This guy (12)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 06:51 ID:c4JjSf7U

So my girlfriend and I are on a break. We will be back together soon but something worries me. This other guy she is good friends with. She even told me that if she wasn't planning on dating me she'd give him a chance. I know he is interested in her because I've been told he planned on asking her out when he found out we were on a break (which has lasted not even two weeks). I can't shake off this feeling. I trust her but I am afraid she will leave me for him. She has hung out with him lately and with her friends but not invited me. I don't know what to do. She told me she turned him down. But I am afraid she has feelings for him. I am afraid of approaching her again about this cause I'd seem jealous or possessive. Help.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 08:29 ID:v5VLdqRC

Either she does or she doesn't, what can you do about it if it already dwells in her mind? We're speaking of a woman here.
Just chill back and be the cool dude, it will up your chances in case you've reasons to be worried.
Stay confident and secure.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 12:04 ID:+2rjHke8

Why are you on a break?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 12:43 ID:aYGO3I77

Your woman is tactless and likes attention.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 14:16 ID:iEyvwNT4

This is a woman, not something you own. If she doesn't want to be with you, then you don't deserve to have her. There's no reason to do anything to try to make her stay with you.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 17:38 ID:0fRKurj7

>>5 If she doesn't want to be with you, then you don't deserve to have her.

yeah nevermind the fct that makes no sense but ok.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-29 18:08 ID:k19O4mq6

What do you mean by "on break?" are you physically separated by distance or did you decide to stop dating each other for a while?

If its the latter, great job dude, you've already been dumped.

I think the best way to find out if she still has any interest in you is to disappear for a while. Don't return her calls. Ignore her on AIM. Your friends and family don't know what you've been up to. This could go for WEEKS so don't cave in.

If she starts getting upset and begging for you to come out of your shell, she's still interested. But don't just open up and bring her back into to your life again. From now on you have to keep her at a slight distance and gradually let her back in.

If she doesn't care that you haven't responded to anything in a week, well, that says something about how much she likes you, doesn't it?

You're right not to approach her, because you WILL seem needy. If you push, she pulls away. So how about YOU do the pulling away and see how she takes it.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-30 15:55 ID:c4JjSf7U

>>7
She said it's hard for her to become emotionally close to a man. We haven't broken up, she just wanted some time. I haven't really talked to her lately, I'll see her next week. I think I am gonna talk to her about it in two or three weeks and see what she thinks.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-30 18:42 ID:Heaven

> This other guy she is good friends with. She even told me that if she wasn't planning on dating me she'd give him a chance.

I feel that if she told you this you have nothing to worry about.
I could be wrong.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-30 21:24 ID:c4JjSf7U

>>9
I know. I know we are gonna date. I'm just worried about having that guy around.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-30 23:26 ID:VYANfIks

She's going to cheat on your ass, but at least you know she feels slightly guilty since she basically informed you beforehand.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-31 20:48 ID:ORD+KizH

>>10
Well, what could you possibly do about it?
You could tell her not to see him, but it most certainly will come off as selfish and unreasonably jealous to demand she toss aside a good friend for your sake.
You could tell the other man to back off, but this kind of confrontation is risky and could end violently and/or in just the same way as confronting her.
You could install GPS tracking in her car and a microphone in her purse, but that's likely to result in a restraining order.
I don't think there's anything you can do that won't end up driving her further away.

Remember that even if your relationship ends, as all do eventually, there will always be another one down the road.

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