Half and Half? (17)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-25 20:46 ID:qj5BP0Ch

I was in Seattle last week, and I noticed something kind of interesting about people and relationships. Now I've heard that attractive men will date an ugly/fat girl, love them a lot, but keep her "out of sight", while an attractive girl will date an ugly fat guy but have no problem with being around him in public, and indeed, proclaim him to be the greatest guy ever. You don't see couples that mismatched very often on the other side of Washington where I live, but over there I noticed a lot of couples with normal looking guys with girls who were either 1) the Goodyear blimp with legs(sometimes even the Hindenburg), 2) Were beaten with the ugly stick and then thrown into the Great Pit of Carkoon followed by the fires of Mt. Doom, or 3) Both. I only noticed one couple where the guy was like that- girl was the sort of person most guys would walk into traffic while watching her. They were Japanese, unless other Asians like to speak Japanese in public, while all the horrible girls were white.

Is this normal to have such mismatched couples? I'm not criticizing anyone here, it's just an interesting thing I've noticed. Can people with such opposite levels of physical attractiveness really be happy together? Seems kind of hard to imagine.

2 Name: Frigid Onanoko : 2007-06-25 22:47 ID:cfa2Yb8X

you confused because you no see that match involve more than what can see at first glance.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 05:22 ID:SqVR+jpq

Beauty's in the eye of the beholder. It might be odd, but some people find tubbiness/ugly stick beatings sexy/cute/whatever language youngsters use these days.

It's like having a fetish for tentacle porn or something.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 09:00 ID:f97JnYa+

Over here a lot of the asian girls go out with uglier asian guys.

I think it's the sense of security.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 09:52 ID:JlFeWO5M

I would say it means that someone is in love with the other, personality and soul-wise, not just for the body, which is really overall superficial...

I myself am not bad looking, at least, so I've been told, but I don't specifically seek out good-looking people, and be elitist about romance...

Ironically, the girl I have a crush on is currently fairly overweight, for a blunt example, and she's very aware of it, but her personality is what interests me in her, her likes, dislikes, mindset, and kind heart are just like myself, and that makes me like her...

Physical isn't the only type of compatibility, just the most superficial...

There's also the adage that physically, for the most part, people can change, if needed... Mentally, and Emotionally... Not so much... People can't change their personality near so easily...

Thus, I'd much rather have a person who's personality/heart/emotions/likes-dislikes is like me, than someone who just looks a certain way physically...

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 10:01 ID:KyHLVZpz

>>4
I totally agree (..are you an aussie?). The notion that he will always look up to her and that she could fling him off at a whim. Oh, and I suppose there are girls who genuinely value personality.

I hardly see good-looking asian guys go out with ugly girl though (unless they're a white chick). It's more the case of "I want a hot chick to match my hot car and gain the approval of my friends". Asian guys are so shallow.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-26 10:42 ID:f97JnYa+

>>6

YES I AM! XD

So true. I don't think it's that she could fling him off in a whim, but that he would stick to her. Asian girls are conservative so they like to stick with the same bf. Having a hot bf will make her paranoid that he would cheat or leave her.

I've seen so many gorgeous girls go out with ordinary or ugly guys. I'm pretty sure the guys have a good personality otherwise the gf wouldn't be able to stand him.

But with guys I don't think they really think about how 'secure' their girl is. If she's pretty it's an added bonus. It's sort of like asian guys throwing themselves all out there. High risk, high returns?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-27 03:49 ID:urCS7U+8

some people like to date up, some are more comfortable dating down.

9 Name: ice cold spider : 2007-06-27 12:03 ID:sRK3s1cG

There are two kinds of strange relationships, money involved or heart involved but in majority there are money they don't care what kind of appearance he/she does have nor qualities as long as if they have money..Only a few strange couples have their serious relationships most of them are middle - aged rather than young ones i can sense that..

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 00:19 ID:oFWqrovG

>>3
It is true, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I found most attractive about my current Girlfriend was that she Has unkempt hair, glasses, was socially awkward and is flat chested. Personally I Have a crazy 1860's style facial hair and an horrid slur due to a malformed jaw.

Each person has a different view of what is sexy and what is ugly. While their is the mainstream views, not everyone decides to go with them. :)

PS - Geek girls are awesome!

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 13:24 ID:kKsu6IkB

Geek girls fall into two types but I agree, the good type is awesome.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 20:31 ID:Heaven

The facesitting of moses!

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-10 07:39 ID:zM+SzglR

>>11
Awesome geek girl?

I thought that only happened in the movies.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-10 11:08 ID:Heaven

>>13
My girlfriend is an awesome geek girl. But to be fair, she's not really very geeky (though she likes to call herself that.) She plays a lot of video games, spends a ton of time on the internet, has few friends, and makes the hottest orgasmic noises I have ever heard when we have sex.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-10 16:34 ID:2mRb6J3w

I would have to say that there's probably money involved, or other odd circumstances leading to such events. I mean, I often see attractive young Russian or Asian women hanging on the arms of old fugly and overweight guys, and you can literally see in their eyes, "x days until citizenship" or "How long is it going to take for this toad to croak?" There are some cases, where it is a matter of heart, an event occurred where an otherwise ugly guy's golden personality shines through, and strikes a woman's heart; for example if he saved her life by fighting off a grizzly bear, or saved her from a drunk assailant on a train.

It's interesting the Asian dating game. The duality of Asian sexuality affects the out-dating and in-dating ratios, and reasons. Asian women, by the media, are placed high. As a result, they can have any guy they pick. Early generational Asians tend, because of their upbringing in an Asian community, tend to prefer Asian males. However, with succeeding generations in non-Asian communities, they tend to out-date more and more, often expressing a preference for white males over Asian males. The reason for this is because of the reverse treatment of the Asian males predominantly. Asian males in the media are non-existent as sexual figures, with perhaps the exception of Bruce Lee, and that guy from Lost. As a result, Asian males only tend to have luck within their own community from early generational girls, and not much elsewhere. A lone exception, of course is from weeaboo girls, who have the girl equivalent of Yellow Fever anyways.

>>6
You have, congratulations, identified a HK FOB. No, it's mainly just Hong Kong that makes people shallow. Hong Kong, even after its merge with the PRC, is the capital of materialism. Anything has a price tag in HK.

16 Name: Kira : 2007-07-11 09:27 ID:Bjv3O7KB

In America I see lots of lesser attractive girls dating with good looking guys. of course there is nothing wrong with it since guys fall for the personality. Also vise-versa for that situation and there is nothing wrong with it. Person who sees that is wrong.

Remember not all people are attractive outside in this world. Give them chances!

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-11 10:04 ID:zM+SzglR

>>15
My experience with fobs, is that they naturally find Westerners so enchanting. The girls see white males as charming, charismatic, gentlemen. Whilst the guys are bewitched by the exoticness of blond, blue-eyed females. Likewise, the white males with Asian females. The inequality in all of this is that white females tend not to find Asian males attractive. Quite often, they only play with them until they get bored, or until his wallet runs dry.

Which is why I can't help but think how shallow interracial relationships must be. Most often, they're attracted to the culture of each other, not the actual individual. Both sides find each other so delightful, and only niceties are ever exchanged. I mean, how can you truly understand a person if you have a language/cultural barrier? The notion that love is universal is bull. There is so much ignorance involved in relationships between Westerners and fobs, that it's kind of sad.

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