Hey guys... I just wanted somewhere to talk about soemthing that's worrying me. I wanted to start a Thread in 4Chan or 7Chan... maybe 12Chan... but then again, that kind pages are not for this kind of topics. Specially not when I want serious answers.
So, I've been in an internet relationship for the past two years, and I'm happy and he's happy. Everything is going perfect. I've visited him more than once already... about five times per year, each time visiting for a couple of weeks. Some fo the trips I've payed, ut most of the trips he's been the one who's willing to pay.
The problem is, I tell my closest friedns about him, and they don't want to even TRY to support me. Not even when I point out how many more advantages tahn disadvantages I have when it comes to "web dating" and chatting with my guy than actually dating people around me.
They can't understand that it's a lot easier to spend time with him online, since, we can be online almost all day and if we want to talk about soemthing we don't have to wait until we're off work or finished with our homework, because we can talk and do most of our responsibilities at the same time.
They keep telling me that I can get hurt by getting cheated on, but that hardly worries me anymore. I've been cheated and dumped already, twice, by the same reason both times, and I'm sick of worrying about the "what if"s...
I've come to realize that you lose more time in worrying about the "what if"s than actually doing whatever you need to do to complete your goals.
I don't want to change myself just because two pricks cheated on me... it's no reason to start not trusting people, because I know not all people are imbeciles. Specially now, that I have someone special waiting for me on the other side...
I'm sure some of you met or have a special someone over the net... maybe not, but sincerely, I don't see any diference in having acquaintances over the web than in "real life". Either way, they're people... and they can't use the typical idea that "maybe he's not the person he says he is", because if it weren't like that, how come I've been able to visit him about ten times now with having no problems bigger than deciding how would he like his eggs during breakfast?
I completely agree with you; don't mind what your friends say. Sure, there's always a chance of being hurt, but the same is true in any relationship, on or offline! I don't see what the problem is. There's not much more I can say than that.
I agree aswell. I've met my Girlfriend online and she comes from another Country. We usually meet every 3 weeks (thanks god there are so many cheap airlines today).
Anyway, some of my friends also say that "online" relationships (we meet so often, whats the problem?) are stupid and stuff, but I dont care about them. I want to move together with my GF so when this finally happens we can live together happily :)
You've already given yourself the answers to all your questions and thoughts, you have proof to back your ideas up and for you to believe in them. Why exactly are you asking for second opinions, when second opinions aren't even needed?
I believe long distance relationships are always a risk and will become more of a strain as time passes, no matter how wonderfully superb the people involved are.
That is a certain, so while it works over a distance, you should start to plan for making it close.
The bonuses you mention for having a internet relationship can still be enjoyed even if you return to the same house at the end of the working day.
It's the right thing to do to leave place, situation, family and friends behind to go live with your second half, it sets a standard of sincerity to follow you through your mutual life. The relationship above all else.
It does indeed look like you've already given all the answers you need to your problems, or more appropriately, your friends' problems!
If you've actually met him up to 10 times, I'd say it's progressed beyond an "internet relationship" into a long-distance, very real relationship!
I'd make clear to anyone who disapproves, that it's not some internet phantom person, that it's a very real person that you've been with many times, and are serious with!
And just because you've been cheated on/dumped before, there's no reason to give up on love, contrary to what friends might think... you just met the wrong men in the past! The person you're with right now sounds like a wonderful person, if you've both gotten together that many times! (I wouldn't be surprised if these friends are jealous because of the lack of any kind of adventurous true love like that in their lives...)