Hi
Ok, I need your help.
So there is this guy at school, and he asked me to the school ball. And I said yes. But the thing is I don't know if he likes me or not, like if he just wants me to be his ball partner or if he wants to take our friendship up the next level.
I think I like him...I mean, hes a nice guy and all, and we are quite good friends...if he asked me out, like to be his girlfriend, I would say yes.
Ever since I agreed to go the the ball with him, he has been acting really nice to me, like he will carry some of my books around at school...and also I have noticed that he has been getting closer to me....like, hes not a big PDA kind of guy, but when there arent much people around he will stand pretty close to me and stuff...
Anyway, yea, so what do you guys think? I will post more details about things that go on between me and him after I recieve some comments =D
Either he is just being nice to you so you will go to the ball with him or he used the chance to ask you out indirectly.
The other day, I went to shopping for a ball dress with a few of my girlfriends, I asked him to come along as well with his friends, so that he wouldnt be singled out with a bunch of girls. Anyway, at the end of the day, it was freezing cold and he put his arms around me on the bus ride home, and then after we got off the bus, he had his arms around me as well while we walked home....
This means something right? I mean, a normal guy friend wouldnt really do that...?
There are 3 types of guys that wrap them arms around chicks. Genuine guys,cheaters and gays. Take your pick.
Yup, a normal guy wouldn't do that, and as >>4 said, there's three types, I think you can tell what kind of guy he is:) Now, make sure you return the affection so that he doesn't think he's not being noticed or that it's not being appreciated, and it will continue, until something more formal, between the two of you;
Hmm...well I would say he is a genuine guy.
1) He is definitely not gay! Haha! He is really sporty.
2) He isnt a playa. He doesnt flirt with everyone LOL.
But the thing is, sometimes he will act like he is already going out with me, and other times he will act like we are just...acquaintances...
Guys are difficult >.<
OP and the other guy are either the same person or living under the same roof.
Tss, tss.
Hi people
Hm...so Im going to take it that he's into me...probably nto crazy about me, but thats fine. But how do I show that I like him back?
I don't want to just say it out, because Im kind of shy. Is there any good ways that I can show him that I like him without being too direct?
>>6 just so you know, whether a man is sporty or not has no relation as to if he likes other men or not.
Well Im pretty sure hes not gay, I mean hes into things lik soccer and politics, and when we went shopping for a ball dress he didnt seem to have very good fashion sense!
Anyway...are there any good ways that i can show him that Im into him? I dont want to seem too desperate...
Thanks u guys :D
common, he's given you every signal there is. he definitely likes you.
do you need a legal notice informing you of this? lol
how do I show him that I like him ><
try to show him that you appreciate what you do for him, or if you think that's not enough, try to do things for him like compliment him and stuff like that, most guys like it when girls compliment us.
try to show him that you appreciate what you do for him, or if you think that's not enough, try to do things for him like compliment him and stuff like that, most guys like it when girls compliment us.
anything else??
like...anything physical....? LOL
Thanks so much you guys =] this is really good to know =]
hmmm physical? i cant really say much about that cuz it varies from guy to guy.. why don't you try asking him indirectly what he'd want from you?
>>10 I'm sorry but none of those things relate to whether he is gay or not. This is just for your future reference, I'm not saying he is gay, he most likely is not.
Gay means a man who likes the cock, there is no other qualifier. A gay man can and most often does act/look just like any heterosexual guy does.
>>18 you are starting to scare me....u r saying that a guy who acts like he is into me could just actually be my guy friend who is gay.....
>.<
I hope he is not....
But assuming he is not gay, and that he is straight, do you have any advice as to how I could show him that Im into him as well? Things that I can do....
>>19 no if he acts into you, no.
I mean this stuff here >>hes into things lik soccer and politics, and when we went shopping for a ball dress he didnt seem to have very good fashion sense!
>>17 thanks for your help, so far you have given the best advice i reckon =] You are a guy? So as a guy, what do you look for in a girl?
Someone who's company I enjoy. They're pleasant, they're interesting, they like talking to me, but they're also just being themselves.
I like them outgoing and willing to sometimes take initiative. This includes tiny things like being the person to initiate conversations. It's a real PITA otherwise, it's like you're talking to someone who isn't interested.
Also, if you want things physical, do it slowly. Some guys dig aggressive women, but most people bug out. Imagine if some guy came on to you too strong. Try small things, like a light touch with your hand every now and then.
It's like petting a strange but curious cat, really.
just rape him and get it over with
>>22 thanks so much! thats really helpful =]
Last night I asked him if he wanted to hang out today...go on ferry downtown...he passed on it, and said that he would rather not waste his time and instead stay home to catch up on maths (we are in the same maths class and we are both really really behind). I can respect that...
>>23 no im not going to "just rape him and get it over with" -.-
Oh yea,
When we are on msn, I'm always the one who starts the convo. Do you think ge would find that annoying...like I'm always bugging him or something...I mean would anyone of you out there find it annoying if someone is always trying to talk to you online?? i just don't want to come on as an annoying person, thats all...
>When we are on msn, I'm always the one who starts the convo.
Then try no to do this for some time. If he's into you (or if he cares at all) he will talk to you. He might even remark the fact that you didn't speak with him for a while and ask what happens.
>>24 well if you have the same math class and you two are really behind, why don't you try asking him if you two could study it together? as the saying goes "a problem shared is a problem halved."
we tried studying together for chemistry ( we are also in the same chem class =]) and we ended up talking for lik hald the time LOL.
But yes, I will try and get together with him to study together =] Thanks!!
I would just like to ask, in general, guy aren't very talkative are they? When I msn him, I type quite a bit and he replies with lik 1 or 2 sentences. Or when I comment on his page on social network pages, he types a few sentences while I will sometimes type a short paragraph....
Omgosh! Last night my mum started asking all these questions about him. And then I told him about it, and also how my mum googled him >.<
I hope my mum didnt freak him out!
Guys out there, if the mum of a girl you liked asked her loads of questions about you, would you get scared? Also if the mum googled you, would you get scared and maybe start avoiding the girl??
Help! I hope he isnt scared of me and my family now! My parents are seriouly lik overprotective and weird and annoying!!!
Now THAT is just seriously weird... The guy wouldn't get scared until he meets your mom. And what about your dad, he said anything?
Wait what.
Nah dad didnt say anything yet...My dad is, well, hes quiet...but anyway thats not very important.
But the thing is, both my parents are against me dating until I'm like in uni. They don't want me to get distracted by guys and affect my school work. So now that they know I got a ball partner, they are like being super annoying(actually just my mum lol), asking me all these questions about him...and last night my mum gave me this huge lecture about guys and at one point she said "you know, girls get pregnant and guys dont". And Im just sitting there thinking WTF?!?!
I told Marc* (I'll call him Marc here, rather than saying "him" all the time, its not his real name btw) what my mum said, and he was like WTF...and then I told him so more about what my mum had said about how she doesnt want me to date blah blah blah, and then Marc replied something like "woah...its not like we're getting married or anything, your mum needs to chill...".
So yea...in general you think nagging mums like a real turn off?
...Sigh....I hope Marc never has to meet my mum, otherwise I think she would scare the hell outta him....actually she would scare the hell outta any one of my friends, male or not...-_-""
Sounds like your mom has problems not just with guys but with people in general
>>34
In b4 OP was unplanned.
LMAO. She is acting like a normal mother... I take it this is the first time your rents have figured that you are anywhere near a relationship? Coz they normally do that.
Mine did, all my mates parents always ask questions about our female friends... (I am a guy!)
And I would say he likes you.
Interesting story. Well I know most guys are different from me but I would only put my arm around a girl while walking if I liked her. Though that is me now... as a slightly bit more mature 21 year old. In high school I was known to kiss girls on the cheek that I had absolutely no interest in so he might not like you!
>_< I can relate with the msn thing though. I girl I was/kind still crazy about asked for my aim and found me first. But ever since then, if I had to initiate the conversation. It is frustrating.
I usually can tell a girl likes me when I catch her looking at me or I see that she went out of her way to talk to me. Say something like... "I like it when you're around." Or when you see him, act all excited to see him.
>>36 Yea I think it's the first time that my parents have found out I'm near a relationship...sigh...wish they didnt find out. They are annoying ><
>>37 You kissed random girls on the cheek even if you werent into them....dude wtf....lol...don't lead on girls! Haha. That actually cracked me up when I read it!
Hmm, act excited around him....I shall try that=]
For the past 2 day, me and him have been going out for runs with a few other friends. In our lil running group, there is this guy who likes his girl, and it is so obvious when he flirts with her. And then there is me and Marc...we are just like....normally friends....what is up with this guy...? One day he will act like he likes me, then the next day like we are...random strangers...are guys like this? Are guys this difficult..._|-|o
>>38
Guys aren't difficult. They act weird because girls are difficult, random and unreadable. Also because they're oblivious to most hints you might drop them.
lol I know that was wrong to kiss them. I guess I have matured a bit over the years ^_^
But >>38 is right. I miss so many hints girls give me that it isn't funny. It isn't till after that I missed my shot, I rethink what she said/did and I'm like "Awwww, idiot!"
Here's one thing that might be the problem. I have a hard time showing affection to the girl I like when I'm in a group...especially a group of mostly her friends. Now I'm not saying group dates are bad, but I know I wouldn't be able to show as much affection to a girl I liked with everyone around just because of my general shyness. Maybe that is it? Does he seem to like you more when you guys are alone together?
>>40 Yea I think he shows more affection when we are alone...=] But I guess we don't get a lot of alone time...We see each other in school. Right now we are on term break, and I have been seeing him for the past few days when we go out for runs with a few other friends. I shall try to get alone with him some time soon^^
>>41 LOL we dont kiss here! I live in New Zealand...we just say hi and bye, and thats about it I guess, its quite rare for people to kiss on the cheeks when greeting each other here. Though I rekon the kiss to say hi thing in France is pretty cool =]
Our school ball is just over a week away. I have a black dress, and my colors are going to be black and gold. But the thing is he won't get a gold tie >.< I guess he is....well...cant believe Im say this, but I guess hes kinda budget! Haha! Today I insisted that he go get one (oh I did this on msn after we got home from a run this morning, I was at my friends house trying on hair and make up and I msned him asking what he thought about my hair and stuff and then we got talking about his tie). He said a shaky 'ok' but I think he just said that just for the sake of it! He's not a big shopping guy...Should I try to get him to go out with his friends to get a tie? I dont want to seem like a big demanding bitch ><
:::sighs::: That is one thing I'll never understand about women. Does it matter that much? Prom was a nightmare for me.
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I'm thinking maybe the ball will be the night everything might happen! If he likes you, he'll definitley make his move there. I mean that is the night of you guys' date.
>>41 Then that explains it. I'm American, but I have a French last name so its in my blood to greet girls like that!
>>43 yes prom is very important to a girl. no one wants to look bad...if a girl has a partner, they will want him to look perfect, just lik her :)
prom = cindarella story come true :D
well....maybe like one in a million~~
Ok
Well, the ball was last night.
Overall I had an awesome time!
But in conclusion, I dont think hes that into me...sigh...He like ditched me in the beginning...and then I had to tell him not to ditch me....and then when we left, lik when we were leaving the building, I lost him again....
bleh...
He didnt make any moves....
Im serious...its not that i didnt pick up any of his actions, there were none! LOL
sigh...
anyway...many fish out in the sea...comfort me you guys :'(
It sucks he kept ditching you. But the important thing is that when you think about the whole night you still had an awesome time overall. That's the important part =)
I was kind of in an opposite situation -- met a guy, went to see a movie, he made moves all night, and then we haven't talked again for about three weeks now. Just remember not to get hung up on it.