iM FAlling in Love... I think... (34)

1 Name: ringo-chan : 2009-02-20 05:43 ID:KBmMXjg0

I think im falling in love.. im 21 going 22 this march.. this is my first time to fall in love.. or so i think.. i dont know if this is love or just plain like.. im always easily attracted to guys.. especially guys who look like animes.. (well, im an otaku) im also part of those population that you call nbsb or no boyfriend since birth.. so i really dont know if what i feel for this guy is love or like.. oh, im sorry, i forgot to mention im a girl and im fr the philippines..

im currently working in a call center for a year and 3mos now.. i have this teammate whom i will call "kisame".. i really like him so much.. i recently had a crush on him, like only last november or december.. he is cute.. nice.. attractive.. fun to be with.. and has a very good personality.. and he is one of my closest friends in our team..

i dont know if its love or just like that i feel for him.. im afraid to tell him how i feel because i know his type of girl.. but recently weve been getting too close to each other.. i dont know if im just imagining things but there are times when i can feel his face very close to my cheek (like yesterday when im looking at a cellphone and he just moved his face close to the thing that im looking at and because of that his face is just very close to mine) or i can feel his breath on my neck (that was when i am having calls but he is available)..

im so afraid.. but currently i feel this heavy baggage in my chest.. i feel jealous when i hear him talking about liking other women.. oh, did i forget to mention that i know who his crush at work is? and i always tease him about his crush.. ehehe... im stupid neh? sigh i dont know what to do..

i grew up in a very conservative family wherein my parents always teach us the values of women not going after men.. i mean.. ill say it in tagalog "babae ang nanliligaw sa lalake" sigh my mother will definitely look down on me if i go and confess to him first..

i dont know.. im totally confused.. i can get some hints fr him but i dont know if im just imagining things.. and oh, he has the reputation wherein all of his past girlfriends were the one who confessed to him.. i dont know what to do.. i made a vow to myself that i wont confess to him but.. sigh and im also afraid that if i confess to him, id be rejected.. sigh you might say im a loser thinking all of these things.. but i really cant help it..

and now theres this storm coming.. our team is going to be disbanded because our team leader will be transferred to a diff account and will leave us.. all of us will be distributed to diff teams.. i dont if im going to be in the same team as he is.. sigh

and is this love im feeling for him or just like? sigh

uhn,... please give me some of your advice.. id gladly listen..

2 Name: 777 : 2009-02-20 10:34 ID:+sIJy2iE

In response to your question of "is this love im feeling for him or just like?"

Ask yourself this; if he was lacking the qualities as you described, "cute.. nice.. attractive.. fun to be with.." would you still be interested in him?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-20 22:59 ID:YojtpnFV

Love or like, it actually does not matter. What matters is that you are interested in him, and that is enough to warrant some action on your part over him ^_^

Your strategy should be to get to spend some good times with him. The more time he is willing to share with you, the better. So find out what are his interests (movies, music, food, whatever), and turn those interests into activities you both can take part in.

Just don't give up even before trying, that's too bad. Value your feelings and act upon them, just don't waste too much time pondering what's the correct label for them, what matter is the effect they have on you: in this cas it's clear, this guy is all over your mind!

4 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-22 10:13 ID:zbs2P6Oh

kabayan... I just felt the need to reply on your thread... all my past girlfriends confessed to me...

You are inlove if...

You include that certain person in all of your future plans...
You see him/her as attractive even if lantaran na sa mukha mo ang flaws niya...
You feel sad/uncomfortable/worried when you cannot feel his/her presence...
You start to change for the better to impress the person...
You start acting for your feelings... or change your beliefs/thoughts to accept the person that you love...

That's just for me though... An opinion... I never felt anything like what I felt for my last ex... We're still friends but I feel so strongly for her... Do you think you're inlove OP? I think it's not always the feeling of happiness when you're with that certain person... It's the feeling of being accepted and being loved... Sorry, malabo...

5 Name: ringo-chan : 2009-02-23 07:01 ID:19GK5eSa

thank you so much! i really appreciate your all of your advice... yep... based on what you have mentioned, i really am in love with him...

lately i am spending a lot of time with him... after work, either he'll wait for me and we will eat a simple breakfast (because our shift ends in the morning for call center representatives) or i'll wait for him and we eat with our common friends... (because of our shifting schedules) before, im too lazy to go out because im a homebody.. but now, because of him, i tend to go out a lot... of course, with him or our common friends... im am much closer to him now (i think), of course, as a friend... hehehe

and, uhm... ill add a little more complication to my story.. he is a very liberated guy.. i am a very conservative person... and he tends to do things, without thinking of the consequences...

another thing, he told me a secret that he likes one of our friends (ouch!).. the girl is my total opposite... as in... super ouch! but i dont want to change just because of that...

6 Name: ringo-chan : 2009-02-23 07:09 ID:19GK5eSa

@kabayan Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f_ID:zbs2P6Oh

hehehe... sobrang tugmang tugma mga binanggit mo...

7 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-23 13:11 ID:Heaven

that is indeed complicated... the same goes with me and my ex, she's a very liberated woman, i'm a very conservative man... I actually broke up with her due to trust issues... I found out that she slept with her crush a week or so before naging kami...

But you may say, it's okay if a guy sleeps with other girls... Well, most guys do but not all of them, it's not necessarily wrong but it's not necessarily right either... If you will not become "liberated" yourself, maybe you'll have a hard time being with this guy because you're "conservative" and he's "liberated"... Masasaktan ka lang... Ako kasi nasaktan...

8 Name: ringo-chan : 2009-02-24 07:01 ID:BaKB7XjD

yep... he always tells stories about his night out with girls and of course, the do "it"... he tends to be very wild whenever he is drunk.. he told me he slept with his gf's bestfriend while they were still in a relationship... kamusta naman di ba? hehehe... weird thing is i still like him.. im hurt na nga when he told me who his crush is... and now, at our office, i recently found out there are two girls who likes him... one is very liberated, the other one is still a very young beautiful girl... i dont know what to do na... sigh

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-24 09:53 ID:vMg4ooCT

Well,... at least if you go for him, you know what's in store, which is already not so bad ;-) But ultimately, whether you go for him or not is your personal call.

10 Name: Dude-chan : 2009-02-24 10:59 ID:wxm7tl04

Kung isipin mo na ganun... This guy is somehat dense.

11 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-24 13:11 ID:zbs2P6Oh

ringo-chan, it seems to be his style of flirting with you (the stories about his nightout with girls with the "it" part) or maybe he's just proud telling his stories to you - it feeds his ego maybe because he knows that you like him, after all, he seems like an expert on wooing women, you know, good at getting pussy, even fresh ones...

maybe you like him too much, like how I like my ex...

what you're going to do is up to you, it's your choice... just don't do something that you'll regret in the end... think well... emotions make us weak, hehehe...

12 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-02-25 07:35 ID:IK8x0jWq

guys, thanks so much sa advice... i really appreciate it... it helped me clear my foggy mind because of my feelings for him... i will really think about this... i know, this is a life changing decision for me because it will include me giving my heart to him... lets just say, im extremes kasi... but thank you so much po talaga... ^_^

13 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-02-25 07:36 ID:IK8x0jWq

@ Dude-chan : 2009-02-24 10:59 ID:wxm7tl04

paano mo pong nasabing dense siya? im just curious as to why?

14 Name: the bear : 2009-02-25 17:59 ID:7Nz95SBQ

you say youre an otaku. how do you live with yourself.
i have to say i feel terribly sorry for the miserable fuck you fell in love with. stop polluting other peoples lives with your insignificant presence. just fap to some haruhi record your self. profit?

15 Name: the bear : 2009-02-25 18:03 ID:7Nz95SBQ

you say youre an otaku. how do you live with yourself.
i have to say i feel terribly sorry for the miserable fuck you fell in love with. stop polluting other peoples lives with your insignificant presence. just fap to some haruhi record your self. profit?

16 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-26 02:25 ID:zbs2P6Oh

>>12

give your heart but save some for yourself, you don't want to be left empty handed if you fail. do well OP.

17 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-02-26 21:16 ID:8sRdg2cN

@ the bear

actually, i still live with my family. my friends even say im still like a kid. when i go to work early in the morning (like 1-3 am) my parents hired a driver to send me off to work. were not rich. my parents are still protective when it comes to me, their only daughter.

@keiichi

thanks po! i will.. ill heed all of your advice...

^_^

18 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-27 06:39 ID:Heaven

Hey ringo,

I'm actually on my way to see my ex this weekend... I'm still "inlove" with her but I think i'm feeling better about it, acceptance that I can never be with this person is slowly sinking in... I mean, I still have business to attend to and that is my miserable little life, for now, I have other plans - like convince her to become my friend because i'd be really sad if mawawala ang presence niya sa buhay ko...

What kind of a "conservative" are you ringo? Ako kasi noong una pa pinlano ko na na ang first time ko eh maibibigay ko sa magiging asawa ko. I failed to do it because nadisgrasya ako sa unang GF ko, nirape kasi ako nun, hehehe. Pero pagkatapos nun I've done my best na hindi na maulit muli, ang hirap iwasan ng temptasyon pero kinaya ko naman. So ngayon, 2nd time na lang ang maibibigay ko, pero okay pa naman siguro yung slightly used, hehehe.

Anyway, please do give us an update if sipagin ka. Curious ako sa kung anong gagawin mo at kung anong mangyayari.

19 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-02-27 06:53 ID:zbs2P6Oh

Oh... It's like this... At the moment, I consider her as a friend but she considers me as her boyfriend... You might misunderstand my >>4 post... She doesn't want me to be her friend, she wants us to be more than friends...

20 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-02-27 10:00 ID:wbyFpoHH

@ keiichi

conservative, as in never been kissed never been touched... and the same as you, before you were "raped" by your gf... heheh.. i want to give my all to my future husband... and im also conservative manamit.. no sleeveless blouses, no plunging necklines and the sort...

why, ayaw mo nang maging more than just friends with her... i mean, gusto pa din naman niya... may complication bang nangyari sa inyo? are we having difficulties in balancing your business and your ex-gf? ?

21 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-03-01 13:55 ID:zbs2P6Oh

Just came home, spent the most of the weekend with my ex.

Kasi ringo~chin, I don't want to invest too much emotions sa kanya, boyfriend = commitment kasi tsaka ayaw ko namang friends with benefits dahil di ko naman siya ginagamit, mahal ko kasi talaga yun. Umiyak na kasi ako sa kanya eh, first time yun sa buhay ko na umiyak ako sa babae... Masakit, sobrang sakit, kakaibang sakit, ganun pala yun, hindi na ako ngayon nagtataka kung bakit nagagawang magpakamatay ng ibang tao dahil nabigo sila sa pag-ibig...

Sabi ko nga kasi, "liberated" siya, she is promiscuous before naging kami. Doon kasi ang problema, while she sees sex as something you do on your pastime, I see it as an act to procreate so doon pa lang malaki na ang conflict namin. While our differences can be settled, it still needs a lot of time and a lot of work.

I actually like her a lot kasi sobrang honest sya sa akin, kusa nang nagsasabi kung anong mga ginagawa niya... Still though, her love to "get off" kinda alarms me... I think she loves getting off... and I don't think I satisfy her kasi hindi naman ako nakikipagsex sa kanya...

Guys like me would give an arm and a leg to marry a woman like you... I suggest na maghanap ka na lang ng conservative na katulad mo rin... I can't guarantee happiness but I think di ka mahihirapan mahalin ang taong pareho kayo ng pananaw... Ako nga nainlove sa taong parang opposites na kami, I never expected...

22 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-03-04 02:29 ID:NQZatTno

@keiichi

wow... you know, the guy i like has the same character as your ex-gf... based on the descriptions that you gave of your ex, yep.. kisame is the guy counterpart.. and Ive thought about it really hard... i love kisame... but i wont be able to bear the pain "if" we became attached and he's still doing "it" with other girls because i know for a fact i wont be able to give him my "virginity" before marriage.. they say im "old school".. i don't care...

currently, im training myself to look at him only as a friend, not as the guy i love (unrequited)... i still have the heavy baggage inside my heart everytime i see girls curl up to him like a snake and he's indifferent about it..

ill heed your advice.. i will look for a better man.. :D

23 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-03-11 01:27 ID:zbs2P6Oh

Hey ringo~chin,

Everytime me and my ex met, we always kissed and hugged, I couldn't resist because of the feelings I have for her. But last weekend was different, although I couldn't resist to hug her, I actually didn't kiss her which I think, is a good thing because maybe it's a sign that i'm making progress on actually being her friend rather than being her lover. She didn't get to hug me (she's too shy in public but a monster when we're alone) and I was okay with it. I think all that's left to do is try to explain to her why i'm not pursuing a relationship with her and why i'll stop pursuing my feelings for her (reason is that the feeling will just keep hurting me because I can't get myself trust her, she still hangs out with her exes even though she tells me, I can't be sure because we're far away from each other).

How do you feel for the guy now, ringo~chin? Still having strong feelings for him?

24 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-03-14 23:01 ID:HmYiIDan

well... im still hurting.. but i'm trying very hard to move on... he already has 2 new girl toys... <well, thats what i call them> these 2 girls both have their respective boyfriends.. one girl is also my officemate... let's call her "rp"... that girl is currently in war with her present boyfriend and is using "kisame" as a "panakip-butas" (temporary replacement)... she herself told me she has no plans on having a long term relationship with him... at first i was hurt with that, well, because i still had strong feelings for him when she told me that... but now i've realized, im out of the picture... if that's what he want, who am i to interfere... oh, and she doesn't know that i like him... and i'm the one they run to for advice when they are in lq (lover's quarrel)... hehehe... what a complicated situation i am in, neh?

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-15 01:01 ID:EHg2qKQ9

Actually your situation is quite simple: unrequited love. It's because you don't let go that it gets complicated.

You need a change of hair. There are more interesting men besides your co-worker

26 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-03-15 05:22 ID:OEnJ39Ni

>>25

well, you're right about that... i will let go of him asap.. im working hard on it... :)

27 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-03-22 02:11 ID:zbs2P6Oh

Heee-eeeeyyyy ringo~chin~~~

I say... Just take it one day at a time, eventually, you'll get over the feeling...

I'm meeting my ex again in two weeks... I. Am. So. In. Love. With. Her.

Maybe it would've been easier to let go if she didn't love me back, I just find myself being more and more in love with her everyday even if she's not around, strangely, I feel that this is getting more healthy - I mean, being inlove with her. Demmit!!!

So... I have two weeks to think on how to open up to her about me being her friend and being no more than that.

I hope you're feeling a whole lot better now ringo~chin.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-29 15:21 ID:7umQfwp9

>>1
what?!?! you made a vow to not confess??
that a very dumb thing to do....
just ask him out on a dinner or so then see what he do

29 Name: chewbacca : 2009-03-29 16:16 ID:vIKFWImg

does he have thick hair as well?

30 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-04-09 02:10 ID:zbs2P6Oh

Still around ringo~chin? I got my ex to agree to be being friends na lang. Kaninang umaga lang umiyak ako, the memories just kept coming. Anyway, life goes on, gotta stand on my decision... Kamusta naman?

31 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-05-04 04:14 ID:vJDhJ7QN

HI guys!

i want to inform you that the guy I think im in love with is now currently in a relationship with another friend of mine... another close friend of mine.. heheh...

@ Secret Admirer : 2009-03-29 15:21 ID:7umQfwp9 [Del]

>>1

what?!?! you made a vow to not confess??
that a very dumb thing to do....
just ask him out on a dinner or so then see what he do

ringo's rant
~i cant do that anymore... he already has a girlfriend... and im like, their bridge "tulay" sa tagalog... heheh

i thought i liked him... hindi pala... i was wrong... its just that he is too kind to me... at i was just swept away.... heheh... too baka (stupid) to think rationally...

32 Name: ringo~chan : 2009-05-04 04:16 ID:vJDhJ7QN

@keiichi

well... thats a very hard decision to make... i respect and admire you for what you did...

im ok now... doing better than before... my stats at work are in best conditions than when i was still infatuated with kisame... heheh...

how are you doing?

33 Name: Keiichi!!ZYkjrp2f : 2009-05-20 07:25 ID:zbs2P6Oh

He-eeey ringo~chin,

It's great to know that you're doing great at work. As for me, am quitting work at the end of the next month. Doing what I did was a lot harder than I thought it would be... I'm doing fine although sometimes I can't help feeling sad, guess I can't help thinking of her, di ko mapigilang mamiss sya ng sobra...

34 Name: Ryuuchi : 2009-05-20 19:39 ID:dfgS3qN/

I always thought those call center peeps always show off with their "classy" clothes and all.

Anywho, it sounds like this guy is a player. I wouldn't go for a guy who is a player because what I think about those guys is that they are not looking for true love at the moment and just want to play around with girls.

If you are serious about it then I think you shouldn't be thinking or try to like the guy. I'm not saying because it's bad or something, it's just that I think you might get hurt more when you like him than you are trying too hard not to like him. It's best you look for another guy better than him.

Like I said, don't expect anything in love.

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