I am a bisexual woman. Every time I meet a man or woman that I am highly attracted to, I start believing that I am unworthy of their love, so I never try to get into a relationship with them. Instead, I find out if they have a crush on anyone, and try my hardest to hook them up with that person. I suppose I feel that if I really care for a person, I wouldn't put them through dating me, and find someone better for them (more attractive, wealthy, closer to their location, etc.). Does anyone else feel this way?
Yes, sometimes I too do feel that way, but only when my object of desire has shown obvious disinterest in me.
However, when a girl does this to me it can be really saddening. First off, I don't need anyone's help "hooking up". If I can't achieve success by myself then I don't deserve it.
Second, it makes me feel that I am using this girl, even though I never asked for it.
But worst of all is that I consider this behaviour a sign of honest personality and deep heart, which is very rare, and often find myself attracted to this girl. So actually she IS worthy of love, but after all those happenings it's very difficult.
Even if you're ugly, poor and live far from the city.. I knew a girl like this and she did as you describe, tried talking her gorgeous girlfriend into going out with me; but this touched me so much I fell in love with her. However, she didn't let me love her.
I have to say that often I feel the exact opposite, that a girl is going out with a guy who is not worthy of her, and I get a desire to seduce her and become her secret lover and please her as best I can without expecting anything (love) in return.
Either way these well-intentioned initiatives can end up landing you in trouble or depression, why are you convinced you aren't worthy of anyone's love?
Worth isn't universal. If you think you are unworthy, don't be depressed, he might consider you to be valued as pure gold.
Same goes for me really, I prefer different types of people for different characteristics, what concerns females, I'd consider the average girl, who to the average guy is attractive as hell, to be valued as copper at the very best, but I might place platinum on someone, who doesn't even go as a possibility for the average Joe.
I have a friend just like you. DD:
Seriously, it gets annoying for your friends after a while. I'm sure you just have low confidence, but it's still no reason for you to not just try it. You're worth just as much as everyone else and you may be worth even more to the girl.
But yeah, what happened with my friend is I basically forced her to go out with this girl who was perfect for her. She thought she wasn't worth while for the girl who I was setting her up with, because she is like popular, beautiful and funny.
BUTTT. I was right, and she was wrong (had to get that in) They got on like a house on fire, and the girl really liked her. They went out for like 5 or 6 months. And I just tried to show her, that she could get anything she wants if she just tries.
I hope this helps you, and I hope you just go for it one day with a girl who's right for you!~