my girlfriend... (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-16 18:47 ID:jLdZsb7o

says she doesn't want to get hurt because she thinks i'm not 100% committed to her. She says she would break up with me if i am not 100% committed to her. She says she has to be the most important thing in my life for me now. The thing is it's not true but I don't want to end this relationship. I love her but giving all myself to her. What should I do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-16 18:55 ID:uQMSBU+6

... End the relationship, that's just an ignorant request of her. You could always try to make her understand that you can't devote yourself like that to her... It's just way too selfish. She's being inconsiderate.

Unless you are very flirty with other girls or... Somehow don't pay enough attention to her, what i mean is: please elaborate.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-16 19:14 ID:iy93JILl

>>2
Listen to this person. There is no reason for her to be so irrational and she either wants to end things with you or will end up leaving you not too far down the line when she realises she could find another guy. Immature girls like this aren't worth your time and you can find someone else.

Good luck!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-17 01:33 ID:Fn8QZKJI

You do not dump her. However, her saying she would leave you if you do not commit yourself fully is immature. The right thing to do is always 100% committment, but pulling it out of someone with threats isn't the right way to go about it.

You should do what you can to make her feel appriciated, apart from that you should explain you need to make your life work to be able to be there for her in the first place.
But don't put friends or personal interests ahead of a relationship, that's just wrong.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-18 08:51 ID:8IPoY+hA

No, really. Do what >>2 says. Quit now!
People like this are emotinal vampires. They will ruin you.
This girl does not love you, she doesn not care about you. She just loves to be loved.

You can't help her. She will have to learn for herself. She has to learn to appreciated herself.
As long as she's getting attention and recognition from you, she has no reason to find it for herself.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-18 10:43 ID:Vy6kJVu4

I devoted myself to a girl 100%, Like she asked. The she just wanted to be my friend.

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