I want to learn more about this girl... (16)

1 Name: Intrigued : 2008-09-12 05:06 ID:LdpLa8nR

I am a sophmore in high school. There's this girl who sits at the table behind me in Japanese class. It has only been a couple of weeks since school started, but I find myself becoming interested in her. I noticed that she was reading manga one day, which really piqued my curiosity because I am a hardcore otaku/anime fan. She eats lunch in the same classroom as me, and I think she's a member of the anime club. Here's the problem:

  1. She's very quiet, at least when not with her friends. As a result(also because I'm shy), I haven't talked with her at all.
  2. My table has loud idiot-sickos who say nasty shit all period long. I don't want to be associated with them really... though there's one cool/nice guy at my table.

OBJECTIVE:
Get to know this girl better, and if I end up liking her more, asking her out.

About me:
15 years old, a nerd, but don't really look like it (I think). I dress well, not like a wannabe gangster popular kid or anything. I'm an otaku, but it's not all I say/do. It's a big part of my character, but I like other stuff too. I'm OK looking; pretty damn skinny, with a few pimples. Dunno what else to say...:p

Thanks

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-12 07:24 ID:Heaven

Why are you posting here if you're from Japan and not on 2-ch?

3 Name: Intrigued : 2008-09-12 15:01 ID:LdpLa8nR

>>2
I'm from America, but my school offers japanese as a foreign language.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-12 16:33 ID:/w76lFev

Since when was 15 a sophomore in high school? Anyways, I doubt it'll work, because face it, you ARE a skinny, pimply anime nerd. Also, usually when somebody is all quiet and shy, they want to be left alone. Sorry to be a buzzkill OP, but I'm just calling it as I see it.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-12 21:43 ID:Heaven

>>4 since always? there are people who were born after september you know. you suck at giving advice by the way.

OP, the girl youre going after is obviously a nerd like yourself from your description. you have to man up if you want to get anywhere, because shes never going to speak to you otherwise. going after a nerd is the easiest thing in the world, you just need to speak to them because theyre waiting for a guy just to talk to them. you dont even have to be decent looking. if you dont look like you have down syndrome youve already got a foot in the door just by being interested. if you look like a hunchback, hell, youve still got a decent chance.

6 Name: Intrigued : 2008-09-12 22:08 ID:LdpLa8nR

Thanks for the advice, all.

I guess the real problem is, I don't really have any conversation starters. Or rather, I don't ever have any reason I would need to talk with her. Any ideas?

Also, she seems to lighten up quite a bit when with friends, and she does seem to have at least one male friend. Don't know how that changes things.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-12 22:25 ID:Heaven

>>6 youre kidding right? you both like anime/manga, youre both in the same japanese class, it couldnt be any easier to start a conversation with her.

8 Name: Intrigued : 2008-09-12 22:48 ID:LdpLa8nR

>>7
Yes, I am well aware of how pitiful my shyness is. I just have this idea in my head that if I walk over and say, "so, you're into anime, huh?" she'll be like, "...yes....?.."

Which will in turn leave me in despair.

Maybe I should add more descriptors for the situation. 2 of the girls at her table are much more talkative; which scares the shit out of me, since if I went over with lame conversation starters/created awkwardness, when I left what if they were like "what a wierdo, approaching you out of nowhere". I do 'know' one of the girls at the table, but only for a few days now, as I met her in the class I have before japanese.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-12 23:05 ID:z8DsI1Vc

>>8 sometimes you just have to risk looking like a weirdo.

You could always ask that girl you know what the homework was for previous class, and while you are over there, say hi to the girl and introduce yourself and see how things go from there.

or join the anime club???

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 05:50 ID:pXh3wlvU

Join the anime club, and sit near her. After they show an episode, try discussing it with her. That way, it won't seem out-of-the-blue. It might be good to sit alone so it seems like you don't have anyone else to discuss it with.

If you're lucky, maybe your Japanese teacher will make you partners for some sort of project.

Don't rush it. Get to know that other girl who sits at that table with her. If her friends are that talkative and outgoing, they'll probably organize outings and whatnot, so it would be good if you were invited (meaning, of course, you have to be friends with them). If they come to like you well enough, they might even try to set you up with her.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 09:23 ID:Heaven

>It might be good to sit alone so it seems like you don't have anyone else to discuss it with.
>If you're lucky, maybe your Japanese teacher will make you partners for some sort of project.
>If they come to like you well enough, they might even try to set you up with her.

What the hell is this supposed to be? Advice?

Oh. My. God.

OP: go talk to her.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 10:59 ID:PpZfLDFK

>>11

Yeah, go freakin' talk to her. Say ANYTHING. Talk about furries for christ's sake. The conversation will quickly steer into more interesting waters if you drop an anime hint.

You have the opportunity most of us DREAMED of. Shit, 3 years ago I was in almost the same exact situation, save for the class being Biology instead of Japanese. Two idiots at my table and all, never quieting themselves long enough for me to talk to her (Yeah, those fucks saw her reading Sailor Moon and LAUGHED about it... I WISH I had the guts to shut them up back then), nervously looking at her because the idiots gave me a small excuse to do so, then turning back around and quietly finishing my own assignments.

TALK TO HER.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 11:41 ID:/y5PCafl

OP: Cut the crap and talk to her. Best advice was given over and over. It never gets started unless you and her talk, so better get it over with sooner rather than later.

Also, better get to her before the cool guy does.

Loara Anaheim

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 14:53 ID:5ob/GC6j

>I'm an otaku

in America, the term is weeaboo

15 Name: Intrigued : 2008-09-13 17:09 ID:LdpLa8nR

Thanks for the advice everyone. <.< now I'm looking forward to monday. I'll post updates on what's happening.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 17:16 ID:1W3AIbtd

If you do nothing, nothing will happen.

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