Is this wrong? (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 01:38 ID:t3AbbQxx

I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend. I'm tired of constantly being rejected so now I'm going to give up trying.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 02:27 ID:Heaven

Okay.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 03:25 ID:TyWRw2Vw

Has a girl never asked you out?

4 Name: bingo : 2008-09-29 03:41 ID:bAlGO6vX

Maybe giving up can be a good thing. Focusing on yourself and what is best for your life is what you need to do. Having a girlfriend can bring happiness and fun, but it can also be a pain. As me and many of my friends have experienced you find love when you least expect it. Don't worry so much.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 05:27 ID:t3AbbQxx

OP hear >>3 "Has a girl never asked you out?" No, no one thought to even ask, but if some one would that I thought was cute, the answer would be yes.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 13:31 ID:9HXt6YSz

Any reason why you think you are being rejected?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 15:51 ID:Uu1UtLwS

OP, do you actively want to have a girlfriend, or is it just something that you wouldn't mind happening if you don't have to put effort into it?

I'm 22 and until quite recently I had yet to acquire a romantic counterpart of my own (and in my case, I'm a girl). No one has ever asked me out, but I had never asked anyone out myself until I got so desperate for affection and the want to date that I finally put my meek feet forward and made a move. I initiated conversation with a guy I had interest in, resulting in a verbal friendship. As I began to feel more comfortable with him, I suggested we start meeting on our own time and do activities together. And finally, a physical relationship has began to develop between us. And it took effort on my end to get me where I am. This guy would never have spoken to me on his own accord let alone ask me out, but when I took charge (despite being incredibly shy and awkward), he reacted and I got results that I am very, very pleased with.

OP, you have to take charge and be the aggressive party, the pursuer. For years I expected romance to land in my lap if it were supposed to happen for me, and until I met this guy, I had given up on love and resigned to becoming the crazy cat lady down the street. But through this recent experience I learned that things just don't fall into your lap and unfold themselves for you. You must put effort into something like this.

If you have been forward in pursuing a mate in the past and it hasn't worked out, then maybe all you need is a little technique critiquing. And this board is the perfect place to explore what you may need to (and not want to) do when attempting to establish a successful romantic relationship with another person, but first you must sort out what it really is that you want and just how much effort and time you're willing to put into it. It was worth it for me, and I'm sure it will be for you, OP.

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