I really like this girl, but I am a hiki, and besides at when we talk at lunch, its as if I dont even exist her, or anyone else. I wonder if she could like me, I REALLY like her, but, I want to get telltale signs of her liking me, Im not very popular, so if word gets out that I asked her out, and if she dosent like me, that could be very uncomfortable for me, and that would make her feel bad, for me out of compassion, and for herself of course because she'd be a laughing stock to be admired by someone like me. I am not ugly or fat or anything, I just am very shy. But otherwise sexy. Freshman in high school who really needs advice.
for somer eaason this reminded me of 4chan's "fox" kopipe.
>>1
Don't be stupid, open yourself up, find out it doesn't kill you, then see who approaches you. You might get surprised.
Your reasoning is really shitty, I'm sorry, I understand if it makes sense in your head and you feel all noble about it but you're making a big fuss over nothing. Because that's what shyness and cowardice is, nothing, it's all just in your head. Fat, ugly people are out there getting laid because they have overcome their fears, now you go do the same.
>>1
Besides what >>3 told, which I believe is truth, please realize that YOU ARE NO FUCKING HIKKIKOMORI or whatever. Being shy is a totally different thing, being pathologically shy is another - being an "hikkikomori" or anything is something else.
Please, for the sake of everything that is good or bad or inbetween on earth, STOP USING THIS TERM for no good reason. Please. Really.
Hikki's don't go outside.
Therefore, she's already coming round your house for lunch! Damn! I don't think you need our advice, brother!
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>> I am not ugly or fat or anything, I just am very shy. But otherwise sexy.
Sorry, I don't understand this line.
Hikki reminds me of hicks.
>>5 I am talking about lunch at school. That is compulsory until age 16. BTW, asked said girl out...she said yes. Asked her to be my girlfriend a week later...she said no. Huh?
Wait, so you asked her our, she said yes, then said no to being your girlfriend? o A o;;
Ah, I dont know how us girls work~ fuuu~ ~.~
>>4 gotta agree, this "I'm a hikki" crap has got to stop...
Perhaps 1% of the people on chan4 would actually classify as hikkomori steriotypes, if that... They go outside, have friends, jobs, etc... but because they feel emo at night in their bedroom, they say "I'm a hikki", as if it's just a slang term for being shy... The very fact that you're at lunch, talking to someone flies in the face of everything that defines the word hikkomori... Anyway...
>>1 First, as said previously, you're not a "hikki"... You're shy, and that's it...
On to the real problem: defining if she likes you or not before asking her any bf/gf questions... I'd recommend asking her to go to a movie or something similar, in your case... If she's willing to go with just you, and enjoys it, perhaps two or three times, you can gauge whether she'd be offended if you asked her... Also, if you decide to ask her, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do so, without anyone around who would start stories about you or her or anything...
Well it doesn't matter that your hikki (although I don't think you are...). The question here is that... Do you love her??... Love her so much that you won't care about being laughed at or something else... I mean if your not going to risk that, then you don't love her enough... That's what I would say... Because for love... You have to commit to it like as you would do on getting good grades and such. Also you have to take risks. I mean if you are not going to do those, then you are not qualified to love that person... Really (Just admiring her I guess...). So I would said try your best to get to know her first by getting some attentions from her (Try something new), then finally ask her out or something. Well good luck! Fighting!