I think it's all really sweet when someone is SOOOO in love with another human being and they're so totally going to be together for the rest of their lives.
Honestly I don't see how people don't get bored of each other. Usually I cycle out of relationships after three years. Right now my current relationship seems rocky because my significant other lacks a job and lacks money to do anything at all leaving me to foot the bill every single time. Plus thanks to Big Oil I probably won't be seeing my significant other on a regular basis until late October.
So I've started looking around again. There's one person who lives in the same country as me but is 1000+ miles away from me. I'm getting the gist if I'm going to try anything with them, I had better make the LDR into a SDR ASAP otherwise it's a fling in Vegas and done.
I need a constant presence and interaction to maintain any interest in a significant other.
How do you guys and girls do it?
I'm with you, unfortunately. out of sight out of mind I don't mean to be that way, but when you don't have your significant other around you your own singular life takes precedent and can be all consuming. I think finding someone under 1000 miles away is a good place to start looking LOL.
I'm in my 3rd year of my current relationship, and I don't know how it happened but I truly am bored. It seems there is nothing left to learn of the other, and the incompatibility becomes more apparent...
Love is a tricky thing, synergy is key...
My solution, so far anyway, has been this:
become an polyamorous couple. Oooopen the relationship.
i kid you not! It may actually strengthen things quite a bit. Option 2 is to take up BDSM, of course.
And option 3 would be to try to find someone you really like, and try to overcome difficulties. Nobody does it nowadays, which is why there are so many breakups and divorces. Stuff like that is supposed to strenghten the couple.
I'm not being overly conservative and saying stuff was better before, but look at it frankly: people are supposed to be more "free" yet in the end, they're more sad. And alone. And unsatisfied. And whatever.
I understand the post-sexual-liberation stuff, like "yeah let's all have sex together in a giant orgy" (exageration, 2nd degree, keep that in mind), and I agree it's quite fun. But seriously. That can't be all. And you can't scorn and deny those who manage to do it.
They're taking the hard way, whatever that might mean.