last hope (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-19 14:50 ID:zCzXqr8M

I've had a very bad experience with my love life, never had a gf, have lots of rejection that i've lost confidence in it. This girl that i really like right now, i know her for 2 years and in the past i've been rejected by her which was 2 years ago. we're pretty close and she really trust me. I have a really good thing going on with her as she supports me and i support her for a long time, the thing is i'm scared if i get rejected this time i will loose her even as a close friend, cos things are always different when i get rejected =[ i have a higher chance then i had 2 years ago cos she reckons i'm talented cos i make my own music/ films in my own time. I really dont know what to do cos i dont want to wreck my friendship with her either, please tell me what i need to do, i dont have anyone else but her left

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-19 23:19 ID:M0qSFYLt

Buy her a nice gift. Make it look like you didn't have any intentions with it, just something you happened to see. Like it means nothing. Don't ask about it later.
Wait a few months and then repeat, until something changes. All the while remaining (normal) friends of course.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-20 05:19 ID:8rWWCdPq

Buy her a gift?! Haha, sorry buying gifts doesn't win affections, that is a horrible idea. So what if nothing happens? Keep buying her gifts forever?

OP, what do you mean anyone but her left? You sound like you're running out of time. As for the girl, I doubt it is going to happen, you're in the friend zone.

4 Name: OP : 2008-06-20 17:09 ID:yM+1hWMv

today the girl emailed me something really personal about her family, but later at night when she came onto msn, her name had a "S2 LY" since last week but wasnt as revealing as it was today. out of curiousity i asked her "ooo wat does LY mean?" and she said "ooohh the ly thing is personal lol" and she just tried to change the subject when i asked her "oo is it someone u like" and she said "kinda". if she did like someone or did have a boyfriend, i dont think theres any reason not to let me know since shes been saying so many personal stuff to me and i really doubt having someone you like or have a boyfriend would be that big to not tell me.

because out of no where i thought she liked someone else, was feeling depressed about it obviously so i started to die from the convo, out of no where she asked me "r u ok?, i asked her "why u ask?" and she said "ohh cos u sound kinda down, through the net if u know wat i mean o_o", but i just told her "hmm...just tired" and she kept asking "u sure D:::: get some rest kk, plzz". knowing her for 2 years, i've never seen her act this way before, i mean i've been more down before when she knows about it but never gone to the extend to say "plz" or watever, either that maybe i'm thinking too much again =/

my friend thinks that either she likes me but doesnt want to tell me, or its someone else but i really dont understand if she really does like someone else, i dont see such a big deal about it when she doesnt even know i like her =/

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-20 17:13 ID:ZYEVQGTg

Just stay friends with her. You don't have to hide that you like her in that way, just don't try and make it too obvious in a sense that you're making passes, and do not put her in a position where she's forced to either reject or accept you as more than a friend.

It's great that you're talented and all but that's not all you have to be in her eyes. I suggest you be patient for a while and set "finding a gf" on low priority for the time being. Keep your mind on just living life for yourself and grow as an individual. The more you are in yourself, even without girlfriend and social status, the more attractive you will be as a person.

If you grow as a man, she might grow feelings for you, or someone else might come along and snatch you. It is also important that you extend your social network. Do it through your interests. Find people who are similar to you, either guys or girls and bond with them. Not out of desperation to find new friends but on the grounds of mutual interest. They in turn will introduce you to new people which also means new oppertunities.

The best of luck to you

6 Name: Admirable Secret : 2008-06-21 12:08 ID:TgReoiew

>because out of no where i thought she liked someone else, was feeling depressed about it obviously so i started to die from the convo, out of no where she asked me "r u ok?, i asked her "why u ask?" and she said "ohh cos u sound kinda down, through the net if u know wat i mean o_o", but i just told her "hmm...just tired" and she kept asking "u sure D:::: get some rest kk, plzz".

TOTAL missed opportunity, dude. I have no idea how you could have missed an opening like that.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-22 17:19 ID:oPvjg0IR

>>6
Or, she cares about him as a friend, knows he likes her and doesn't want to see him depressed. That happens too.

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