there's this girl who i've been talking to for a while. i don't know if she likes me. are there any clues or things i should look for?
Does she initiate discussions? Is she curious about you? If you want to go somewhere and ask her to come along, does she agree or is really easy to persuade? Does she often initiate physical contact/doesn't decline it when you initiate it (be it hugs or things as simple as hand on shoulder etc)
These ususally are good indicators of interest.
>>2
I'm not the OP, but thanks for that list. That's just eased my worries a lot for a girl I like.
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i've been talking to her recently sometimes we'll wave or say hi or have a quick discussion. she always smiles whenever i talk to her. what do you think?
>>5
She may just enjoy talking to you and that's all. Unless she's dropping hints (flirting, hand holding, blushing), you really can't tell unless you ask her (which is a really bad idea IMO). If you like her then tell her, just because she doesn't reciprocate your feelings it doesn't mean she never will.
I mean i've been dumped a few times let's face it..... but i don't think i said it at the right time. When would be the right time to say it?
ok how do i know when to make a move?
Smiling doesn't mean a thing. I'm quite serious.
If anything listed in >>2 really shows from her, then it might be a good idea to try a move. I don't really know how guys view this, but everything >>2 says was true for me and it would be beyond happiness if he starting hinting that he liked me too. However, if she doesn't do any of those, it will NOT be a good idea to try anything.
>>10
What about the 'suppressed smile'? I know it tends to show up more in boys (which might be one of the hints you're searching for by the way) but am not sure if they do count for girls, as they tend to have more "output" on the face expression. This is when they like you, and can't keep from smiling as soon as you speak to them; however as it may seem weird they hide it, but you still get that slightly suppressed smile (slight smirk, smiling eyes).
Also take care about what posture says: is he/she turned towards you? "impressive" stances (shoulders out, back arched so breasts/shoulders look wider, etc), leaning in as "omg this guy/girl is interesting and I want to enter his/her world", etc. These are mostly inconscious but can be conscious and often are good indicators of interest.
By the way, most boys don't take hints. I know them well, and only very rarely notice them when I am interested in the girl (when I am not, however, I do, and know that I am going to defuse that asap).
lol, too true. guys =/= hints AT ALL. wede prefer things just to come up at slap us XD
>>11
I do this all the time when I talk to girls I like. When they come over I'm like HIII :D then I realise I shouldn't be standing there grinning and bite my lips which doesn't do much to hide the smile and usually ends up in me giggling.
I'm such a kid at heart :)
Yeah.... it's kind of hard to fight when you see that one person... unless you change your mind....
Does she initiate any physical contact? Gentle pat on the back or shoulder or anything like that?
Rumor has it that's a sign.
Yeah. She'll give me hugs or pats on the shoulder. Is that a sign?
>>16 I would say yes.
Try it the other way around. Hug her, hold her hand - see how she reacts. If she feels comfortable with that, you're on a good way.
I don't know why people are so complicated. I am a girl and when I like guy, I usually tell him. Why should I tease and make him wait...that's just mean.
If he doesn't feel the way I do, we laugh it off and that's it.
>>13 Do girls like you? Not trying to insult you, but with this kind of behavior I would propably think you are
a) gay
b) being sarcastic
c) an idiot
Is it really good to be straightforeword and come out with my feelings? I mean that would also be a bad descision too.
Of course not, don't believe anything any women ever tells you about what they want in a man.
They really have no idea what they want.
On review of my statement, it seems sarcastic.
But it's not.
ok. now you're all confusing me. What is the best thing to do?
Too short description. You only mention you speak to her for awhile. Not necessary she would like you.