Hey 4-ch. I'm usually just a lurker here, and this is my first serious post in Romance. I need dating advice. So here goes...
I'm used to the generic club-going, whore-ish type of girl. I'm sure you know what I mean. Most of the girls I've been with have been like this and so I know how to deal with them. But here's the thing...
There's this somewhat nerdy, bookish, gaming, anime-watching girl at my college who I thought was really cute and so I got her number. So I'm past the first stage at least. But the thing is, I'm honestly not sure what to do next. I can't invite her to the places I would usually bring girls because I know she's not really into that stuff. She doesn't drink alcohol as far as I know. I'm not sure she has many hobbies outside of gaming and whatnot. She's incredibly quiet and shy. I haven't called her yet because I honestly haven't thought of anything.
So my question is this: how do I go about dating a Wapanese girl?
Spend time inside, invite her to your home (or hers) and game or something/watch anime together/rent a movie together (or if not possible go to the movies).
Does she object to alcohol on moral grounds?
If not, maybe you could introduce her to it later on.
Start off with some fruity girl drinks, or rice wine considering your description of her.
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>>2
I would do that at a later stage, but inviting her to my house might give her the wrong idea. Cinema is a good idea though. Any Japanese movies out right now?
>>3
I'm sure she's tried alcohol and stuff, but from what I've seen she just doesn't really like it. It's not a big deal or anything, it just means that I can't exactly invite her to a bar and stuff.
lmao, you're fucked.
Find a j-rock/anime group concert to go to.
Anime conventions.
Amusement park/arcade park + mall + movie + sushi? Any or all might work. Movies don't have to be Japanese as long as they're sorta cool or geeky... like any Will Smith movie or sci-fi.
Part of being in a relationship is introducing the person to parts of your life. Of course, you need to be smart about it. Avoid the clubs and bars for now and take her places that wouldn't be intimidating for her.
If she's into anime and gaming and not you, let her introduce you to her world,... Of course if you learn she likes something (like japanese restaurants) you'll score well by providing it to her.
In the meantime the best would be to simply spend time together in a nice part of your town, or a park, and end up in a nice café or bar.
You also have to consider just because she watches anime and plays video games she may still not be a total wap, and doesn't eat only ramen and sushi while wearing her Naruto headband. I think it would be better if you just left her around. You apparently only had any interest in her because you thought she was cute, which is an extremely shallow reason. If you have to rack your brain to think of even one thing to do together, then that's a relationship destined to fail. If you really wish to pursue the relationship, you should find out more about her. You can't really proceed if you've just got one vague blanket statement about her hobbies to go on. Go to lunch with her or something, an interest neutral situation where you could talk with her more.
>>You apparently only had any interest in her because you thought she was cute, which is an extremely shallow reason.
By that logic, men and women wouldn't come together at all. How can you actually know someone from only a few encounters?
He knows that their personalities clearly conflict from the start since he can't even think of one thing they might possibly do together and only wants to fight an uphill battle into being with a girl he can't relate to because of sexual attraction to her.
>>12
I can relate to her but I just don't know enough about her yet. I want to though.
As much as it might not fit your Hollywood ideas of romance, this is how most relationships start.
true true. Well, good luck!
>>As much as it might not fit your Hollywood ideas of romance, this is how most relationships start.
but also end sooner or later.
having same interests is mostly better.
Invite her out to get pizza or something. Talk to her... if it seems like you could have a relationship, ask her out on another date. Ask her about her hobbies, and talk about yours. You don't need to be 100% the same to be happy together.
Yeah, pizza should work too.
There are generally two thinks waps/geeks like: wap/geek stuff and generally cool stuff.
You couldn't go wrong taking her to something like Willy Wonka/I, robot and then a pizza.
I've found that not having a lot in common gives both parties something to talk about (assuming they're willing to take turns).
I can agree with >>18 to some extent. Sometimes I talk with someone and it turns out they like all the same things. This is awesome for a short period of time and then you get into this conversation pattern where every response is "oh, I know" or similar. There have to be at least a few differences.
That being said, if there aren't enough similarities then you will each find what the other talks about to be boring.
I like a happy medium.
You're shallow too, you're like a kiddie pool.
OP: Stop trying. She deserves a better guy than some dick who goes clubbing and would introduce her to alcohol to stoop her down to his idiotic level.
Being a somewhat shy geeky girl myself, I call bullshit. If a boy who happened to go clubbing and drink asked me out on a date, I'd (probably) say yes. I wouldn't necessarily agree to more dates if it turned out I didn't like him, but I'd still say yes.
Don't treat us shy girls like little fucking porcelain dolls who have no say over their lives. She's the one who decides whether or not she wants to drink, or go clubbing, or whatever. She's the one who gets to say yes or no to OP's asking her on a date. OP seems like a nice enough guy; just because someone happens to go to clubs and get drunk doesn't mean they're the devil.
What if they happen to go to clubs but take psychedelic drugs? Same deal?
It depends on how much they took, how often. If they took something maybe once every few months, fine. Just keep me out of it. If it's an addiction, fuck no.
I don't know if that's something that comes up on the first date, though... I also have seen no signs that OP takes psychedelics.
>>22
Assuming that OP does drugs is really jumping to conclusions/giving in to prejudice.
On-topic: If you know nothing about the things she's interested in, I'd suggest you either gather some clues about them yourself or let her introduce you to them.
As far as going out goes, I'd say something low-profile would be nice. By low-profile I mean a normal, nice restaurant and not a hip place crammed with people. Or you can just get a pizza.
I'm a geeky guy myself, so I can only speak from my own perception of how that's like, but I guess that overall, were kinda the same type. Just keep that in mind when reading this.
in my oppinion you do everything, unless she's the type of girl who loves the whole dork thing, then she wants a little adventure. don't sell yourself short because you think she's a little dorky. don't go all out, but don't hold back either, walk the fine line between the two.
God, OP, just fucking ask the girl to come to your place (or you go to hers) to watch some DVDs already. Ask what kind of movies she watches, or have her suggest an anime or something, and then watch & talk afterward. She's given you a huge advantage by bringing up her interest in anime, since it means that she's less likely to expect or enjoy "going out".
This topic was posted on the 15th, if OP hasn't asked her out yet it's too late anyways.
