It's recently occurred to me that I don't find ANY real girls (or guys mind you) attractive or desirable. I never have, and I probably never will. I'm nineteen, and I'm like this still. It started around when I was younger (read: 13) and stumbled upon hentai for the first time.
I've noticed an oddity about me. I do, however, develop feelings for anime girls once in a while. I usually obsess about them when I discover one for a period of quite some time. I set them as my desktop, save both work-safe pictures and ones not so work-safe, and even buy tons of merchandise (figures, posters, etc.) of these anime girls. I'd probably marry one of them if I could. They're just so moé that I just couldn't say no.
Anyways, my parents are pissed at me since I show no sexuality except for anime girls. They say I waste my money on "trash" instead of gifts for a "real girl." This is my money I earn from my job, and I spend it as I desire. Other than anime merchandise, I also save up to fund my college expedition, so it's not like I'm a NEET or anything.
Am I hopeless? Have I passed the point to develop sexuality for real women? Is it even possible to be an asexual human? Have I perhaps developed an anime sexuality that will get me nowhere in life? Should I just buy a hug pillow?
Help me. I'm confused with myself. ;__;
You may feel like this now, but you'll probably change when you get older. Everyone changes. 19 is still quite young, and I bet you $5 that you won't even like anime that much when you're 40.
However, it is not impossible to be asexual. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality. You could stay that way the rest of your life, but I don't think it would be a problem. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it. Just accept yourself for who you are.
Just don't buy a hug pillow. Those things are fucking creepy.
dont worry, just wank. that will do
Save up for a real silicone love doll. They can make them with anime girl heads now, and the best thing is you can get one that looks like she's 14.
Hey there-- I'm 19 and not too horribly sexually attracted to anything living either.
I too got into hentai in a big way when I was in middle school.
I have a girlfriend, and we don't have sex, although she likes to make out with me from time to time.. but I don't see what she gets out of it.
Anyway, my point is: maybe you actually ARE asexual, but most likely you've just oversexualized anime women.
I'm with >>2 though: don't worry about it, it's not actually a problem. If you eventually feel sexual towards flesh-and-blood human beings, so be it. If you don't, I think you'll find ways of being happy anyway.
Your not an anime sexual; you're just pathetic.
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Erm. I don't mean to sound cold hearted, or rude, but really - get laid. It'll change your mind.
Monsignor:
I must regretfully report that your deep and insigntful analysis of the situation glances over one minor, insignificant detail.
Seeing as how we in this thread are men who have no interest in real women, having chosen instead to immerse ourselves in fictional romance, we are obviously disinclined to willingly pursue human relationships.
Now, discounting the possibility of purchasing sex through means of a prostitute, your admonition to "get laid" overlooks the fact that, prior to the onset of sexual intercourse, one must often go through a lengthy and complex courtship ritual. Should said ritual fail to produce the desired result, the process must be repeated.
When one considers that, as stated above, we anime-lovers are disinclined to even begin this courtship process, I think even you can begin to see where your theory breaks down.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts as pertain to bridging the vast chasm between our situational reality and your crass, oversimplified palliative. Good day.
>>10
How do you know you're not gay if you've never had sex with another guy?
Pretentious secret admirer is pretentious
>>1
If you haven't yet, I recommend trying out love-romance computer games.
I find the level of emotion I can feel for (semi-)interactive game characters experienced from a first-person perspective is much, much higher than non-interactive cartoon characters watched as a 3rd-person observer.
(Honestly, I've never fallen in love with a character from a non-interactive medium, ever, which does mean I’m probably a little different than you. But in romance games I've fallen hard, it’s just like real life, you can’t get the girl out of your head all day long even when you’re trying to get work done or whatever.)
Obviously this varies from person to person—it may turn out that your internal fantasies built from observed characters as raw material suit you better than romance game scenarios pre-designed by other people, but I think you should check them out at least and see what you think. (And of course, you can extend the game experience with additional internal fantasies.)
The only real issue is, if you don’t know Japanese, the number of such games available in English is really small (you could play every titled released so far a month or two) so if you turn out to like them, you do pretty much need to learn Japanese to keep up with it.
It's too bad your parents react that way, though.
My mother doesn't care at all.
'Course I am 33 now so maybe she just gave up.
>>11
Pretty much covered it.
I think people for whom organizing their life around pursuit of the opposite sex is standard procedure simply don't understand how enormous a project it would be for someone whose life isn't like that to "just go get laid."
Never mind the fact that for a lot of us, the sex act itself is barely even important. We care about who we're bonding body and soul with, not whether or not we happened to put tab A into slot B with somebody whose name we can't even remember. If I just want an orgasm, I can do that on my own.
At a more fundamental level—we've discovered we can efficiently trick our brains into producing the emotional output we want to feel. Why the hell would be go back to wasting enormous amounts of time in "real life" to accomplish the same thing?
Anime girls are awesome. This behavior was covered in Akihabara@deep, where Box-kun, the character whom obsessively changes gloves and only likes two-dimensional girls, is absolutely averse from the idea of dating a real girl.
Now where did I put the thread shredder?
its not hard to get laid.
...ok, mabey it is by some1 w/o herpies/aids/on a street corner, but still...
i thought >>1 sexually likes animals for a moment LMAO
and I though I didn't have a life...
>>14
Ohyeah, I know what you're talking about here. Surely I have never fallen for one of those as hard as I've fallen for real girls, and I can't help but constantly be reminded about the fact that there's some lonely, perverted palm-reaming jap who sat there kneading his sweaty, jism-oozing hardon while typing, who made up the characters. This kind of withdraws from the experience of falling for fictional charcters I find. Nonetheless it's possible, unless you also get frustrated by blatant plotholes and at times aggrivatingly shallow and undynamic personalities...
But still... Well it has happened once or twice, but I can still relate!
Hey I remember this awesome and totally sweet girlfriend simulator I played many years ago. "virtual wife" or something. It wasn't one of those shitty 3d-things, it was traditional 2d-art, very attractive style and finish, and the girl was very sweet. You could select personality/blood-type, body type, hair type etc. Then you would decide what to do for each day, and you'd go to work, come home and spend time with the girl, do shit and lastly give her a daily fuck(although sometimes she wasn't in the mood I guess)
Man I would love to play that game again, does anyone know what game I'm talking about?
The big problem is my version wasn't translated so I hardly understood shit, and I've been unable to rediscover it ever since.
Saying you're asexual means you can reproduce with yourself. And you're probably not an amoeba.
I don't think you're asexual at all. You find yourself getting attracted to women in anime at the least. Infact, I think you've conditioned yourself into the position you're in right now!
For years, (And to overuse this word), I conditioned myself into yellow-fever, to the point where I would only like, consider and look at asian girls.
It's taken a lot of work, but now I can atleast say that I wouldn't discriminate a hot white girl from an average looking asian girl. Even still, I have a natural preferance now towards asians, and blah blah, but if you work at it, you'll return into the fold.
You're only 19, you still have a lot to experience in life. Wait till a girl gets close to you, accidently touches you or you notice the way she smells.
Not being perverted or anything ;p But sometimes it's the slightest thing that can attract us towards someone.
>>12
can work the other way, How does he know he is not hetero if he has never had sex with a woman?
>>1
So you're not attracted to any women from porn or TV or anything?
I would say I'm the same, but I guess I'm not. I'm attracted to a few celebrities, and now that I've started college, a few women in real life.
I guess generally, I'm more like >>24.
I was asexual, then somehow conditioned myself to have yellow fever (through anime, I guess), and then, with work, conditioned myself somewhat out of it.
speaking as a polyromantic asexual person...
dude, yer weird! .. ... But I love ya any--WAY!
Just be your-self. Respect the Wisdom of your Elders. Aim for Longevity.
kind of the same here. I can only get off to h-titles and eromanga at this point.
I'm like this I think. But it's more because I'm not attracted to bitches and whores, which a large majority of real women happen to be. Here anyways.