Hey so i was in school today and i was looking out the windows (My class is at the 2nd floor) and when i looked down i saw two girls (classroom on the 1st floor), actually i only saw one but there were two. Anyway, that one that i saw was soooo cute, and she smiled as she looked up (Problem is: i was with another classmate and i don't know if she was smiling at him or at me.) I was kinda hiding too but smiling back from time to time.
I'm really shy and i never had a girlfriend before so i don't know what to do in situations like this. The thing is, i like her, i want to get to know her.
By the end of the break a classmate (girl) wanted to help (i think) and made a heart out of paper and sent it down saying that it's from a guy who was at the windows earlier.
After 1 hour i went at the window to see if she was still there... no wait, i think that was after 2 hours.. anyway.. she was having PE outside and she looked at me (i was looking at the window below then i saw her outside) i hid inside and called the other guy and asked him if that is the same girl, we were planning to wave at her if she was looking but we had to go. I went home but he stayed because he had one more class. He went to the football field (i'm not sure, that direction though) and i went the other way, home. Maybe he met with her, that's as far as i know.
What should i do next?
>>1 First, don't worry about the other guy, only worry about you and the girl.
Second, get to know the name of the girl. Meet her. Find out what are her interests, and suggest something both of you could do together, and that she might find interesting.
>>2 As i mentioned before i am shy, so it's a big deal for me to go to her classroom and start talking to her. My plan if nobody would have replied was to go back to that window and if she ever saw me again to start chatting with her.
>>3 I realize you are shy, but you still need to find out the name of the girl, and meet her, and find out what are her interests, etc. Being shy does not dispense you from that.
How do you plant to get to do all that? I don't want to hear how shy you are, just how you think you will do it?
Yeah, you're right.... I hate myself, i met her today on the hallway she was sitting on the floor, i was walking and she looked at me, i looked at her too... for 2 seconds we were looking at eachother. Unfortunately i couldn't say anything, she was with her classmates, i didn't have the courage :(
You know, I don't see any other way than coming up to her, and say "hi, I'm Anon, what's your name?". Its simple, and it does not matter if there are classmates around. Of course, they may giggle, or whatever, but that's a small price to get to know the girl you are interested in?
This is your next goal: go up to her, and ask her name. Don't repeat the fail of today, or she'll lose interest in you.
First step (and it's a big one) grow some balls. Girls like masculine men who aren't shy and will go out of their way to talk to them. If you act like something is awkward or weird, it is. If you act like it's cool and natural, it is. So be cool, and be masculine.
Here's a good way to approach her. The next time you two lock eyes, stop and approach her. Tell her, "Excuse me, but, I'm pretty sure you've been stalking me." Make sure you say this with a straight face, and keep it up throughout the conversation. Give her a chance to respond or defend herself, then cite the window example and how she's always where you are in the hallways. Then say, "What's your name, in case I have to file a restraining order?" Now you know her name, and cracked a joke to throw her off. You're using this joke about stalking to make a connection.
Now you say (still with a straight face) "I'm sure you know my name already since you've been stalking me." Most likely, she won't, so tell her. Now she knows your name, and she's going to be thinking about this guy who called her a stalker all day.
Say Hi to her from now on in the hallways and make small talk when you get a moment together. You can keep up the stalker jokes for a little while longer but phase it out eventually. When you're ready (sooner rather later) say, "I think you're pretty cool, so why don't we hang out? What's your number?"
>>7 You, sir, are the king of good advice. I'll see what i can do with this, i'll change some things since they'd sound weird in my language (which will remain hidden in case my friends are reading this).
Thanks, you really made me want to start talking with her..
Easter break... :( i hadn't had the chance to meet her again...