>2 said.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-29 02:53 ID:XgNiY7E7

>>1
You don't sound like you need help.
I agree with >>3 though.

7 Name: Brick : 2007-01-29 06:35 ID:rYLsCo2B

Op here, I would like to ask her out again, but is this week too soon, or should I go for some later date a few weeks from now?

I've been to her apartment once before, but we mostly played games and watched a zombie movie, then her roomies came back. She made the suggestion during lunch to go to her apartment later to play Wii, but time ran out.

I would have considered a sporting event, but I don't think she's into school events, plus we both have pretty crazy schedules.

8 Name: fart man : 2007-01-29 06:41 ID:RFomRawQ

>>7

>I've been to her apartment once before

what the fuck!! uve already gotten the "sign" she wouldnt have let u in her apartment if she didnt like u!

9 Name: Brick : 2007-01-29 07:04 ID:rYLsCo2B

>>8

At the time, we had always gone to my study lounge to work, but this time we took the bus to her place, but instead of studying, she kicked my ass at mario kart and watched 28 days later, which isn't exactly a romantic film.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-01-29 19:51 ID:Heaven

jesus...it seems like you have everything in hand. just ask her out for this weekend for something that is fun, something that doesn't require you two studying (convince her too much studying can be bad). ask her out and end it.

11 Name: fart man : 2007-01-29 21:46 ID:RFomRawQ

>>9

>which isn't exactly a romantic film.

doesnt matter if the film was a romantic one or not. the points are that u spent time with her in HER APARTMENT and did something fun, and again, she let u come in the place.

i agree to >>10s opinion. i think u have had everything(or a lot of things) in hand already. ask her out do something fun together.

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