Bars and clubs are the best, but they're out, apparently. You need to find places where people go to relax and hang out, a coffee shop, maybe? Friends, family and church are horrid choices, too many people already know you and it makes it harder to find someone who isn't going to be influenced by your past. Far better to find someone outside those close-knit circles, someone you can be your real self around. Plus if it doesn't work out you won't be marked as someone's ex so easily, and it's less likely they'll have heard her angsty shit about you before or after you split up.