I tend to develop major crushes on people that I haven't seen for a very long time. Or at least, fantasize about them. But the thing is, I wasn't even slightly romantically interested in them before they moved away. It's happened quite a few times now, and it just strikes me as a bit odd because we're usually pretty neutral friends, and they're pretty average looking.
Has anyone else experienced this?
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yeah i know what you mean. i think i have a distance problem tho. i dont let people get close to me because i think i'll end up getting hurt. it sux bawls
Yes. It sucks and you should probably sucker punch yourself in order to make you see it's never gonna come true and realize you're doing this unconsciously because you're either uninterested or afraid of relationships or getting to something big so you fall in love with people who are not available because that way you can never have a chance at trying having something real with them.
I don't know if I'm trolling you or being completely honest with my comment. This thread makes me angry and sad.
Your honesty is truthful.
I have the same issues as the posters above, and I understand the reasons, being exactly what you've mentioned.
I'd have to stop making excuses for myself, and make my mind up. I have the feeling though, I never will. I'll turn into something ugly instead, I already am.
It's that "you only miss things when they're gone" feeling, right?
You tend to take your friends for granted. Because you assume they'll be around for a long time, there's no need to rush into a relationship. Or maybe certain negative aspects of them prevented you from dating them.
But now that they're gone and out of your reach, there's no penalty for fantasizing about them. Cause you're not going to look them in the face the next day. Also, you'll remember all the ideal things about them, and make them wonderful fantasizing material in your head.
Totally natural, just don't stay in that zone forever. Date some local people and you'll realize how nice face to face is.