I got troubles, guys (11)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 05:39 ID:h+4wiU60

I met a girl who already has a boyfriend, but we kissed on the first date anyway. Problem is, I don't know what to do next. There are several issues. On one hand, she talks to me every time she sees me and clearly wants me to do something. But she doesn't want to do stuff because she's worried about the boyfriend. Also, I'm not all that interested in her, so it would be mean to confront the boyfriend, but I am kind of sex-starved and I don't have any other options.

Tonight I went to her social dance club which is the only thing she's invited me to do so far. After a SINGLE dance with her I left-- the norm would have been to dance with someone else but I was quite certain I would embarrass myself. I gave her a dumb excuse. She said she was worried that she scared me away. I gave TWO more dumb excuses and ran out the door. (Yes, I hate myself already.) Obviously this situation is not working out for me.

What should I do? Since I am not all that invested in her, my options are open and they range from a damaging learning experience to just being a "nice guy" who eventually fades out of her life. Should I go to her club again? Should I invite her to a party? Should I confront her about what she wants from me?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 06:06 ID:sVfYgWAI

Just say you aren't attracted to her anymore.
You can chill, but use the "friend" line.
Word.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 13:28 ID:d2NxhvDo

Well,... Since your problem is to be sex-starved, but she does not want to do anything because of her boyfriend, probably the best is to pass her, and look for another girl, more attractive and available to you.

As for her, no need to antagonize her, although you should be clear that you don't want to go out with her.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 13:40 ID:NA+Ch/C2

wtf is wrong with girls these days? if i was the boyfriend i would dump that whore and kick your ass

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 14:08 ID:MXKI/JOa

tell her ur deeply in love with her and she has to make a decision. sometimes its right to do the wrong thing.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 15:09 ID:h+4wiU60

>>3
I try, but I'm still so shy that I kick myself constantly for passing up opportunities, and some people find me socially awkward. There aren't that many options for me. I'll try to get drunk more often this winter.

>>5
I don't want her to dump her boyfriend. I just want some fucking on the side.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 08:30 ID:mPMS/EGV

ok, well then it sounds like she obviously wants to do something with you then. just take her out on a romantic night and if she agrees and all goes well you should have some sex on your hands right?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 19:39 ID:1WQCmyGn

You owe it to the boyfriend to tell him about this. Bros before hoes, man. He should be informed that he's dating a slut.

You should still have sex with her a few times before you do this, of course. Might as well milk the situation for all it's worth.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-03 03:07 ID:Heaven

I think this is going to peter out, unless if she suddenly invites me out tomorrow or something. Oh well. I'm going to find me some alcohol now.

I don't know who her boyfriend is.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-03 04:18 ID:Heaven

lol >>4 is right

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-03 10:22 ID:Heaven

>>7
i think sex on his hands is the problem he's trying to resolve...

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