I'm in love with a shy girl. (45)

1 Name: ... : 2007-09-14 00:48 ID:CIsVJjxf

I love this girl, but shes shy and only seems to talk when shes around her friends. I have no idea what her interests are either. Another problem is that I'm the same way.
So...How can I talk with her?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 01:40 ID:0KCDsqsU

"I have no idea what her interests are"
"Only seems to talk when she's around her friends"

So you don't know her interests and you've barely spoken to her? You're not in love.

3 Name: ... : 2007-09-14 01:51 ID:CIsVJjxf

Well I'd like to get to know her.

4 Name: ... : 2007-09-14 01:53 ID:CIsVJjxf

I didn't really word it correctly...

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 03:03 ID:/wjxx4ym

chances are she refuses to talk to you instead but talks to other guys she fancies. try to be more observant first, after all the world doesn't revolve around you buddy.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 15:01 ID:Oe9O/ToI

Surely you only have to initiate the conversation. As a shy guy, that's really the only way I ever talk to a girl, if she talks to me first. I figure it must work the other way around too.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-14 23:22 ID:Q1cReZAR

Yep, lead your conversations and get to know her.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-15 01:25 ID:BVZkMheq

The thing about shy people is, it takes time to get them comfortable with you. All you have to do is talk to them everyday or so, It doesn't have to be much, just a hi, how are you. Whatcha doing, Do you like this class/book/etc, and say a little about yourself.

Thats all.

9 Name: Kurono : 2007-09-16 01:14 ID:yfossxaw

I agree with >>5 and try seeing if she's like that with other people. Just make sure it's not obsessive or if you find out not to pan out a million scenarios what it might mean. >>8 also has a point. Shy people have to be comfortable and take things at their own pace. Yep. Take it from me, just talking makes a whole lot of difference. Just don't show too much attention because most girls will put you in the friend zone.

10 Name: ... : 2007-09-17 15:14 ID:CIsVJjxf

Even though you told me how to start...I still cant think of something to say. its harder when Im around her.

11 Name: ... : 2007-09-17 17:55 ID:CIsVJjxf

"its harder when Im around her."

XD

12 Name: ... : 2007-09-17 22:52 ID:CIsVJjxf

I need to stop making those jokes... -.-

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-18 03:30 ID:Heaven

>>12
Add "stop replying to my own posts" to your list of new years resolutions.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-18 07:14 ID:Heaven

I think it's a bit late for those.

15 Name: Kurono : 2007-09-19 14:12 ID:noKpu0Bk

>>1 Just keep going no matter how hard it gets( no pun intended, though it is funny.) You'll get there.

16 Name: ... : 2007-09-27 01:59 ID:CIsVJjxf

I told my friend, and hes going to try to hook me up with her. (Hes surprisingly good with the ladies).

17 Name: Kurono : 2007-09-27 12:43 ID:noKpu0Bk

>>16 That's good. But what's the relationship between your friend and her? Also no matter what the relationship between them, you should try and also work on trying to hook yourself up with her. Can't leave everything to your friend, after all. Good luck.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-27 13:37 ID:RyzI0Ibm

18 get!

19 Name: ... : 2007-09-27 19:30 ID:CIsVJjxf

I'm not just relying on my friend on everything. We're both doing the best that we can to do what ever we can. I don't want him to do everything, then my relationship with her wouldn't be as great as I'd want it to be.

My relationship with her is improving, but very slowly. I don't mind, at least it's something!

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-28 14:15 ID:PknBio2m

>>16

She'll end up falling for your friend. And then gradually your friend will realise he has feelings for her too. He warms her up for you, but he doesn't wanna get off the seat. Meanwhile, you're waiting, watching her from afar, wondering why you're not getting any closer to her after six weeks. Your friend assures you he's sealed the deal for you, and fends you off with a "Give her a little time.". But the guilt is gnawing him inside, he just can't lie to his best mate any longer. He finally works up the courage to admit that he's actually been going out with her for the past month and a half.

You'll chuck a physco, throw things around, kill a few kittens. And in an all out rage, you kick him out of your friendship circle. You and your friends spray "Bros before hoes" over his Mustang, to teach him a lesson. His girlfriend (your girl of interest), sees him trying to clean off the tag. She can't understand why anyone would do this to him. What a monster, she thinks. Your ex-friend spills the beans, thinking she deserves to know the truth. After hearing her beloved boyfriend being targeted by some punkass jock and his crew, she totally forgets her shyness and sets about to confront you and your posse (unbeknown to your ex-friend).

She rocks up at your front door. Buzz once. Buzz twice. You answer the door. You are taken aback by who is there. But before you can recollect yourself, she lets rip a tonne of offensive and creative insults that you didn't know was possible coming out from her petite, perfectly shaped mouth. After what seems like an eternity, your heart feeling like it's been stabbed repeatedly a million times, she turns to leave. No. This wasn't how it was supposed to turn out. Why does she hate you? Can't she see that it was you who spotted her first? Life is so unfair. What kind of fucking conspiracy is this??

You grab her arm. She spins around, with a face filled with indignation. She demands you to let her go. Your grip only gets tighter. Panic flashes across her face. She struggles, whilst screaming for help. You say nothing. So small. So fragile. So easily broken. She screams and won't stop. But she has stopped struggling. You finally let go of her limp arm. Eyes glazed over, you take in the scene. You leave her there to contemplate about the pain she has caused you. Bones can be mended, but it takes a lot longer to heal a broken heart.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-28 16:54 ID:aePMtWYa

>>20

LOL is a commonly overused internet saying, but I can actually say I burst out laughing while reading that.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-29 02:35 ID:Heaven

>>20
That was beautiful.

23 Name: ... : 2007-10-03 19:08 ID:CIsVJjxf

That was great.

One more thing I find to be great: He's done absolutely nothing, and I've done just about everything. The only people I know who seems to know about my feelings are her own friends and not mine. It's also better that I'm getting to her more than he is. If I got with her because of him and he new everything while I new nothing, life would surely suck.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-05 15:24 ID:zmvJL0BA

Yeah. She would put him in the friend boat, leaving her more inclined to spill things out to him, rather than you.

25 Name: ... : 2007-10-10 18:37 ID:CIsVJjxf

luckily he doesn't know her at all.

26 Name: Default : 2007-10-22 21:01 ID:MS3deOG9

>>1
I helped a shy kid get out of his shell. Don't give her TOO much attention, just start conversations, give them time to speak, possibly get to know her friends.... That kind of thing.

27 Name: Default : 2007-10-22 21:06 ID:MS3deOG9

>>20
Ooh... nice description. Very realistic. Just a question: Are you speaking from experience? Just curious as to whether that's pure talent or memory....

Yeah, idle hands are the devil's workshop in this case. Read my previous post.

Also, keep doing everything. Don't stop.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-30 09:09 ID:Jc4DXO5P

>>20
Ronery. Oh so ronery.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-06 06:01 ID:yaF3uqPV

>>20

O.O wow. You should write a book.

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-06 06:25 ID:yaF3uqPV

More guys should try shy girls. All they really want is the determination to break down their walls. If you're persistent, they won't refuse you.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-06 11:03 ID:Oe9O/ToI

I never seem to meet shy girls. Or at least, none of them are anywhere near as shy as I am.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-08 16:26 ID:PVQSHIta

As a shy girl myself, if an even semi-cute guy confidently walks up to me and starts talking to me, I'll find it attractive. Just find an excuse to talk to here about 3/4ths of the times you see her, so she'll start wondering if you like her and if she likes you.

Another good trick would be to get to know other friends of hers, so that you get invited to gatherings where you both will be comfortable.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-09 05:37 ID:pxiteXjp

Where can I find shy girls? :(

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-09 07:11 ID:UI2XM/r8

you can find them on the train.

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-10 15:53 ID:KomltjfC

Wheather she's shy or not, the first step is always talking to someone. I guess I'm not convinced that you can 'love' someone you haven't even had a conversation with. What if she ends up being an introverted mass murderer? XD j/k

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-10 20:27 ID:3VaRoL9z

Talking to someone through IM programs (MSN etc) is a great way to get to know someone who doesn't open up easily. many people are more open when talking through text only. Very geeky, but hey.

37 Name: Default : 2007-11-10 20:31 ID:MS3deOG9

>>36
yeah, that works with one girl I like, and she's been more open to me in real life as of late.

38 Name: ... : 2007-11-13 02:24 ID:CIsVJjxf

She still haven't said anything to me, but her friend did say that they were going to f*ck me up and put me in a coma if I talked to them again...

Luckily we worked things out somehow, and we're friends now and he's going to try to convince her to talk to me. =P

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 07:15 ID:mSNlBLfk

>>38

>her friend did say that they were going to f*ck me up and put me in a coma

haha oh wow

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 14:09 ID:zmvJL0BA

>>38

Sounds like a sequel to >>20.

41 Name: ... : 2007-11-18 05:37 ID:CIsVJjxf

he couldn't do anything useful to convine her or her bitchy friend. But in class, she does watch me and smile...hooray formore than her just acknowlaging my existence! Im going to wait for her to reply to a message I sent yesterday. If no luck, I simply talk to her before class. (easiest time to get to her).

42 Name: ChickMagnet : 2007-11-20 21:09 ID:Gz+H8Tjb

I've liked this mega-hottie for a long time. Once every week we flirt. She talks to her friends a lot and she stares at me sometimes. I think she maybe could like me. But, she flirts with a couple other guys who play football ocassionally. She's really popular and I'm kind of popular. But, I don't play football. I'm sort of strong and I'm a black belt and I'm attractive to girls a lot and I'm a pretty good flirt. Sometimes I don't know what to do and I'm stuck and I don't know what to say to her. Also, sometimes she's really energetic and sometimes she's extremely tired.

Do you think I have a chance of getting her?
If so what should I say to her?

43 Name: ChickMagnet : 2007-11-20 21:11 ID:Gz+H8Tjb

she's really shy most of the time also

44 Name: ... : 2007-11-21 07:15 ID:CIsVJjxf

>>42
you could do what I did and talk about random stuff online. and hopefully you wouldnt have to go through the same shit I did.

45 Name: Kurono : 2007-11-21 14:52 ID:noKpu0Bk

You might possibly have a chance, and if so, although I'm probably the last person to be saying this, ask her out. No harm in trying. If she doesn't then you don't have to worry about it anymore. And if she does, then well congrats. If you can't keep talking and flirting and whatever else you do, until you can ask her out.

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