Casio Shock vs Korean Nerd for Korean Girl (8)

1 Name: Casio Shock : 2009-02-19 17:46 ID:ixJUfYZD

For those who've stood by on the "easier to be in a relation that's the same ethnicity" thread, you know what's going on.

Ok so I recently found out (JUST NOW!) that my school is throwing this ASB Ball "Under the Stars". So I'm basically trying to ask Korean girl out. Not working out. Still we haven't talked all week and I better make my move fast. But it's not easy for me. I actually kinda feel bad. Why? For the past 2 nights, I've sent text messages to her that never got any replies and plus they were both pretty bad. One was an apology for not talking to her this week and the other was to see if she was still awake. Boy do I feel...NO, STILL FEEL LIKE A COMPLETE IDIOT! =<

And it really just gets worse. It seems like as days pass by, this Korean nerd, (no offense, I'm one too) , seems more at ease with her. They're always together conversing and I just fall apart. And it sucks cause it all my fault. I know I need to get it together but I'm obviously overwhembled by negative thoughts.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-19 18:28 ID:ApugE+uD

just go and talk to her. What would she think of a guy who does not even dare to come up to her?

And you would be well advised to concentrate less on the Korean Nerd and more on the Korean Girl.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-19 18:37 ID:JEJVlETZ

OK, dude. Here's what you have to do:

1) Chill the hell out. She's just a girl, man. She's practically like you and me, only a girl.
2) Ask her out.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-19 18:38 ID:JEJVlETZ

>>3
also I should add that you should ask her out by going to her and asking her out to the dance.

Not by staring at her at school and then sending an SMS at midnight.

5 Name: >>8 poster --> goforit : 2009-02-20 03:11 ID:pQDJlBYW

hmm... okay...
you made a big mistake...
actually that is not something you have to apologize for~

is there any chance you could make to approach her without the other korean by her side?

you should make that chance...
but don't make it like that is a chance that you made.
make it naturally~
make it like some sort of coincidence that you met her.
ask some light questions like:
"how are you?"
"it's a nice weather wasn't it?" or something like that...
and the next thing is:
"say, how's the classes? is it hard?" blah blah blah... (i'm actually bad in making some little chat... hehehe)

but the thing i know from korean culture is:

  1. they would ask "have you eaten your meal?"(in korean of course) as they meet.

it's actually implemented like "how are you?" in english. because older korean(or it sometimes boy to girls) are usually would take them to go lunch/dinner together and pasy for them.
2. they would ask an actual "how are you" if they haven't meet you for several days.

hint: you could ask her about my knowledge later as some topic when your relationship is going better.

don't give up just because she has another korean by her side.
there IS a chance for you to got her attention.
people said: "every girls are like to got affection"
that's true but remember... don't act odd in front of girls okay? (the one you does in the past can't be changed... but you can change the future!)

6 Name: 777 : 2009-02-20 11:01 ID:iZs//Z0B

Greetings Sir Shock, I have made some outrageous assumptions and recommendations in order to better your situation.

I am presuming that you like this girl based purely on her looks or, that you have omitted her other qualities in the other thread. If this is the case, then it is a mere infatuation, and you should not become fluttered so much as to apologize for not talking to her.

Instead of not knowing what to do, you should know what to do. How is this possible you ask? I am sure you have heard of this many times, but be confident and involve her in something which you excel at. This can be in the fields of abstract thinking such as mathematics or philosophy, and in the fields of activity, such as athletics.

On a side note, be sure to treat her with respect as a fellow citizen, but do not see her as your equal in terms of being. She must be viewed as inferior if you are to demonstrate to her your excelling talents or you may become nervous if you see her as otherwise.

It is now onto you to take or leave my advice, have fun!

7 Name: Casio Shock : 2009-02-20 17:47 ID:ixJUfYZD

Sometimes I surprise even myself…..

Yesterday I asked her out to the ASB Ball and I got the same answer of I’ll ask my sister. Still don’t know why she always goes to her sister but she does. After that my friend completely embarrassed himself and I in front of her as he was trying to get to know her “hot” friend. What occurred was an odd situation of awkward silence and spontaneous laughter between he and I for no apparent reason. I made a bad move….
So today we apologozed in a very great way, a friend even said it was "kinda cute". Anyway after that everything just seemed....normal. I felt no longer nervous or anythign and soon we chatted. After everything I finally asked if she would ever be free. She then said that because she was new to the area, she wanted to just have fun for now, and fessed she wasn't interested right now. I don't know how to take that but I'm amaazed that I'm not at all upset or mad! I'm ok with it!! I actually agree with her and for now just wanna be friends, but a "friend above any other friend", meaning I'll be a friend but still want to have a knowing presence. So all's good!

>>6
Amazingly no, I don't like her for her looks. And believe me if you see her she's not at all "hot". It's just that feeling I guess. She's unlike anyother girl I've known or seen really, as corny as it sounds. As the song says, "Everything she does is magic", I'm just so into her. And getting to talk to her makes me just "relieved".

So to sum it all up, I believe that after all all thats happened so far, I guess I CAN be chill. There's still time before prom or my graduation, there's other girls I'm interested in (not as much as Korean girl), and I honestly feel good bout it all.

8 Name: 777 : 2009-02-21 09:04 ID:iZs//Z0B

Greetings.

It seems like you have the time and option to have fun with other girls, which is a good thing. Remember to enjoy your high school life while you can!

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