I posted this on another forum and got crap responses from people basically calling me a doormat and now telling me any new ideas except a threesome suggestion which neither one of us are into, so I am going to try here. I am not a doormat by the way, I do these things to show my future husband that I love, care deeply for, and appreciate him.
I love my fiance, so I work hard to please him. So, I am looking to surprise him with something new to do. To not get answers suggesting what I already know, this is what I do:
I do the cooking and baking, so a fancy dinner is not really special for us. It was special in the beginning because he had never had a girlfriend that cooked. I never meant it to be special or romantic anyways, it's just something to bring to the marriage table and I like cooking.
We do the role play/BDSM thing during sex often. It is extremely pleasurable, but now it is kind of normal for us.
He gets hand, back, foot, scalp massage all the time. He works hard so I want to help him unwind after a long day. So, he enjoys this but it is kind of expected at this point. That's fine, I know he gets sore and he is grateful for every little thing.
The latest thing is when in the bath or shower, I massage and bathe him thoroughly, he doesn't need to do anything except turn around so I can wash his back and lift his feet so I can wash the bottoms. So, at first it was all new and special...but it's going to be a regular thing so I need to please him with something new.
Any new ideas? I would prefer answers from men, because I want to know what men like, not what women think men like.
Hahahahahahahahahaha. >>19-21, you've made my day. I'm nearly in tears from laughing so hard. Thank you, thank you, I love you. Down with women's rights! Women are inferior to men! Oh man. I love the internet.
Back on topic: >>1, if you both love each other you shouldn't need to do anything more than you're already doing. No, seriously. If you feel like you're not good enough for him right now, something's wrong.
>>16 I think it is important to some men to feel needed, important, and even superior in some ways. He might want to teach his woman about something new, it gives him a type of satisfaction. By telling him "I know how to do that already!" or saying "I don't want to do that" you are denying him a feeling of importance. You are also denying yourself a learning experience.
My fiance took great pleasure in teaching me how to drive, although I was terrified about driving his car into something he liked the feeling of being a teacher and he liked being able to tell me that he was proud of me for driving well on the first try. He was proud because he was the one who showed me how to drive well. I think this feeling is very important to a man.
There are many things I already know that he doesn't and he can also learn from me. There are things we both know, but I'll let him tell my about it anyways because it makes him happy. I don't feel the need to know everything with him and if it makes him happy, then why deny him that? It is also rather rude to tell someone "I know!" after they tell you something.
>>22 I'm sure this is laced with sarcasm, but let me assure you of two things.
1) not copypasta, I spent about an hour typing that up (between spurts of work)
2) I meant every word of it, and I practice what I preach. This isn't a joke or a "troll", it is the way that women SHOULD act.
The modern women is really a pile of shit in DG clothing, hardly worth pissing on if she were on fire. A money grubbing, scheming, conniving bitch who knows that as long as she gets a ring on her finger she owns half of your shit.
This being the case, a good woman is so hard to find that it's almost not worth even trying to get married anymore. But there are still women like the OP that exist, they're very few though.
>There are many things I already know that he doesn't and he can also learn from me.
He doesn't need to know how to operate the vacuum or the stove, those are your tools. Now get to work ;)
>>24
So anyway...
Where and how do I meet a girl like you?
Well, >>26...you won't find us in a bar or nightclub. Not that girls like me can't have a good time, but we choose not to flaunt ourselves or display ourselves like meat in a market.
Also, to be more open to difference races of women if you are comfortable with that. My fiance is a white man who had only been with white women, and I know people like to say that we are all the same but we aren't. White women's values are not the same as other women's. Both my fiance and I agree that white women do not respect their men and they feel victimized by "white male privilege".
I am neither, father is Jamaican/Native American and mother is white, creating a look that men say is very exotic. My skin is snow white, which is strange coming from such a dark father. I look neither white or black, or like any race. When I am out and about people always stop and ask me what I am. I would never say this about myself but someone once called me a peacock amongst the crows. Flattering, but I always thought myself a strange looking girl, not ugly or anything but...different.
I SAY GOOGLE IT !!
i know that sounds ridiculous. but GOOGLE HAS IT ALL!
"woowwww how the hell do you know how to give such good head"
"geee thats the best head i ever head, where you learn"
well i didnt say where i learnt it at the time, but i googled it... how to give good head.
TRUST ME google.com
look up some pozzis "great sex positions" on google search
"spice up my sex life" google search it.
you know titles like that.. what ever your looking for.
or try some roll playing, dirty talking... whatever.. GOOGLE IT thats the point and you can get MANNNNNY MANNNY ideas.
from anal to group. lol
take care and good luck. xo
>you shouldn't need to do anything more than you're already doing.
I'm going to agree. When this guy gets back from bootcamp, I bet going back to "plain old normal" will be everything he's ever dreamed of. You don't need to continuously one-up yourself, that will just lead to stress down the road.
As for the sexist stuff, the men who provide for and protect "their" women are in as short of a supply as those women who think their duty is to do whatever "their" man asks of them. Everyone else makes do.
>>Everyone else makes do.
Everyone else make shit
I gotta say, I'm sorry none of us can actually think of any decent ideas.
Just cover him in kisses? That's sweet and simple.
Obviously this man needs a little role reversal in order to appreciate what he has in you. Strap on a dildo and make him give you head, stimulate his prostate while calling him a whore, that sort of thing. You'd be surprised at the number of manly men who need this sort of thing.
THAT, or:
He's a complete misogynist. He wants to see you humiliated and used by other men. Become a COMPLETE subservient, it sounds like you're mostly there anyway, and service his friends while he watches. It is also surprising the number of men who like to watch their girlfriend/wife giving head to someone else. Personally, I would arrange the World's Largest Gang Bang for my girlfriend so long as I got to watch. I love to hate women and love women who need to be hated. It's the ultimate expression of loving subjection, and I get huge boners when I do things like have my gf shove dildos up her pussy on live cam chats while I read the comments of total strangers who don't know I'm her bf. Or have her take pictures of her fucking other dudes, then look at the pictures while she's sucking me off.
You know, good stuff.
ask him! lol...jk
look into whats worked and do a subdivision of that
>>34
Seriously, you fucking suck