Have you ever... (14)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-07 21:50 ID:Ix+RuJ1p

...considered confessing love despite all signs saying you shouldn't? To a person you're almost certain will reject you? Knowing that you're risking everything, and have very little chance of success?

If it was anything else, I would've accepted my defeat. But love isn't game theory, and logical thinking just doesn't work...

2 Name: 43 : 2007-07-07 21:54 ID:1HL/LfWB

no pain=no gain

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-07 22:00 ID:0Zbe62Ux

No

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-07 22:32 ID:JAxTQiqp

no

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 00:34 ID:f8PBRtOW

yes....
My current GF was the one whom I though I had no hope with. She actually was trying to tell me politely 'no' but I probed her reasons and begged her to give me a chance. a few dates latter she finally returned the feeling to me. Now we are both happy with eachother :)

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 06:14 ID:1qlssT8Q

Yes, and it sucked ass.

And one time where I was considering doing it and didn't, it would've worked out so well. Ah, well.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 06:26 ID:WXsOERr4

Nope.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-08 22:21 ID:Heaven

I don't think I'd ever do that. Sounds dangerous. And kinda stupid and embarassing for the other person. You gotta go with the signs the other person gives you and trust them. That's what body language is for.

9 Name: OP : 2007-07-09 22:03 ID:7MOpiDJC

>>8
Probably true... The problem is that I find myself incapable of giving up. Maybe I just keep lying to myself, but there is no way I could be 100% sure she will reject me, unless I actually ask her out.
So because I still have tiny bit of hope, I feel I have to take the risk. Also, otherwise it'll never end.
Another thing is that I'm not good at interpreting things, and my view of the situation not only isn't objective, but also sometimes changes rapidly depending on my mood...so I don't trust myself, I don't feel like my conclusions are any good.

(Not really asking for advice here, just presenting my view and asking if anyone has been in similar position.)

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-09 22:44 ID:OJ7gv8cn

I've liked my best friend's bf for 5 years now even if I have a bf of my own (and I love him a lot). But I don't think I can stop liking my friend's bf until he rejects me but I don't have the courage to confess.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-11 03:01 ID:G7Yp7Q9A

>>9

Well, I'm the type that never dared do anything, so maybe you should go for it. So long as you aren't too overboard and over-dramatic about it, what's the worst that could happen?

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-11 04:30 ID:Heaven

Sounds pretty stupid if the other person isn't interested in you at all. Enjoy your failure.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-11 05:21 ID:Heaven

Nothing wrong with failure.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-11 08:49 ID:Heaven

As long as you learn from it.

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