The Gamer Girl (21)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-17 18:00 ID:ASQQ44X8

Hello, guy from "how to approach a shy girl?" and "the soccer girl" here, I think I've found a girl that I actually am interested in. She plays video games and is attractive, two qualities I find important in a woman.

She actually sat next to me often early in the semester but I kind of douchely ignored her because I thought she was just some scene chick. Then the other day I went to Best Buy to get a new game (I always buy from them) but they were out, so I went to a local game store place nearby. Then I walk in and see her there! Told her the game I wanted, paid for it and she had this huge smile on her face the whole time. I think Cupid's arrow hit me right then because I was not at all attracted/interested in this girl nefore, then POOF! It hit me as I walked out of that store.

I haven't talked to her much but plan to the next few classes and stuff, I'm sure she was just as surprised when she found out I was into video games too. Unlike the soccer girl I'll be a fucking natural at talking with her about all sorts of things.

Anyways, herein lies my problem: what kind of places should I ask to hang out with her? I'm a freshman and commute to college, live with my parents, and even fucking share a room with my brothers. Our house is relatively small so if I invited her over to play video games or something, I don't think anything really intimate could happen with people walking in and out of the living room to go upstairs.

Unless she invites me to HER house to play video games, which I'm not counting on, what kind of places would a chick like that want to hang out at? I realized that hiking might be kind of creepy from the post I read last thread, and anyways I doubt a gamer chick would be into hiking anyways. There's also some music shows coming up so I was thinking of asking her to some of those (assuming she likes the kind of indie obscure bands I go see), but would what be some other good ideas?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-17 22:05 ID:Heaven

>>1

>I don't think anything really intimate could happen with people walking in and out of the living room to go upstairs.

It's not a problem, since you'll be inviting her at first to chill out and spend time together. Then when you've adapted enough to each other, you'll start worrying for places of intimacy.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-18 02:30 ID:UBiQgFfR

Sorry, just to clarify, are you the same guy from Soccer Girl?

I think first, talk more with her in class, get her msn, and ask her about her other interests. You can definitely take her smile at you as being a good sign. I think once you start the conversation rolling, give it maybe a couple of days, and you can start to ask what she's doing at lunch, under the pretense of showing her a new video game, or just "do you mind if I have lunch with you?". If you chicken out you can always say "cool, I'll see you after in class".

4 Name: D : 2009-10-18 20:39 ID:klQzWB/H

Man, all your threads are like this... are you sure you even LIKE this girls?

I mean, this looks like you actually need to communicate us that you like girls. Like some kind of lack-of-attention thing.

So, one thing is coming to my mind now. It is that 1.- you are arrogant and over-confident or 2.- you are such a lonely boy.

5 Name: 43 : 2009-10-18 21:42 ID:Heaven

>She plays video games and is attractive, two qualities I find important in a woman.

I stopped reading here

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-19 02:56 ID:ASQQ44X8

>>4
It's a combination of the two really. I've got an over-inflated ego and I'm damn proud of it, but I've also never had a girlfriend and am incredibly lonely.

With all chicks, I always just imagine what it would be like to be doing all sorts of stuff together: driving through the city at night to look at the lights while listening to awesome music, telling funny stories and seeing her face light up, just hanging out and watching a movie together, whatever. With this girl it just feels "right" when I imagine it, even more so than the the shy girl and the soccer girl. If anything, my experience talking to them really really helped. They were the first two girls I chose to talk to in my entire life.

I'm not even exaggerating. I was incredibly shy growing up, I couldn't even talk to girls without blushing until middle school. Even then, I never really talked to a girl unless one talked to me. Luckily I have been granted with narcissism, the ultimate tool for confidence. I have learned the ways of women from my friends and how they handle their girlfriends, and learned how chicks laugh will find the dumbest jokes funny from my brother and his gf in particular.

More than anything, in high school everyone always thought of me as that "shy/smart/cool" kid, and that kind of stuck with me so I didn't try to be anyone else. Now that I'm in college, nobody knows me so I can act however the fuck I want, I love it.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-19 03:10 ID:ASQQ44X8

One more thing to add: how do I avoid the dreaded "friendzone"?

If I just invite her over to play videos games then...well...she'll just be a girl I play video games with. I have absolutely no skills at flirting, teasing, or kino, which I understand are all pretty damn important.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-19 03:21 ID:HjBQFMhn

I'm not familiar with avoiding the friendzone, as I've never been friendzoned, nor have I approached the friendzone, but what would make sense to me, fwiw:

Show real interest in her, and don't be a big fat pussy. And don't be a gross stalker psycho either.

Like tuning the strings on a lute- neither too loose, nor too tight.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-20 12:54 ID:MZFcGIWn

Oh god. Shit, confident guys don't worry about being friendzoned. Especially if they're as confident as you claim to be. I find it very hard to believe that an attractive, smart, cool, confident guy has never had a girlfriend before, despite being so desperate for one. There's got to be some catch. Like, gee...maybe, just maybe, you're overestimating yourself. I think deep down you know this as well, otherwise why else would you be asking for advice?

10 Name: D : 2009-10-20 14:25 ID:5Z9zU/ZX

>>6

Well, you do really are married with that clique of the "smart/lonely/cool kid" man. And you overcompensate this flaw with... wtf? Another Flaw? You are trying to be cool by being all Ego here, but I think, the sad truth is that you are just lonely.

Man, sure, we are here to help you, but at least try to go along with one girl at least... Don't know... Half a year? 3 Months? You are posting threads about your "new crushes" like every weekend. And you have the same problems always...

I mean, your fear of the dread friendzone is just lack of confidence in yourself. So get some self-steam and report something new, please.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-20 18:13 ID:8yOr+P7F

>>10
Dude, it's self-esteem. Stop butchering the word, please (even if it makes a funny unintentional joke because self-esteem is a driving power).

Other than that, I totally agree with you there.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-21 14:42 ID:fxuNYkEv

>>10
>>11

Nah, it's not an issue of self-esteem or anything like that. I'm confident but I literally have zero experience with women, I was just wondering if you guys could give me some tips on what kind of things I should do to avoid the friend zone.

For example, if I just invite her over to play video games again and again she might just see me as a buddy to play games with, see what I mean?

Really though, I'm not too worried. I kind of think she likes me already from how many times I see her stalker stare when I'm talking to other chicks in my class and stuff.

13 Name: ratzz : 2009-10-21 15:02 ID:FjxuJ2B5

this is what i thinkbecuase ive kinda been there. your givin ur self 2 much credit for the quite cool guy part, an if you dont wanta be in the friend zone invite her for games at ur house an she might get you 2 come 2 hers then invite her to movies or out 2 eat ps im using my phone dats why this is bad type

14 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-22 20:48 ID:8qK+nr3P

Let me give you a tip.
Dont loose your time. Something similar was happening to me. the girl liked anime, videogames etc. I like that. i had a lot of time to invite her but i was scare and i never did it. when i wanted to do invited her was too late for me. she was gone....

Now i think of her everyday, i look one picture of her and i still thinking that if i meet her i will talk to her(im not sure if i will can do it).

15 Name: D : 2009-10-23 00:23 ID:klQzWB/H

>>11

Hehe, sorry, I'm a foreign speaker... or typer... or whatever. English is not my mother language, sorry. [Also, my spellchecker puts it like "Self-Steam", so...]

>>12

Stop being that worried about yourself and do something. You say you have no experience with women... well, go on and get some.

16 Name: Soujiro : 2009-10-23 00:42 ID:8qK+nr3P

Dont worry D, you are not the only. my first languaje is not english too.

17 Name: ratzz : 2009-10-29 04:36 ID:97DOeLxl

no update?

18 Name: D : 2009-11-07 08:15 ID:klQzWB/H

Maybe...

a) OP is actually doing something about his relationship with gamer girl... NAAAH!

b) OP is looking for another crush [more like it]

c) OP has hung himself and died... [it could be...]

We'll have some news soon, I'm totally sure about that.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-09 03:06 ID:9W/CgbgR

>>18

Yes, it's choice, I went back to my old thread:

http://4-ch.net/love/kareha.pl/1253228876/l50

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-23 19:45 ID:Ssr0P3WL

Haha, you guys are gonna hate me for switching again like this but I think I'm going with Gamer Girl. Now instead of criticizing my decisions, please give me some sound advice!

I was thinking of inviting her over to play vidya games at my friend's house where there's a LAN party type thing going on. I mentioned it was going on and that's how I got her number, so she's definitely interested.

Now I think I've mentioned this before, but how do I turn this into a relationship? All my friends play video games, so if I just go hang out and play video games she will be just a friend...basically, I have no idea how to signal romantic interest.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-11-24 13:17 ID:Heaven

>>20
lol, seriously dude. lol.
Invite to gaming session, propose coffee outside afterwards, make discussion, flirty flirt, blah blah blah. But more important: grow the fuck up.

in b4 ego bawww (again)

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