Girl at work (7)

1 Name: smitten : 2008-12-08 14:09 ID:Gq/uWPvf

Hello all. First time poster here. Here is my first story:

I started at a new job three months ago. I noticed that a girl from the HR department was always smiling at me, always greets me in the hallways, touchy feely, basically flirty. At first I didn't notice her, but as the days went by, I started to like her because she was giving signals.

After an officemate's birthday party, I asked her if could accompany her to the bus station as we were going down the building, someone texted her: her boyfriend. I was planning to get her number but I was thrown off by her revealing that she has a boyfriend.

The next day at work, she still acted as if all flirty like before, I acted the same as well over the next couple of weeks, I decided on my next move if I really wanted to steal her from her boyfriend or not.

Finally, I decided that I would just confess my feelings for her. The opportunity came during another one of our officemate's birthday parties. Like last time, we went out of the office together. As we arrived in the bus stop, I told her that I wanted to say something.
I confessed that I knew that she had a bf, but I just wanted her to know that I liked her
Her reaction was that of genuine surprise, but there was no explicit statement of reciprocation of my feelings or rejection of advances. I finished by stating that I wouldn't steal her from her bf, then I left

The next day at work, I felt really awkward and did not want to see her at all. Inevitably, we would meet each other in the hallways and she was the first one to smile at me, and I smiled back. But lately, I've been purposely ignoring her for my own benefit because I still have hurt feelings.

tl;dr I liked a girl at work who had a boyfriend, confessed, girl had no definite reaction, continued awkwardness at work because of the lack of closure.

2 Name: Yoshiya : 2008-12-08 17:12 ID:1i71g7jH

I would venture to say that she's just trying to ignore what happened and keep things as they were. To be honest, from what I've heard it's entirely possibly that she's not really being flirty with you. It's fairly common to smile at friends, and some girls just naturally tend to touch people during interactions.

If I were you, I would just try to do whatever it is that you need to in order to forget this crush. I know you feel like there's no sense of closure, but honestly the fact that she's trying to act like it didn't happen is a good sign. It means that she wants to be friends, and I would try and go with that.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-08 23:43 ID:8MWRdjkZ

>>2
Thanks. Will do that.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-11 23:52 ID:D4Xe6tnH

Girl at work (3)
1 Name: smitten : 2008-12-08 14:09 ID:Gq/uWPvf [Del]

Hello all. First time poster here. Here is my first story:

I started at a new job three months ago. I noticed that a girl from the HR department was always smiling at me, always greets me in the hallways, touchy feely, basically flirty.

>What else can she do? Maybe she is horny.

At first I didn't notice her, but as the days went by, I started to like her because she was giving signals.

After an officemate's birthday party, I asked her if could accompany her to the bus station as we were going down the building, someone texted her: her boyfriend. I was planning to get her number but I was thrown off by her revealing that she has a boyfriend.

>Think about whether she was just kind or was really flirting. If yes, maybe she wanted you but she didn't break up with her boyfriend just yet. What else can she do, again? She doesn't really know you yet well enough to know it's worth it.

The next day at work, she still acted as if all flirty like before, I acted the same as well over the next couple of weeks, I decided on my next move if I really wanted to steal her from her boyfriend or not.

Finally, I decided that I would just confess my feelings for her.

>This is where you make mistake. What can she do with your feelings? She is horny... she needs you know... not necessarily feelings.

The opportunity came during another one of our officemate's birthday parties. Like last time, we went out of the office together. As we arrived in the bus stop, I told her that I wanted to say something.
I confessed that I knew that she had a bf, but I just wanted her to know that I liked her
Her reaction was that of genuine surprise,

>Yes, she was genuinely surprised how much of an immature pussy you are. She only smiled at you, you don't even know her at all, yet you fall for her? That's middle school level.

but there was no explicit statement of reciprocation of my feelings or rejection of advances.

>I would bet that if you just grabbed her and treated her like a man treats a woman, she would have not objected. But she needs no childish boy. But what can she do? She doesn't want to hurt you, so no rejection either.

I finished by stating that I wouldn't steal her from her bf, then I left

The next day at work, I felt really awkward and did not want to see her at all. Inevitably, we would meet each other in the hallways and she was the first one to smile at me, and I smiled back.

But lately, I've been purposely ignoring her for my own benefit because I still have hurt feelings.

tl;dr I liked a girl at work who had a boyfriend, confessed, girl had no definite reaction, continued awkwardness at work because of the lack of closure.
2 Name: Yoshiya : 2008-12-08 17:12 ID:1i71g7jH [Del]

I would venture to say that she's just trying to ignore what happened and keep things as they were. To be honest, from what I've heard it's entirely possibly that she's not really being flirty with you. It's fairly common to smile at friends, and some girls just naturally tend to touch people during interactions.

>May be.. may be

If I were you, I would just try to do whatever it is that you need to in order to forget this crush. I know you feel like there's no sense of closure, but honestly the fact that she's trying to act like it didn't happen is a good sign. It means that she wants to be friends, and I would try and go with that.
3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-08 23:43 ID:8MWRdjkZ [Del]

>>2
Thanks. Will do that.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-12 00:18 ID:C5M40clG

first mistake: falling for a girl at work. bad, bad idea.

second mistake: telling her bluntly that you liked her, especially knowing she has a bf.

your lucky strike: the fact that she is trying to act like nothing happened. if she disliked you, your entire workplace would know what happened, where, and how.

conclusion: this one's gone for now, chief. find a new one. maybe you can try again if she breaks up with her bf.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-12 02:36 ID:LMjQRxhy

DON'T DIP YOUR PEN IN THE COMPANY INK!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-12 08:31 ID:Heaven

dating sommeone in the HR department seems like a bad idea...

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