A girl's self esteem (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-03 23:53 ID:xrIZV9OH

So, I've met this girl who's adorably cute, but she used to be really fat in high school, and has only recently lost the weight over the past year or two. Is this good for me or bad for me?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-04 04:07 ID:wtiWGm83

It's your job to bring her self esteem up... but if she's nagging/bitching too much, then it's her problem.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-04 16:37 ID:Heaven

>>2 seems to forget that there's 'self' in 'self-esteem'.
You can encourage/praise, but that's all. Heck, it even nail some people down because they feel pressured.

She's cute now, so it's probably better than the opposite. Don't ask yourself too many questions.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-04 18:47 ID:xrIZV9OH

>>3
I certainly don't mind that she's cute now, but I'm wondering if this will make her more clingy/desperate since she's never really had guys interested in her before.

It's kind of a moot point right now as we're not actually dating, but I was curious what Anonymous thought.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-05 01:14 ID:VaWRj+aj

Well, At worst she may be more clingy and desperate.

But at a moderate level, She may value a relationship with a person a bit more that the average girl. Which, IMO, is a good thing.

About her self-esteem, Don't focus on her outer beauty, just focus on herself all around when you compliment, and never compliment too much, or she won't believe you.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-08 01:06 ID:Heaven

> this girl who's adorably cute, but she used to be really fat in high school

If your going to abandon her when she gains back weight, then forget it. To try and convince you to back off I'll just say this: stretch marks.

7 Name: argg : 2007-05-08 22:27 ID:YK3JB5VB

BWA BWA BWA

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