Well, maybe not so weird, I'm not sure. Here's the deal...
Whenever I am at home, I find myself incredibly attracted to a girl I work with, sexually. I'll be watching t.v. or reading a book and then all of a sudden I will start fantasizing about her. What's worse is that I really get into it, I want her bad. However, at work, things are just the opposite. I hardly notice her, and when we are together, I could care less. I go as far as to try and remember my fantasies to see if I can get aroused near her but I can't. Anybody have a clue why this might be? Does this happen to any of you?

I think this guy has something for you. If he's 'shy' like you, maybe he didnt know how to show interest. Thats why he really wanted to drink with you, because alcohol makes you lose your inhibitions. Or he wanted to get u wasted and get in your drunken pants.

Either way dont give up!

lol wrong thread >_<

I had this happen once with this guy I knew. I found him attractive and sometimes fantasized about him when I wasn't around him, but when I was hanging around him, he was just another guy and I could really care less. It was really strange, but I figure I wasn't really interested in him so much as physically attracted to him. Perhaps your personalities don't mesh, but you're somehow unconsciously physically attracted to her? Maybe she fills some fetish of yours or something like that.

Extreme case of "you want what you can't have"?

>>1: mine is the opposite. When I first met my girlfriend, I liked her a lot when I saw her, but when we were apart, I didn't of her. That doesn't mean though I didn't care...I still love her.

As for the reality/fantasy complex...I believe it's because you are too focused to work (and if I'm wrong...your mind is in LA LA land or something). Try being with her again...and at least try to show some attention to her, and not like "i'm here...so what"