Okay, like the title says, I'm 17, and this girl's twelve. We like each other, but I'm afraid people will think I'm a pedophile if we start dating. It's not sexual, we just like each other.
How does that work?
I don't think that it does, however the maturity and depth of the feeling must do.
Maybe you should just be her friend, dude. When she's 16 you can start kissing and shit.
If you were 25 and she were 20, I wouldn't bat an eye. If you were 20 and she were 15, it would be a little creepy, but I'd still say it was okay. But there's a serious maturity gap between 12 and 17. So unless you are excessively immature for your age or she is excessively mature for her age, I'd say: don't date her.
Just stick to being friends for now. I don't know you personally, but I would suspect, as >>5 said, that there's a huge maturity gap.
Y-y-yeah, you're gonna have to wait until you're older. If you truly love her, and aren't just some random pedo, then wait until you're both consenting adults and get married or whatnot. Five years doesn't make that much difference when you're older and get married. I know a kid who's dad is like 15 years older than his mom. We make fun of him by saying how his wife is being born now. xD
Anyway, I am dating her now. I'm very immature, so it works.
"I'm very immature, so it works."
Awesome! I can't say I agree with the overall tone of this but hey, I lost my virginity at 13 and my little brothers lost theirs even before that, so whatever. You go do what you do you crazy kids! (Yo tengo 25 años)
Jeez, man, you're one of those creeps who dates little girls.
You know, the one kids who talk about one girl's boyfriend who is like in 11th grade and the girl is in 5th.
Also she will be 13 when you will be 18.
Think about it.
Plus she probably hasn't had her first period either.
So yeah whatever gets your rocks off. What I would do? Not date a 5th grader.
Is there actually a problem? I don't understand your post. If you like the girl, you like the girl. Just don't think about having sex with her for a couple of years, or you'll get into trouble.
Or did I miss something?
This is incredibly selfish. Let her be a kid. She's not even in her teens yet.
Part of childhood is romantic and sexual attraction and dealing with/expressing/experiencing it. This misconception that children are "innocent" and don't have such feelings is bullshit. In fact I'd be highly surprised if she's not already sexually active.
With that being said, go for it.
>>14 12 year olds may not be innocent but they are certainly not ready for sex or a relationship with a near adult. Even a lot of 16 year olds are hardly ready for it judging by the number of pregnant teens.
if its not sexual then why not stick to a platonic relationship?
When I was 17, I slept with a 14 year-old. One of the stupider things I've done in my life.
Why? Did they get emotionally attached or something?
17-12=5
what's wrong?
just don't ever get your lust takes over your mind...
you'll get in trouble if you do that~
have you ever ask your parents about that?
Just do what you two feel like doing. Don't let the world tell you what to do...You aer free to love.
2 words: Perverted Pedophile. Also an alletiration. Stop doing drugs.
I'm not on drugs. And I'm no a Pedophile. It's completely non-sexual.
I think he's asking advise since, even if there isn't any love, he can't garanty that it will remain like this for long.
My advise to this young man (even if he's only 4 years old under me XD) is as followed.
First, you need to know about the one around you : your friends, your parents and her parents. But don't think about it like if it's the answer. It's to see who might become hard time for the futur, if something more serious is involved.
Once you know more about it, just think about if you're feeling okay to feel the pressure that those who reject it will put on you. That's the answer to your dilema.
There is juste 1 thing you need to remember : At the age of 12, there is NOT a single child who know about how they will feel later and how they will react. I have made the mistake of trusting girl around 16 while I was 18 and they did all the same mistake : They never asked themselves the true questions : and it ended up to hurt me for quite good.
Our parents found out, and the shit hit the fan, but, we've decided in 8 years we'll get married.
lol kids
Bleah, we broke up.
Yeah, obviously.