I'm in love with a fictional character. No, not infatuated. I love this man (I'm a girl). I don't feel the same way about anyone else, real or not. I know a a lot of people who want to date me, so it's not that I can't get a real boy or girlfriend. It's just I don't want them.
I think about him all the time. I didn't start out even attracted to him but after years of playing the games I fell in love with him and like I really know him. It's not just that he represents the ideal partner to me, even if I found a real person like that, I wouldn't care. I only love him.
Is anyone else in this situation? How do they deal with it?
If not, do you think I'm crazy? Just tell me your thoughts on this situation, please.
Yes you are insane, case closed.
Troll
I'm serious, guys, if I was a troll I'd put this in 4 or 7 chan.
>>1
Get some help. Or just look for a guy that has those same traits.
One thing you have to recognize is. Does this fictional character love you back, does he know you exist. Does he call every time you call. Does he have someone on the side?
All things you need to look out for. He may be cheating on you. Or he may be gay. Who knows.
> Or he may be gay.
Sephiroth is indisputably gay, case closed.
What he said; you'd be surprised who you can find in real life that you can get along with and feel the same feelings for. You may think there's no one else and than the next you walk out of your house you find love walking on the sidewalk. These emotions really fuck with your head, I've been in that state of mind before and trust me, it will fade.
I am falling in love with fictional characters all the time. It feels like this at first but it will eventually fade out.
What's the name of the fictional character you have fall in love with? Maybe I have loved him in the past!
This has happened to me...but luckily I'm "emo" as some people say, so it is easy to tell myself that I'm not worthy of her.
Not the best way to deal with it, but I have fallen out of love many a time using this method :)
I wondered if this is possible. In a good story you feel for the characters, weep if they die. This guy has taken it a step further. He'll never procreate with his imaginary mate, but we weep when Druss died anyway and that wasn't at all gay.
a ten post troll...gj
Two things:
Grow up, get a life.
Either you're an adolescent that hasn't grown out of her Peter Pan complex yet. Or, your social life is near non existent (probably hikki). Those are the two types of people who become obsessed with fictional characters.
Hi all, I'm kinda new here and I need help gettin back in motion. I don't really know how to put it, it's kind of like I lost my interest in girls(not that im homosexual or anything).
It's like ever since my last girlfriend I really don't know how to say it but i guess emotion to talk to girls or feeling like i lost my spunk haha.
I'm a fairly attractive guy(not trying to be cocky or anything) and girls approach me all the time but i haven't had much interest; maybe in a couple but I really haven't pursued anyone.
So I just need some motivation or something thanks in advance.
Why do you guys keep thinking I'm a troll?
And I appreciate your replies, even the 'mean' ones as they could very well be true.
You're probably just horny. I fantasize about Seto Kaiba fucking me all the time. Truth is, it's weird but when you find a real boyfriend, you'll forget you even thought about such a juvenile thing.
I've always considered myself to have a kind of 2D complex, but I don't think there's anything inherently unhealthy about it. Though I guess that kind of love is guaranteed to be unrequited, and for some that's bad, for others that's good. Don't have to think "should I ask them out", because you can't talk with them. For that reason it reduces the pressure.
I do think it will pass though. More than likely you'll find another character.
As for me, I had a whole year crush on Haruhi and then Yuki, but lately I think I'm favouring Sasaki more.
That being said, lately I've been feeling my first crush on a real person in nearly four years. Whether I actually do something about it is another matter entirely. Rather than risking disappointment I might just enjoy the change in preferences for a while.
>>17
A friend in R/L who wants to marry a certain game character.
I've found it's best just to ride out R/L crushes. I mean, realistically speaking, for those of us who fit the otaku mold, what are the odds that a crush would ever lead to anything worthwhile? I can't imagine many girls would stick around for very long after seeing the dakimakura, figures, and collection of Megami issues.
So, stick with the fictional characters. At least with them, it's no question as to whether they mind who you are -- they're categorically incapable of judging, being inanimate and all.
> I can't imagine many girls would stick around for very long after seeing the dakimakura, figures, and collection of Megami issues.
So, throw them out or put them in storage.
On the bright side, manga and models are still better than owning six RealDolls with triple-entry detachable orifices.
Having actual nonplatonic human contact is still better than both.
>>So, throw them out or put them in storage.
>>So, throw them out
>>throw them out
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I think I've got the same problem, but it's not popular characters, but role=playing ones on MMORPGS.
I've fallen in love with their words and it's made me a bit jaded about guys in general.
Is it bad I prefer virtual boys to real ones?
I'd also consider myself to have some what of a 2D fixation, but I am also an artist, so I think it's more along the lines of being attracted to the colors and lines of a good character design more than it is wishing I could have a relationship with the character, although I do at times find myself thinking, "wow I wish (insertnamehere, lately it's been Konata) was real, it would be so awesome" But then I slap myself and go outside.
Someone needs to invent a way to create people anyway you want for situations like this. That, or persacoms.
>>26
yes, now go outside
chii?
Seriously, you people should go out more.
For those who think of what are the odds and all that shit: There IS someone to whom you can be attractive, not physically only, but goes between character, intelligence and opinions on subjects. Look at me, I love anime, have my room plastered in anime and game posters, have shelves with figurines, manga and a lot of anime paraphernalia. Heck, even the spades of my ceiling fan have anime images on them.
Still, I've got a steady relationship with an awesome girl. The kicker: She doesn't like anime. She likes me because of what I think, because I am a kinda funny person (os she says) and because I emmanate happiness, so to speak. And I like her for her intelligence and love for the arts.
The point is, don't let a hobby to limit your chance to be with another human being. OF course, chance that he/she will look vaguely similar to your preferred anime character is almost below zero, but with some open mind, some guts, and some shampoo you can find a person you'll probably like.
>I can't imagine many girls would stick around for very long after seeing the dakimakura, figures, and collection of Megami issues.
I think I'd propose on the spot.
Believe me, there are many, many geeky girls out there who will love your collection.
>>Believe me, there are many, many geeky girls out there who will love your collection.
I believe you. But I also believe that the "geeky girls" to whom you refer are more properly called "figments of the imagination".
Put it this way: between the dakimakura, figures of girls wearing little in the way of clothing, and Megami pin-ups, what I've got is a treasure trove of female objectification. And I admit it. Once you start getting into the pillows, you have to come to terms with the fact that you really have no remaining pride in yourself as a human being.
Now, I can accept, if only theoretically, that some girls might be able to tolerate that. After all, lots of guys in stable relationships get to (somehow) keep their Sports Illustrated swimsuit pin-ups and what have you, so there's a precedent -- my stuff is just abstracted a few degrees further from reality. Small potatoes, theoretically speaking.
Of course, real life is what happens when theory gets T-boned at 90 mph by the Mack truck of practice. Experience has shown me that while pictures of flesh and blood girls in bikinis are considered an acceptable part of hetrosexual male life, pictures of ink and paint girls in same are not. I know this, yet I'm not willing to throw away my collection. Call it obstinance in the face of societal mores, call it the guy from Tianmen Square who got creamed by that tank, call it a seal about to become some shark's dinner, call it whatever.
Tl;dr: my interests + female involvement = catastrophe waiting to happen. But Mr. Secret Admirer, you say, "geeky girls" are different. Fine, let's run with that.
So, somehow I've managed to weasel my way into a relationship with a "geeky girl" who has no issues with the ink and paint thing. Maybe she's running a yaoi fixation on the side, maybe she's into cosplay, whatever. Life is good, right? I've got cuddles and love, and warm happiness stuff. But what's that ominous-looking object falling from the sky? That, my friends, is the 1,500-megaton might of postmodern gender theory, about to toast my nerdy ass.
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Pop quiz: why are things like pin-ups and scantily-clad, anatomically-correct figures considered to be offensive by many? Answer: because they reinforce heteronormative gender images that lead to an objectivication of women. (Literally, in this case.)
Now, this in and of itself isn't strictly a problem. (Though I fully expect that the folks from the Third Wavers' Club on campus would dispute that point.) As long as I keep my enjoyment of such things strictly to myself and strive to minimize within my professional and academic lives the associative effects of such an intense male aesthetic gaze, then we don't necessarily have a problem. My interests and my life are separate, and infringe upon nobody and nothing at all. The fact that I'm basically a hermetic loser who has minimal contact with women in his day-to-day life works somewhat in my favor, here.
Again, for whatever reason, I can theoretically accept that a girl might conceivably be willing to tolerate such things within the scope of an otherwise healthy relationship. (That said, I doubt it would actually happen, but continuing on...) However, I cannot, even for a moment, accept that any self-aware member of the female gender would, as you say, love my collection.
Take, for example, a pin-up of Louise from Zero no Tsukaima. She's at the beach, wearing a black string bikiki with red trim and white ribbons where the strings meet the modesty patches. She rests her hands on her hips as she meets the viewer's gaze and scowls, presumably telling the viewer off in her lovably tsundere fashion. I like this pin-up. No, check that, I love it. It's far and away my favorite. If I could get married to it, I would, though I concede the sex would probably be somewhat anticlimactic. Perhaps literally, if paper cuts are involved.
The appeal of this poster to the heteronormative male gaze is self-evident: it's a cute girl in a skimpy bikini. She even appears distressed by the fact that she's being watched, which is, as they say, totally hot. However, the aforementioned male gaze that dominates this picture -- along with Louise's reaction to that gaze -- places in severe doubt the notion that any self-aware girl would even tolerate this poster, much less "love" it.
I could cite further examples, but you're all asleep by now, so I won't bother. That, or you're busy composing other threads about how the music of My Chemical Romance perfectly captures the feeling of being dumped, which no one else has ever experienced. Or about how incest is the greatest thing devised by man since Count Chocula.
My point, however, is simple: a girl might tolerate my figures, pillows, and posters, despite their targeted focus towards a heteronormative male gaze. However, that same focus would categorically prevent a girl from "loving" them, and would, in fact, cast serious doubt on the likelihood of my earier theoretical concession towards the possibility of tolerance.
Thus, for a guy in my position, there it little chance that a girl would tolerate my collection and even less that she would endorse it. My original assertion from >>23 stands. Q.E.D.