Good in bed but no common interests? (30)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 21:42 ID:WxcqNfAe

Hey guys.

So last week I chatted up a chick at a fast food place, and it went well. She is kind of infatuated with me. We ended up in bed after the third date and it was amazing. She is submissive and yet playful... just the way I like them.

She is also gorgeous. (Despite happening on this BBS I am not nerdy in look, but rather handsome I am told.)

Anyway, we are having amazing sex and I enjoy hanging out with her, but we can't really talk about anything. I am an independent man, I have a job, etc and she is just a highschool student living with her parents. I miss the lengthy deep talks that I used to have with my former girlfriend who was an adult woman my age.

What would be the right thing to do? I think we could have really stunning babies together and I don't want to break up with her. Maybe I think she will grow up one day and we will be soulmates then, but what until that day? If it ends now I think she will be disappointed. I kind of want to keep her lusting for me but delay our relationship for later. And I need to get a female talkbuddy but that will inevitably result in jealousy and as I know myself probably not without reason.

So anyway... hälp?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 02:08 ID:v8/6oAaS

Er, dump her. If you're as good looking as you say you are, you'll have no problem finding a smarter ass to bang.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 07:52 ID:YRIhS5jI

What's your boggle, citizen? Keep fucking her until you find a girl who does good conversation. Simple.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 08:43 ID:6sCgl3CY

this board is for people without girlfriends. Get off!

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 09:36 ID:JUaYzc4k

>>4
seconded!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 18:11 ID:Heaven

>>4
>>5
I think you lost your way to the single rants thread 2. Here, let me help.
http://4-ch.net/love/kareha.pl/1157881574/l50

This board is for romance. That's it.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 11:24 ID:WxcqNfAe

We talk a bunch but she never has her own opinion or maybe she does but is shy/embarassed to say it cause she thinks she's dumb or infantile and this in turn makes her look so...

But damn she gives great head and looks almost like a loli.

But still, this is not right. How could I get her to be more confident about her views?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 16:47 ID:xbXJ/jwB

OP, when you say you're an "adult", what does that mean? You mean like 18-19, or older?

If you're older than 19, you need a real woman.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 17:34 ID:/YcC0RZr

So this girl has a shitty personality? So what? Most of them do. Just keep banging her until something better comes along.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 20:41 ID:WxcqNfAe

>>8
I am 31 and maybe my intellect needs a real woman but my penis needs a teen...

Damn I wouldn't be able to just say that anywhere but on an anonymous internet BBS but it's how things stand...

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 04:27 ID:Heaven

>>10
You poor being. Must be hard to suck so much at life.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 13:04 ID:Heaven

>>11
Seconded

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 15:01 ID:Heaven

>>11, >>12

fags

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-22 19:56 ID:1SiJx9Ic

>>10 You are aware, OP that if she's under 18 banging her is most likely a felony in your state? If her parents found out and reported you to the cops you'd be charged with rape of a child, and become a registered sex offender. That's not something you want on your record.

Also, you're 31 and banging a high school student? You fucking creepy scumbag!

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 00:25 ID:Heaven

>>14

Jealous...? =/

Anyway ew OP that's gross, I'd never date such an old man like you.
There's something wrong with that girl. >_<

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 04:14 ID:QOCkjrt/

>>15
I don't think he's jealous. And anyway it's irrelevant since. What he said made perfect sense.

17 Name: bingo : 2008-08-23 15:09 ID:aSAfuU2/

She's young and still developing an identity. I hope when you say she's a high school student you mean she's a senior. If she is anything less you should run to the hills. If you want to stick with her you're going to have to hold her hand for a few years, kids are kids. What is probably better for you is to date older females, or at least younger girls with substance.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 15:37 ID:WxcqNfAe

>>14
It's not a «felony» because I'm from a country in Europe not a United State...

>>15
Why would anything be wrong with her? She told me she prefers adult men because she tried dating boys her age and found them ridiculously immature...

Anyways I introduced her to some of my friends, who are similar age as me because she said she is tired of her friends and wants mature ones, and it went well...
Maybe it just takes time and she will feel comfortable with me and others so far it's going good.

PS

19 Name: bingo : 2008-08-23 19:44 ID:aSAfuU2/

the answer is simple. You are basing this entire relationship on her appearance and the sex. According to your first post there is nothing else. You two are not a match, you find shortcomings in her and your going to find the relationship lacking. Not only that , even if you say nothing she'll know that you find her lacking and it will make her feel bad. This is not based in age, but the fact that in a relationship the partnership should be equal and it is far too obvious that you are on higher footing then her.

The best thing to do is to break it off and tell her there is probably someone out there more suited to her, perhaps someone that is older then her but younger then you. Or you could just ignore the huge disparity between your lives and just fuck her as much as you can.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 00:59 ID:WxcqNfAe

>>19
I am hoping there is a third option: changing her for the better so that there is less of a disparity between us...

However, expecting to form her to match my ideals might be selfish right? But I will never find a woman who is 100% perfect outright.

She is a good sex partner which is pretty damn important and rare too... However it might be easier to improve how my girl does in bed than changing her personality, sadly...

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 02:02 ID:Heaven

>>18

Um yeah guys my age do suck but you're like 30 that's gross!
There's something wrong with her.
If you're so mature why are hanging out with a teenager T____T
She's just another one of those silly subby girls with father issues who can only feel validated if they are sucking off a wrinkly old penis... whatever. The pedo and the whore lol ^_^

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 02:21 ID:WxcqNfAe

>>21
Are all 30 year olds gross? Or just one specific 30 year old you have in mind? Looks like I'm not gross to her!

Why am I hanging out with her? Well because I love to. It's also somewhat of a forbidden taboo thing; and I always enjoyed mischief!

And silly subby girls are the best, no man likes dykes! But you seem like a sub too so it's all good!

Also its not wrinkly 30 is not 80!

23 Name: bingo : 2008-08-24 04:08 ID:aSAfuU2/

First about 30 year old penises, my bf penis is right there, 30 years old. And it works quite well thank you ^.~ (oh, and I'm 27, and I work well enough)

As far as changing someone, I must say through the years I've changed a lot. But such things are very difficult to do, even when one is willing to change it doesn't guarantee success. Maybe you could be a mentor to her, see if she has any talents and encourage her to develop them. Young people are flexable and can learn quickly, but she could change in a way you dislike, or perhaps she won't change at all. If she had a talent, potential, an interest you should already be seeing a passion in her and you are not. If you keep it up you will have a hard road a head that may lead to lack of any fulfillment.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 04:18 ID:nKEtQAis

>>20
Don't expect any efforts to change her to work. Humans are resistant to change, and a classic relationship mistake people make is staying in a dead-end relationship thinking they can change the other person..only to find out years later they've been wasting their time. If you're truly fixated on trying to change her, set a time limit and stick to it. If your efforts haven't brought about significant change by the time limit, bail out.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 06:20 ID:WxcqNfAe

>>24 >>23
Thanks, I think you are ultimately right there :^(

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-25 20:48 ID:1SiJx9Ic

>>22 There's a whole lot of room between "silly sub" and "dyke" And yes, a lot of men like women who aren't submissive. Mine, for instance.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 04:42 ID:WdgjARaH

i like some of the earlier posters idea keep fucking her until you find something better and don't worry about hurting her feelings she's still young she'll get over it

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 16:38 ID:Heaven

>>27 screw you

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 20:23 ID:gIvBF0Sa

if you just stay in for sex, then you're sort of leading her on. and it sounds like she wants more than sex. i think you know what needs to be done. don't hurt the poor girl :/

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-28 00:30 ID:Heaven

HURT THE POOR GIRL

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