would you stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't like you as much anymore?
this person wouldn't mind breaking off but she doesn't mind staying together either. basically she's got no opinions about whether to continue or to end it.
she doesn't want to tell her parents about you because she thinks the relationship is too unstable. and this is a one year old r/s.
but you really love her. you think you might be able to rekindle the old feelings. you don't want to regret doing anything rash. you just want to hold on to any glimmer of hope no matter how small.
how now brown cow?
Nah, I've been there, and it's not worth it, IMHO...
If she's got "no opinions" either way, then it means she's not into you, so what's the point if both people don't want each other? That's exactly what I said to an Ex of mine, before we finally broke up for good... She was making statements like "Well, it's up to you", and "I'm not concerned either way", etc... Again, what's the point if the relationship's not a partnership, and both people aren't even wanting each other?!
And she didn't want to tell her parents about me, either, though in my case it's because she didn't want to commit to being with me, and wasn't really that into me... If you can't be honest in front of your parents that we're dating, then I feel like I'm in some kind of lie, and that's like sneaking around, which just ends up feeling juvenile and childish...
Overall, if she can't tell her parents that you're a couple after a year, then it doesn't sound like in her mind you even are a couple, and if she's unconcerned either way, than I'd say it's definitely the case that you're already not a couple...
Yeah, not worth it. I've been the girl in a situation like that, and she's just going to break up with you eventually anyway.
as soon as her interest level lowers beyond a certain point, you're fucked. She's just using your attention until some other guy comes along. Scrape up whatever dignity you have left and tell her you're breaking up, because you can't stand her lack of commitment or her indifference towards you.
Then figure out why she lost interest in you, and learn how to avoid making that happen in your next relationship
break up. Maybe you can still be friends. shrug
OP here.
yeah that's what i thought. i just can't bring myself to pull the trigger.
the thing is she'll be going to another continent for 3 mths in 2 weeks time. she'll be back in july and i'm clinging on to the hope that she might start to miss me during the 3 mths we're physically apart from each other. after all this girl doesn't seem to know what's going on in her own head...
if you are worried about making a decision you will regret then instead of breaking it off right away maybe try this-
give yourself a timeline. say in 4 months if things don't improve, call it quits. That way you can still try whatever it is you need to try but not end up being one of those people stuck in a dead relationship. the key is that you HAVE to break it off after the time limit is met. It's what keeps you from screwing yourself over. This way you can get out of the relationship knowing you did what you could and not have regrets while protecting yourself.
hmm...just to clarify how this works.
so within the 4 mths we still act like we're in an exclusive relationship...meaning we still maintain the commitment to communicate regularly, not date around etc.?
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That's what it sounds like. It's not that all bad an idea, but she doesn't sound very interested in you. But hey maybe it'll change. Just make sure that you'll be commited to the timeline and if no improvement, then break it off. Always hard to pull the trigger so to speak.
P.S. I bet it's Australia, Europe or Central America.